Probably more to the story. You may not know what goes on behind closed doors. It’s her right to not have him there 
childbirth is stressful, last thing you want is negative energy around.
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He can demand a dna and get a lawyer for rights just make sure he keepa all messages of all amd any sort and a good timeline
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Go to court get DNA test and file for full custody if DNA proof is his.
From where I’m looking. Seems like the baby isn’t your brothers and shes just playing games to mess with your bro but like everyone has said above. Lawyer up, take her to court and get DNA done. Go from there.
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He can petition the court, he will have to pay for the DNA test. I was in a situation where I was going to deny the father immediate access, but he was denying paternity. There is probably more to this than we’re getting, but a lot of dads get cut off quick. Her not wanting him in the room during delivery is solely her choice, you gotta have the right space, but I’m not sure why she announced the birth then cut contact. Sounds like she just wants to hurt your brother.
What state are they from? That might help find you the best help for your circumstances
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Even if he were on the birth certificate, if they aren’t married, he would have no legal rights until he established them in a court of law. At least it’s that way in Arkansas
He Needs to open a court case request 50/50 , and visitation he can also request to have his name added. Also mom can get in trouble for parent alienation.
But have he be mindful most courts won’t allow or force over nights for infants, it would be day time visits.
He he’s serious and wants his child he needs to be consistent and willing to co-parent
It’s easy tell him to get ahold of social services in her city / state tell them he believes his the father do the DNA test and take her ass to court and make her list him as the father on the birth certificate and get visitation … if she dont let him have the child after he can get her for contemp of court
A child is no reason" to fix" anything.,
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Your brother needs File for DNA and custody of the baby.The longer he waits the worse it looks.Tell him to not fight with her at all.Do not do anything that can cause trouble for him.Have him try to make contact with her requesting to visit his child but through messenger or email anything like that to prove he’s tried to see the baby.He could even send a letter through post office but make sure he does it where they have to sign for it and where he gets a receipt back saying they sign for it plus make a copy of the letter for his records for court.Having a lawyer will help out alot.Check with the court house in your state to see if they have a low income program or something like that where he can get an attorney cheaper well if he can afford regular.DONT HAVE HIM WAIT HE NEEDS TO START THIS PROCESS ASAP.
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He has every legal right, he can go try for split custody
Go to child support and file for it so the paternity can get established. While that’s going on he needs to get a lawyer to file for visitation.
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He can file a motion with the court for DNA, child support, and joint custody or visitation. However, he might want to hire a good lawyer.
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Yes… He can call dfs and tell them he wants his name of the birth certificate and have them do a DNA test… Do it as quick as possible. Because he’s going to get stuck paying child support… He can get a lawyer and get 50 50 custody also…you want to file for 50 50 custody not just visitation… She won’t have all the say she does now… But I would act quick
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Def more issues here that are being said, whether u know them or not, yes a lot of women are immature and petty, but if he is good and no legal problems he should have no problem getting legal visitation.
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Lawyer up. Hate her to court.
All he has to do is file a petition for paternity through the court. We had to do that with my ex husband’s ex because she lied to him about someone else being the father and said she had previously gotten a paternity test with the other guy
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He can file with the courts to establish paternity and be put on the birth certificate. They’ll do a DNA test and then he can file to have the birth certificate amended and get parental rights. He needs to document ALL of the things happening. Also he needs to get something from the hospital stating that he was removed and security was called on him and why (mother refusing to allow him to be there or put his name on the birth certificate). Also have your mom screen shot the text she received and have that printed for the courts as well. What she is doing is called parental alienation. The judge will not be very happy with her when they go in front of the judge after the DNA test is done.
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He can file for custody and demand a DNA test to establish paternity.
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Man that lady is so messed up. That’s horrible. Your brother needs a lawyer!
Mmm, nope.
The father has just as much right to the child as the mother.
Your brother needs to contact the attorney general.
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The child has a legal right to have its biological father in its birth certificate. Go to court.
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He needs to file papers and document everything. It’s better he everything in writing when communicating with her. He has the same rights as she does. So best way is to go file papers so he’s allowed to see child. She’s lucky he’s not a dead beat and drumming from his father duties.
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He still has rights… a cop once told me that even though my bd wasn’t on the birth certificate he could keep my daughter from me Cuz I already claimed him to be the dad and until a judge says otherwise he didn’t have to give her back. He did. But my.point being. He wasn’t on the bc and the cops still said he had rights.
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Yes he can go through the courts, then a dna will prove paternity and then it will open doors to his rights as the father. Wow and we complain about absent fathers, and clearly this one wants to be part od his childs life. People need to stop usinf their kids to hurt the other partners or parties, so childish.
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Go to the courthouse monday and file for visitation
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He needs to file for paternity ASAP. The court can order a DNA test and then he will have rights as the babies father. Could it be possible she did it because he’s not the father?
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He needs to petition for paternity. He can do it through child support. Then make a court case for 50/50 custody. He can go to his local superior court in the self-help department and request to start a case and have her served with the paperwork that has the court hearing date on it. If nobody in your family wants to serve her, then he can have the sheriff department do it.
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Just because he was “never” PHYSICALLY violent towards her does not mean he was never verbally, mentally and or emotionally violent towards her! ABUSE IS ABUSE any way you cut it. Do NOT enable Abusers of Any kind, especially when children are involved!
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What state are you in? A lot of states have a “punitive father registry” but he only has like 14-30 days to get on it after the birth of the baby or it’s a long lawyer legal battle.
He NEEDS to find out if his state has this registry and immediately do what is required per that state. Save him some legal fees. But still he needs a lawyer.
I agree with most of these other comments EXCEPT do NOT ask for “visitation”. Do other parents have “visitation” of their children whom they have custody of?? No. He needs to file for partial/joint custody. If he is going to be in his child life. Don’t do it for him. It’s kind of you to get this information and pas it along to him. And definitely be there for support! But HE needs to be the one to jump through the inevitable hoops, go thru the courts, take a DNA test, and potentially hire a lawyer… but if his child is important to him, he will do all that and much more in the blink of an eye. I’ve seen too many dads complain that they don’t get to see their kids. Then, come to find out, they never even went to court to get a custody agreement established. They did nothing. As long as he is the father he will have the legal right to share custody of the child. She may even be penalized for her actions. My point is, don’t ask for visitation. He needs to ask for joint custody.
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He might not be the father, probably why she didn’t want him there and if the certificate.
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He has rights! He just has to take her to court.
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Your an awesome father some of us only wish for a father like you:person_facepalming: God be with You all the way:pray:
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You and your family obviously don’t know the whole truth, your painting him to be a saint when none of yous know what is going on behind closed doors. I was with someone whose family thought that he was so innocent and couldn’t do anything wrong until I showed them all the bruises that he had given me and all the messages wishing us death and him telling people to jump me while I was pregnant since he didn’t want a daughter. So before you sit here and completely believe him at least hear her out, the last thing that she needs to be doing right now is stressing so give her some time.
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COURT!!! I don’t think any judge would deny a man paternity so he could be involved in his child’s life. Especially if there’s no history of (documented) violence. If he has a job and can show that he can take care of his son, it sounds like an open and shut case. My cousin went through the same thing with his ex. And she repeatedly violated their custody agreement and wouldn’t let him get the kids on his days according to the court order, the judge ended up blasting her in court and he now has sole physical custody and she gets weekend visitation. Karma definitely spins the block for toxic parents like this. I’ll never understand how anyone could ever alienate another parent who wants to be in their child’s life, just out of spite. It’s honestly disgusting to make a child suffer like that.
File for paternity like everybody else said. Also, if he has any texts or messages showing her acknowledging him as the father will help. I believe.
She’s a horrible person. He needs a lawyer ASAP and let’s hope he never gets back with her. She is a terrible person and your brother deserves better. She is using the baby to hurt him. If she was a decent human being she would not do this to the father of her child. SELFISH!
Really not much he can do without being on the birth certificate without the courts
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I know this sounds drastic and he obviously will not get all of this but tell him to file for a paternity test at his expense, and sole custody. When you go for everytging they are usually more willing to make a deal, like her lawyer will be more willing to give him weekends to start with.
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Since they aren’t married he will have to ask the courts for a dna test then can request visitation but she isn’t required to allow yall to see the baby, only the dad.
He needs to file with the attorney generals office and request a DNA test and if it’s his pay child support they will set up visitation and its court ordered. He does have rights. Sorry this happened to him. My sons father they gave him joint custody and he didn’t even show up.
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Have him take her to child support. They can do a DNA test for free. And they can make her add him to the birth certificate and he’ll get rights and visitations. Yea, he’ll have to pay her threw the child support department, but at least he’ll be able to see his baby. She needs to understand that they aren’t in highschool anymore, and grow up.
I have a boyfriend that I was off and on with from 8th grade to junior year in highschool. Then we both graduated in '13. Yea I know we were young and he thought more with his lower head back then. And now, i just got back with him with my hubby’s permission cause I’m a poli kind of lover. And I might be carrying his baby and not my hubby’s baby. (Yes, we did have a few arguments about it, but came to an understanding) every couple fights, but those who truly love each other will try to work things threw and not break up because of the argument.
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Can still fight for the rights.
He can file with the courts for rights and custody. Don’t let her do this a good guy that wants to be a father….have him search for one of the legal support groups that helps fathers in cases like this.
Tell him to contact child support and get a DNA test to prove he’s the dad. Then he can go after her for visitation. I’m sorry I hate when females use children this way. But if I were him I’d do that no matter if they happen to get back together or not that way he has rights
He needs a lawyer, a court ordered paternity test, and court ordered visitation. He can get his paternal rights but it’s going to cost him
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He needs to get a lawyer and get a DNA test right away!
I wish him and your family the best of luck
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He needs to take her to court and fight for custody.
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There both adults an should act as such they have a baby to worry bout now an this blessing should not have to suffer in any way without both parents because they want to act like children themselves…
They need to grow the fck up already…
That baby should have the blessings an all the love of both families…
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Get a paternity test done asap and then take her ass to court that’s horrible im so sorry
He will probably have to prove his paternity, and then the courts will choose whether or not to give him parental rights.
File for paternity through the court. Pay and take the test prove hes the father and ask for visitation and to be added to the birth certificate
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Idk if you know but covid is still out there I wouldn’t want my new born around anybody , but what she is doing is pretty shitty
Having a child to fix things. Is giving a baby a job. Before they even arrive
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Sad that someone does this.
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Not being on BC doesn’t mean that he has no rights.
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He can go to the courts and put in for a DNA test for rights, start as soon as you can
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Being left off the birth certificate doesn’t mean anything.
Well, it does… It means fraud… And if you want to cause her some trouble, you can easily prove that she signed the document and committed fraud, because she DOES in fact know who the father is.
Yes, you may have to provide dna to be added now, but that’s easy to do.
Don’t give up. Keep fighting for your rights and do NOT let her walk over you
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Needs to lawyer up, get a paternity test and establish paternity. Once he does, he needs to put himself on child support, keep documentation of EVERYTHING. I suggest texts, no voice calls.
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He needs to go to court and file for custody…people automatically assume mom gives birth, she gets custody…not true …as far as the birth certificate goes that doesn’t matter…paternity has to be established since they’re not married, NEITHER ONE HAS LEGAL CUSTODY…HE CAN GO TO COURT WITH THE PICTURE AND THE text she sent his mother, file for custody, hit her with child support, go to her house with the cops and take that child from her…first to file gets custody.
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One, have your brother set up child support with a DNA test through the court. He can then ask for parental rights and shared custody.
She will regret how she did him at the birth one day. But seems she is being immature and petty and using the child to hurt him and make him “want his family” so he will come begging when she doesn’t realize that when women do that it makes the men see them in a different light and don’t want to even fathom being with that woman again if that’s the morals and standards she has
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Should never have had that little one.
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If he can prove the baby is his (text messages or get a court order for DNA text)then he should be able to get on the broth certificate. Smh that’s so shitty. So sorry
He needs to go to family court & file a petition for rights. Most likely he’ll have to take a paternity test & pay child support.
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All he can do is file a petition for custody and do a DNA test my husband had to do that with his first born and unfortunately he didn’t get custodial rights until she was 10 months old.
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tell him to run to a lawyer fathers have just as much rights as mom hopefully he will be scene if front on a judge that sees fathers rights as well as moms
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If he ends up going to court to get a judge to allow him to see his baby the judge won’t be too happy with the mom. He needs to go to the Courthouse to fill out a parenting plan, where we live the help desk will tell you what paperwork is needed and it’s like $200 to file, no lawyer needed. DNA test will also be done. Can take a couple months though and he needs to start documenting all his interactions with her.
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It sounds like she used him to have a baby & had this planned all along!
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Sounds like what my son went thru with his baby momma drama. Ugh.reading this sounds so Familiar with my son. He isn’t on the birth certificate either. She is so controlling and has to be every where her daughter is. She won’t leave our granddaughter alone with us. I despise her for this. But I am nice to her because of my son and granddaughter. Have only seen her a handful of times because we have to travel to see her, she won’t bring the granddaughter where we live. Ugh I will stop now. Just reliving her drama makes me irritable. Good luck with the situation.
If I were you guys, I would definitely… …your brother and you guys, definitely take her to court!!!
That’s why you should be married before you have a baby.
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He can file for custody, and petition for a DNA
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Your brother needs to go to family court asap.
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Get a DNA you are set
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The only way he’ll get visitation is with a dna request through the courts. But he needs to understand with visitation comes child support. As far as the hospital, she has just had a baby and with the pandemic she had the right to keep the baby safe. Does it suck? Yes but she’s allowed too. It’s going to be better if they can come to an agreement together verses the court and then present it to the courts so he as well as her, are protected.
Tell him to go to the AG and file child support on himself. They will most likely insist that he take a DNA test…which he might have to pay for…but doing so will help him get rights.
My nephew did that a couple of years ago BC his ex kept telling him that the baby that she was preg wasn’t his. He didn’t believe her and did what he had to do to get rights to his son.
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Take it to court, they’ll do a dna test to prove he’s the father, if he is he then has full rights to his child, if he’s not, well may be why she’s now gone cold on him.
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Unfortunately he would need to take it tp court then would need to take a dna test to prove he is the father and that is only if the court agrees for the dna test, if she hasn’t put his name on the birth certificate they won’t make her change it now but if he is proved to be the dad and the court (could) give his access to see the baby
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If she tries to get child support they will do a DNA test and if it comes back his she will have to let him see the baby
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Get him to take her arse to court do the court ordered paternity test and then hopefully he will be granted visitation rights and he will also need to get an order for his name to be added to the birth certificate
Remember you only no what ur brother is telling you 
and it might not be the hole truth!
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Sounds like a court battle …and he may not win . Very sad situation and I wish you all the best of luck
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Your brother has rights even tho he’s not on the birth certificate.
Go to family court, get a DNA test then court for a custody agreement
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No… He HAS legal rights, he just has to exercise then. Hire an attorney and petition the court for a paternity test. Can’t do anything without that since he’s not on the birth certificate. Establish paternity, come up with a parenting plan and start paying child support. Voila! If she’s doing this now… SHE’S ALWAYS GOING TO! AND FOR GOD’S SAKE.
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may not belong to him…is she lying to him…seems like it
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Hmm two sides to every story… u don’t know what happens behind closed doors…not saying he is violent…also… she has just had a baby and is recovering…she has every right to say who is and who isn’t allowed in the hospital with her. If they ain’t together… why would she want him there. 
…but your brother needs to get a solicitor if she is truly keeping the baby from him to see where he stands x x
When there is such a one sided perspective, no one should be giving advice.
But an hour away? Due a baby due and couldn’t be closer.
Not close enough or there to know about early labour but yeah obviously be such a great father.
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My history repeating itself.first my partner did this with our daughter,now it’s rudded off onto my daughter and she’s doing with my grandson.the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
Problem is you jave no legal rights, just as dad jad no rights to know when the baby was born or to be there. Unless she chooses to allow him to go on the birth certificate he has no rights without going through court but even then if he is granted PR he would have to continue through court for contact, you and the rest of his family unfortunately have no legal rights to any contact with the baby and would have to ask court permission to apply to court for contact of your own and even then you would have to be able to prove that it is detrimental to the child that you not be in their life
He will need to take it to court where the judge will decide if he is the father usually through a dna test then if he is the father the judge will order the registry office to re do the birth certificate if after that she still refuses to let him see the baby then it will need to go bk to court where he can fight for access or even custody of the child
I would get DNA and go through court or find someone else who will atleast love him and would want a baby with him. My baby daddy is on the birth certificate but has nothing to do with me son since he cheated while I was pregnant and he don’t care anyway I would rather be a single mum then be with the wrong person and eventually find someone that wants me
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Get your brother to do DNA testing through the court and start legal proceedings. At this age it will only be supervised visits more then likely but it is still something
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It’s a shame when a baby is used to spite people, but it happens on the daily! I’d give her two options sort it out when she’s ready, as she’s just given birth so next month or you’ll have to go to court for a DNA! Looks like she just wants to have the control tbf and to do this at a young age goes to show her immaturity and this baby is wedged in the middle as if she was older she’d realize she’s only spiting her self and baby….but court all the way love not gonna get any better! Unless your bother has a criminal history etc they can’t make him earn to see her as he’s done nothing, but get this sorted ASAP as longer you leave it the worse it looks! X
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I hate any parent that can’t put their shiet aside for what’s actually best for baby… she can hate your brother all she likes but keeping the baby from its dad an family that will love them makes me sooo mad!! Childish asf!! I hope ut gets sorted but unfortunately it will have to go through court an will probably cost alot…
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Lawyer and DNA test and if she has it father unknown on birth cert and she knows she will be in a world of trouble
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Fuck that bro live your life hers is over 
she will be calling you up to babysit when she wants to go out and get fucked up and railed don’t worry 
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My brothers ex is keeping their baby from him and us, help!?