She realizes her baby has grown up. Yet I could not imagine doing that to my son & his wife. Say something to her. Maybe she doesn’t realize how bad it is. I would do it in private. If that doesn’t work I would include your boyfriend.
I would have told her to get to F— out.
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Maybe talk to your fiancé and tell him how you feel about the situation and the remarks she says to u
Good lord 
you’re going to have to say something behavior like that doesn’t change unless something is said
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Is she divorced or a widow? Does she have any other children? She does sound over the top. Your finance needs to address with his mother and I suggest pre- marital counseling for you as a couple.
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Pit your foot down now or this will break a marriage feeling this way. Don’t make him pick just give her a place and don’t let her cross that line. Good luck.
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You ever seen the movie monster in law? Sounds like the same situation
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You got to stand up for yourself or it won’t stop!
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Be honest with him. Be honest with her.
Sit them down together and says “this is how I feel”
Don’t start sentences with “she did this”
Say “I feel like she may have …”
Ask them to discuss the issue without you instead of each trying to discuss with you.
This is a momma’s boy situation, they made a whole show around it.
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Say it now! If she knows she can get away with belittling you now, she will continue to do it and it will get worse. Just be nice but get your point across. I’d say to talk to her privately but she seems like she would maybe twist your words to make her the victim. So talk to her about it in front of your husband or record your conversation with her on your phone.
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Watch episodes of Everybody Loves Raymond…with her! She might recognize herself.
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Set FIRM boundaries.
Have your France address the mother and set boundaries and expectations.
if hes a mamas boy it wont get better only worse
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I’d honestly just make a comment next time she does and say, is everything a competition with you, or are we in this together.
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My mother in law was much the same way. I don’t think it’s that she is competing with you, more that she is having a hard time letting her “baby” go. She’s spent his whole life being the one woman in his life that has provided for him & taken care of him …sometimes moms have a hard time knowing where they fit into their sons lives when their sons get married.
My mother in law was a bit intrusive, but I tried to be gracious and I tried to “be the bigger woman” by yielding to her. After 16 years of marriage, the last time I saw her, she hugged me and told me she loved me & that I was a good wife and mother. Shortly after that, she became very ill & passed away.
I waited for years to have her approval … I think she knew she was sick, and I thank God for that hug and those last words she spoke to me. I just wish it had happened sooner, so I could have enjoyed more of our time together.
I’m a mom of 2 grown sons. I try to mind my own business when it comes to my sons & their love lives. Having gone through the experience I went through with my mother in law, I never want to put someone else through that experience … I honestly don’t think she intended to hurt me, but it was a very hurtful situation for a very long time. I love my husband … we’ve been married almost 37 years now … and it was my love for my husband that gave me the patience and strength to endure my mother in law. I also believe in “honoring” our parents, which helped me to bite my tongue when I felt she might have been out of line.
People are different these days. Society is different. All the rules are changing, and it feels like nobody wants to respect or even try to understand each other anymore. So I don’t know what the best advice is for you. If you love your fiance, and you expect to be partners for the rest of your lives, then you need to be able to be honest with each other as you journey through life. It is a path that you both must lean on each other to be able to stand up and walk successfully. You have to know that no matter what, you have each other’s backs, and you need to be each other’s “safe place” to fall. Stay focused on each other, and on the path you both choose to walk together.
Good luck my friend.
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If anyone in my life ever made that dinner comment, they would have immediately been banned from my dinner table that night. Your man needs to open his eyes and put his mama in her place, or else this is what you can look forward to for the rest of yalls marriage.
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Your boyfriend needs to talk to his mother; if this doesn’t work, maybe need to get a new boyfriend.
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Incredibly rude of her, the dinner comment. You’re not overreacting.
A person will do to you what you allow…she belittled you in your own house … what makes her think you can’t cook???he will always be her baby but at some point the tie need to be broken… he can let her know you got it….y’all are engaged headed to marriage …you leave your mother and father to become one with you spouse
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The first person you should go to is him. Communicate.
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Your fiancé should be speaking to his mum about this, you should be telling him how it’s making you feel x the only way to sort it is to raise it
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You ignore her and it will drive her nuts!!!
Lol, the dinner thing would have set me off. She’s needling you. You should either tell your boyfriend, ignore it, or make a flip joke back. Like about the dinner, I would have smiled and stood up and said, “I’m so glad you have my back.” If it doesn’t stop now she will be a real pain, when you go to get married and she will probably undermine you with your children. Set boundaries now!
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It will not just “go away”, with time it will get worst! Talk to your boyfriend (in a nice manner) first. After he sees how you feel about her hurtful remarks and see what his feelings are, you will know if he is with you or not! Later talk to her about her rude & hurtful remarks or comments. It does not need to be in an accusing nor angry way. If neither agree, forget about it and leave!!!
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Sounds like emotional incest.
No your not over reacting and you need to have a talk with your Boy friend before you Marry or she will cause major problems.
Anyone says that at my dinner table and they will be gone. He needs to man up and tell momma to fix herself
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You need to put in end to that before you get married. She’s afraid another women taking her place in her sons life. He needs to stand up and thank her for being there and doin everything for him as a mom but now you’re going to be his wife and you’ve got it from here.
Tell your fiancé in a nice way, say you’re feelings are hurt because you are going to be your wife and you are excited to do all those things as your wife now and you feel like his mom is stepping in and maybe even doubting you can that’s why she won’t let you have your place.
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Communicate that to him! Do it lightly without attacking!
It’s going to keep happening as long as you allow it. Your fiance needs to stick up for you and put his mother in her place and set some firm boundaries, otherwise this will continue for your whole married life with him
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no tell her what you think see how it is before you marry
No you are not overreacting. It’s jealousy and insecurity plain and simple I kinda experienced a situation like this when I was living at my mother in law’s house as soon covid happen we fell in hard times my husband asked me to please consider staying at his moms until we got back to our feet so we did. I never felt comfortable living with her I always felt like in some way she was always competing with me like the way I dress, the stuff I buy, if I bought a Starbucks cup so did she, every morning I got myself a coffee well guess what so did she but I could totally see her doing this too honestly. She would look for arguments that she knew she will not win. Even brought the neighbors in on it on thanksgiving day. Will paint herself as the victim and we will be the “bad guys”. I could never really speak my feelings cause this lady will overreact and make it seem like I attacked her so I have kept quiet we eventually moved to a whole different state. Away from the bad energy. I hope your mother in law can at least seat down with you and talk it out. I wish I could’ve but we all know how that would go. Back then I didn’t know how to set boundaries but now I am not afraid to speak my mind. Do set them if not she will walk all over you. Speak with your fiancé and tell him how you feel. Do take this as a learning experience. This experience thought me to not ever be anything like her or have jealously or envy to get the best of me I am a boy mom and when my son gets married or choose who he wants to spend his life with I welcome my future daughter in law with open arms. So don’t hold resentment of any grudges towards her remember it can be worse you could be her.
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Tell him how you feel because if you can’t have an open conversation with him about any and all issues it’s not going to work for y’all
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Sounds like a mama’s boy
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She sounds rude! Put your foot down girl. You are with him, not her.
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She stood up and said that? Like an announcement? Wow that is incredibly disrespectful and it’s not ok at all. The her coming over to look after her son I wouldn’t be a bug deal - in fact if you’re at work it would be helpful.
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Run….she will continue to the day she dies.
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There can only be one lady of the house. He needs to put his foot down or up her butt. Mama needs to understand that she is loved, appreciated and can come over but not every day. Boundaries must be set. If he doesn’t set things straight now, Mama is going to continue to overstep.
You’re getting married to his mama too so better get use to it cuz that’s how it’s gonna be.
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Wow just wow. If you marry your fiancé you need to be prepared to put up with this probably worse unless he has a word
The dinner comment seems rude to me. He needs to explain to her that you and him are together, and he doesn’t appreciate these types of comments. If I ever have a problem with my husband’s family, he takes care of it right away. He has to set boundaries.
He need to put his mom in her place
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Talk to your boyfriend. You should have told her she was rude to announce she brought food in case yours was bad who the H does that🤷♀️. You can respectfully stand up for yourself.
No, you are not. I would be upset abour her comments too! She is a very, very rude person. Compliment her first before she can open her mouth. Stay one step ahead of her. In a while she will still not recognize the sarcasm. Lol
Talk to her. You’re not overreacting at all… Of course she’s jealous. Her son is about to be married to a woman that he’s going to love and care about more than her. (the way it should be) Give her a chance to fix her mistakes and back off. If that doesn’t work, talk to your fiance. If that doesn’t work… Then that really, really sucks… But gloves off because you gave her a chance.
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No you’re not overreacting his mom needs to back down she just might get tired of it all and sit down over there
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Not overreacting and you need to have a conversation with your fiancé about it
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Best to talk with your financee and have him tell his mom. He needs to step up and talk.
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Some moms can’t let go. If he’s her only kid, it can be really hard for her. She has to learn boundaries. So for her to come check on her kid is fine. But that’s when you just say " well, I’m about to be his wife, so it’ll be just me taking care of him from now on 
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But her comment at the dinner was rude. And she should be told so.
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You notice this, and so does everyone else. It is hard to lose a Mama’s Baby boy! I am sure everyone see’s what you have to deal with! Be kind.
She needs to have boundaries or it’s only going to get worse
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He wont say anything because he doesn’t see her as anything but helpful. You need to talk to him and her…dont play her games by trying to compete…honestly you won’t win…just tell her you know they have a great relationship, you’re not trying to come between them and she’s done a great job raising him . You respect that and welcome her into your home but its now your job to look after him.
Talk to your fiance and both come up with a plan to confront his mom. It’s not ok put your foot down now, before it gets worse.
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She won’t stop unless ur fiance says something & puts her in her place. She’s doing because it allowed. U shld speak now or it will never be resolved 
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Good Luck and God Bless and always try to be kind! Kill her with kindness! It can be a long, tedious road to travel!
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Sorry, you are going to lose your mind. 
Sarcasm aside, what I mean is you know you aren’t overreacting. Her comments rub you wrong and you know exactly why! I apologize because that reality stinks and sometimes denial is easier.
You have Marie (Everybody Loves Raymond) for a future MIL. Why do people think that show was so popular, because so many women can relate!
I just empathize with you! She doesn’t have boundaries and since she doesn’t care… and most likely knows she’s making a dig… good luck with that! 
Move away… 
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Nope, I’d put her in her place. Mother in law or not
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Well for starters he’s no longer your BF he is your FIANCE! Keep one upping her with that fact!
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He needs to talk to Mom
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Run like hell in the opposite direction. If he won’t stand up to her now, just wait till you have kids. Go!
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Put her in her place same thing I had to do with mine
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She has insecurities and this is on her !
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She sounds like one of those “his mom will always come first” type of boy mom 
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I’d definitely say something. Maybe she doesn’t realize she’s doing it but she needs to learn she’s not his number one anymore.
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Deal with it now before it gets worse.
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Let her have her “EGO”…absolutley annoying as heck…but hey let her shine…I’m sure others will take notice😉
Runnnnn away! She will be overbearing when it comes to your kids, better to walk away now than hate her and deal with her and his family forever.
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Lol. I vow to never do this to my sons wife gf w.e. lol. It’s sick and not nessacary lol. And yeah.
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And she’s not running, they’ve been together for 5 years already. Some mother in law’s you got have to put up with.
You should say something when she acts that certain way towards you. Maybe she’ll realize that she’s being a bag.
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You said comes over
She can’t come over if she isn’t welcome!!! I don’t do ppl popping up at my house you’ll be on the porch. 
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I can relate my future mother in law came to my house and cleaned while I was at work apparently I wasn’t doing enough taking care of her son. I’m like whatever less work for me until I realized she went through my fridge and threw out food I just bought and was still good. We were struggling at one point before I got my new job we had struggle meals. She would go and buy him fast food and nothing for me. Sometimes you just get the short straw.
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Omg girl it only gets worse trust me. I wish I had stood up for myself and talked to my spouse in the beginning. Now we have children and she is awful
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Oh girl!! Put a stop to this NOW! I’m a daughter in law (twice now lol) and a Mother in law. Ain’t no way I’d put up with that or act like that. When my son married, I told his wife there’d be no returns, no exchanges and no refunds. He’s her problem now. LOL They have a wonderful marriage and they BOTH know if either one needs me I’m here. But, their marriage is their business. I never want to be “that” mother in law. I’m the same way with my son in law. I raised my kids to think independently and survive this crazy thing called life when I’m gone. I’ve even told my kids if I ever get to acting like that, call me out and put me in my place. Don’t let her ruin your relationship with your partner. She had her chance to raise him.
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I say put on your tennis shoes and RUN !!
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your fiance needs to grow a pair and stand up to his mother, and YOU need to stop taking what this woman dishes out. If you don’t set boundaries NOW, you will live with this the rest of your life. If your fiance doesn’t take your side, you can do without him.
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Overreacting, you’ve been watching that show
I love a Mamas boy.
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You are in for a world of hurt. Watch the T.V. Show Mamas boy. I would either have a very strong talk with your boyfriend or run as fast as you can.
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Just remember to ask yourself if you marry him can you keep putting up with this from her. It will not get better especially if you have children
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I agree Judy it is apt to get worse .
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Pick up or get the hell out
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So if your in this group you’ve seen this post before so I’m gonna count off the instructions. 1. Call your man out for not reigning his mother in. 2. Call the hag out on her rude & pretensious behavior. 3. If your man isn’t willing to do anything about his mother then You have 2 options. Leave with some self respect or sit back & let his mom take it all over. It’s up to you but very & i mean very rarely does this situation work out. He & her will put you through hell & that includes your kiddos then it will all be your fault. Tell him to man up to his mom, you step up & call out the disrespect too.
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You need to get out. Before long she will be telling her son BS about you and manipulating him.
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Start getting tattoos and biker clothes she’ll stop!
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She sounds like she controlling and that her baby boy
You have to put her in her place early on or she is going to become a huge issue in your relationship
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This is crazy. Why can’t a mother still love her son when he has a fiancé? I agree the comment she said at dinner wasn’t nice. But it also may have been a joke? A mother just wants her son to be happy. If you make him happy then she’s happy. Why can’t she still be a part of his life?
Run ! If he isn’t standing for you now he never will.
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Not overreacting. shes insecure and needy. talk to your fiance about this NOW because it WILL get worse, especially when you have kids. he needs to put her ass in check
You’re definitely NOT overreacting. Does he say anything about this or just let’s it happen? I was with a mamas boy once and it was no fun at all. We got engaged and he got the wedding bands at the same time he got the engagement ring, she actually talked him into taking the rings back, said he couldn’t afford the payments and he actually DID!!
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Tell him its either me or your mother ok
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Young one, sometimes Momma can’t let go - or- doesn’t understand what makes “ you” special- kind of a jealousies- just relax - let be a busy bee. But remember- your house - your rules- your way.
