I am the mother of a five-year-old girl. I gave her to her father for spring break as the original agreement in our papers (the judge signed the order). It has now been 21 days, and he won’t give her back. First, it was because of the coronavirus quarantine… so I agreed to let her stay with her dad for the 14-day quarantine. Since then, the president extended the quarantine to April 30th and her dad is trying to push me into a new deal for the remainder of the school year. Please give advice on what to do??? Courts, judges, etc. are not working right now, so I’m just desperately trying to get my baby back! If I go to the police department with the judges orders and the Supreme Court document can they help me go get her? Her dad says he’ll give her back tomorrow if I agree to let him have her for one whole month after I get her for a month since school is out. Then he wants to go back to our original agreement where he gets her for 2 months in the summer and I get the 1st and last week of the summer. The first deal was a bad deal, but I had to sign it; otherwise, I wasn’t going to get my baby for the school year. I don’t have money for a lawyer. He bullies me a lot and is a nar,cissist. I live in the country safe away from people. Her father lives in a very populated city and neighborhood, and my daughter isn’t allowed to even go outside. She Never wants to go there in the first place, and now this is the longest we’ve ever been apart. She comes home so angry and upset every time she goes there because she doesn’t understand why she even has to go. She needs to be home …homeschooling since school is out. Her father has no plans for homeschooling her.
Get your order and call the police. You don’t have to bargain with him, follow the writing.
I would be calling the cops. If you have a court order I don’t see the problem as to why you can’t have your child back.
I would go to the cops with the orders. With this going on, it the most you can do at the moments
Stick to the order and if he cant follow i would bring it to police and seek help getting her back
Don’t play his bargaining games he obviously isnt thinking of her best interest if hes bargaining u deals hun
Call cops. Have your order in your hand and go get your baby. it’s the law.
If he doesnt give her back you can call the cops ,but they cant make him give her back cause its his kid.
But what you need to ro is go to ur court house and pay 20$ to get the copy of yalls cs papers signed by the judge.
So if he does that again u call the cops and then he has to give her back
My friend is a lawyer and she posted on her page that in no way, shape or form is this quarantine supposed to change custody orders. We are still required to do our shared parenting as it states.
Get your orders and take the police. He has to do what the orders say, or he can be held in contempt.
Definitely call the police. He isn’t following a legal custody agreement.
Some police will enforce it. Some won’t.
I’d kick his freaking door down
Yes!! Call 911 ASAP!!! Don’t make no dealllls with him… you have all the rights… the police should get her for you
Call the police and have a copy of the order he had to give her back quarantine or not child custody should not be changed
Cops will enforce custody order well in my state anyways i had order cops went told his dad to give me our son or he was arrested for kidnapping
Parents still have to follow court orders during the pandemic
Im not sure where you are but im in michigan and my ex kept my kids from me, i called the cops and they told me it is a civil matter and all i could do is file a missing parent time report w the court. We have an agreement threw the court also. The system is not right. Good luck. Its hard to deal w a person like that.
No, it even said you can still meet with your kids parents per custody agreements so he has no right to keep her
He still has to stick to the court order just as much as you do. I would definitely call the cops and everyone under the sun until my child was back under my roof. If he continues to do this I would then apply for temporary sole custody since he can’t abide by a court order that seems to favor him. Cops should be able to enforce it since there are documents.
File for an emergency hearing.
And do not agree to anything else call today and enforce the order he could go to jail if he refuses
Get your court order, call the cops and he wont have a choice cuz they will remove the child
Isn’t she safer to stay where she is until this virus is done?
You have the court order hun! Go get your baby
I’d also like to add u are much better than me I would of kicked his door in by now, good luck
If you have a specific order standing call the courts
Take your order and the police. Get your daughter back. DO NOT NEGOTIATE with him this time or he’ll do it again and again to get his way.
If you’re orders say he can have her from here to there and he’s past there trying to bully you into a deal take your order papers to the police and ask for them to assist you in a pick up bc he is not complying with the court orders
Call the police and have them meet you there with the paperwork in hand.
Do not give into his demands!! You have your order get the cops involved because he has basically broken an order
Quit being w pussy and go get your kid. If u go over and he says no. Call the cops right there and then at his door. Don’t leave empty handed. I couod see if u are a risk to her health by being a nurse it could cause anybody real concern but sounds like u don’t so grow some balls and go get your kid.
Custody Agreements are still valid even though we are under quarantine take your order go to the police go pick her up if he was supposed to give her back
Call the police. Thats kidnapping.
If it’s through courts he’s technically kidnapping and contempt of court I’d think
Ask him to ask her what she wants to do
You have a court order! Grow your set back and go get your baby!
If you have residential custody and a court order that states that the state police should make him give her back.
Go get your baby and take someone with you as a witness call the cops and say My husband is refusing to return the child that is court ordered to be with me. Stay outside till he gives her back keep calling the cops do not give up do not give him power
Call the police!!! He’s trying to get her for more than half the year which in turn he legally doesn’t have to pay child support🤷♀️ or he’s just being vindictive. Your child is not a pawn
If you’re supposed to have her and you have the order then you can take the order to the police and have them go get her. However, you amended the agreement by allowing him to keep her for the original 14 days , you shouldn’t do that with someone like him. Stick strictly to your agreement from here on out.
Be mindful that having the police pick her up may be a traumatic experience for her, just keep that aspect in mind. Call him and tell him that you’re going to get the police involved if he doesn’t return her and see how he responds.
Agree with above. Have the police assist. He is in defiance of the court order and ask police to make documentation so you have it when court opens and you can file for contempt of court and site it required police assistance to get her back.
Call the cops in whatever city he is in, they may tell you it is a civil suit and to take it up with the judge, get police report. Call your friend of court parenting time caseworker set up appt he will have to make the time up.
Ooooo hell no go to house tell cops to meet you there!
Just call the police and have your court papers
Police are still working.
I just went through this… Cops took the report and that’s it. Theu told me its a civil matter. Called the courts and they told me have to take him to court to get my kids back… And I have to pay them to reopen the case to do so
Call the police from my understanding they will help with court order already in place
Go get your baby!! And never change the order again.
You’ll have to file a motion regarding parenting time, you’ll make your time up but unfortunately you’ll have to go to court and from there the judge will decide what to do and actions to take for the father for keeping her in your court ordering parenting time, cops can’t help it’s a civil matter with the courts, try to talk to her in the phone etc and don’t give up trying to meet him, save any receipts that you were at the location of meeting etc
Get her home and do not let her go back until courts are open and they can address his bullshit
Get your butt over there take her back. Tell the police you want them there as you are worried for your safety. Once she is back with you tell him you are reviewing the.order as.he has abused it.
Go get her, he has no right… take the document you have now go get her.
Just let him know if she is not returned you will get police involved, tell him it’s not a negotiation, it’s the law, and it’s up to him if he wants to return her or not. If not, call police and have your order available, make a choice and follow through, do not talk to him other then informing him you are going to get authorities involved, also show them the text messages he has sent saying this.
You have to follow court orders. But maybe ask if she wants to stay. Maybe thats why hes doing this. She is saying she wants to stay.
Yes. The police will go and get your daughter if you have paperwork
Call the police and have ur court papers with u … The cops will make him give her back cause its court ordered you have custody
Courts are open for emergent matters. Call the court office and leave a message if you can’t speak with someone.
Call the police to his address, bring papers and get your child
Why are u on here get the police and get your daughter once she’s back refuse to let her go until this is over .Get back to court
Maybe he just misses her so much and being off work this is his opportunity to have her in his life. Could this be possible?
Call the police. You have your orders. How dare he try to bribe you using the child.
Court order has to be followed. Call your local PD.
Take your custody papers with you along with the police and go get your daughter back. Be sure to call the nonemergency number for the police. He is in contempt of court.
Call the cops and have your papers ready to show them the agreement. They’ll go get your daughter back and bring her home.
Usually in most states calling the police won’t go far they may suggest but they won’t physically take the child out because this is a civil matter
Agree on the phone, pick her up and keep the child. That’s all I can think of.
Call police to help you and have your documentation with you.
Don’t agree to anything, he can’t hold her hostage. The police will assist you in picking her up if you give them the court papers!
Bring the all the paperwork you have stating the custody agreement to the police. They will help you get your little girl back
I have a question he’s the father he has 50/50 custody he has rights to see his daughter and take care of his daughter. As do you. Most custody orders aren’t really 50/50. They are more like 75/25. Making the other parent pay more child support. Go to court work it out. He has rights too and honestly he can have her just as well as you can.
Umm why haven’t you already gone to the police? You guys have a custody agreement. Wtf
No police will not go get your daughter unless you have an apprehension order in place if child is not returned at the times on the court order all you can do is call police to do a wellness check been there done this
Court offices and attorneys are open
Is he like a bad father or something to her? Does he not take care of her? Saying he bullies you and you believe she HAS to be with you during this, doesn’t tell us how he is AS A FATHER. Only what YOU believe needs to happen. It is not required that homeschooling happen right now, you are required to take care of your children, at 5 years old I’m sure not home schooling right now isn’t going to deprive her. Just saying. Need more information than just you deciding that she can’t have this extra time with her dad unless he’s not being a good father.
I understand him wanting to keep her for the duration of this dangerous virus. By the sounds of it thats not his motive. Hes bullying you. Save all text messages, record all phone calls. If your state requires his consent to record him tell him as soon you answer that you’re recording & proceeding with the call is consent to the recording. Take your court order, texts & recordings to the police. If he has the child against his scheduled court ordered visitation he has kidnapped your child. Press charges! Under normal circumstances they’ll bring your child to you, arrest him & do an investigation. I’m not sure what they’ll do now since they’re trying to keep non-violent offenders out of jail to limit covid19 spread & courts are only seeing urgent cases. But still call the cops, press charges.
As long as you have court ordered papers the police will go get her.
Your court order must be followed. They cant hold him in contempt. Call your local PD and they can help enforce this.
Hell no go to the police with your court order and they will force him to give you your daughter back do not agree to anything besides what the court plan states he’s already fucked you over
Not all courts are closed! What state are you in? Call them. Most have phone services right now. If that doesn’t work definitely bring your court order to the police they will go with you to get her! He’s being manipulative and trying to bribe you, hell no!!!
Call the police of where HE is located with your child
Go with the police to the door to retrieve her.
Just go too the police his breached the orders …
Call the sheriff. You have court ordered documents. They will enforce the order
All u gotta do is go to police department with custody order and they get her back right then.
I want through very similar with my sons father. Its been 2 years and I’m still fighting to get him back. The cops couldn’t help bc its a civil matter. We had a custody agreement and it didn’t matter. Its a civil matter so they can’t just intervene or go get the child. I live in Iowa. Like I said its been over 2 years and I’m still fighting.
I’ve been through this!
If you have court orders I would think that it would be considered kidnapping. If you have to just agree that if he gives her back tomorrow you let him keep her. Your court papers state otherwise so once you get her you dont have to abide by an oral agreement.
he literally can not do that. he is breaking the law. when you have a court order you HAVE to follow that. you can call the police and they will take her from him. ESPECIALLY since she’s not in school at the moment. that’s like double illegal.
He cannot keep her from you period. If there is a signed agreement go fucking get her.
You still have to hold up the court order. In Michigan anyways. Parenting time is considered essential travel.
Call the non emergency police line and have them escort you to pick her up. They will uphold the court agreement!! Go get your baby back, mama!
i would call RIGHT NOW. that’s your baby. you get her back home where you know she’s safe and sound.
He has breached the court order y’all have in place which means he technically has kidnapped her call the cop’s! See what they say if they don’t help go get your baby anyway!
Take your papers that you have from the courts an the law has to go an get her…its court ordered an they have to go by it…i have been thru this …stop waiting ,this is ur rights !
Parental kidnapping is real. Hes breaching a court order. Absolutely call the police where he is located.
Just agree for the month take her and dont give her back untill a judge says too and document all text of him saying you cant have her back show the to judge
Call the police and explain everything. Maybe they will help or tell you what to do.
Pretend to agree and then just don’t honor the agreement. Let him bring her tomorrow and dont give her back
I would agree to whatever he wants…you’re now under duress and he has already failed to comply, used this virus. Get your child back and then proceed. Also, inthink it’s really great that he wants her, to keep and care for her at all…some wait around , damage everyone, and then just disappear…I’d still do or say whatever to get her back tho
In the court order who is the primary custodial parent? If it’s you then call the police because he is breaking the court agreement and he can get contempt. Have your court paperwork with you to show the police and make sure to get the officers name and have them file a report.
Police. Bring your decree and all proof. If she’s supposed to be with you, they will assist. And the counties ARE still working, just not in their offices. If the police give you a hard time, contact the county