I’ve known I liked girls since I was 7 years old. Til this day I am not able to talk to my parents about this. The fact that your kid did, means that you’ve made it comfortable for her to. And that’s a beautiful thing. All you need to do is show her that she’s loved no matter and that you guys can talk about it anytime she wants
It’s sad all our kids are pushed into decisions they are not old enough to make .
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I don’t think 10 year olds have sexual urges yet.
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You handled it beautifully.
Just support her… 
Well she’s old enough to know obviously she likes a girl. Support her and love her and don’t tell her she’s too young to know how she feels … good grief 🤦
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People think that being gay is a choice someone makes in their life and that you have to be a certain age to know when that is not how it is! If a person is truly gay or bi they are born that way! It’s not a switch you can turn on or off! There is no age limit on being gay or bi! All you can do is support her even if you don’t agree or understand!
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My daughter came out at ten as a lesbian she’s 11 now and has been with a girl for almost 6 months she will be 12 in March you just need to accept it and be there for her
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She may grow out of it… I remember having a girl crush when I was very young but it never developed into anything…still you are listening to her when she is expressing her feelings and that is good because it can be hard when you feel confused . My youngest who is 36 now is bi and she never told me but I felt she was different ever since she was little so well done mum and daughter for being able to listen to one another… it’s alright
My daughter is 8, she has been telling me since 1st grade that her and her best friend are girlfriends and getting married. She talks about having crushes on both boys and girls. I feel that she knows what she likes. Just let her grow up and date who she wants to date. Boys\Girls or both.
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I think if you ask most bi/gay people they all knew at a young age. I don’t think shes too young to know if she is or to understand.
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Why is it an issue? Why does it blow your mind? It literally changes nothing. Let her be her best self. Tell her, that’s great pumpkin, let me know how that works out for you. The world is a whole different place now. If you love who she is, the people who don’t, won’t matter so much. And if it’s a phase, so be it. If it’s a precursor to her figuring out she’s a lesbian, so be it. Hugs and kisses and treat it no different than if she had said he had a crush on a boy. Changes nothing.
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Take as you would if she said boy . She’s ten …she’s not getting married . Assure her she can tell you about any of her feelings .
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Wow …I didn’t know so many parents allowed their children to be dating so young boy or girl .
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She’s plenty old enough to know how she feels. Just probably not old enough to be 100% because she hasn’t experimented with it. Just let her know that you love her and support her, and that you will be there for her no matter what.
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My sister is a lesbian and she knew at a very very young age that she didnt like boys but she was afraid to tell my parents… kids know… they know at a very young age. Listen to her and believe her if she says she likes girl. You did a good job momma 
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She is still the same exact girl. So…she likes boys and girls. It doesn’t change who she is. Love is love. I would tell her that it doesn’t matter to you and you love her the same and always will. 
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Yea, I’d tell my kids the same. 10 is not old enough to actually understand sexuality. But none of my kids will be allowed to date or have a girl/boy friend till they’re at least 16.
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My rule is the kids can’t date while they live here, they can’t talk about their crushes, etc. we talk about why it’s important to wait, and the things we should focus on instead. Good luck!
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My daughter knew around that age… Shes 13 now and identifies as pansexual… And I let her know that whomever she chooses to date as long as shes treated right I will support her. And if anyone had something to say I had her back… Her counselor called me some weeks later saying that my daughter was in her office today (my daughter already told me she went bc of bullying). And was i aware my daughter is saying she is bisexual… I told her off bc that is not the fact that needed to be addressed the fact was she was being bullied behind it and the counselor was more worried about her preference. So I think I did the right thing and just let her know to be who she is and you will back her 
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It’s not a big deal. Yeah she is bi now and that may continue to be the case. Or she might grow up and only like girls or only like guys. It’s not like she is telling you she is having sex yet. Let her enjoy herself.
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Why does she assume she is bi if she has a crush on a girl? Has she had crushes on boys before? I would not talk one way or the other about her sexuality. I would just make sure she knew that she could love(or like, since she’s 10) whoever she wanted to love/like and that you would love her unconditionally. You might think that she’s too young to make that type of a decision and she very well may be, but you stating that it’s a decision could possibly do more harm than good and make her think that there is a right and wrong choice. The most important thing you can do, is to just be there for her unconditionally.
Shes not too young to have a crush on a boy why would she be too young to have a crush on a girl?
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My son is 10 & has had crushes since kindergarten. She’ll figure out this aspect of her life. Just support her because it doesn’t change who she is. If you feel she is too young to date (doesn’t matter if it’s girl or boy) don’t change that rule if that’s how you feel. But support her either way the whole time.
Let it go for now, and see how it develops in the future. Be supportive, no matter how it goes. 
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Just tell her it’s ok no matter what sex she attracted to it dosnt matter as long as she’s happy
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Haven’t faced this yet. But you handled This accordingly.
Its too young to date but I had crushes at that age
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Its great that you guys have a good relationship and she felt comfortable about telling you! Just tell her that its ok and let her know it doesnt change the fact that shell always be your baby girl 
I knew I wasn’t straight when I was about 4 yrs old… also knew I was genderqueer… 
So I’d say she’s plenty old enough to know how she feels as far as attraction goes
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My brother knew he was gay at 4 years old. Some kids have their first crush on the opposite sex, my brother had it on his male friend. I am a firm believer it’s in the dna and not a choice anyone is making. You should feel proud that your daughter felt comfortable enough to come out to you. It’s a big deal.
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I knew i was bi when I was in kindergarten, i just didn’t know the name for it. Don’t doubt who she is, she is definitely old enough to know who she is attracted to. This is not a choice or decision for her. Honestly just say “okay, I’m happy you feel comfortable telling me.” And don’t treat her any differently.
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My daughter came to me at 11 saying she was bi. It didnt change my feelings nir was my mind blown. I simply told her i will love you no matter who you love boy or girl. She is now almost 14. She has had a couple of girlfriends in the last 3 yrs and then a few months ago she said it was just a phase. Your daughter may just be going through a phase and she may not. But just remind her to always be true to herself and that no matter what your buy her side and you will always love her.
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I don’t think it’s really a “decision” lol. But just hug her and tell her you love her no matter what! Your gonna wasn’t her to continue being comfortable to come to you for everything in her life!! You got this!
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I say just let her think whatever rn I know a few people who said this and they turned out straight so I guess just give it some time to see how she really feels. Alot of kids say this just because other kids said they were.
Dont tell she doesn’t know because she does she understands what she feels because trust me she has thought about it alot especially if she told you about it be there and listen to her I have a sister who is bi and a cousin who is as well they both went through alot when they realized it and having a parent there for the helped make it alot easier even more so having a parent not tell them what the feel isn’t what they feel helped them feel comfortable enough to talk about it
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Shes 10. 10 years old. These says kids hear this shit on the tv or YouTube and think, oh that looks cool. I’m identifying as this. Frankly, no kid at 10 when I was younger even knew what " Bi" was and the word " Gay" we thought meant weenie or a whimp. My feeling is dont push her either way but I dont even think she knows what she wants.
Ok. Bi mom here. Believe her. Trust her. Listen to her. Love her.
All about human kindness and love.race,color or gender doesn’t matter,be happy baby girl!!
Just tell her you like who you like and having a first crush is awesome.
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It’s the crap they’re teaching our kids in school.
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Just love her no matter what. What else is there to do?
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She will get over it be close to her when she reached age she will change with your help.
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Wow mama what a huge thing to hear. Good on you for not telling her its wrong and good on you for having her back
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I knew I was bi at around age 7 or so, but I had no one to talk to to make me feel like it was okay. I didn’t ever call myself bisexual until I was with my now husband and he informed me that I am, in fact, bisexual. Just be supportive and treat it as you would her telling you she has a boy crush. Quite simple.
My daughter is lesbian (12) and my niece(15) is bi and both recently came out to me they knew for some time but didn’t know what it was called, just that they like everyone else found a person attractive, and to be honest I wasn’t exactly surprised by either of them saying it, I think we all knew. She knows what she feels by saying she is to young to know what she feels is going to make her doubt herself and that’s not any good for her. Just support and love her
My wife has known she was gay since she was a little girl. She didn’t know what it was called because we didn’t talk about it as much back then. but she did know what she felt towards girls is how other girls felt towards boys. 
don’t dismiss it. Also I started puberty at 11or 12 and was watching Sunday night sex show ha ha so don’t think kids this young don’t know about or have sexual urges yet. It’s quite possible. And just because she’s telling you doesn’t mean she wants to go have sex with this girl. I’m sure it’s just innocent. Holding hands, kissing, going to the movies 
No matter what she still yr baby girl, it’s awesome she can confide in U , that’s a great relationship , and they do know what they want at all ages whether adults agree or not , it’s all finding one’s self
Just love and support her feelings
I think she is plenty old enough.
Momma if shes bi just love her. Let her know your there for her. I dont consider myself bi but hey I’m not afraid to say I do have my girl crushes
I wouldn’t tell her she doesn’t know or is too young…I would just roll with it. Little crushes come and go.
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Would it matter if she were older? she’s still developing and alot of things are starting to change for her. Be supportive and open for her to come to you. Most of all LOVE HER.
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If she would be old enough to have a crush on a boy, why not a girl? Let her love who she loves and stop silencing her
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I told my mom when i was 11. I still am. She told me i was confused and too young to know. Her saying that confused me more.
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I do want to add I have a gay friend and he stated he knew at a very young age he liked boys and not girls.
I thought I was bi in middle school and through high school and even had a girlfriend. I KNEW that I wasn’t actually bi later in high school. Females are attractive. I had told my mom and she told me she had a phase when she was younger but stuck with me through it and let me figure it out. All you can do is be there for her through anything
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I knew I was bi early on just didn’t know what it was called at that age, I was never able to tell my parents for fear of being rejected… I’m glad she’s able to talk to you, maybe start an open judgement free dialogue😊
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Tell her what my dad told me. She’s your daughter & you love her no matter what & she can be who she needs to be.
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Advice: love your kid, show her support.
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I went through this girls are fun and enjoyable but feeling can be mixed up and having a best friend can turn into something more usually because you become really close to them if your bi however being bi or gay can be painful and a long journey just let her be her I promise she won’t hide things if your there for her
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Hate on. But im vomiting. Come on now people really
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Not old enough to make that decision? It is a feeling. Would you say the same if she said she liked a boy? Get the fuck outta here.
Just love her and support her, just because she’s 12 doesn’t mean she can’t have those kinds of feelings… just stick by her and make sure she know that you’ll love her unconditionally. Honestly it could just be a phase but she could actually be bisexual. But like I’ve said twice now just love her her being bi doesn’t make her any less your baby girl 
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Be supportive. Listen. Ask questions. You’re doing a good job momma!
My Niese was 12 and says she’s gay shec16 now still is.
Why wouldn’t she be old enough to know who she’s attracted to?
My son knows he likes girls…I knew I liked boys when I was 10…If she has a crush on a girl and also likes boys then she’s bi…its very simple really…
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I started knowing I liked both boys and girls when I was like 9, but I didn’t fully realize until I was like 10/11.
You can know very young! Good on her
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Corn dogs and crayons
You did right don’t make a issue. She feels safe telling you this .as I would hope all kids could but doesn’t happen .
She’s ten. She knows what and who she does or doesn’t like. I was the same age when I figured out my sexuality. I waited 15 years to come out to my mother. And her reaction like yours, hurt like hell. Ask her about her crush. Engage in the conversation. Show your support and don’t ever let her feel that you doubt her feelings. What would you have done if she had a crush on a boy? How does that make it any different?
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You just support her no matter what she decides or how she feels. That’s your baby no matter who she likes.
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My daughter is 14 and all of her high school friends claims they are gay or bisexual and im completly ok with it however i believe its not how they feel but peer presure or the cool thing to say right now
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It doesn’t matter what age she is. Encourage her and tell her that it’s great and you would love to meet her crush’s parents if they end up being together. Saying you don’t think she’s old enough tells her you are not ready to accept her choice. I’d say sit down and tell her you support her 100% and always will be. My step grandma said I wasn’t old enough to know when I was 12 even though I had a steady girlfriend and we dated for two years. I never told her anything personal about my life ever again (I lived with her until I was 18). Make sure she stays comfortable with telling you things.
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people saying she is too young definitely had little kindergarten bf/gfs. By that age I knew I was attracted to both. I had known for a couple of years if I remember correctly as well. Just let her be herself and see if she truly feels this way as she gets older.
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Don’t let her shut the door when her girl friends come over lol
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A crush is a crush. Would you have answered the same if she told you she had a crush on a boy ? My first crush was in 4th grade as well. To a boy. I don’t see how that’s a “big decision” since it’s a girl…
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No one would say she is too young to know if she said she likes boys, so why is it such a problem if she says she has a crush on a girl? Just support her as you would if she had a crush on a boy and be there for her in case people/kids wanna be assholes about her being bi.
I knew I was bi before i turned 12. Sometimes you just know
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My daughter told me when she was 12 … I thought the same thing. At the time, it was a fad and all her friends were saying they were bi to be cool. 10 years later, she’s in her 20’s, she’s bi. Tell her that who she loves isn’t important to her, but her being comfortable enough to come to you with it means everything. Then tell her that who she dates will never change your opinion or love for her!
Just love her teach her that she is what matters , love yourself first, be proud of her in everything ! Show her her beauty outside and in , teach her to protect herself in her feeling she is way to young to put a name on herself tell her to stay open to what life shows her, and just love mom
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Coming from being bi if shes ever had a crush on a boy shes more than likely had crushes on girls too. If shes old enough to have a crush I think she can tell whos she finds attractive. It obviously doesn’t mean anything sexual at this point but just to let you know when you hit puberty the part of your brain responsible for emotions matures rapidly If she’s close to puberty her brain may already be working on those changes meaning her those crushes are going to intensify.
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Just be there and support her and let her know she can always talk to you and come to you
I knew around that age. It’s a thing.
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Mom’s you gave the best answer!!
Sexuality is fluid well into our twenties. My daughter is 15 claimed to be asexual, then bi, and now pansexual. I don’t really care what she is as long as she does her school work and her other tasks. She started placing labels on her self at 12 and has went through 3. I feel like society and peer pressure pushes them to put labels on so young. You should feel privileged she shared with you. Most of my kids friends don’t tell their parents anything but tell me everything and most of the time its TMI but they need a place to vent.
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I was the same age. Sexuality awareness can begin to emerge as early as 8 or 9, or as late as 16 or 17, or even never (as in the case of asexuality). Honesty, trust and respect during conversations with you will be key to helping her develop these things within herself. She may need guidance to develop self-awareness, but it will be more difficult for her to do that if she hears that she is “too young” to be capable of that. As with all things our children learn, they need is to believe in them and love them just as they are if they are every going to learn anything at all.
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Knowing is one thing but acting on it at that she is different, my daughter said this to us when she was about 11 or 12 but it really didn’t matter cause none of my kids could date till they reached 16 now she is 22 and planning her wedding to a guy she has been dating for years. She still says she is no bi but you can only truly love one person and she is in love with a guy but yes she still likes looking at girls too
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They dont know who they are just what their friends say or media…dont give no value to it…most people dont know who they really are til they are in their 20’s…
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I would say support her and make her Understand it’s normal because kids at that age start feeling those types of feelings. But Bi or not of course 10yo is to young to act in any type sexual feelings. Just explain to her that she can’t actually have a boyfriend or girls friend until a certain age that you feel is acceptable. But I would definitely only show her support and love and acceptance. It shows how amazing of a parent you are just the fact that she felt so open with you. 
My 11 year old is very aware of his sexuality I don’t think she’s too young to know.
As long as she is happy is all that should matter. Truly hope you embrace her
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The moon has phases and it’s still the moon. I was a lesbian once now I’m pansexual. I didn’t change I just made realizations as I matured. Just keep going bake her a cake if you want to just love her
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I was 6 when I told my mom I liked girls too. And I’m almost 26 now and still feel the same way 💁
You will always love your child but you don’t have their deeds. To lust a person of the same sex is not natural, try to correct this behavior but if their heart is hardened you may be fighting a loosing battle, so pray for guidance and wisdom and for your child to walk strait path
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Big decision? Since when is a crush a big decision?
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So much ignorance in these comments
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There is one they don’t talk about and that’s asexual, which simply means your not sexually attracted to men or women. I never had bug huge crushes on men but I do like men more than women. And I want to marry one day but a guy or girl has never turned me on in a sexual way. So I am asexual in a sense but I still like men, that and I never had sex but that is for marriage. No guy ever made me feel so attracted that I would want them. Not many guys have asked me out either. I started out liking guys and as time went school and God became more important to me than men. So I’m asexual and that can all change who knows what will happen. What I’m getting at is that her feelings might change as she matures and sees what is important in life!
It may be a stage, who knows. But definitely support her