I would have her do therapy and live until she is 22 then if she still wants to tell her you will help her pay for it
I went through the exact same with my youngest about that ageā¦ born a she but now a heā¦ i supported him, but stood my ground that I any chemical changes Hormone blockers, or Testosterone shots would have to be only when he was old enough to sign off himselfā¦ now we are preparing for Top surgery and I can see my child grow happier with each step in his transition
Donāt let any changes be done until sheās the legal age to do it herselfā¦ some teens are just so confused with this lifeā¦ maybe she will change her mind then
I say. Let her express her self but donāt do anything permanentā¦ I was just like this is middle school and Iād shit myself to this day if I would have done anything permanentā¦ my niece wears boy clothes, cuts her hair like a boyā¦ my sister thinks itās a phase but I donāt and neither does my brother in.law. just always support your kiddos and love them no matter what choices that they make whether it be a girl wanting to be a boy, a boy wanting to be a girl, being gayā¦ect
At 13, donāt let her make any life changing decisions just yet, ie; hormones! I would go out and buy her boys clothes, let her cut her hair how she likes, ask if she wants to be called a different name, etc! 
just support her and do your best, will be tough at first getting use to it but you got itā:sparkling_heart:
12 is really young to be thinking about being trans. I would wait till sheās at least 18. Maybe sheās confused? Or is getting it confused with being gay?
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My 11 year old dresses and cuts her hair like a boy but we wonāt do hormones.
First of all I would say, you are going to wrong place to look for answers about this.
I would say support her,but no surgery until she is 18.
I would let my child express themselves however but something medical like that will need to wait until they are grown and mature enough to take control of that. Iāll be supportive regardless but there is nothing wrong with teaching a child the importance of taking time to make a decision and people should stop being made to feel like shit because they wonāt give into their childrenās instant gratifications. We has adults must work towards accomplishing shit and achieving goals. Before we buy something we think about it, sometimes for years. Why should it be any different for kids? If a child feels that out of place because they are not the sex they need to be take the child to therapy. Everyone needs therapy anyways. Seriously. Everyone. Lol
She should make that decision at 18 or even 21
I would hold outā¦ this seems to be a trend for kids this age.
For the surgery I would wait but everything else like clothes, makeup or no makeup, hair Iād let her do all that she wants
Food for thought and unpopular opinion
If we arent allowed by law to do permanent body modifications to our children(tattooes & piercings) until they are age 18, then why should we be allowed to let them be body modified (sex change) until they are 18 as well?
You can cover ups tattoos
You can let piercings close or never put jewelry in
But can you undo snipping off the equipment you were born with?
Donāt allow her to take hormones. She is young and may change her mind. Allow her to dress as a boy, support her but make sure this is not her just being confused or following a trend
You support him. Whatās his name ? Whatās his clothing style ? Hair style ?
Let them. Respect their chosen pronouns and new name and let them get clothes that reflect their identity
Encourage her to wait until sheās an adult at least 18
Support your child. Donāt be like some of these Karens.
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God made her female! Thereās no question here. Tell her that.
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Please consider reading the book, Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier or at least listen to her interview on Joe Rogan
Iām going through this with my child. Itās hard. Please feel free to message me.
All I can say is talk to her let her explain her feelings and maybe you could both talk to professionals who understand and may help and guide you both, and will try to give you the best advice something unfortunately I canāt give as Iāve not experienced this and have no experience in, but I take on what people go through and their experiences and hopefully I can have a bit more of an understanding and educate myself more.
Good luck to you both on your journey 
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Too Young, to make such a lifelong commitment.
Join a parents of Trans kids support group and educate yourself. In the meantime, support them.
Id tell my daughter i still love her no matter who she wants to be as long as she is positive successful and happy. Gods job is to judge not us. Goes for everyone !! As long as no one is being hurt let people live how they want .
When I was 13 I wanted to be a boy. I cut off my hair and always wore boyish clothes. Now Had my mom actually said to me, sure be whatever gender you want. I prolly woulda taken it even further. Looking back now, Im glad my mother didnt fuel the fire for it . She told me I could be a nurse, so thats what I became lol. I feel like kids especially at that age are going to be fueled by their parents. If you feed into it. Itll take off and theyll never look back. I dunno just my 2 cents being a weird ass teenager. 
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Son* and he* donāt dead pronoun them
Go through some counseling first to rule out confusion. Allow them to be who they feel like they are but donāt allow any permanent changes. When they are an adult they can make those permanent decisions for themselves.
I think a lot of people on here have a lot of great advice when they say support her but do not do anything permanent as far as hormones Amir surgeries especially at that young of an age because allow her to find herself and be comfortable in her own skin and then when it comes to the time of 18 and she still feels the same then she support her in those choices she can make as an adult
Wait. Sheās still growing and her hormones are changing. Meanwhile, do research, find a support group, other trans people whoāve done it. So sheās fully informed. Blessings!
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This is obviously just my opinion. If it were my daughter, Iād support her in regards to clothing choices and the superficial stuff. If it was still something she wanted to do by the age of 18, when sheās legally allowed to do so, thatās her choice. A 12/13 year old child is still a child and their brains are still developing. Iām not pro or anti transitioning, but itās a big decision and I see it becoming more of a trend than anything lately. I, personally, would not be comfortable with giving my child artificial hormones that will have long lasting effects.
Honestly I believe as a comment above that news/social media/ect is influencing alot of kids decisions. Sheās 13 and her hormones are probably just starting and she is probably really confused. Iām all for gay rights and such but sadly I canāt get on the band wagon of boys changing to girls and vice versa.
Therapy Iād say would be a great way to go and lots and lots and lots of information and searching. Let her wear whatever clothes she wants. Donāt do anything major until sheās an adult and can just do it herself. Honestly Iād explain the her to at least wait until 23-25 to make a decision like that so that way sheās mature enough to realise all of everything.
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Well in all fairness, kids can decide even harsher choices when they turn 18. Before theyāre an adult, parents are responsible. The frontal lobe of the brain is the last part to grow which is where the logical thinking comes from, and at 13 years old, they still have less wisdom than a goldfish. I suppose my advice would be to be candid perhaps, explain in kind what you can, if I encountered this as my business Iād say āYou have to wait till youāre 18 before can decide to medically and surgically alter yourself into something youāre not, you can have a tattoo insteadā¦just nothing on the face and no tramp-stamp. Or get a few piercings, Iāll compromise with ya but that is a no till youāre 18. And stop wearing your brothers underwear, whats going to happen if he starts wearing yours?ā
My girls, 10 and 13, are all over the map from one month to the next as far as how they identify. I just remind them that as long as they arenāt causing anyone harm, they are free to do as they please and that at their age, nothing has to be defined or set in stone or have a label attached to it. That itās fine to explore different things and identities and see what feels right. I support them and love them in all ways and do my very best to guide them with hearts full of kindness, tolerance, and love.
Everyone feels so pressured to put a label on what they are and kids at that age have no clue who they are for the most part. They are barely beginning to scratch the surface or their identities. And their bodies and brains are still drastically changing and growing. I would definitely hesitate to introduce hormones or surgeries until they can really have a chance to discover themselves. At the end of the day, I just want them to know they are loved and be happy and healthy.
When sheās 18 she can do what she wants. I feel children are too confused and hormonal to make adult decisions. Just look at Shilohā¦ now being girly.
Iād tell them they can do whatever they after they are a legal adult and not living under my roof. Kick rocks with that mess. Itās crap.
When she can pay for it, she can do it
Soā¦ the he better question would be. Is your child non-binary? Should they learn about that? If a child thinks there is only a male category or a female category then they may not know about non binary. Also maybe ask about preferred pronouns.
then you support him. why the actual heck is that even a question?
Negative. 13 is way to young to make permanent choices.
Maybe wait till her brain stops developing then see how she feels
Let your child be who they want to be. And read this book together. Itās a coming of age story for two friends, both a cisgender girl and her bestie who is F2M two spirit. Explores growing into yourself and being authentic, whatever that means. No matter what, just love your child and listen to their truth from your heart. Kids with gender dysphoria are often in so much pain that they die by suicide at alarming rates ā¦so consider whether youād like a happy child or a desperate one in conflict. Then love them enough to accept them no matter what.
I will accept whatever my child wants to be. The only thing I donāt tolerate is a liar and a thief !
You are all nuts saying 12 year olds donāt know what they want ect I came out to my mom when I was 10 about being bisexual it wasnāt a phase I love the ladies still at 31 , if they feel they are a boy let them be vise versa , love them through it all no matter what!
Support her/him. Be there the best you can. Put her in therapy that specializes in this so you can figure out if itās what she really needs/wants. At such a young age itās gonna be difficult to deal with but as long as you support and help the best you can youāll be able to make the decision best for her/him when the time is right.
I love my children no matter what but that doesnāt mean we should support or encourage this type of behavior. God doesnāt make mistakes and he chose what gender they should be. I donāt care who disagrees with me, thatās between you and God.
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I would not allow unless she is a legal adult. The liberals running schools and society these days have these young kids so so confused about identity and sexual orientation. BE A PARENT NOT A FRIEND OR MOMMY.
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She needs to get prayed over my dear, thereās a spirit of confusion, if you could find a real good Deliverance Church of pastor that knows how to cast those spirits out.
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Sadly the world has turned the lgbtq community into a fad and itās making children more confused. These things shouldnāt be an issue until you are older. I have a friend who is a tomboy (sheās female obviously) her son was in class and they were discussing family life. Her son was talking about the things his momās into and the teacher insisted his mother was trans. She was literally adamant about it. A female liking things that typically boys like doesnāt make them trans. She went to the principal to have them speak to the teacher about having their personal bias pushed on the students. This isnāt how itās supposed to be. Let the parents talk to the children about things like that and the teachers need to worry about teaching kids math, science, reading, writing, etc
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Iād want to make sure itās what she wants 100% first. Studying up on the transition. Get her boy clothes, definitely talk to her more about it
Wait till shes an adult ā¦Let her make her own choices once she is able to. Iāve been hearing alot of āI never shouldve done this to myselfā lately believe it or not from not just the young but the entire trans communityā¦ this is just my opinion but she hasnt even experienced her body yet as a female. And I would give it time. Shell blame YOU if it so turns out that shes unhappy once she transitions if you let her do so before shes an adult and completely does all the deciding herself ā¦ itās happened to someone very close to me so only speaking from honest experienceā¦ Iām all for LGBTQ community and support them 100%ā¦ but I dont believe pushing sexuality on childeren or A CHILD truly being decided on what sex they truly are before their brains are even fully developed or have had a chance to experience the body they were born withā¤ Good luck I hope it works out and at the end of the day. If shes happy and healthyā¦ all that matters is that you love her the very sameā¤
What happened to letting kids be kids?, sheās a child, her brain isnāt even fully developed yet so one thing Iād say is donāt go pumping hormone medicines in her, if she still feels this way when sheās 18 then you can start the process of taking her to talk to someone
Well they probably have been feeling this way a long time and just worked up the nerve to open up about it. Listen and support.
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Take her to a Trans therapist. They will help her make sure she is in fact Male.
Do not put her on any hormones ect until she is 18 and has talked to a professional.
13 year olds just want to fit in. Make sure She is doing this for the RIGHT reason.
Sheās too young to be making these decisionsā¦ tell her if she still feels that way by the time she is of age than she should go for itā¦
Honestly Iād be out buying them a whole new wardrobe to show my support because Iām not a piece of shit parent
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Well first of all I wouldāve excepted my daughter whether she wants to be a female or a male doesnāt matter to me because Iām her mother and I love unconditionally they are their own person you do not own them they are allowed to make decisions for themselves and grow up it is not up to us to decide whether they are who they are or not I donāt understand the mentality of not being able to accept your child thatās just weird to me.
Well by the way you went to The Internet and are now seeking advice about this I can tell that she probably does not feel comfortable talking to you about this because you donāt even know what youāre talking about you brought your daughters private life to a public platform . do you realize how much strength it probably took her to come out to you. so why do you think that she would feel comfortable telling you about any of this youāre on a website for christ sakes asking strangers questions about it!
youāre not even asking your own daughter about it sheās the one that knows whatās going on with her self.
you think other people understand your daughter better than her self you should be asking her not us and bonding with her over this instead of making her feel alienated do better 
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Me and my sisters thought we wanted to be boys too!! Now we all have families!! Are girls even allowed to be tomboys these days?? Or is automatically thought to be trans??? This is wild!!! At 13 she donāt have a clue
I would love my daughters or son if they ever decided. I think some 12 year olds have a good idea however in my day it wasnāt mentioned or discussed. Nowadays there are discussions and support. Love your child even if they change their minds.
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I wanted to be a boy because they had way more fun. I hung out with them and girls just irritated me. They were so bossy and dramatic. At 16 a boy kissed me and I was never happier to be a girl. No turning back after that for me!! High heels and mini skirts after that.
I would allow it when sheās 18 doesnāt mean I donāt love an support my child
She never expressed it to you, doesnāt mean she didnāt express it to others. One word LOVE . Love is love , love her through it. Start with counseling.
Iām not doing that period u can wait till youāre 18 only option after that you grown
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Id support and love my kid but never allow them to take hormones or anything until theyre 18
I donāt know why you think this is funny Karla Saunders Bostic its a sad reality.
Shes 13. Sheās not old enough to make that decision yet.
Shes a kid. A child. She has no idea.
Accepting trans kids saves lives. LGB youth who come from highly rejecting families are 8.4 times as likely to have attempted suicide as LGB peers who reported no or low levels of family rejection.
https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/preventing-suicide/facts-about-suicide/
Love her n hug her n listen to her.
The child is born what she is a female with a vagina or a male with a penis. Get them off social media and unless the parent is fucked up they will know there gender and never question
God doesnāt make mistakes!
Take your child to a trans positive psychologist and find a trans role model to talk about it for at least 30 days. Your child needs to know everything that this will involve.
Tell her to try it for awhile. Let her change her mind if she wants. Could be wonky unstable hormones at 12.
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Let him Express himself and respect HIS pronouns
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Give her a lollipop and tell her sheās an idiotā¦She has one fleeting thought with that under-developed brain system of hers, and youāre entertaining thoughts about this ? For shame. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM ! ! !
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Your first step would be getting her into therapy. I know my opinion will be unpopular, but its very rare for someone to actually be trans and not just experiencing a mental disorder like gender dismorphia.
Vaccines have aborted fetal cells of different sexes; she needs a vaccine detox.
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In todayās liberal disturbing society, they are glorifying this crapā¦it is confusing our teens. They are being brainwashed to think being some trans FREAK is cool and liberating. Please peopleā¦if you are drinking this Kool-aidā¦I truly feel sorry for you.
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She needs a therapist
Trans children need compassion and support. They are valid.
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Counseling. Therapy asap.
Get them into therapy and go from there. If they truly are transgender stop using female pronouns
At the age of 13 it is very normal for girls specially ones who arent very girly to go through a stage, I literally wanted boy clothes and wore them looking back it was more of an attention thing, and a self expression thing. But at the time I thought I wanted to be more boyish than girlā¦
It was a stage. I am a very straight motherly feminine woman and to think in this day in age i would have been labeled at transgender is disgusting.
Let her dress how she wants but she is FAR TO YOUNG to transition physically. Even 18 is too young. The brain does not fully developed and mature until mid twenties. Let her express herself but do NOT allow her to go past that until she is an adult.
I would probably recommend counseling for a while and be evaluated then proceed w a plan
Counseling is a must! Obviously someone who specializes in this. She will need someone to talk to. Also could benefit you and family. Good for you for listening to your child whether its a phase or not.
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Let her/him dress however he/she feels. Use the preferred pronoun in the moment. I would not, however, allow surgery or hormone treatments at such a young age simply because if itās not a permanent want then it can be super harmful in the future. Not that I dont approve but I think 13 is too young to be taking hormone meds and doing any type of cosmetic surgery thatās not needed.
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she could really want this or she is just going with the ācrowdā, Stand by her either way, Listen to her & talk to her, Donāt deny her feelings, no matter what
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I would support the decision but only to a reasonable levelā¦ so changing hair style, clothing, accessories like bedding and stuff to the āmaleā stuff even though anything a boy can have a girl can have vise versa but see how it goes but donāt let any hormone or surgery happen until 18 when the decision can be made by the person
Sheād be getting out of my house. I couldnāt deal with that and wouldnāt deal with it. You are born who you are and if you believe in gods word thatās all there is to it. And I wouldnāt have anyone so far away from faith in my home blood or not.
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Let them dress as they see fit and accommodate in daily life stuff, but physical changes shouldnāt be done till they are an adult in my opinionā¦support them as much as possible for now
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You know Mama Iām proud of you for having an open mind. Be supportive and be there for your child. I would allow clothing to change but I would probably hold off on anything permanent and let her adjust to dressing and acting how she feels is appropriate and then if she brings it up yāall can maneuver through the next steps and stages together.
Id say let her dress and be called what she wants, once shes 18, if she still wants to transition she can start the hormones herself.
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Buy guy clothes, pick out a male name, anything she wants. Treat her as you would a son. Tell her when she/he can pay for transitional surgery, she can have it. 13+ years old is an age of discovering oneās self. Go with the flow. Tell her you love and support regardless, cause you love her heart and soul. Be patient and understanding.
Ok. So this is the first youāve heard about it.
That could mean that your kido hasnt shared it. Or it could mean they just thought about it.
Either way- dont give a happy/sad/angry response. Your response could influence this.
Keep in mind only time will tell if this is real- act like itās no big deal, offer to get her some more masculine clothes if she wants.
Also need to book an appointment with a therapist.
I would hesitate before asking for chemicals- they have serious side effects.
Itās a hard thing because this could be a real change- but it also could be a stage. And I KNOW everyone always jumps on the person who says that BUT it happens, and it happens fairly often for it to be a possibility.
Just act normal and give it time
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I see everyone saying āno hormonesā āsheās too youngā ādonāt let her start the transition processā
But they donāt do hormones at that age. They do blockers which stops puberty from happening which will stop them from getting body dysmorphia till they are old enough to do hormones and the surgery. Not trying to argue just trying to educate 
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