Explained perfectly. I think EVERY parent has gone through this at some point in time. You are not the worst mom on the planet and do not be angry at yourself or your husband. If she asks questions, answer her. My philosophy is that if a child is old enough to ask a question, they are old enough to get a truthful answer. I bet this will blow over in a day or two. Hang in there Momma!
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It happens to all parents at some point and you didnât do anything wrong or âexplainâ it wrong. You donât need to worry, do research, doctor, none of that. Thatâs all the crap that is turning our kids into the b.s thatâs happening. It happened, talk, explain, ask her about ?âs, move on. Whether sheâs 3 or 22 it happened when it was supposed to for you or her or whomever. No one likes to see any family doing that but itâs GOING to happen when you all live together. Keep it open for her and sheâs fine.
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My son is 12 and walked in on my bf and I. At first he was upset about the situation. My bf was also upset at himself and worried that my son wasnât going to accept him anymore or want anything to do with him. We also made sure the door was locked, and somehow he still walked in. He didnât see much but heâs at the age where he understands what was going on so he walked right back out. I walked out and confronted the situation. Informed that thatâs what two consenting adult do when they are in a relationship and love each other. Informed it was natural and also apologized that he had to see that. He is my little best friend so I alway like to answer him honestly. He went on to tell my sisters and was making fun of the situation later. Was I embarrassed that he walked in, heck yeah! But I am also thankful that we have a close relationship were I was able to openly communicate with him about it. He will probably be traumatized and wonât forget this for the rest of his life but it was a learning experience at the end of the night 
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You tell her ya,ll weâre showing each other love .
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Wrestling, working out a cramp, stretching.
Heck I would toss out random things until the kid says oh okay. Lolđ
You did just fine ⌠dont ever lie to them about sex or their body if she asks any questions about it later on you just tell her that itâs natural and one day she will understand it a lot better that itâs nothing to be ashamed of and if she ever has any questions to please ask ⌠but be honest about it all
Just bring honest. I walked in on my mom and step dad when I was in 3rd grade. What I saw absolutely devastated me and there is nothing she could have said to make me feel any different especially bc we were so close with one another. I have a dead bolt on my bed room door now and this will not happen with my 3 nosey boys!
I was like 4 and caught my mom and her boyfriend having sex. I saw everything- they were fully naked, and out from under the blankets. I opened the door, saw them, and just left.
My now 12 year old walked in on my ex and I. I was not in a position to see the door and neither was my ex. The next day when said son age 6 went to my momâs he told her. He didnât say anything to me but asked my mom why dad was riding mom. Iâm not sure what she told him but I remember how she went off on me even though I was in my 30s with 4 kids married and in my room in the middle of the night.
Itâs really not that big of a deal. How do you think great grandma and grandpa ended up with 13 kids in a 2 room shack.
Iv 4 kids and I think every 1 of them has caught me! I caught my parents, it depends on there age what iv said to them, told them we were fun fighting, nd also explained the facts of life in an age appropriate manner, no bad parenting going on here at all, u will laugh about it soon enough 
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It is totally normal. But hereâs where you teach her about her space and your space and you and daddy need privacy and knock. Our 3 year old has walked in and I donât know how long he been there (canât be more than a minute) but he was just STANDING THERE WATCHING (it was night time he was supposed to be in bed) but we talk about privacy and since sheâs a little older you can explain more. It happens to everybody. Your not horrible for it. Heck youâve probably even walked in on your parents too. You just have to explain adults have âus timeâ to her level without telling her exactly about the birds and the bees. Thereâs a lady on tik tok I forget her name but she talks about how she normalizes all that with her children and how to talk to them up to their age
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You did just right. Itâs normal, itâs ok. Keep it in the open. Donât add shame to healthy married sex.
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You explained it perfectly.
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Kids see it on tv and movies and your not the first this has happened to. When she asks, answer truthfully
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Just teach her to knock before entering a room, just to teach her privacy. She never knows if someone is changing clothes, or doing it.
So just tell her people need privacy and itâs courtesy to knockâŚ
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The bigger deal you make out of it, the bigger deal she will. You explained it perfectly and if she has any questions sheâll ask.
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She walks in, you say âsupâ, thatâs it, go on about your day like it never happened.
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Itâs pretty normal for kids to walk in like that, you did good. Kids are very smart, donât lie to her if she asks about it again. She probably wonât give it to much thought at this point, as long as she knows that no one was being hurt. Donât beat yourself up momma, let it go
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I walked in on my brother and his wife. I still remember that shit 
she might be visually petrified but sheâll be fine. Lol
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It happens girl my 5 year old did it. Of course she asked what was going on but I told her she didnt need 2 know it was adult things 2 go back 2 bed and left it at that. It was very late night when she was supposed 2 be very asleep. Either way she hasnât asked about it since. Hereâs where u make sure u tell ur kids about not coming in the room whenever they want. Shes old enough now she needs 2 learn privacy spaces. I dont let mine in my room regardless unless they just dont feel good even then I usually stay with them in their room especially now they are older. I canât count the times iv had someone walk in on me over my lifetime. Between my friends, my sister, and my kids I mines well not have any privacy at all. Dont beat urself up itâs not going 2 be the last time it happens Iâm sure.
It happens to everyone lol you did your best at explaining sheâs only 7 after allâŚshe is unsure of everything right now but eventually things will be back to normal and donât be mad at yourself or your husband having a healthy relationship is ok youâre allowed to be both a mother a woman with needs
I think you explained enough she too young she dont need to know anything else like someone said up above it will blow over she will be okay
I think you are dwelling on it too much. Sheâs 7. Youâve done all that you can. You are both still great parents. Itâs not like you were doing it on the loving room couch in broad daylight. It happens.
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Depending on age, id just say momma and daddy have sex. It is totally normal, and healthy. Its an expression of love.
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I remember a similar incident with my oldest daughter. She is now 38. She walked in on my hubby and I and she proceeded to tell my mother-in-law that we were playing bouncy on our bed. She was about 3 at the time. We did not make a big deal about it.
I have been open and honest with my son since he was tiny. I wouldnât let him use nicknames for body parts or nothing. He knows what sex is and itâs totally and perfectly natural. Be glad your daughter is seeing that instead of you guys fighting or worse him hitting you. Youâre a good mom. Only thing Iâd want to teach her is knocking and boundaries. Maybe tell her when the door is closed that she always knocks first and if no one answers and itâs not an emergency to come back or wait until the door is open. Sheâll be ok. I promise. Itâll be a story she tells when sheâs older and sheâll cringe but thatâs ok.
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Sheâll live. You can follow up with something like âand thatâs how you were made.â (If applicable, of course) But sheâll be fine. Be there for when she has questions.
Honestly just teach her to not just open door to knock and ask first. Literally almost every family has walked in on me and my husband. They get embarrassed like yea donât bust in my door my lock doesnât work well. Once my daughter let an ex to my room, [cause we stayed friends] that was shut he opened the door and walked in I yelled shut the door and he came in and shut the door, i was like with you on the other side lol 
just a few days ago my door was shut and locked and my son came running threw the door like a linebacker. My door is shut for a reason.
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Youâre fine. You are not over reacting I know how awkward and embarrassing it can feel but it happens. You explained and tell her to always knock and leave it at that. Sex is normal and this wonât affect her. She probably feels as awkward as you lol.
Thereâs plenty of great advice here, so Iâm just stopping by to tell you that you are definitely NOT the worst mom in the world for this! You are doing great 
Every parent has had their kid walk in on them, and you explained it right for now but bring back that convo when sheâs older and itâs time for her to know about it more.
It happens. Iâve got five kiddos and it doesnât matter that we wait until theyâre asleep and the door is locked, theyâll on a rare occasion find a way to get through my dang door and walk in on things. We just keep heavily enforcing the âknock and wait to be acknowledgedâ rule when the door is closed and the few times theyâve walked in, of course all things stop, scrambling for clothes and Iâve had a discussion with my kids about it. They know itâs an adult only thing and something not for them or their eyes. Once again we remind them of the closed door policy and open up the floor for any questions and concerns and move on with our day/night. Itâll happen to every parent at least once in their life and itâs not a big deal. Just a matter of how you choose to approach it. Just keep things simple, child appropriate and donât dwell or make a big deal of it.
I think you explained it just fineâŚI would be sure to continue to talk with her about knocking on mommy and daddyâs door before coming in. Donât feel badâŚ.weâve been caught once toođ¤ˇđťââď¸
My daughter has nvr walked in on us but she did hear n asked us to be quiet. I was embarrassed too but in a couple days it was forgotten. We r only human it happens I know we donât expect it but
I walked in on my parents at 24. I think knowing what was going on was worse⌠donât ever question yourself as a mom. This happens to the best of us. Just move on. I promise she wonât be traumatized forever. Until I read this I totally forgot walking in on mine.
Donât overthink it, sheâs 7, sheâll move on. I heard my parents starting at 5 and walked in by 8, lol itâs fine. Maybe explain knocking
You are good it happens you explained for her age dont stress over it
It happens to a lot of people. I think you did a good job explaining it. As parents we are always afraid of messing up. You are a good Momma and she will move on and forget it!!! Donât be so hard on yourself!!!
Relax you said enough. Our son peeked over the mattress edge and asked âwhat-ca doing?â His answer was loving your mom. End of story.
Every parent has a child walk in on them. Just leave it alone and donât talk an it
every child⌠I mean every child has waked in on mommy or daddy at one pointâŚNo biggyâŚyour over thinking itâŚshe will survive.
I was the child who walked inâŚ" Mommy, are you riding horsey?" Lol I say this because as Iâm now a grandma and me she will be fine. âŚ
Itâs life. It happens. One day youâll all laugh about it. Donât make a big deal out of it.
You did fine. Now let it go. She will be fine
Wrestling, I told my 7 year old we were wrestling. He seemed to believe it. 
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My kids heard me and my husband once and I heard my 9year old son tell my 6 year old daughter after she said âI never heard mommy like thatâ and he said âMaybe they won the lottery.â It was the funniest thing but I truly believe you handled it appropriately. Itâs a healthy thing and she will probably ask more questions and thatâs okay. Your doing great and donât let anyone else tell you other wise.
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My son did that at same age. He ended up telling his teacher. But some how he knew what we were doing. Teacher called me to let me know. He never mentioned or seemed off by it heâs 20 and doing great
Iâm a boy mom so maybe they react differently then how girls react. My son has walked in on my husband and I at least twice in two different rooms of the houseâŚwhich ended up with us finding out the lock on one of the doors doesnât actually lock 
. But all my son has done is walk right back out the room and asked for what he wanted through the door both times and heâs fine 
Awful! Really awful when you have a son that over 20 years old, it set me in panick.
I think at some point most kids either hear or walk in on their parentsâŚ. So donât worry about it I think you explained it as best as you could
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Blame it on your husband, hahaha
Put a lock on your door, maybe ?
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A lot of kids, have walked in on their parents having sex at some point in their lives𤡠it happens. And the lucky ones donât lol. It can scar both⌠The parent and the child lol. But, nothing to really feel like a horrible parent over. It truly does happen to a lot of parents. Tell her the truth. That you were also having grown up time. And itâs natural. For adults. And that is also why you knock. Keep it simple. And donât over talk about it. Or repeatedly talk about it. That will only keep it fresh in her mind. Or make her question it more and think about it more. Sheâs also young, sheâll most likely forget about it the next day or so𤡠it was also with her father. And not done random strange guy she didnât even know. So def not as traumatizing. And when sheâs older, and knows more about sex⌠It wonât be as traumatizing. And something sheâll probably laugh about. Iâm paranoid about this. Which is why when my husband and I do this, we check the door s few times lol or let the kids play their playstation 5 in the living room so theyâre more occupied lol
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Tell her 
my mom had the talk with me at 6 . I feel like as long as youâre technical itâs nothing wrong telling her what it really is, great time to explain ovulation,how an egg gets fertilized, my mom explained all of that to me that young and I appreciated it
Everyone I know has accidentally walked in on their parents doing the deed. I have and as disgusting as it was it didnt fuck me up as a kid. It something that happens and when she gets older shes going to still think ewe but understand especially once shes an adult. Why are you going to be mad at your husband for something that was an accident and what you guys were doing wasnt wrong. You did good on telling her its something that adults do when they love each other. You dont have to give her a sex education right now at 7 years old.
It was bound to happen. No real reason to get so upset over it. You told her what was going on and if she had questions awnser them
I wouldnât make it a big deal. You didnât do anything wrong. These things happen. I think the bigger deal you make it, the more of an issue it becomes with her.
Iâd probably set stronger boundaries about adult spaces, moving forward. Our kids know they are not allowed in our bedroom unless specifically invited. If they need something they will knock, and wouldnât dare just walk in.
As adults we need that space, and kids need to respect it. If you have any other kids, might be time to start setting some rules about adult space.
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Give her the open floor to ask questions. Donât give information if she doesnât ask. But donât make it awkward. Sex is normal. Not for a 7 year old but itâs a natural part of life. It doesnât need to be an introduction to sex 101 just give her the chance to ask questions if she wants and donât put pressure on it. If you donât make it a big deal she wonât
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I walked in on my parents probably around the age of five or six and yes it traumatized me they didnât talk to me about it they didnât tell me what was going on I didnât realize what happened until I got older in life and then I thought back on that memory and I was like oh shit but yeah it does suck but itâs not the end of the world
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Take it as an opening to talk about safe sex, pregnancy and birth control nothing to be mad about, accidents happen. Sheâll be fine, I definitely wouldnât make it into something to apologize for because you donât want her to feel like thereâs something wrong with sex. Also teach her to knock.
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I believe it happens to everyone who has sex. As thatâs what you were doing and was also the act that created your daughterâŚI would be explaining the physical side and that sex happens for many reasonsâŚI know we all ultimately hope that it always happens out of love or mutual need and respect butâŚthatâs not exactly the truth.
I personally wouldnât feel bad at allâŚitâs a natural and amazing thing.
Tell her the truth - keep it simple and keep going
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She should be taught to knock and wait for a response before she comes in,now you will hav to be honest and hav the talk
I was a little older when I walked in on my parents⌠probably around 11. To be honest, my brain randomly gives me a visual of it every once in awhile still. I recall that I knew exactly what they were doing, I screamed âEww!â, and shut that door as fast as humanly possible. My Dad tried to have the âtalkâ with me right afterwards and I remember it being so awkward and I just kept nodding my head thinking it would make him stop talking. The next day, my Mom tried to bring it up 2 more times and I just kept getting more and more uncomfortable each time. So, If it were me, I would keep the talk to a minimum for now and just tell her if she has any questions to ask. I would do the "
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Nothing to be so upset about. She probably already forgot
Sounds about the age most kids ask where babies come from. 
I got the sex talk a little younger than her (my mom is a scientist⌠So I learned everything). Donât bring it up to her again unless she asks. Also, donât be mad at yourself or your husband. Most kids walk in on their parents having sex, or overhear it. I mean itâs so common that itâs in movies and comedians stand up shows.
Sounds about the age most kids ask where babies come from. I got the sex talk a little younger than her (my mom is a scientist⌠So I learned everything). Donât bring it up to her again unless she asks. Also, donât be mad at yourself or your husband. Most kids walk in on their parents having sex, or overhear it. I mean itâs so common that itâs in movies and comedians stand up shows.
Am I the only one that just went on with my life and waited for my child to talk to me if they felt the need to? I wasnât going to explain sex to my children, more likely than not she didnât even know exactly what was going on. Maybe my relationship with my children was open enough that they know they could talk to me about anything they needed to. Make sure to lock your own door from this point forwardâŚ