Tell her but be prepared what will follow may not be what you expect
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What would automatically he want to go to bed with you I think thereās some other things that weāre not hearing about this Iād like to hear the whole story
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Tell her. Who knows if he has done this with anyone else and she deserves to know.
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Being drunk is no excuse for a man to cheat on his wife let alone trying to sleep with his sister in law!! I wouldāve told my sister the moment it happened no question about it! No drunk stumbles and falls on someone and lands with their dick in them! If it were me I wouldāve instantly thought he was cheating on my sister because if he would try with me why should I think he hadnāt done it with other females before! I wouldāve been heartbroken for my sister but told her moment it happened the first time he tried and wouldāve tried helping her with whichever choice she decided on handling it with lots of love and support!
Imagine being your sister and in that position put on her shoes im sure youād feel betrayed as hell 
unless you have no respect for self or others
Girl. If you donāt say anything and warn your sister. Heās gonna do it with someone else. 
I would have a sit down with both of them and explained what happened while he was drunk and how it made you feel.
U need to talk to him about drunk or not that is not an excuse for him to try an sleep with u but most likely if u tell ur sister do u think she would believe u or believe him but u need to tell him that u might have to talk to ur sister about what he is trying to do with u this would be hard
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Iād get him when he is sober & have a sit down w him! Ask him where his head is atā¦I mean literally. Not where heād like it to be!. Find out if he was just drunk ā¦or if this is something hes done beforeā¦either way Iād tell to get his head on his shoulders screwed on straight! Then Iād talk to herā¦they may be having problems & you may just b what saves them either way it goes!
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I would definitely tell her so she can handle it before he messes up and messes with someone s young child and they get hurt.save yourself respect and hurtful essential so you donāt suffer any more. You may have to temporarily have to move to get away from him
Always tell the truth
She wonāt thank you for telling her.xx
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Say something to her what you waiting on she has to right to know
Make your feelings clear to him sober. If he does it again then on his head be it. Your sister may not take it well though 
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Tell her that is not right.
Take him outside and tell him if it happens again
That you will cut his pecker off.
Record it and SHOW her ā¦ā¦ so the a-hole doesnāt get to say itās a lie and she can open her eyes to who he is. She has the right to know. Because if he is doing it with YOU who are her sister ā¦ā¦ he is definitely cheating with other women as well. You respect your sister but other women may not respect themselves or your sister and may agree to be with this man even if he has a family. If your sister stays there she will only be wasting her time, when she can actually be with someone who respects her and loves her. Being drunk is not an excuse to cheat or to try and sleep with your sister in law. Unless you two are IDENTICAL twins and canāt tell the difference between the both of you ā¦ā¦ I say being drunk doesnāt change who he truly is.
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I would go to him sober and tell him you are obligated as a sister to tell her however you are will to give him the chance to tell her first and that you plan to follow up on this with her . Explain if you must that he is never to disrespect you in this manner again and you hope your sister wont allow this disrespect either. Then make sure you follow up with your sister within in a reasonable time frame
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Even though your telling the truth, sheās not going to believe you, sheās going to stop talking to you, and she will definitely cast the blame in your direction. Iām sorry hun but most woman donāt want to hear the truth.
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The second time and you havenāt told her yikes.
Tell her. If itās not you, itāll be someone else and they will end up giving in to him, not aware of the family dynamic he has.
I would take my ass over there and tell him when heās good and sober. That if he ever pulls that shit again, you will be telling your sister. That you understand he was drunk so you are going to give him the benefit of the doubt. As long as it never happens again.
Heās doing it with other females when heās drunk, itās not only you hun. So youāre basically allowing your sister to be cheated on if you donāt say anything. I wouldnāt be able to live with that.
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He not that drunk that he donāt know what he doing tell him straight up what you going to do about it because the devil is a lies and a desceive
I would tell her. Have him there, too. Does he remember trying to?
Maybe its something that needs to be addressed.
What happens if it happens at a bar or something?
Tell herā¦if itās not you its someone else ā¦and for you to validate that it happened cuz he was ādrunkā not acceptable!!! He wont chang and she needs to know what kind of a person he isā¦if she cant trust her own sister and make good choices for herselfā¦when someone else comes forward she wont believe them! And you dont want it to backfire since it happened twice and he say u came onto him! How many times should it happen before you think she should know?
This happened to me with my sisters boyfriend. He was drunk and watching me sleep in the night with his dick in his hand. I told my sister, she got mad at me. From then on she watched his every move. He was constantly cheating on her. Our relationship was strained for the rest of the time they dated. Iād do it again even if it gets someone mad at me. Being drunk brings out the real in people. Its a safe bet that you are not the only one. You could help her be more aware if she stays. My sisters guy gave both my sisters clymidia before she left him. Maybe if you tell her and she stays she will at least make him wear a condom
Next he dose it hit with something that will leave a mark them run to yr. Sister and tell her this is the third time he has done it but u wouldnāt believe me so she belive u and he canāt dined u got prof good luck
Talk to him when he is sober and avoid going over. If you do, make sure youāre not alone with him. Record him acting that way, just Incase but keep yourself distant. Iām so sorry to hear that!
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Using alcohol as a crutchā¦ as an excuseā¦ for denialā¦
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If he doing that to her with you, heās probably doing it to her with other women, too. And chances are, some of them women probably aināt sayinā no to him. Tell her. She deserves that much respect from you, since heās not showinā her very much respect from himself.
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Iād tell her but try to record him next time
Tell her. If heās tried sleeping with you I guarantee heās tried with other women and possibly succeeded.
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You Should talk to her about it. Then maybe it will stop who knows how many others there are and did he sleep with someone else.
Tell him your going to tell her and ask him who else has he slept withā¦ heās a cheating āfhvhhhā
Your brother in law is a pig.
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Tell her,
Wouldnāt you want to know?
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Tell her! Thatās crazy! Drunk or not . Wtf!
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I would definitely want to know
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TELL HER!!!
Why wouldnāt you tell her, unless youāre interested in him or like the attention??
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Record his ass its ass n play it back for her to see for her self
It could backfire and she may not want you around. This is a tough one but I would have to tell her
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You should have told her when it happened. She needs to know her husband is a scum bag. How much can he actually love her if hes trying to fuck her sister? You dont hurt the ppl that you love
Be prepared for when you tell it will be your fault.Cut ties with both for nowāthen dont allow yourself to be alone with him everā¦Happened to meāand it was my faultāā¦Just had to step back.
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Tell your sister!!!
Thereās nothing worse than being the fool that thinks that your relationship is greatā¦ When in reality your man is cheating on youā¦ And the ppl that you thought that you could trust KNEW that he was cheating on youā¦ But didnāt think that it was important enough to inform you about it. And instead, basically watched you get played like a fool.
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He sounds like a disgusting pig and you should definitely have told your sister the first time. Idk if you should now though. Sheās going to doubt you at this point and question why you didnāt tell her the 1st time. Donāt expect to tell her now and have everything be all peaches between you and her though. You didnāt tell her the 1st time immediately and she will probably wonder why. She may not even believe you now and think your trying to cause drama. Or she might think you didnāt tell her the first time because you actually did sleep with or do something inappropriate with her husband. She be pissed at you for not saying anything. He will probably tell her all sorts of BS to make you look bad and him so innocent and she will most likely believe him now especially because you waited so long to tell her. Donāt expect her to take your side. And Donāt expect her to leave him or anything like that. If it were me I woukdve told her before but since you didnāt just to stop any of that stuff i just said from taking over her mind i might leave out the first time and tell her about this last time and that time only. Only because now sheās going to think she canāt trust you and really start to wondering why it wasnāt told to her before. And the odds are that she already knows what kind of man she has. If heās a pig when he drinks she knows already if theyāve been together for as long as you said its more than likely that heās already cheated on her long before he tried with his wifeās sister. Being drunk is no reason to excuse his behavior. What kind of man gets drunk and then tries to sleep with his wifeās sister. Not one Iād want. She deserves to know so she can find out who else heās trying to bang when heās out drinking. Shouldāve told her the truth from the start now Youāve made a mess and sowed the seeds of distrust between you and her. That was a bad call.
Iād tell her. If heās trying to sleep with youā¦ more than likely he has already slept with other people.
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This is a tough and messy situation to be in. I mean of course your loyalty is to your sister, however Iāve seen and also been there when a person tries to do the right thing only to end up the bad guy. It can go two ways, either sheāll appreciate it and be thankfulā¦ or in most casesā¦ they will ātalkā¦work it outā or whatever and youāll be the bad guy and/or at the very least your relationship with her/them will be strained and awkward. Like sheāll never trust you or him around each other. I would definitely bring it up with him and let him know how inappropriate his behavior is, how uncomfortable it makes you feel, and set hefty boundaries. If heās a respectable āmanā (with the exception of this behavior obviously) then he will get it and stop. If he is not thoughā¦beware that he may turn it right around and tell her that itās youā¦even before you had a chance to say anythingā¦just to try to cover his own ass. Only you know the relationship yaāll have amongst each other and can decide what the best option is. Keep in mind, we do also live in a world bound by technologyā¦ there is an app for a voice recorder (as well as our phones with video) that you could simply and discreetly hit ārecordā on while keeping it in your pocket or something and provide solid proof. Or if you and your sister are super close and sheād believe you, you two could set him up. I hate the creeper vibes that may give but itās options. Best wishes! I hope for you and your sisters sake all works out. 
Iād tell her. Heās making a fool of her and youāre probably not the only one he hits on.
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Bloods thicker than water, you should have addressed the situation immediately.
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Talk to hlm and make yourself clear.
If he tried it with you and you are her sister, who else has he tried it with?
Either get actual proof ā¦ or just put him in his place smh. You can tell her if itās really bothering you. But if you chose not to definitely tell him very aggressively that youāre not interested.
Alcohol is not an excuse but
More of an encourager ! Drink and do it ffs !
You should kick him in the balls
Either he tells her himself or you do it. I would want to know. Even if its a risk, sheās your sister! You donāt want to constantly feel shitty because you didnāt tell her. And if it happens with somebody else and she finds out he tried with you too that could be even worse for your relationship with her. Theyāve been together for a long time so shes comfortable and isnāt looking for red flags. He could be doing this with others. Tell her!!!
Always tell the person being cheated on
You should tell her . It will be more devastating if she gets a betrayal from her sister
Tell your sister you should never keep something like that from your sister. When I found out my ex husband and sister slept together I was mad at both of them and didnāt talk to either one of them for awhile. The sad part was I found this out from a different family member.
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If heās bold enough (drunk or not) to go after you, heās already cheating on her with other women. You should talk with her.
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I would not tell her. Skip that mess!
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Ohhhhhā¦ thats the definition of āa rock and a hard placeā
My sister told her daughter n her daughter turn on herā¦she belived her hussy lies
Definitely tell your sister. She would want to know the truth.
He will most likely deny it and lie until the endā¦ but at least itās give her a heads up about who her husband is and a warning for future heartbreak if she doesnāt leave him.
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I would wait until next time and video or record the audio ans show her. There will be no way to dispute that you are telling her the real deal then.
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Wasted or not, can you imagine if he was out with friends, how many times has he done that. I donāt care how drunk you get, you know thatās your wifeās fucking sister. What a dick
Absolutely tell her, thatās your sister! She deserves to know
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If you donāt have proof she might not believe you try to get proof
I would tell her but be prepared for the fall out if she doesnāt believe you.
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Record him admitting to it and then show her the video or she wonāt believe you. She needs to know though
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You should have told her after the first time. Drunk or not, wrong is wrong.
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Take your offense to him, not to her. What GOOD would it do to tell her? If he tried something with you once why did you return for a second over night visit. Do not do an over night stay. It is not a question of what is wrong with it but what is RIGHT with telling her? What righteous thing will it accomplish? I hope you read this.
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I would tell her to watch her husbandās drinking habits
Tell her because you arenāt the first and wonāt be the last
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My sister came in to visit me and I was with someone else then but her and him slipped around behind my back while I busted my ass at work on nighshift pulling 12ās and 16ās. I couldnāt understand why she cut her visit short and ran back to Michigan and a yr later my boyfriend then told me what they didā¦.heās history and so is she! You tell her! Then when it happens again have your sister see it for herself.
Kick his ass and tell her.
Are you flirting with him. Did you incourage him. You need to stay away from their home and away from your sisters husband.
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Do you and your sister look alike? Is it possible (Devils advocate, hereā¦) that he was so drunk he thought you were her?
Would you want her to tell you ?
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I know everyone is telling her to record it. But itāll make it seem like sheās the one trying to stir something and break them up on purpose.
Tell your sister even if she turns on you, these types of things have their own way of coming out in the end. One day she will see who he is and then you will be fine again. But do it to keep your side clean.
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Fuckkkkkkā¦thats a really tough one. This might sound theatrical, but you need proof. There is a chance she wonāt believe you because she doesnāt want to think itās true. But proof is proof.
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Itās your sister. Tell her. Loyalty is everything.
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I think it boils down to would you want her to tell you if it were reversed and would she believe you without proof?
Tell him that you donāt appreciate the disrespect! Obviously he doesnāt think very much of you. No need to spare him BUT your sister definitely needs to know what kind of man she has! If heāll try her sister heās definitely tried other women and everybody aināt saying no!
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Definitely tell thatās your sister
I just went thru this last year with my sister they both didnāt tell me til almost a year later. I have not talked to my sister since. I disowned her. Tell her as fast as you can. Oh she tried to say she was drunk too. I didnāt care
Thatās not a great choice to have to make but personally I would tell her and I would want to be told. Odds are youāre not the only one heās done this too while intoxicated and sometimes love just isnāt enough .
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Tell her. What is done in the dark will always come to light eventually. You can be the ābad guyā for not being honest with her earlier
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Tell her because youāre probably not the only one
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Give the jerk an ultimatum. Tell him to fess up to your sister or you will tell her. Then help her throw out the trash, heal, and thrive.
I would tell her, thatās something I would want to know if I was your sister. Before it comes out and he flips the script on you. Or it comes out and your sisters upset because you didnāt tell her
Being wasted is no excuse and if he loved her he wouldnāt have made that mistake twice
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Ur probly not the firstā¦ tell Ur sister
If it were me Iād want to knowā¦
One time you can say it was a mistake of being drunk. Twice and that man is just a case of adultery waiting to happen. Put yourself in her shoes and ask if you would want to know. How would you feel if it was your husband that had done this twice to her. Honestly I would rather have my sister mad at me than have her hurt and possibly have kids with a cheater.
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You arenāt the bad guy here. Tell her.
I would have a talk with my sister that crazy.
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Sheās your sister! Tell her! Wtf??
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Tell her, but be prepared for her to think your the bad guy
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Once is a mistake, twice is a choice ā¦ and more than likely, heās doing it with other women as well. Your sister deserves to know! ESP if you have nothing to hide, Iād absolutely tell herā¦ let her make her own choices. But at least you did your part.
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