My daughter is not comfortable around her teacher due to him being inappropriate: What should we do?

My daughter is a senior this year and is about to graduate. She had a favorite teacher her freshman year. He would give her innocent compliments that she reminded him of a good actress he knew growing up. As the years went on, the innocent compliment turned into you remind me of an actress I was sexually attracted to. He would touch her shoulder, back, arm, hand, and elbow. She told him to stop multiple times, but he would continue touching her. He did not respect the word no. To add more salt to the wound, he is also our neighbor. He told my daughter that he could see into our house…the only rooms at that time that did not have curtains were the kitchen and her bedroom because her room was in the backyard and she couldn’t find any curtains she liked. We now have thick curtains up. She also witnessed him putting a girl classmate’s hand near his crotch when the girl was taking measurements for inseams. He also told the girl that he hopes she would respect him in the morning. My daughter loved OAP, but that teacher was the new teacher for her senior year. She ended up quitting because she was not comfortable with him. She also tried to get out of his class at semester, but the counselor told her that she was a week late. My daughter asked if she could make an exception, and the counselor told her no. I wish my daughter would have told me before she did because I would have gone up to the school to take her out of that class. My daughter had to do a critique over a film…when she got to the part where she said the white man got away with kidnapping, rape…he stopped her and yelled at her in front of the whole class and accused her of talking about him! Shortly after, she finally told me everything that was going on, and I had to take her to the dr because she had tics. After expensive tests, she was diagnosed with Tourette’s and has to go to counseling sessions and take anti-depressants and Tourette’s meds. When my daughter gets stressed out, her tics get worse physically and vocally. She has had to be schooled online to where her grades have also suffered. I went to the school and talked to the superintendent, counselor, and principal, requesting that teacher not be at her graduation. They do not see anything to justify in asking that teacher to not go since it is a public event, and they don’t see that he did anything wrong, even though in the meeting they agreed that what he said about being sexually attracted to was inappropriate. I said, fine, how about we compromise, and he goes to baccalaureate and not graduation so that my daughter can attend her own graduation and feel safe. The superintendent said he felt they were already compromised by asking him not to get near my daughter or family. I told him there would be no way she could go because her tics would get so bad physically and verbally. He also said he never witnessed them before. Finally, the principal said she would go ask the teacher about my compromise. The teacher said he would not be at the baccalaureate but would be at graduation. My daughter and I are heartbroken over this situation. What else can we do so my daughter can attend her own graduation?

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For your daughters school have a liaison police officer? This type of behavior is uncalled for!

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Threaten to take it to the police if they don’t do anything about it!

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With all the evidence you have you’re eligible for an order of protection for your daughter. Apply for it online. You’ll have to attend a hearing but your daughter can testify in chambers so she doesn’t have to face him. This way he can’t go anywhere she’s at.

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All of this should be reported to the police. Get a restraining and protective order. Take it to court. Don’t threaten and don’t tell them. Just do it. You already reported it to them and they didnt listen so make sure you make the courts aware of the conversation and everything. Don’t be a victim, do something about it.

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I’d call the police and file sexual harassment charges.

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He needs to be reported to police? Forget the school! Report this to police.

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Nothing. You went to the school. Other than stay close as you can to your daughter during graduation or she skips the ceremony. Those are your two options.

Bring it to the news

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Go to the board of education.

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Report to the police

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Call an attorney and drag that fool

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Go.to the news police and board of education. Sexually suggestive comments to minors are illegal ESPECIALLY as an educator bc he’s in a position of power.

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A week before the graduation file a restraining order. There’s usually a 7 day period before it goes in front of a judge. That’ll keep him from her graduation ceremony.

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What you do is take all the evidence to the police…He needs to be removed from the school all together! Don’t give them any warnings just do it.

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Listen, you go sit down with the office staff and tell them if they do not remove your daughter out of the class, you will go higher up and more issues will arise. I had a teacher identical to this my senior year. I told my parents what was going on and everyone, school staff included, thought I was absolutely crazy but they did switch my schedule so I had a different teacher. About 2 weeks after, that teacher was escorted out of his class in handcuffs during school hours and went to prison for many, many charges.
He actually married and had 2 children with a girl that was in my class. Trust me, they will do something.

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You get a restraining order that way he cannot come at all while she’s there

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Go to the board of education. Take this WAY to the top. Get police involved if you need. This is disgusting and one day, if not already, he will rape someone.

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That is literally a form of sexual abuse

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Call the school board, board of education, local news, police and file a restraining order. If all else fails get a baseball bat a hold of his ass!!

I’d be calling the police if it were my child :woman_shrugging:

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I’m sorry but as long as you took to type that out you should of been making a police report and walking into that school and raising ALL FUCKING HELL.

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Go higher up, the school board, the police for sure, and possibly the news if nothing is done.

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What? I’m surprised he’s not out on leave for investigation

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That’s sexual harassment. The school not doing anything is against the law. I’d call the police & ask them their opinion. Also file a restraining order. He’ll be arrested if he shows up to graduation then.

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Put her in a different class

First, take this to the police darlin, next to the courthouse for an order of protection then the news station and lastly, a lawyer. The school is failing to protect your daughter after a sexual harassment complaint has been brought to their attention. Sue the hell out of them! They’ll get the point then :clap:t4::woman_shrugging:t2::nail_care:t3:

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How about get a lawyer and press charges for sexual harassment?!?!? stand up and do more for your daughter! This isn’t an issue for the school this is much deeper and needs to be taken care of before someone is seriously hurt! Your daughter is suffering enough. This is not ok at all. She needs you to be her voice

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Why haven’t you called the police yet!!!

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Umm go to the police and the school board . That is soo highly inappropriate!!!

File a report, he’s a freaking predator and will keep doing it if he’s not stopped

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What the hell town is this in that they don’t take these types of things seriously. Why are they even discussing options of where he can be. He should have been fired.

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No judt go to police and give them evidence

If go to the Minister for youth and education. He/she might be targeting other children

I also have Tourette’s and it started when I was 15 and I’m now 48! I take Haldol for Tourette’s and when I get stressed my tics get really bad.

Call the cops! Stop it now or it’ll get worse. There may be other victims!

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Break both his legs so he can’t walk in to graduation? :rage: Sorry I’m no help. Anyone who puts their hands on my child will get my hands on them. Or worse, my husband. I’m sorry she has had to go through this though! Thank God she’ll be out of there soon!

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Call the damn cops wtf you need someone to tell you that

Police and dcfs. If he is doing it to your daughter he is doing it to others and prob ones before her. Help her to be the voice for all of them, I bet more will come out. Don’t let him continue to get away with it

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You guys should’ve went to the police the first time she came to you guys because I guarantee you she’s not the first and she won’t be the last and sadly it’ll turn into something worse for future female students :sob:

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I would of went to the authorities the first moment I caught wind of someone sexually harassing my child…fuck dealing with the school I would go above their heads to the board of education in your state…

There is no “compromise” when your daughter is being sexually assaulted by a teacher. He’s assaulting her. He is being 100% inappropriate and disgusting.

Go above the district. Everyone has a boss. Take it to the police, the media, blast it and it will be taken care of.

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File sexual harassment and stalking charges on him!

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Share this news with the town. Try to gather enough people to stand in front of the man to block your daughters view. Build a chain of people in front of him.

This was my only idea but that school is horrible for not realizing what that teacher did to your daughter. You’d think they’d understand mental health issues/trauma and help a student any way they can.

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Go to the police and the news about the school.

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Why did you not go to the police the first issue

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Report him. What the hell

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I would definitely go to the police and higher up especially seeing there’s another student involved that could be a witness also. This man will continue to do these things to other children not to mention it must be uncomfortable for your daughter to be living next to him, I would want to make sure he wouldn’t ever be next to my child again and end it all now

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I’m so sry! Go to the police! That’s not right!!

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There is no statute of limitations for the creeps behaviour. Some lawyer out there will help you, pro bono. Nail the bastard.

File a Police report.

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You need to file a restraining and protective order. Take your evidence to the police. Something. I guarantee if they looked further into this person… The stuff they would probably find at home, on his computer is probably much worse. I would also hold some type of meeting with parents and see if anyone else experienced this type of behavior and if they were willing to go to whomever could help with their statements. Seriously. This is scary. She isn’t the first and won’t be the last. Please if not just for her for the other kids

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Ummm… what? Call. The. Police! To file a report and pursue a proper investigation. How is this even a question?

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How could you not have gone to the cops already? Fuck her graduation. He will do this over and over.

Yeah I would file a police report definitely. And ask about a restraining order.

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Yeah, that school will be sorry they didn’t act quickly. One of my kids’ music teachers was inappropriate with a student (thankfully neither of my kids) & was immediately taken away in handcuffs and fired. Though maybe they went directly to police.

Not sure how small your town is, but police should have special officers that deal with sexual abuse. If this predator doesn’t get locked up for years, the ostracism of citizens should be enough to get him to move away so you don’t have to deal with him in the neighborhood anymore either. Also, hope you get your daughter therapy to help her cope. Maybe the school will have to pay for it.

If it would help, maybe you could provide info to the administrator of this site & we could all send cards and letters of support and encouragement for your daughter to a PO Box and then they could be sent to you.

Tell your daughter she is a brave warrior woman who is fighting for all the girls who came before and will come afterwards. Brava!

First touch you file a complaint. Meet with the principal, again. She isn’t the only one he is doing that too. Sadly, there is rarely only 1 victim. Either the principal addresses him or you’ll go public.
If he persists, press charges. I say that bc many young women don’t want to go that far. That is up to her but I would. What he is doing is beyond wrong and she will regret not standing up for herself.

The mother has gone to the police and reported this monster. They say there is not enough evidence to charge him. The problem is, this is happening in a very small town and this man is a beloved teacher and member of the community. The mother is doing everything she knows to do but unfortunately if you don’t have a name with dollar signs behind it or if your child is not top 5% of their class or an athlete then everyone turns a blind eye to any injustice done. It’s really sad. :disappointed_relieved:

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Blast it everywhere, mama. File a complaint. Continue going to the principal. Take it to the school board. I would keep going up the hill and publicize it everywhere so everyone knows he is a predator. Talk to the police to see what you can do about this. She definitely isn’t the first girl and she isn’t going to be the last. He is a predator. Have you approached him yourself at the school?

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Nope I woulda knocked his ass out already especially being my neighbor I’d be on his door step and see how he likes being touched when told no. Forcefully. With a bat. Sick son of a bitch

Law enforcement, because he’ll do it to another girl once she is gone. Or hes doing it/has done it to other girls

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Just went through a horrendous court battle with a client of mine and he was a teacher and got max sentence in prison! Obviously more darker details, but what you’re experiencing is where it starts! Shoot me a message if you need direction.

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Human Rights! Lodge a complaint he can put his money where his mouth is…

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File a complaint with your states department of education. Include all your correspondence (even if it’s dates and times of in person meetings) with the administration. The school district will be forced to take note at that point. I’m so sorry you and your daughter are dealing with this!

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RECORD HIM!! Without proof, its his words against hers, I’m saying this threw experience, and some how the victim seems to always end up being judged without concrete proof of some kind, its TRULY SAD she should EVER have to experience that!!! Sorry she is going threw this, as well as u as parents.

Call the police and file a formal complaint
Go to the news about the school doing nothing or at the very least threaten them with going to the news about them protecting this creep of a teach

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Do as much as you can when I was in high school there was a cooking teacher who was really friendly with girl students he even gave me his number and address but I threw it away. 2 years later he was fired and went to jail because he was taking underage girls to his house giving them alcohol and having sex with them.

Cops, local news. …blast this teacher ALL OVER

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Are you really asking this?!
911!
End of conversation!

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Go to a news station get it out there if the school won’t listen

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My ass would have been up at the school whooping his a long time ago

Sounds like my old high school teacher. News outlets and law enforcement.

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As a parent you have a duty of care to protect your daughter and aware he has touched other girls innapropriate you need to speak up and defend them, he should not be working in this industry report to department of education and seek legal support

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What!? You should be going to the press and fighting with your school district to get this teacher fired. It’s not just about your daughter it is about the many other girls who can also be victims in the future

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Ummm how is this even a question call the cops put a restraining or protection order on him

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Wtf this is disgusting. Go to the school district if no one in the school isn’t doing anything. Make a police report. This guy isn’t going to stop being a disgusting p.o.s.

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If you make it public and report him more young women may decide to be brave and report him as well and the school would have no choice and fire him.

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My neighbor was a perv and a teacher. My suggestion to you is go to the police and have him investigated. I’m sure there’s enough here to file a warrant and get search. I would also make sure you have cameras around your house since you said he’s a neighbor, your gonna need them. My perv neighbor had his house raided twice by SWAT, was sent to jail, and lost his teacher license and his wife left him. So he had no choice but to move.

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Police should be your first stop! He won’t stop unless forced.

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Load a gun and use him as target practice :woman_shrugging:

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Press charges for sexual harassment and file a restraining order. Then he will be forbidden from attending. Ask other parents to do the same.

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Report him! They cannot take away her graduation. That screams for a law suit. She did absolutely nothing wrong.

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How has this gone on so long?! Police and constant filing with the school board. Advocate for your daughter!!

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Lawyer up and call the press

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U should have already taken this to the police…smh

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Make a police report. Get an order of protection. Check, on line, for criminal history for this creep. Your daughter has a right to her education, free of harrassment of any kind. The school will protect their own. They need to answer for that, too. I’m sure this is not the first complaint about this jerk.

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Get a lawyer he made a sexual pass at more than one student if the school won’t handle it get a lawyer too and be sure to tell the school and watch how fast things changes I’m so sorry your daughter is going threw this the school should be more worried about protecting it’s students then their teachers don’t drop it either they are just trying to push you in a corner

Go see the prick thats exactly what I’d do

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Also tell the school you’ll sue for sexual harassment and a endangerment of a child because they willing knew your child is uncomfortable and circumstances of what’s going on so if they don’t pull her there will be repercussions

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File a complaint with the courts put his actions on record and maybe the principal will it was wrong what he did

4 years this continued to happen and worsen? Go to the police. I’d also reach out to news stations about the school not caring.

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Sue that school and press charges on him. There are perverts that work in schools
Some sit in high places, principals or on school boards. Get them out of the schools.

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Why are you asking facebook this and arent standing in the police station filing a report at this very moment?!? YOU are your child’s best advocate no matter what their age is. This is clearly sexual harassment and a restraining order needs to be filed and an investigation needs to be opened about this guy. Chances are there have been girls before her that were subject to his sexual harassment. Be the one who stops it so there is no next girl. Speak up and even consider moving if he is a neighbor, your daughter probably feels like a prisoner in her own home, or that her privacy could constantly be violated by this jerk. Dont back down from this. Your daughter deserves peace.

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Get a restraining order.

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Hell no. That teacher would be gone or my daughter in a diff school. But he would be reported in the least. I don’t play when it comes to my kids.

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Why haven’t you gone and seen this dirty prick?? My three year old told me her daycare teacher told her she had dirty teeth and I nearly punched her out for that, if a teacher had done any of that to my child he’d be in hospital

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Sue the school district. That’s bullshit.

Put Nails under his tires that morning or afternoon and whenever he should be leaving. Lol

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Actively seek out other women/girls he was inappropriate with, maybe some have graduated already. Local college. Talk to a class action attorney. Is she comfortable enough to ask the girl she witnessed with the hand thing if he has been inappropriate with her at other times and if so would she be willing to discuss the incidents -even anonymously.
When I was in 10th grade there was a very handsome young married teacher who was very flirtatious. A couple years after I graduated he had lost his job for having an affair with a student.

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Teach is expressing his power over not only your daughter, but you! This will escalate! Thisan is not only her teacher, but your backyard neighbor! THE POLICE MUST BE CALLEX AND A RESTRAINING ORDER FILED!! Also check his background, see if he taught somewhere else before…a leopard doesn’t change its spots! Good luck

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Contact law enforcement immediately, and have him investigated!! A similar thing happened to my sister, and because the other girls the teacher was handsy with wouldn’t make a formal statement, he walked free. Now this was a good twenty five years ago, so who knows how many other girls this scum bag had touched or molested.

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