My daughter told me she was bi: Advice?

When I was ten I didn’t like have a crush on anyone but I knew I liked boys so maybe she knows who sheer likes too.

She’s only 10. Probably isn’t really anything since she’s so young. Just act the same as you always do that way she knows she can always come to you if that were to still be how she feels when she’s old enough.

Don’t act any different in fact rejoice cuz as long as she’s dating a girl she’s not dating a boy and doing grown shit except that she’s bi even if it don’t last

My daughter is 13 years old and told me she was bi. I love her no matter what and told her that no matter what she can always come and talk to me bc I am always gonna support.

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Same only my 13 year old daughter wants to be a boy

All kids go through this… It’s part of puberty… The sad thing is that at 10 years old, she shouldn’t even know what by is…

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She has probably been bombarded with this lgbtq stuff,she thinks really liking a girl(as a friend)means she’s bi.Shes 10 for goodness sakes how can she know. When i was 10 i thought i was alot of things

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Accept her, yes she’s young but if she made that choice you need to be with her throughout it otherwise you might loose her in the long run

Just pray and she might change her mind the older she gets

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I am an open book. So be aware. Lol.

I recently went through this with my 13 year old daughter. It was a teaching moment. I shared with her I went through the same thing at her age and even older. That in order to fully identify with any sort of sexuality one must try the actual sexual act to see if they actually enjoy it first. Which I would hope she would wait for. She agreed to that she is still too young. Well the next week she came and told me she already has a girlfriend. Once I met the young lady I was perfectly at peace with her choice of life and partner. So hey if they are happy. I am happy. Also happy she won’t be pregnant anytime soon. I as a parent believe there are so many REAL threats out there. This is defiantly not one of them. What’s meant to be will be. My love for my daughter will never change. Just so happy she feels so comfy in talking to me as you are with yours.

What the heck she know about bi???

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Keep the lines of communication open and just love her!!!

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Pears n tots they change…hahahaha… How about accept them no matter what & pray You are a better parent & dont drive them away or become depressed or suicidal with Your issues as a parent.

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Prayers going up :pray: for you. You are absolutely right. She is so young things change! a back and forth feeling until they are sure. Just pray! I know your situation…been through it .

Just STOP :stop_sign: putting everything on Facebook that’s what u need to do for your daughter

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Love her no matter what💝 teach her bout Jesus! Just keep lovin her.

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Both my daughters are bi and as long as their happy so am I :heart:

That’s too young to know about those kind of grown up things

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Of course she knows herself, don’t invalidate that. She’s old enough to know if she likes a boy so she’s old enough to know if she likes a girl. Trust that she knows herself and offer support.

Just support her. Let her know you still love her and be there for her… Just like any other relationship

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Accept what she says and be positive about her feelings.

Tell her it’s ok and that you love her no matter what, love is love

You said the right things.

Exclaty how old do you have to be??

We all have to face the fact that this is life for our children. These relationships (not Biblical) are all over and God knows what they learn at school. Some kids are exposed in the home. Whatever the situation God only created male and female. Anything else is against God. Teach her the truth not what the world says is right. The fact is God is not going to change for any of us. God’s word is still relevant not what man says. We start training up our children in the womb. Love her by telling her the truth not man’s truth but God’s truth.

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Have You sat her down and explained to her there are Big differences between like, Love,& Lust? Maybe she wants to be a friend but is confused with her emotions. In my Opinion, if the parents fails at talking to their kids about their emotions, children will continue to be confused emotionally; are the kids Sexually attracted to other children or they just want a friendship? Simplely put, if your child has NEVER BEEN EXPOSED TO SEX, HOW DOES SHE KNOWS THAT’S WHAT SHE TRUELY FEELS at such a early age? Don’t just let things be until you Parents really invested in their Emotional Support?!

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My 12 she just told me and i told her i love her no matter who she loves

I think its a new fad and shes being pressured into it.

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She might be. Or it could just be curiosity. Just tell her that she is still young and has plenty of time to make that kind of decision. I didn’t realize I was Bi until highschool.

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Love her. I have 3 daughters and 2 have come to me with crushes and comments and confides. Best advice ever? Listen. No judgement just love and true acceptance, whatever it looks like. I promise it feels better once those kids come to you later with big grins on further crushes. The most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen is watching a person talk about something they really love.

My daughter came out to me as bi at 12…she was terrified…I told her all that matters is how she is treated and who she loves…mama is gonna ALWAYS love her no matter what

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Being curious and being bi are two different things. Make sure she knows the difference between the two of them so she doesn’t make a mistake she will regret later.

Accept and support her… most girls go through a phase with this anyways. I did. My daughter was in a lesbian relationship for several years and now she is with a boy. I’ve accepted her no matter what. I think its great she is talking openly with you please support her so she will always feel comfortable to talk to her mom about anything. My girls are 19 and 21 now and they always call mom :slight_smile:

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Accept , love & keep open mind❤️

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Accept it, hug her and just let it be.if u shut her out she will NEVER Be open to u about ANYTHING.

Pray…and hopefully she changes…if not accept her…and teach her about the bible​:pray::pray::pray:

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Just love her for who she is.

Some of you parents…yall would drive your child to be depressed & suicidal by simply just not accepting whatever comes. Its not Your choice how another feels, regardless of age. What you going to do, sit in a chair by their bed while they have intimate moments later in life & pray?? Wow yall act like it’s yall life.

I’m sorry but it’s not a matter of age it’s who they are maybe she a lesbian and to afraid to tell you that? Maybe she is bi, I have a cousin who we all knew was gay since he was 3. It’s who they are…please do not tell them they aren’t something.

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I have 2 bi daughters and they can know at that age. My one was so scared she was bad for liking girls she got very depressed. There is nothing wrong with this and please do not force her to be something she not. And sorry I am not sure what people on here say by pray for her and guide her in the right way.

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I think you should track down the source and keep her away from whoever or whatever it is then counsel her.Im not sure what ur beliefs are but I believe a parent should be open and explain everything including the sexual part of homosexuality.

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She is 10. At this age they like one thing today and another tomorrow. Support her, love her and most importantly guide her. All of these outside influences are making it seem cool to be gay or bi

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My daughter was having a hard time and came home from school crying. She had a lot of stress in her life, I think she was 14-15 we talked a lot in her room and she confirmed her sexuality as lesbian. And I wiped her tears and hugged her because the only thing I want for my kids is happiness & a safe haven. What would be the point making her life harder and judging her or even evicting her. Anyways, no matter what, she came to you, you are her safe haven don’t forget that

My brother is gay and him and his husband are two of the best people I know and he knew he was gay by the age of 9 and there still human still people and I love my brother no matter his decision

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SEXUAL is the other part of the word to that Bi…she isn’t old enough to understand sexuality yet. As far as I’m concerned at 10 years old, a child doesnt even REALLY UNDERSTAND what it mean to be Bisexual. When a child is coming of age, there are a lot of NORMAL thoughts and feelings that occur. It is normal to be excited about all things sexual at this age. It doesnt mean that is what they will like as a mature adult. When my 12 year old told me this, I told her that SEXUAL was the operative suffix to that word. I asked her had she had sex or did she feel the urge to have sex with a girl. She said no. She said she had seen things on tiktok and instagram that made her think she might be bi. She is not bi and she came to realize that. Sometimes, normal feelings and sensations we have at that age can be confusing and eith all the pressure of deciding sexuality at such a young age that we have occurring in these days and times can make it so much more confusing. That age is much too young to determine sexuality. The proper advice to give you is to explain that to your child. That there is mo pressure to decide that eight now. That their body is going through lots of changes and there is no pressure to decide anything at this age. Adults have sex. Children do not, so until it is time to have those encounters, it isn’t a priority to determine what those encounters will be. Just be a kid for how and dont let society force you to choose right now.

She’s way too young to make that decision. Children these days are influenced by the b.s. presented to them on tv, school and peers. I would have a big talk with my daughter if I was in that situation. 10 is way too young. My niece is the same way. She is being influenced by her 17 year old sister… wrong in so many ways. My niece is more confused now… Smh

What kind of indoctrination is she getting at school and social areas? This is something you need to be totally aware of and open with her about. Loving someone of the same sex is not being bisexual. At 10 does she really understand sexual attraction versus just recognizing someone can be a great person you like to be around. Is she being pushed by her environment to think this is a great thing without recognizing the ramifications of a certain lifestyle?

Romans 1:18-32
Explains the problem

18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness;

19 Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them.

20 For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:

21 Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.

22 Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,

23 And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.

24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:

25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.

26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,

30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,

31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:

32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

Accept it and move on. She likes both. Be there for her. It took a lot for her to do this

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Accept her. Bi, gay, or straight she is your daughter above all.

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My 5 year old told me she likes girls and wants to Marry a girl. She finds women attractive and not men :woman_shrugging:t4:
If she’s gay she’s gay. I love her to matter what

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Love her and accept her and above all be thankful that she knows she can come tell you anything.

I think you should teach her the Bible .Its wrong ,its man & woman. Not woman woman or man man. Read your Bible . I wouldnt flip out ,I would sit down and find it in the Bible and talk to her. It’s ok to have a Best friend .But it is not ok to be in love with another girl .its just not normal. Sick

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She is not bi…at that age kids start changing and she might have some admiration to this girl,the copy they want to mimic…is normal…

I always told my kids that I would be proud of them if they were homosexual cause at least they wouldn’t come back home multiplied.