that parent group (with Cath Hakanson) is a great resource on how to talk to little ones about this stuff
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Little excessive to beat yourself up over your kid seeing something completely natural and normal. Donât make a big deal out of it and answer any questions she has honestly (age appropriately also) and maybe explain knocking before entering your room too.
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Gurl⌠everyone of my kids have walked in on me. Leave it alone. She will come to you with questions. Just be honest. And donât feel guilty. That will make her think itâs something wrong. And donât be mad at you or your husband. Itâs love between you. And letâs be honest here. It keeps you sane. Itâs okay to show love. ( next time double check your locks lol)
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Explain to her that if the door is closed that she needs to knock before entering.
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You have already explained to her now Iâd just leave it and not make a big deal over it
Sheâs 7 sheâs got better things to do sheâs probably already forgotten about it .
You did the right thing followed her told her daddy wasnât hurting you you explained situation Iâd say leave it now as more info at this age is adult stuff not 7 year old stuff 
Happens to most of us lol
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I am so tired I thought this said my daughter walked in on HER husband and I doing the deed. 
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Time for a light version of the sex talk. Being too vague about it might make things worse if it looked like he was hurting you and you explained it as thatâs what people in love do.
It depends what she saw to be honest.
If it was a kinky session and she saw more than naked bodies having sex
- yeah a little more in depth explaining may be needed.
If it was just naked bodies then a mother daughter chat about sex & relationships without massive details is the way to go.
It happens to almost Every parent at some stage, so donât beat yourself up too much.
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Donât worry. Thatâs so common. Just donât stress over that
Let it goâŚpart of growing upđ¤Łkids know more than we thinkâŚand donât feel bad sure your not the first an wonât be the last muma to have this happenâ
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Just be honest and leave it alone. Its no big deal
have youâr husband talk to her as well itâs part of life but just so she understands and is not scared of her father thinking he was hurting you
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Calm down⌠You handled it well. Just let it go n wait for questions. Remember, u r humanâŚ
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I walked in on my.parents as a child. They didnt really say anything, Iâm not scarred for life and have forgotten until this post.
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Oh honey weâve all been caught one way or another. My daughter is now 18 and still if she were to bring up when she heard her dad and I I get embarrassed. Personally I wouldnât say to much. Maybe just talk about it if she wants to.
Happened to me when I was younger. I just never walked into my parents room univited again lol. I think she will be okay. Youâll just get a little more privacy.
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Got to let it goâŚonly address it now if she brings it up again. And double check the locks from now onđ
My mother-in-law walked in on my husband and I while we were on our family vacation, thru a shared bathroom once, we DID LOCK THE DOOR AND TRIED TO LOCK THAT ONE TOOâŚthank God we happened to be under the covers, or she wouldâve been to red to go back out with the familyđ¤Ł
Okay so first of all, you made it weird. You are even weirding me out leave that poor baby alone you dont need to say anything else other than please knock
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Thereâs no explanation needed unless she asking
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Explain that youâre both consensual adults. This is a good time for the consent convo with your kiddos as well as body safety (weâre okay because weâre adults and love each other. But not ok for kids and stop means stop/no means no).
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Do not feel bad. You guys still love each other and itâs beautiful. I wouldnât try to over explain it. It sounds like you did what you should have. I would say just be prepared for follow up questions she might have.
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Dont make a big deal of it let it go.
Itâs natural and believe me my kids have Walked in a few times too.
No one died, move on
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Let it go. By trying to talk to her again and her dad talk to herâŚits just embarrassing for her. I know you feel bad but trust me sheâs embarrassed as well. Just drop it unless she askes one of you about it. They know more than you think and they bounce back. If anything, it will give her cause to pause before walking in rooms that are not hers or public.
What you said was perfect. I havenât had this happen yet, but Iâd explain it the same way. Itâs common and normal.
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Your worrying way to much!! If she doesnât re speak about it then donât bring it up or make things awkward. She will notice change of environment and will think itâs not normal, when it completely is. Just tell her to knock and wait in future.
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Let it go if sheâs that curious sheâll ask questions. Lol
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I feel you handled it well. Iâm sure alot of us would react in the same way. Maybe do a girls night. Paint each other nails and watch a movie. Sneak in a mom talk of âhoney you know you can come to me if you have any questions, and that she wonât be judged for asking anything she may feel is sillyâ leave it open donât bring up the situation. Maybe she will talk or when sheâs ready she knows she can come to you.
Unless she comes and has more questions I think you explained it the best you can while youâre embarrassed.
well now she will tell the school mommy and daddy have sex then the school calls dss and from there your fucked
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Youâre good. Trust us all when we say youâre good. It happens. My kids walked in on us. Itâs embarrassing but it happens. Youâre not a bad mother nor is he a bad father. if they ask questions explain to them that mommy and daddy love each other.
" go away dadâs busy"
Let it goâŚour middle son now 27 walked in twiceâŚonce we didnât notice he was so quiet (like 5) until I happened to look at the end of the bed. He looked super confused. I just took him back to bed (bad dream). Next day I called my pediatricians office, she laughed, I was mortified, she laughed again and said donât worry he wonât need therapy. We never talked about it again until he was like 17 talking with his friends I heard him say "ewww man when I was alittle kid I walked in on my Mom and DadâŚI asked Chad (older brother who was 8) what they were doing and he said eh, who knows their weird. LoLâŚhe is fine BTWâŚno therapy LOL
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Vaseline on the door knob works great lol
Be honest always the best bet
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Whelp- looks like your gonna have to give her a brother or sister now!
âSpecial cuddles being what mummy and daddy had- is only done to bring about a new sibling. So wait 9 mths and we will give you a baby siblingâ lol
Maybe just tell them to that they need to start knocking on the door if they need anything during the night
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âDaddy was knocking mommyâs boots, honeyâ
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Tell her to KNOCK BEFORE ENTER ING!!! ( say it STERNLY) then leave it alone!! If she has questions sheâll ask!!
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Least sheâll know to knock in future lol. It happens to us all and many of us have walked in on our parents.
Sheâll get over it donât worry x
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My son caught us when he was 7, I told him when 2 people love each other they somtimes have naked cuddles, next thing I know heâd told both his nanaâs that heâd seen us having naked cuddles, they obviously thought it was hilarious 
, heâs 13 now and heâs never let us forget it 
xx
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When my daughter walked in on my then husband she asked what we were doing we were making love typical little kis said i want some lovin to we just laughed and nothing more was said until she asked when older
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I think you should stop giving yourself a hard time over this. Itâs life, sheâll grow up. You havenât scarred her, it will blow over. Youâve explained. Leave it at that.
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This is actually pretty common most kids catch there parents doing the deed my son unlocked my door with a butter knife 
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I remember walking in on my parents, definitely disturbing, but sheâll be alright. It happens to many parents
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My daughter walked in on my husband and I doing the deed: What do I say to her?
My daughter walked in on us and she asked why is daddy laying on top of you⌠I told her that daddy was giving her mommy a great big hug. All she said was ok and walked outâŚ
So see donât beat yourself up we all have different answers for our childrenâŚ
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Make it scientific! This is a perfect time to teach about anatomy and consentđ
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My 3 year old walked on my husband and I. She thought daddy was hurting mommy. We told her daddy wasnât, he was giving mommy a back massage. She was like okay and went back to bed. My 6 year old has walked in on us once but he never asked what we were doing. He looked and walked right back out. We thought they were napping or in bed for the night. Things happen. What you said was perfect. She might not even remember.
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Your favourite holiday activity. 
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I think you made the right choice in being honest with her.
It happens. It doesnât make you a horrible mom.
Point out that when a door is closed that she knocks first.
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Donât make it a big deal⌠or sheâll get the wrong idea. You did good âŚmove on .
unless she ask you questions. Never lie!
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Itâs happened at least once to all parents! And sheâs only 7 she wonât even remember(I donât think!lol) by the time she is older!! Donât beat yourself up!
U said the rite thing, teach her when u see closed door to knock on it first
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I am by no means a girl mom but if I was I wouldnât think to much into it if she wasnât. Like if she isnât asking questions then I wouldnât say anything about it. Although I think what you have said is good enough.
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Really ??..⌠she will survive. General manners will remedy that. Knocking on closed doors will keep her from walking in on anyone anywhere at any home in future.
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This happened to me also. Please donât feel that way. Iâm sure we arenât the only ones lol
This has happened to a bunch of parents. Really teaches you to not only lock your door but put a bolt on it too!
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Step 1 buy better lock
Step 2 be truthful
We thought we locked our door one day and our almost 7 yr old daughter opened the door. I was riding my husband, we threw the blanket over us and told her to go back to her room weâd be out in a minute. She was only upset about it all cause she wanted to give her daddy a hug. She hasnât said or asked anything about it.
I would teach her to knock on the door before coming into your room whether it was locked or not she should have knocked
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What does this have to do with this page being my favorite holiday? No one cares about your personal life or what your daughter walked into. So ridiculous.
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It happens !!! It sucks. But it happens! Give her space and time. She will be ok
I think most of us walked in on our parents at one time or another, probably several times⌠no scars, no real memory of it either⌠If you make a big deal of it then you will (pardon the pun) embed it into her memory⌠Least said, soonest mendedđ
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My daughter walked in on my husband and I doing the deed: What do I say to her?
I would ask her if she had any questions, youâve done everything else you could do.
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I think you did amazing!
Our 7 year old asked us why we were dancing naked⌠that was hard to explain.
Kids will be kids ⌠Iâm sure you remember running in on your parents at some point.
One of those unfortunate hiccups of growing up / parenting.
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Dont worry your a great mama. Sooner or later she was going to find.out its life. She just found out life sooner. Its ok life happens
You told her, so just move on and donât remind her of it anymore.
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Well considering the fact that sheâs 7 and thereâs a good many 8 yr olds that get periods esp if sheâs advanced for her age and smart like my girls are,hell Iâd give her the sex talk.I donât really see why you shouldnât.Iâm trying to explain it to mine and they are 5 and 7 but Iâm moving soon so Iâm waiting until then when we all 4 arenât in the same room in his parents living room anymore to explain it to them so itâs not so awkward if they do happen to ever walk in on us.which they havenât yet luckily.Iâd explain the basics,not like picture for picture so to say,but def the big picture atleast.we donât do anything in front of them or when their awake,but itâs def something the sooner they know about the better.
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Tell her to knock before she opens the door next time. Also put a big sign on your door at night.
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It happens, you let her know that thatâs what adults do when they love each other and he wasnât hurting you, the best thing to do now is just move on
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Ask her if she has questions, then leave it be you explained it. Sheâs not traumatized, she will be fine
You in my opinion explained it well. I would not bring it up any further and remind hubby to lock door and do the safety pull to make sure it latches
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You are absolutely not the worst mom ever and trust me it happens to people all of the. My now adult daughter walked in our her dad and I when she was 9. My youngest picked our bedroom lock and caught us going at it. Then a year or so later my middle son walked into the our bathroom and then walked right back out when he figured out what was was going on.
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Deff teach to knock before entering.
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You said what most mind would say to a 7 year old great leave it at that if she has further ? Answer them she appropriate.lik you just did .
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https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMd9DbW3y/
This woman is great at explaining stuff like this!!! Donât be ashamed or embarrassed!!! Sex is 100% normal and okay and natural and great and kids should know about it (explained at their levels of understanding) but it isnât taboo or something that should be taught is naughty or to be ashamed of.
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Some 7 year olds already know from movies and friends at school (unfortunately) but seeing it in person feels so different. I walked in on my sister and her ex boyfriend when I was a kid and I still randomly get the image in my head and makes my anxiety act up even though Iâm an adult and obviously know what it is. Best thing to do is apologize and answer any curios questions she might have.
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IMO just donât make it a big thing. When two adults love each other they have sex, but itâs supposed to be private just between them so weâre sorry we forgot to lock the door. Might be a good time to also discuss the importance of respecting privacy and knocking on closed doors before entering. Then just move on like itâs nothing unless she has questions. Itâs only a big deal if you make it a big deal. Sex is normal and healthy for adults, no need to make your child believe otherwise.
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Donât act like you did something wrong Anddont makeher feel she did something wrong tell her thatâs yours and daddyâs private time and if the door is closed do not come in.tell her thatâs the way married mommy and daddyâs show love to each other
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Lock your blo*dy door in future!
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Donât be so hard on yourself. Itâs happened to the best of us. If she has any questions, just answer them as simply as possible and donât make a fuss. All these people judging you saying âteach her to knockâ or "you should of made sure the door was locked " well, we arenât perfect! Sheâll be fine. Continue showing love and affection to your husband ânot in the bedroom though 
â so she sees everything is okay between you guys.
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My kids have caught me and my husband many times lol they are 9 and 7 we ended up having to have the talk. It will be ok mamaâ¤
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Teach her to always knock first!!!
Locks and knocks. They are key. Itâs a rule in our house. I also tell them that we like to spend time alone, but weâve never had a problem with this, yet. I think it happens a lot though.
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it is no biggie at all. She may not be upset because of what she saw per we.
It could be she is confused why you have your own separate time that doesnât include her? Who knows. Just keep the dialogue going with your daughter.
tell her she is always welcome to come into your bedroom, but if the door is shut she has to knock first & wait for you or her dad to say come in, And tell her you will also do the same for her when her door is closed. Now if she does say what were you two doing, & only if she asks, say you were loving each other & that is what grown ups do when they are married. Now if she wants more details, then go further. But as a adult, she should have always been prepared for this.
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Why do you need to explain? Itâs not going to scar her for life. Iâm 100% certain every child has seen things they shouldnât have. What she will learn is, not to walk in on you. Knock and wait, itâs not exactly a bad way to learn as sheâll never do it again.
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Oh Girl! Donât hate yourself or your husband.
She wonât be the first or the last to have her little eyes scarred
hang in there.
It seems to me you are a great mother for caring this muchâ:heart:
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Maybe now it a good time to talk about the importance of knocking. Donât beat yourself up. Things happen. Sheâs not going to be traumatized
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All 5 of my siblings and I have walked in on my parents. I donât think they even knew as we would quickly retreat. It happens and itâs part of life. While weâve all been embarrassed, it didnât traumatized any of us
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Well I see we have at least 30 helpful comments so here comes mine⌠When I was 6 I walked upstairs and saw my parents doing something I was trying to look but after a while my instinct was like ew I shouldnât look I didnt see nothing just stuff going on under a blanket. Im fine. They didnât say nothing to me. My question as a mom for you is what kinda wild sex were you having she got upset 
Well youâre supposed to be asleep sweetheart stay in bed and you wonât see mommy getting it like she likes 
Next time yell for me like you always do I think explaining it more is worse. Tell her she canât come in the room she has to knock. Unless you never want to have sex again.
Apparently I did this to my parents but they were under a blanket and I jumped on my dads back lmao I donât remember it at all. You did the right thing. I would have a follow up conversation later if sheâs still acting weird in a few days
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Thereâs a 100% chance youâre making this a bigger deal then she is. She may have already brushed it off. Iâd act like nothing even happened unless she starts questioning you.
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Just be honest like you did. Tell her when your door is closed it is your private time. I walked in on my parents. I felt weird for a bit, more like embarrassed but got over it. Donât stress or you will make it seem like you did something wrong when you did not
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For her to be upset i feel like she knows something and anything she thinks she knows should come from you and not tv or other means. Try to be intimate when your kids are asleep. Donât be intimate unless you know for sure your door is locked and teach your kids to knock first. 
as fae as the talk⌠Heck idc lol
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so many inappropriate but funny (to me) responsesâŚ
My step dad TO THIS VERY DAY calls me the king of cockblock.
I mean real note: at least its a husband, hopefully the marriage is a lasting and loving one, like at least a kid didnât walk in to a swingers event or saw mommy with 3 different people! Just explain it without the genitalia, only feelings and the purpose! Thatâs how I really approached this the one time it happened to me.
It happens. I walked in on my parents like 4 times,
Iâm not scarred and donât even remember what I saw. Sheâll be fine
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Itâs just sex. Why be upset or embarrassed? Explain that itâs sex, thatâs how she was created, that is a naturaly thing that humans do together and by themselves.
The more embarrassed everyone is, the less likely it will be brought up if something happens. The stigma that âonly people who live each otherâ do that creates a fear in trauma situations where the child canât tell bc theyâve done something dirty/wrong.
Thatâs how she became to exist?
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