I would tell her that right now shes to young to pursue a boyfriend or girlfriend. 10 year olds shouldn’t be “dating”. Having a crush is ok and not wrong but actively pursuing anything at this age isn’t ideal. I would also let her know she has plenty of time to discover who she is and who or what she likes. Perhaps she is bi. Perhaps not. She will figure it all out but no matter who she is 10 is too young to date or court or have boy/girl friends in a greater capacity then friendship.
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Just love her. Dont let her feel like its an issue or a mistake telling you.
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She is definitely too young to be exploring girls or boys! It might be a new fad at school. I would explain comprehensive sexual education so she fully understands what everything means, how it works, and how to be safe. Schools don’t teach squat. Then let it be. Like everyone else says just play it cool and be supportive as of liking anyone. No way I’d let my 10yr kiss any gender lol, open doors, etc.
I admit I would be a little weirded out that she knew the term bi. I’d probably ask where she learned to call it that.
But I have learned its good to keep a poker face and not let the things kids say have any affect on me.
Definitely not too young to know who she has a crush on! I have a friend who knew she was bi when we were in grade 1 so she was about 7 years old.
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My daughter did this too. I told her i already knew and was waiting for her to tell me then I said do you wanna talk about it or just go about your day she said just go about my day and I said ok well have a nice gay lol we laughed it off
Oh well. If she think so let her.
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Being bisexual isn’t a decision
Just be supportive of how she feels. She is young; maybe she really is bi, or maybe she’s gay, or maybe she’s neither. Time will tell. No matter what, she will 100% remember who was there for her and how you reacted and made her feel. So make sure she feels love. The rest will work itself out however it’s supposed to.
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She very well may be. She also very well not be able to tell the difference between a crush and just liking someone as a person
Tell her “ok, whatever” wanna hang out at home with me watch a movie pop some popcorn; are you hungry?"
My daughter is 11 now and told me last year that she likes girls too she had a crush on this little girl from school and you know what I’m fine with it good for her
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I don’t get the logic behind “they’re not old enough to decide”. Let them be in charge of how they feel now and if they change their minds later let them. Sexuality isn’t something set in stone. It can change
I’m editing to add I didn’t mean she can choose her sexuality but rather what she identifies as.
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Wow. How about supporting your daughter?
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Just went through this with my daughter at the start of the year but mine said said she thinks she’s gay lol feel free to reach out to me if you would like to know how we handled it 
My daughter told.me she was bi at 10…I said ok cool still love you kiddo and I dont care. It’s not a big deal and if you say things like it’s a phase or your it old enough to know that your just going to make her feel awkward and never want to tell you anything ever again. Dont be that person just support and love her.
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Not to old to know… She probably knew it since a very young age
I dont think shes too young to know but just accept her as she is
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Just be supportive and keep lines of communication open. She may be too young to know for sure, but I think it’s great she felt she could come to you. This tells me you are an awesome, loving non judgemental mom.
This is so nice. U handled it well and then came for advice. It’s very good u didn’t shut her down or shut her up. Thumbs up for that. Hope u get the advice u seek. We’ve a group of amazing ppl here
She didn’t “make a decision.” Being LGBTQ+ isn’t a choice. Right now, bisexual is the label your daughter feels most comfortable with. 2 weeks ago, that may or may not have been true. 2 week from now, that may or may not be true. Regardless, it’s not your place as her parent to police her identity - it’s your job to love and support her. I knew I liked girls when I was like 5. I spent years confused because I never heard the term “bisexual.” I only heard straight and gay, with strong negative connotations associated with the latter, so I not only didn’t understand what I was, I hated myself. Support and love her.
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She definitely knew. I knew by the time I was 6 LOL
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It’s never too young to be straight…so it’s never too young to be gay. Just explain that dating is saved for older people and crushes are natural.
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She hasn’t had enough experience yet to make that call. Enjoy her willingness to communicate with you and don’t get judgy, even if having a “bi” child offends you greatly.
She’s got to learn how to manage those feelings and wanted help by telling you! By shutting her down telling her she doesn’t know herself and that is going to make your conversations a lot harder in the coming years.
Approach her again and ask her why she thinks she’s bi and what do the feelings feel like for her.
Plenty of people all around the world know very young whom they are attracted to. It’s society that stops them expressing and discovering the real truth.
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Yeah don’t tell her she’s not old enough to make that choice - that’s exactly the issue nowadays . Just support her and say please come to me for anything ! I support you if anything you decide in life and am happy you are open with me.
If she’s bi or gay or straight she is going to face some mean people in this world as a parent we don’t need to be one of them
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She’s not too young to have a crush?
I am gay and I can tell you that I definitely had crushes on girls already when I was that age. If a ten year old girl had a crush on a boy nobody would blink, they would just think it’s totally normal. I actually think kids can truly know at young ages. Know that the best thing parents can do is remain open and supportive. I’ve come across a lot of LGBTQ people who have such sadness and even trauma associated with their parents who were otherwise loving but not accepting when they came out. I think it’s wonderful that you told her you were glad she came to you to talk. That’s really positive. The next things you can do are learn more about people who identify as bi, experiences of kids coming out, and talk to her about love, healthy relationships, safety (as you see to be developmentally appropriate) just as you would if she identified as straight and told you she had a crush on a boy. Trust that she knows more about who she is than most adults might expect.
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Personally, i was about 12 when i realized i was attracted to girls. I thought it was Just a phase. It wasnt until i was about 15 when i told my mom. Her and my brothers dad both had a feeling I was and knew already. 10 is definetly an age where they cant start realizing they feel that way. Be supportive. My mom wasn’t supportive until i was about 18.
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Just love her. Point blank.
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Let her be who she is. Don’t ask questions. Let her come to you. If she knows she likes girls and knows what bi even is, she is old enough to make that “decision” (it’s not a decision/choice)
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Ummm… if you can know you’re straight, you can know if you’re bi or gay. You don’t need “experience” to know how you fee.
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My son told me he thought he was gay, he played with my make up and borrowed my girl cut flare leg jeans. He’s 16. I just went with it although I felt alot like that, mind blown. Fast forward 3 months he still likes make up and my clothes but is dating a girl. These kids get pumped so full of sexuality and labels now a days they are open to questioning what we didn’t at that age.
It’s good she’s comfortable enough to tell you. My daughter told me the same thing around that age… she’s 16 now and isn’t bisexual. It could be a “phase” or it could not be…
just continue to do a great job as it sounds like you are
I started realizing I was attracted to girls and boys at 9… I’m now 25 and I am still bi.
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Well let’s just hope she don’t mind you letting the world know she’s gay now. Some kids commit suicide for things like this
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I’m afraid you don’t get to decide whether she’s ready to make this decision based on her age, age doesn’t determine these feelings her mental state/compacity, feelings, emotions and general personality does
Don’t make a big deal of it, encourage her to embrace her feelings and be ok with them.
You want to make sure she’s comfortable with herself, loves herself and is proud of who she is, this bhuolds confidence and resilience, necessary things in this sometimes cruel world.
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My 13 year old has been bi since about that time. My advise is support her, it’s a crush, I’m assuming you aren’t letting her date yet, so tell her you support whoever she is. If you make her feel like you don’t believe her, she won’t open up to you in the future. You don’t decide if you are gay or straight, so it’s not a decision.
I also knew by the time I was 10 that I liked to look at both boys and girls, i just didn’t know what bi was, so I didn’t know how to Express what I was feeling. I definitely had a barbie that kissed both barbies and Ken’s though. Lol 
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Just love her and be there when she needs you. Be her safe Haven.
No experience but I would just tell her it perfectly normal to have those kind of feelings and maybe say She doesn’t have to define her sexuality right this very moment but let her know u will love her no matter who she loves 
it’s great that she feels she can come to you with that 
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My son told me the same thing several months ago. I would have NEVER said that he wasn’t old enough to be able to make that decision. My only concern is the he knows he is loved and that whoever he’s with treats and loves him like he should be.
You just shot her down and that will be what she remembers.
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Just treat it the same as having a boyfriend if they do date. Don’t let her have any more or less freedom with either. You don’t trust boys in the room with door closed then dont trust girls either. Same with dates just treat it the same as you would if it was a boy.
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Just support her. She may change she may not.
Just love your baby and be supportive of her relationship as if it was any other! Love is love
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I’m pretty sure my 13 year old daughter is, but right now it’s the “cool thing” to be at her school, so I just let it go. I will love her no matter what
My lesbian sister knew at that age what she was into. So maybe she is? Only your daughter knows what she likes.
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Several LGBTQ people I know, have all told me they had a hunch early in life, as young as 4th grade, that they weren’t straight. Even if you think it might be a “phase”, don’t make her feel like her feelings aren’t validated.
That said, as a parent myself, at that age she’s too young to “date” anyways. So I wouldn’t put a lot of worry into it. It’s not like she’s doing drugs and boozing. She’s becoming self aware and trying to discover who she is. Be her support along that journey, and you’ll both be fine whatever her sexual orientation turns out to be.
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Love and support 
I could careless if my children are gay, straight or Bi as long as my babies are happy I’m happy!
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I’ve known I was bisexual for as long as I can remember.
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Tell her that’s okay then talk to her/handle it like her crush is a boy?
Huge hugs n open forum for future
I don’t get why a 10 year old thinks they have to explain them sell sexually it’s not like you walk up to a parent and say I’m straight I have a crush on a boy
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My 7 year old daughter has asked me if she can marry a boy or a girl. I told her she can marry whoever she wants as long as she’s treated with love & respect.
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I am bisexual!I have always known I am bisexual!As soon as I was old enough to have crushes on boys I also had crushes on girls!I have always been attracted to both!I have had relationships with both!She isnt too young to know!I did very young!
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All u have to do is support her wether u think it’s ok or not. That’s what she needs.
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I’m bisexual. My 10 year old daughter tells me all the time that she is bisexual too. I don’t care obviously. But I do let her know that I don’t care whether she like boys, girls or turtles that she is to young to be thinking about anything other than school right now.
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It’s not a “decision” smh 
hope you didn’t just destroy your own child or your relationship… sad
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You dont ‘choose’ to be gay, straight, or bi or anything. Thats who they are. And she isn’t too young to know herself. I was 7 when I knew but kept it to myself until I was 12-14 because people thought I was too young to know what I wanted
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If she knows what the difference is then she’s old enough to know if she is. Just love her. 
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I have bo idea why so many people are shaming this girl… being caught off guard i would probably not know what to aitomatically say either… nowhere im her conversation did she say she didnt support her child or in anyway say shes against… as long as you keep lines of communication open like you did and not shut her down she knows either way you are going to love you
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Take a deep breath relax. You may want to sit down and tell her you love her and support her. Don’t nitpick or tell her she can’t feel some type of way. Anyone can know who they like and don’t like.
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You know by 10 who you’re attracted to.
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If she had come to you and said she had a crush on a boy would it be “too early” for such a “big decision”?
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Some school teachers students about different sexuality,to the younger classes. In my opinion I rather them teach thing like how to finance your money, cursive writing and other thing to help their future.
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It could be an out side influence such as a kid as school ect
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I just had this conversation with my 11 yr old, i asked if she knew what bi was. I told her she could like, be interested in, or crush on who ever she wanted but lets leave labels out of it until later. (I am bi) I don’t want her to feel like she has to label herself at such a young age but rather focus on her school work
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My youngest son is 10 and told me he was bi. 2 months later he’s straight again they can’t make their minds this young.
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Take into account she is comfortable enough to tell you this. Think about what you’re saying to her from now on in order to keep this line of communication open and her confidence in tact. My first crush was on Crysta from ferngully when I was like 5. Zak was my second(same movie, watch it if you haven’t seen it). It’s natural to gravitate to certain people. It’s not sexual until it is. And when it becomes that don’t be the cause of her shutting down please.
Teach her about safety. And keep supporting her. You’re awesome mama
My first kiss with a girl was around that age so she probably does know who she likes already. 10 is around the time her hormones get all wack too which explains why she is having these kind of feelings now.
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You did great mom. Keep the lines of communication open and best of luck
Hearts not parts. Just support and all will be ok
Is she too little to admit she has a crush if it was a boy? I knew around then I liked girls too, couldn’t explain it at all or anything but I definitely had a lot of girl crushes with just as many boy crushes. It’s okay to be shocked especially if you weren’t expecting it, just remind her she is young and has a lot of time to explore and figure out what she likes and doesn’t like. She doesn’t NEED to put a label on it RIGHT NOW, and you love and support her no matter what.
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Ask yourself this: If your 10 year old had said “I have a crush on a boy in my grade” would you have reacted the same way? If the answer is no, you’re not handling it right.
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I knew I liked girls before I knew I liked boys… just honestly. 🤷 To this day, my mom refuses to accept this lol. She thinks it was just a phase in grade school. My children know that I have dated both and that it is 100% normal to me no matter who they like.
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So my brother came out a few years ago and I point blank asked him when he started to feel that way about guys. And he said early middle school, so right around your daughters age.
My advice: thank her for being honest and candid with you, give her a big hug and kiss, tell her you love her and then go out to get lunch or shop.
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you did great, just offer her support and be there for her. keep the lines open and… when you were 10 did you have a crush on anyone?? well why couldnt she feel the same??
I had a rough upbringing, but fucking yikes I would hate to have some of you as parents.
Wow. You have an awesome bond with your Daughter. Well done Mum 
some of these comments 
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Gay Straight Bi black white purple yellow who cares love and support your daughter whoever she chooses to love .
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Never tell a child they aren’t old enough to make that decision bc. They are and it could be something to her or just the start of new feelings and her way of figuring it all out in a faze
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Can’t really tell her she’s not old enough to know what she is. If she’s intrested in both genders let her be her and accept her for who she is
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I know exactly what you mean
It’s great that she was able to talk to you about it just went through something similar but I reckon she’s too young to decide I put it down to exploring options for now and when they are older they will probably still be exploring but I don’t think a big deal should be made out of it as long as you are okay with it
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I’ve dealt with this numerous times. Relationships are portrayed very differently than when we were children. Talk with your daughter about the definitions of friendship, loyalty, love, attraction, sex. I find that a lot of times these things are confused, which only lead to greater confusion. Good luck mama 
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My daughter told me at that age that she was bisexual. At 17, she no longer believes that.
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You can support her but she still might just be confused about what she’s feeling. You can still have a “girl crush” and be straight.
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I always knew I was bi since I can remember had little “girl crushes” in first grade the way most had “boy crushes”. Be proud your baby felt so comfortable to bring it up so freely to you! 
You’re one great momma for that!
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I don’t know anything about this subject at all. However, i just wanted to say that if all mother’s were as caring and open minded as you the world would be such a better place!! Keep loving your child. No matter what their sexuality is! You are awesome snd i just wanted to Send you a hug.
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Shes plenty old enough to express her wants needs and feelings and make those decisions. You dont get to make her timeline. You either be an upstanding parent and supoort her or be a shitty one and belittle her. If I were you i would pick the first one and love her unconditionally.
Here’s the thing that nobody wants to talk about & it’s been going on since the beginning of time. Once puberty starts, the majority of kids explore with their same sex. Because it’s ‘safe’ they role play; It can be just flirting or it can be very intense & physical. And, it can also lead to confusion & guilt which you don’t want your child to feel because, as hard as it is to believe it’s very natural. Educate yourself about this first then sit your daughter down & explain to her that it’s normal. Let her know that most kids & parents may not talk about or want to know such things. In other words, it’s not something that usually comes up in polite discussion, so she needs to protect herself emotionally as she explores her nature. Then let her know that perhaps she is bi or gay & that’s ok & something you would love to explore more with her as circumstances come up. However, for now your own personal feelings are that it’s a fluid time in her life with so many moving parts that perhaps labeling herself at such a young age could really cause her more confusion & even isolation. Encourage her to have all different kinds of friends & to go out in groups.
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Take some time to take it in. We live in a time where this is very common now. Don’t just brush it off as a phase just in case it’s not, but don’t go overboard either. Just go with the flow, and if she honestly is, just be her mother. Nothing more nothing less.
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I think your awsome to listen to her yes im sure it was a shock to you and just be supportive of whatever way she goes, talk with her about it and let her know she can always come to you.
I seen a quote on FB it said “you didn’t fail as a parent if your child is gay. You’ll fail as a parent if you disown you child” I’m not sure if those r exact words but I think bout it. I have 6 kiddos no matter what their sexuality will b in life I’m always gonna have their backs.
Good luck. 
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This LITERALLY happened to me with my 11 year old… in the same exact words. And I gave her the same exact response … I’m not trying to write it off but do you think there could be some stupid challenge going on 
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Be a fucking parent and let their child grow up to be who they want to. You don’t need any more insight than that
Just be there for her and support her. Dont make your child hate you for making it seem its wrong
I have always told my kids “when you get a boyfriend or girlfriend whatever you prefer…” doesn’t matter if they were 5,6 or now at 9 & 15. &16. This time n age it doesn’t matter. Just as long as they are happy. That’s all that should matter. Just love her. 10 year old shouldn’t know what bi sexual is. Lol but I know things are different these days. Lol
Love and accept her no matter what…
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At 10 she’s probably not mature enough to decide her sexuality, but these days children seem to want to explore it younger and younger. While that’s scary for parents, I have to say that my 18 year old and I have always had a very open & honest line of communication when it comes to BIG stuff like this. The fact that she came to you is a blessing. That means once she’s mature enough to understand and claim her sexuality you’ll likely be the ear she runs to with her discovery. Personally I would take it for what it is at this time… it is simply information she trusted you enough to share with you about her conscious state of mind. Good luck mama!
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Did none of you play house or doctor growing up? Growing up is just that. You have had to travel many paths to come to who you are today.