They are still young and being taught on sex to early
Love your child no matter what… she is coming into her own… she trusts you enough to talk to you… your heart should be filled with love. Keep the communication going and all will work out the way it is supposed to… children are precious.
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My daughter said at 12 that she was bi… She’s 21 now and has only had relationships with men however I heard she did have an encounter with a woman about a year ago. My point is sometimes kids say things because they don’t really understand exactly what that means. Simply because she is attracted to women because she likes who they are or something doesn’t mean she’s sexually attracted to women or whatever. The fact that you’re ok with her either way may be enough for her. Let her explore but don’t let her be a hoe basically. Best advice I have 
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I think you should just love her and guide her through all things to come. She may 20 years down the line laugh with you about this. Or 20 years later be marrying her beautiful girlfriend. The only thing you have to do is love her through it all.
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My daughter did the same thing. My mind was blown too, but I stayed calm with her. I talked to her about it, I asked her my own questions with things that I was concerned about, and then I prayed and asked God how did He want me to answer. What I did, was I took out my bible, and I explained to her that she was too young to understand what that was, and I explained to her to respect others with however someone decides to live their lives once, of course, they know what that means, and then I explained to her how it was against God for us to be that way. I used myself as an example and I told her how I went through the same thing, before when I was younger and then I learned that it’s not Gods way.
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Just love her, don’t make a big deal of it. Just say ok, accept it, and move on. You might not think it’s legit but her feelings are real to her. I had a “phase” if you can call it that, just one girl yet am fully straight ever since. Arguing with her about how she feels will only make her rebel
Bi here came out at 12. If she has a crush on a girl be happy for her.
And yourself, you dont have to worry about teen pregnancy.
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Please, please, please justify her feelings and show her support. Chances are it’s just a stage but that’s something she needs to find out on her own and even if it isn’t, it’s okay! If you tell her it’s a stage and push the issue you will push her away too. I dealt with this with my parents 10+ years ago and it wasn’t a stage but for many of my friends it was.
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Totally old enough. I know plenty of friends that knew they were homosexual or bisexual by 7 or 8. Support her. Let her be herself. Don’t treat it like a phase. Don’t treat it like it’s shameful. But do have an open honest conversation, keep it age appropriate. Because if she feels like she can’t talk to you now she won’t do it later.
Personally I wasn’t sexual attracted to anyone until I was at least 17. At 17 or 18 I appreciated the female form but it was more like you appreciate art than sexual. I consider myself bisexual or pansexual. I realized there was a word for my attraction to men, demi-sexual where I can be attracted to men but I have to know them and be friends first otherwise I’m not attracted to men.
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I was 10 when I came out!! I still love the ladies at 29yrs old 
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I knew I was attracted to both genders by age 11. I’m 27 almost 28 and I’m bisexual still. I was blessed to have a very supportive household who still to this day, just want me to be happy, healthy and loved. Just love her, and be there for her as she figures out life. Pre-teen and teenage years are hard enough. She felt comfortable coming to you, which is good.
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I knew I was bi and told my family when I was 10. 15 years later, still bi.
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Well… I’ve known I am since I was about 5…
I’m 35 now… nothings changed…
My mom told me she loves me too much to ever accept it…
We’re friends now, I’m 35, with STRONG boundaries…
Sooo… I’d say, dont minimize like you did… be accepting… if she grows out of it, she does… if she doesn’t, you know… the trust is there either way…
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I had crushes on a few girls. It was just a phase i was in highschool. Never did anything with a female tho
I think what you said was good. It’s awesome that she feels comfortable with you to tell you that. She could very well know already…
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My mother asked me what I learned today in school once when I was 6. I flat out said today I learned I’m a leabian! After a minute of composing herself she asked why I thought that. My response was well a lesbian is when a girl loves another girl and I love you. Long story short just support her. She may not know what she means. She may be bi curious. Doesn’t mean she will ever act on it. Doesn’t change your relationship in any way unless you let it. It may be a phase. It may be real but if it bothers you maybe do a little soul searching and some research. She is who she is and fighting it isn’t going to change it. Good luck.
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My son is bi he is 12 and has admitted it to me and his dad. I don’t think 10 is too young to make a decision like that she knows what she likes I think you just need to support here and let her know you are there for her when she needs you.
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My daughter told me last month. She is 11. I can tell you now she has had two “girlfriends” I only allow hand holding and she got broken up with by the last one two weeks ago and is still very upset still cries. I would say if she is mature enough think about the person’s feeling’s then she is old enough to figure out what she likes.
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She is old enough to know her sexuality. I knew when I was 8 years old. Either support her in her journey or be prepared to lose her when she is older.
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Mommy give her a lot of love and open conversation.
Kids say random stuff all the time 
maybe she is, maybe she isn’t. Maybe her “crush” is someone she admires or thinks is pretty, smart, or funny I’d say take it with a grain of salt, kids that age still have incredible imaginations , paired with changing bodies and blossoming hormones, who knows just love your kiddo
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Kids will experiment and explore, it is good she can talk to you about it. It may be nothing or it maybe something, do what you are doing and if she says the same persistantly then you know
My 10 year old daughter did the same. I told her I was really happy for her and proud of her for recognizing her own feelings.
But we live in conservative Nebraska sooo, unfortunately, I also had to warn her how much people can suck and that she should be very careful choosing who she tells until she is older.
I know her really well and don’t think she had the self confidence to handle any backlash that might come her way.
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Look, just accept her choice and support her. She is still figuring out life so let her be herself. If you take away her freedom to express herself then your taking away life experiences from her. Love her unconditionally no matter what she chooses that’s what parents do! 
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I think you handled it pretty well for being caught off guard. All you can do is support her decision and love her either way. It can be just a faze, children don’t really know till they try. I think almost all women thought they were bi at one point in time then there are some who know for sure from day 1. I think it’s time for the “talk” I would also tell her she is too young to pursue anything wether it be boy or girl. Best of luck mama
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Love and acceptance. The two most critical things you can give your child. I’m glad you’re asking here instead of making it a big (bad) deal for her 
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Accept, support and love. Also don’t minimize her feelings like that.
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My sister was about 12 and questioned being bi. She had friends who had confessed to her they were bi and convinced her to question her own identity and sexuality. She sure wasn’t born this way and neither were they. They are products of this society that feels hey you can try anything once. I’m nothing against it but I feel she was being pressured to say she also had these feelings towards girls. Her friends grew up in an open household and watch movies with no filter so everything was a go!!! I think she was being lead to this conclusion and when my mom and I talked to her about being the only one who could make this choice for herself and how she should really be true to herself, she decided it wasn’t her. She was influenced and we told her when she was old enough to truly understand attraction and love, her heart would lead the way. So I say have a heart to heart with her and make sure it’s coming from her and she’s not being influenced. And either way mom just love and accept her for who she chooses to be. When the time is right she will know for sure!!
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Well…here I go again on this topic. CHILDREN…and we are saying these are CHILDREN…are so till age 18 ( the age to which we are responsible for them). After which mentally it can take up to age 23 for the brain to fully develope. As for Maturity? That is really dependent on the individual. Now as for these kiddies saying they are " bi" or any other terminology…is being totally taken out of context. One example of a child not knowing what exactly their words mean is when they say even to their parents or other family…" I love you ". Do you REALLY believe a child, teenager, or even young adult can conclusively define Love ? People struggle with that in long relationships as adults.
So when a child born innocent and starts " labeling " emotions…don’t draw any conclusions. Again…adults struggle with emotions. Children especially have fresh innocent feelings. They can have strong emotional “feelings” of FRIENDSHIP…Stop pushing them to LABLE those feelings!
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Bless her heart …so many kids have sexuality and sexual perversions shoved down their throats from so many things from public schools to even what is supposed to just children movies and games. Satan is out to destroy our children a strip away any wholesomeness left in this world . What happened to kids just getting to be loved by mom and dad and family and play and just be children ? It’s so sad and so many people are so blind to what the bisexual, homosexual and transgender people and organizations are really doing to our children and trying to do . They try to confuse them and forceing them to believe that that’s what they are and they get to choose rather than embracing Gods perfect design and beautiful will for their lives . That’s why God ordained marriage between man and women and made Male and female for each other . In all my life any and all the transgender, bi-sexual and homosexual people I have ever countered have never been truly happy or at peace they try to pretend and act and say they are but mist people can tell they’re really not and are always searching for another Avenue or drug or good time or job opprinnuty or some other happy place that they’ll never find because they’re looking in the wrong places rather than just truly turning to Jesus and Gods wiil for their life . Our children shouldn’t have to worry with such influences every where they turn and ys parents have work hard to protect our children, their minds and purity so that they just be children. Praying for all children and parents wisdom in guiding them and thankful that your daughter knew she could talk Mom and pray for your strength and knowledge in helping and nurturing her .
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Sexuality is fluid. If this were my child saying it, I would do my best to explain that while also telling her it’s okay to accept herself as bi until such a time came that she felt a different sexuality fit better. We learn as we grow about more than just letters and numbers. We learn ourselves too, and it’s important to be open with oneself as well as open-minded about possible changes.
I had a pal in school who was lesbian for about 4 years… completely straight now apparently. She was 13 when she came out I believe
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If I had a daughter who came to me and said that I would hug her and say you like who you like. Doesn’t change how much I love you. Nothing will.
Just be yourself and be kind and take things a day at a time, life takes a long time to figure out. So just come to me any time you want to talk, or just to get a cuddle.
I am proud of you no matter who you like
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Accept her or you’ll push her away. She is plenty old enough to know what her body and heart feels.
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I wouldnt worry right now, if she is, she is.
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My son went through this stage actually . I have 7 kids and I always keep communication open so does their father .its self discovery she may not be bi she may just admire the girl and don’t know how to feel about that or she maybe just support her through this stage in her life.
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She is old enough to know if she’s bi or not. I realised I was at 11. My dad said the same thing and that was not true! Please accept her and don’t tell her she’s not old enough to know who SHE likes. Trust me she is.
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My granddaughter went through this a year ago when she was nine. My daughter didn’t make a big deal of it or discuss it to death. She simply told her that was something she was too young to talk about outside the family for the time being. That if she was gay that’s ok but now is the time to be young and not have to worry about adult things. That they would revisit the subject when she was older and for the time being not to worry.
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I first told my mum i was gay when i was 8. Im 24 and still gay. She is to young to go telling people at school especially with how vile kids are but she needs to know its okay and she can talk to you about how she feels xxx
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My 11 year old said same thing. Then said she was a lesbian. I think she is. Who cares what they are. Just love them unconditionally
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Shes 10, she knows if she likes boys or girls or both. Listen to her and take her serious, next time just be like “cool, is she pretty and smart like you?” Ask the same questions and behave the same way as if it were a boy because it is the same…just a girl
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Just listen and be accepting. You don’t want to loose her. LISTEN. This is all new to her also
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Ok. It’s sad that she felt the need to blurt anything.
There is no need to minimise anything based on her age.
A simple smile is plenty enough. It may be a phase. It may be a young crush. It may be the early stages of learning ones sexuality. Either way, your input isn’t required.
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Love her regardless you dont tell a child there to young.
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Would you have said that if she had a crush on a boy?
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At 10, it’s possibly a stage, it’s engrossed in all the schools, sexuality is a very talked about thing. Let her just have her own voice and idea. She will see who she is later in life.
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I wouldn’t really care. Being bi, gay, straight, lesbian isn’t a issue in our house.
Just support her! She’ll figure it out as times goes on. Its nothing to worry about.
But! Not supporting her, treating her poorly, being mean, etc. Is a big issue! You judge her 1 time, she’ll will never forgive you. This is the time to love & be there.
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If she feels it shes old enough. Love is love.
Love her and accept her no matter who she chooses to date. Kids need that in this dark 
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I knew I was pansexual since about 4th or 5th grade so don’t discredit her for sure because people said I was too young to think this way as well and it made coming out harder and made me scared to be judged… I also don’t think my parents really believed I was telling the truth because they always told me it was just a phase I was going through but then I got my first girlfriend and my second girlfriend and they realized it really wasn’t a phase I actually was and once they were open and accepting of it I was able to be more open to it but because of them telling me I was too young to think that and it was “just a phase” that ruined a few relationships with girls and guys I had because I felt confused after they said that stuff and it also made me afraid to come out more
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I knew when I was 5…there isnt a certain age that you find out really. Everyone is different. Accept her and love her.
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Dont treat her like its a phase! Let it play out and support her!
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All you can do is listen and try to be understanding. At 10 our body’s starting it’s change and she may have feeling, thoughts, and desires she doesn’t understand yet. She may know exactly what she is or it could just be something she’s going through. Only time will tell so don’t jump to conclusions or overreact. Just be patient and continue to love you daughter.
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IMO sexuality is so pushed down everyone’s throats these days that our children don’t know how to decide if they like someone of the same sex as a friend or romantically and it drives me crazy. Nothing wrong if at the end of the day u do find urself gay/bi whatever but when a child who doesn’t even have those urges/feelings yet are “coming out” it’s wrong. Sexuality isn’t something trending or something to be taught to be and that’s EXACTLY how I feel society is making it to be these days while trying to teach acceptance. Smh
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It’s not a decision to make… it’s how they feel emotionally. Who cares what she is, who cares if it’s a phase. Better to discover what her feelings are young rather than when sex is a major part of her life and “testing” it out. If my son came home & said that, I would just let him know that he’s still too young to date, so crush away
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Yea it’s called the BIBLE
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Listen to her. She is old enough to know how she feels. Love her unconditionally and support her.
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She is old enough to know who she has crushes on. I remember being in grade 2 having crushes.
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Just treat her as your daughter she needs support from you
Geez who cares! OK she’s bi… next?
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Wow way to degrade her feelings, you should have never put your input on some way she very personally feels about herself. Very judgmental let’s see if she’ll ever come to you with something she doesn’t want someone to judge her about especially her own mother. Accept your child for who they are no matter what or don’t have children!
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Sexuality is a pretty fluid energy. It can change as we grow sometimes. It’s also not really helpful to give unsolicited advice to her. That can really do a lot more harm than good.
Love ultimately doesn’t care about gender, and no one’s soul path is the same. So let her figure it out on her own, and just be there to listen and allow her to bounce her thoughts off of you. That’s all you can do.
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You told her shes not old enough to know herself? Wtf lol
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Iam pretty sure I would avoid it. By saying you need to be focusing on school . I have a 10 year old and they say one thing one day then something else the next
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love her have her back in all was possible dont tell her she is making a mistake just support her
Aww I think that was very brave of her telling her mum that not many kids these day would tell their parents something like that these day’s no matter what age they are always listen to what they have to say and don’t judge
Just let her figure it out and that no matter what you will be there for her.
My best advice to you as a parent & grandparent just allow her to be her let her vent to you never tell her that’s not good tell her no matter what she chooses you will support her 100 percent!!! Our children have there own voices you will be ok you will get through this
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I think you handled it just right. Don’t make a big deal about, she’s too young to make that decision and give it a few more years. She’ll always be able to come to you and be accepted.
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I think she’s too young to really know, but even if she is, you accept it and love her unconditionally.
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I had my first crush in like 2nd grade… Believe her. Validate her.
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You handled that well I think. Don’t be one of those moms who jumps all over it one way or the other. What you said was all it needed.
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Just be there to listen , if you do go to church teach her about the Bible , if she still says she is bi later still love her & respect her . Do NOT fight with her or be embarrassed of her . She needs you now worse then ever . You are her rock
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She may at that age. Encourage her to be careful that the world is judgemental and be there for her with a non judgemental heart.
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She’s too young to decide if she truly bi or not, either way she is at an age where she is curious about those things and exploring them. Be accepting, supporting and educating and all will be fine.
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Acceptance. She’s your daughter. Nothing else matters.
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Irritating reading people’s comments who believe this is a phase. It wasn’t a phase when y’all started crushing but now that you’re grown that somehow eclipses your memory of how strongly you felt then and how very real it is. This kid knows herself and that’s great and it’s awesome she felt like she could tell her mom. It’s not a phase though and please stop invalidating kids in this way.
How old does she need to be in order to feel feelings towards another person? That really isnt something you get to put a time line on.
And be supportive. Have open discussions and welcome questions.
Make sure shes comfortable talking to you and that she sees you as trustworthy and non judgmental.
You did great. There’s no handbook on parenting. Accept her, and that will show she can continue to be honest with you in the future
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Me yesterday. I swear. My 12 year old daughter let me know she thinks she is bi. Said she likes girls better than boys but likes them both. Mind blown. I didn’t judge her I let her know whatever she chooses. I love her just the same.
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It’s not a decision you make. So she’s old enough to know how she feels.
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my daughter has been telling me this since she was 7…all you can do is reassure her you love her regardless
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Let her be her and unconditional love. Never allow anyone to make her feel less than for being who she is. It all works itself out.
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You responded great. Kids can be confused. Society now pushes them to make decisions too young.
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She’s being influenced by the media (including the internet), probably. You were right to tell her she is too young.
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Whether you feel she is old enough for that decision is irrelevant. She’s ten, it’s a crush, gender of the crush doesn’t matter. Accept her love her and don’t treat it any different than any other crush.
Trust her that she does know who she is and who she loves. Remind her she is loved.
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Acceptance that was hard for me to deal with for my daughter did have a girlfriend but in the end I Loved the girl my kid was with she was a sweetheart … So my advice is to talk to her let her know u love her no matter what that’s what she is going to want from her Mom … PS I still talk to the girl my kid was with to this day
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You handled it perfectly. Don’t fixate on it because she may have said it just for shock value. If she says anything more then you just tell her that her sexual orientation doesn’t change a thing.
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Just accept be it for now because as you said she’s young and may change her mind in a couple of years but the main thing is to keep the communication between you two open and let her know that she can come talk to you at anytime about anything. Don’t treat her any different or try to change her mind as she may not feel comfortable talking to you about it again. Keep assuring her that you love her and are glad that she felt comfortable enough to tell you that she’s bisexual.
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Just listen to her and talk with her . It’s the exploration age. Just be glad regardless she came to you.
I don’t think she’s wrong, nor too young, honesty is something to be thankful for! Her talking to her Mama even better. Accept she is who she is, none of us have to like it! Goodluck!
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Teach her the bible? 
Y’all are too much. Wtf does the bible have to do with it?
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At that age she has no clue. You did the right thing.
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I would just be sure that your daughter knows that you love her and that you are happy she came too you . And at this moment it is fine to have a crush on someone and in time as you get older you will be there no matter who she likes .
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Pray for her and guide her into the right direction
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10 year olds theses days think like 13 to 15 year olds even their bodies mature at an early age
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I knew i was bi when I was 13. Just be there for her and don’t treat her any different.
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I was 13 when I knew. Just let her figure it out.
I think the problem is you see it as a decision. It’s exactly the same as a kid blurting out they’re straight. They not telling you of their decision to be straight, they’re telling you they are attracted to another human being. Saying she’s bi just means the person she’s attracted to doesn’t have to be a guy. You have the conversation exactly like you would if she said she liked a boy. “What’s their name?” “What do you like about this person?” “Do you have classes together?” You know, normal questions. Unless you’re looking to make your child feel broken and shamed for having valid feelings and emotions, the other kid’s gender doesn’t even need to be part of the conversation.
That’s the age they start some even younger