Ask your son what steps he wants to take in his transition.
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The first thing you do is let them explore the implications⌠seek out education, and maybe find a therapist that specializes in this kind of stuff.
But donât EVER deny your childâs reality.
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Nope- theyâll her that when she turns 21- her body is her own to do with as she pleases- butt not until!!0
Please keeps things positive. You donât have to agree or support but you will not be rude.
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I think a first good step would be to sit with them and truly try to understand what theyâre feeling and how and why⌠a deeper understanding of what theyâre thinking and feeling may hold more direction in how to offer support than asking a bunch of people with opinions.
At 12 years old I wanted to be a contortionist 
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This generations âtrendâ
My generation trend was Swatch watches, Guess jeans and Out Back Red Sweaters⌠times have changed.
You can change the way you look on the outside, buy those expensive clothes⌠but your still the same on the inside.
Trends come and go.
⌠And you can argue " trendy" all you want, but never in my 47yrs have I heard so much about this.
I wanted everything my school aged friends had tooâŚ
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You should both get a good therapist to make sure your child is able to communicate her feelings and then help process both your childâs and your feelings. Continue to love and support your child. as a parent I feel this requires open and honest communications, an objective person to assist in processing feelings and implementing the steps in transitioning however your child is most comfortable doing so.
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Wait until she is 18â:blue_heart:
Good luck.
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He sounds like he knows what heâs wanting to do, at that age a lot of young trans kids know. You should be thankful that he felt comfortable enough to tell you, a lot of kids donât because theyâre worried of being disowned or shunned. Support him. Too many young kids lose their lives over this, too many parent lose their babies by not supporting what makes them comfortable. You donât have to agree to surgeries and hormones prior to them being 18, but let him cut his hair, let him get guy clothes, let him know you support him. Itâs all you can do. And Iâm telling you it changes everything when your parent supports your decision.
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A pretty interesting insightâŚ
Unconditional love no matter what. Communication is most important. Talk it out, and help him/her navigate through their feelings. Maybe they simply like girls, but think they have to transition to a boy. Many angles to look at this. Let them grow, and mature and always be there for support.
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By law she is required to wait until she is a legal adult⌠good luck to you and your daughter. Sounds to me like maybe she may be confused about being gay. Nothing wrong with being gay but at 12 she is not mentally mature to make that decision.
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You need to be there and support your now son, they love you very much and this was a very hard thing for them to tell you and i understand it can be hard for you as a mother but try doing small things take him shopping let him get some boy clothes and let him feel safe in your home. It can be very drastic if you donât theres a lot of people in this world who will make fun of him you need to be his safe place. Try joining groups for moms going through the same thing and do not let anyone including family say anything to him negative. Love and support your child take them to pride parades. Talk more to your child about this and if your child decides to start hormones later on be there and support them.
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So young. Too young. If I had the choice to change my gender at that age I would of jumped on it, because the thought of being a girl who likes girls was scary and against âGods willâ ⌠well as a 31yr old adult I still have days that I donât feel like my gender and would love to change bodies but then Again I have multiple personalities 
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This may be the âinâ thing right now, but how many things were you absolutely positive about at 13 that came and went in your life? Thirteen is very young to make such a life changing choice. Give it time. Donât make a big deal about it. This may pass, or it may not. There is no rush. Let your child know you love them, no matter what their choice may be.
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Support in his decision but do not make any medical changes or take any medication. 13 is too young to make life altering decisions. In my opinion
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Be supportive, but also explain that a 13 y/o does not fully understand him/herself. Puberty and childhood can be SO confusing. I would wait till at least 16 to discuss an actual transition. Until then, they can dress how they want. Up to age 14 I loved to dress like a boy and wear baggy pants and tshirts BUT that is not who I am today and would be pissed if my parents had allowed my immature self decide on a transition
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Iâd speak to a professional who specializes in this area so I learn how best to support them.
Itâs hard to in your shoes my daughter is that way she hates it when I call her daughter her she
Personally, I would let them express themselves however they wanted, with clothes and hair cut, toys, what pronoun they wish to go by. If it does turn out to be a phase for them then no harm no foul, they can change clothes and go their hair back out. Its not like they are taking hormone blockers or something yet.
Just try and remember the suicide rate for trans people. Its astronomical.
99% of the time is because they donât feel loved and accepted by their family.
Just be there for your kid, no matter what.
Not even old enough to buy cigs but ready to make that decision. This world is crazy. 
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The exact same thing happened to me, embrace it , I asked the school for support and theyve been amazing at knowing how ask all the right things and support appropriately if they feel more support is needed they will do that for you. Just ask what you can do to help, use the correct pro nouns and more than anything communicate with your child, my child loves me to ask questions about it and quite frankly I needed the education, I feel most people do.
Please remember to keep things respectful. You may not agree with this, but we will not tolerate ANY rudeness.
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She is 13! Let you dress and act like a boy if thatâs how she feels but she is way to young for any kind of transition let her decide that when she is an adult
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I remember when I was 12/13 and started developing breasts. I absolutely hated this and bound myself with an ace wrap. This is an age where a child is changing so fast that itâs hard to keep up with who they are. A lot of REALLY uncomfortable changes are happening to their bodies. I think maybe a therapist would help them to work through their feelings. I personally wouldnât do hormone treatments or anything surgery related until theyâre an adult, because it took me a long time to figure out who I was too.
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Just because they have not told you anything, doesnât mean they havenât felt it.
So many parents out there arenât good parents.
Children feel scared to coming out to their parents out of fear, & rejection.
Your child probably did not feel safe in telling you how they felt all this time.
Ask them,
âWhat do you want me to call you? What are your pronouns? Do you want a new name? How far are you wanting to express your gender at this age?â
Be INTERESTED. BE THERE.
Love your child, and RESPECT them.
You donât have to agree with surgery right now. And there are some types of hormone blockers for trans teens IF your child wants to do that.
Some trans kids donât want to medically transition at all their whole life.
Ask your child. Follow their lead.
Be a good mom. Love your child, and support themâŚ. Please donât ignore your child.
Good luck to you both.
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Iâd be supportive. but anything permanent or life altering will wait til 18 if they still felt it was something they want to do. Iâd also have them see a therapist because itâs very common to just be confused and end up regretting what happened.
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No one gets to say when or what is age appropriate for someone to transition. Everyone is different. Support for you both will be a great place to start. You will both need it.
Be supportive and love that child with your all. Such a brave young girl you have there.
I have a friend who has a son now he will be 15 now he transitioned a while ago. He is so much more vibrant now and happy in himself. Before he transitioned he was ashamed of who he was. He is now thriving big time.
Each to their own really.
Love will get you throughđ
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Being a female is beautiful, and I think we need to learn to embrace the good, bad & ugly so we can be comfortable with who we are⌠I think counseling would honestly be the best, because you mentioned she has not expressed interest prior, maybe an outside person can help her sort out her feelings & emotions to allow her to choose who she really wants to be & how she wants to identify before she makes any big life changing decisionsâŚ
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I am in the same boat. My 14 came to me and said they want to transition. We do counseling and changed name and pronouns. His pediatrician will it start hormones until he is over 18 because he may change his mind again and the hormone therapy is hard on such a young body. For now be supportive and get them into a good supportive therapist who is familiar with the alphabet mafia!
I would support my kids no matter what but I wouldnât support early transition
I felt whack as a preteen or teen
I would want them to wait till atleast 17 to be certain it was what they wanted
Itâs a very serious choice to change and go on all those hormones etc
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Hold up⌠therapy!? Is that the best you can come up with.
If it was depression, well yeah⌠but, this is gender identity, it shouldnât be looked as if it needs â fixingâ.
Let them freely express themselves but for any life changing impacts ( meds, surgery) wait until legal age. Otherwise all they need is more love and encouragement to explore it rather oppressing that journey.
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I would find out what, in the mainstream media, is influencing her. If it seems to be a random thing sheâs decided, it is likely something like that.
Regardless of what caused it, I would definitely put her in some kind of counseling. That is not normal. I hope youâre able to get your girl back. Good luck, Mama. Iâll be praying for you while you navigate this journey.
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They may have been too scared to say anything. If they feel that could bring them closer to be their true self, I would absolutely fully support my baby wanting to transition. Itâs your job as their mother to make sure that they are happy within their own skin. Take them to a therapist that is familiar with transgender children, and together they can figure out what your baby is going through. Please, be supportive of your baby, you donât have to understand and may never understand what they are going through. But just be by their side and help them along
As a trans kid myself, let them express themself how tbey want and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE respect their pronouns and name change (if any) even if they change their mind thats okay! Growing up and having issues with gender is alot to handle and having supportive parents is something every kid deserves/ needs.
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Support them but wait until their brains stop forming and growing before medication and surgery. I was all over the place at 13. Let your kid grow first.
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Thereâs a trigger somewhere. Thereâs always a reason. Most times the worst reasons. Be supportive but please find the reasons. It may be something you could help with. And trust me she will have a change of heart. As teenagers we all at a point wanted to be someone else or change something about our bodies. We would wish we had better hair, longer legs, more beautiful, thinner, taller etc. Sheâs going through that phase. Find her reasons and help her see she doesnât need to change. Being yourself and loving yourself is the greatest awareness and love of all.
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Connect with local lgbtqia people, take him to a doctor that has experience with helping people transition so he can find out what it will take medically, find support groups for you. You love your child and want whatâs best for them so you should seek help if you feel like you are grieving for the loss of your daughter. Try to focus on your son and learn the lingo so it doesnât come off as insensitive by saying the wrong words / pronouns. Be accepting and nothing but love.
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13 is a young age. But there are some kids that just know at that age who they are. I would tell her I love her and support her decision. But changing her gender now is a little early. And if she still feels this way when she becomes an adult, then she should go all for it. Because my feelings for her wont change. Shes still my baby. And I want her to be sure of herself. That this is who she wants to be 100 percent. Because theres no going back. If she asks if she start dressing like a boy ok no problem, hair cut short like one ok. But having a sexchange will need to wait until she becomes an adult of her own. Iâll tell her lets figure this out together. So we can find who she (or maybe future he) is.
1st I would see a functional medical dr to see if she has any hormone/mineral/vitamin imbalances, parasites, heavy metals, mycotoxins, emfs, bacteria, fungas/candida, gut biome test etcâŚ
You will find these things will have a huge bearing on behaviour.
Do a cleanse over the years and try and get the body balanced and in optimal condition then see how she feels.
I actually find it interesting that not one single person in this thread (that I have read anyway) has spoken about the gut brain connection.
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So she never expressed wanting to change before, I would definitely hold off, maybe see a specialist and make sure that it is 100% something my daughter wanted. And wasnt just a phase or thought. During that time, I would allow they/them to dress and look more of a boy to help aid in seeing if this is what they truly wanted
As a Grandmother with a 13 year old trans Granddaughter, I support them 100%! Only THEY know exactly how they feel, not me. I let them be who they want them to be and support them. What an amazing and happy Granddaughter I have!
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At 13, children are going through a lot. Confused about life, their body changing, etc⌠I would not give any time of hormones or any other invasive actions to physically change. Let her mature and grow up mentally and physically. Then let her decide. I do so believe that kids are going with trends right now to get attention.
Be there, be supportive, find a therapist that specializes in this area so she can really work through what he is feeling. Make an appointment for him to talk to a doctor about what the transition entails. Help her to get all the information he and you need. Family counseling so you are all on the same page mentally and emotionally. Everything happens for a reason and the universe will guide you.
First off well done mumma for asking questions and seeking advice, you clearly love your child as a parent should-unconditionally! My advice is to take her to buy a few staple items of clothing that she feels suits how she would like to present, tell, and show her that you love her regardless and support her decision, and that any permanent changes need to be something youâll be open to discuss but that she should wait to make those decisions later down the line.
My coworkers daughter transitioned I believe around that age. My coworker is male but he has been extremely supportive he made a public announcement on Facebook about the change and what he wanted to be called! He is now 16 just got his license he seems to be doing great and his dad is extremely proud of him!
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Love her/him the same. Sit done and talk with an open mind. Just let her/him know you are there with no judgment. She/he and I put it that way because I donât know how she/he wants to be identified as. Now a days with peopleâs opinions coming out about it, she/he may have felt scared to scared to say something because of the transition topic these days.
Support her and help the transition. You donât have to do anything but be your babyâs mom. Nothingâs changing that, be supportive and understanding, even if you may not like all of it
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I would honestly just try and be as supportive as possible but I would definitely have them talk to a professional not because thereâs anything wrong with transitioning but itâs just such a young age that I would want them to make sure of the decision they were making and whatever they decided I would love them regardless and still think of them as my beautiful child that I gave birth to.
My child now being referred to as male is 12 and since coming saying he is trans the violent out burst have stopped and I have not had to repair holes in walls he is only 12 and I understand that is young but my theory is âimma let him explore the rainbow, I hope he enjoys every colourâ
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I would for sure support her wanting to dress act feel a boy, BUT kindly i would not allow any medical transition help her prepare and research for this if its something she still wants when she is 18 and makes her own adult decisions. Its okay that they want this but it is an adult decision for hormones/medicine/surgery/etc.
If you are both ready before then thats great but i would help her get there slowly and have her back when she needs you. Sorry for all the pronouns.
My daughter is 12 and we have been going through this since she was 10. At 10 she came out and told me she was bi, from her I am learning all these new terms and now since she has gotten her period she has recently started telling me she hates boobs. She hates having them or even developing them and wears tight sports bras. She went thro a spat of using different pronouns but she mainly dresses and acts like a boy. I just let her be
Let your child choose there hair style and clothes. If they donât feel comfortable how they are it could be a faze or it could be the start of their new life. Just go with the flow because at 13 surgery or any extreme change is out of the question but you can help with the things you can change. Call them by the name they choose and let them pick their clothes out. Go to thrift store and let them pick out new clothes. Accepting your childâs feelings goes a long way to helping them except what they are feeling. You know your child and making them happy and healthy is all that matters. Forget all the negative things people say because at the end of the day you are the one taking care of your family not anyone else.
Mine was 14 when they told me. Their 20th birthday was in March. We had a talk about it and came to the conclusion they are non binary. Our kids know who they are. We, as parents, just need to start listening better and accept our kids for who they are and not who we think they should be.
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My daughter wanted to be a boy when she was around that ageâŚthen after a year she went back to being a girl 
she told her pediatrician who kept trying to get me to take her to a special clinic and I refusedâŚand look, it all wouldâve been for nothingâŚ
obviously itâs a big change, but start with what the eye can see, cut their hair, let them change their pronouns, get them a new wardrobe or help them adjust with what they have, i think learning to express and see how they feel about in all possibilities itâll help them fully realize either yes, this is how i want to be always or they change their mind, i have an 11 year old cousin going thru the same thing
No matter what, that is still your child. 13 is an awkward year and they are figuring themself out. Be there with open arms and love. Encourage them to express themselves through their clothing, hair, ect. If its feasible for you, maybe a therapist or counselor would be helpful for them to navigate these feelings. Find yourself some likewise groups for parents of trans children or some literature to educate yourself further for their sake. My daughter is 1.5 but I know, so long as my baby finds her happiness in this crazy world, I am happy for her and that love is unwavering. 
The best thing you can do is support him. This is his body and if he feels more comfortable using he/him pronouns and using baggier clothing let him. The best thing you can do is be his safe space and accept him
Letting a child make a decision at 12 that will have a lasting effect on their entire lives is a big NO from me. I would be there for them 100% otherwise.
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Iâd support him 100%. Thatâs my baby and Iâll be damned if Iâm the first person that doesnât accept them for who they are.
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I would love my child no matter what but with that being said- I l am going to stick with no changes until after 18. You see as children they go through many emotions and as their bodies change those emotions do as well. Hell our children want to be something at 5 and then something completely different at 13. They are always changing and trying to figure who they are and even what they are. So let them express themselves in their clothing, hair and activities until they figure that out at an age where they then donât need your permission. Doesnât mean you donât love and understand them⌠it just means that you want them to be fully assured of what they want to be.
Just support her and be there for her, or him. Take them to a counselor so they can be sure. Once they decide just love them. Protect them. People are cruel and ignorant
He. Be supportive. And honestly. If you cant support your kids no matter what then you shouldnât have them.
I kissed girls when I was a kid and my first crush was a girl. I wanted to be a boy like my twin brother⌠As an adult with my fully developed brain and in my own personal experience Iâm not like that at all now and Iâm very much a lady⌠I have a husband and wouldnât want to be with any women⌠And I have two kids and straighter than straight now that Iâm all grown up. Give her time just in case⌠Just in case sheâs like I was. It took awhile for me to know just what I needed⌠Years and yearsâŚ
I would allow her to do so in terms of appearance I would start there clothing, hair style. 13 is very young still I would tell her you support her decision. Begin to use him/ his terms as far as referencing him. If she has began her menstrual I would suggest a birth control that will stop periods until sheâs roughly 15-16 if she still feels like she is a boy then start to explore testosterone and the things of the nature. Whatever she decided remind her she is loved and that when she is a little older she will be more comfortable knowing someone has her best interest.
I would support her in every way but tell her to just transgender until sheâs older to make sure itâs not a phase
Honestly i would just ask her what changes she wants to make. Like hair,clothes,hormones,or what it means and looks like to her. Then do your best to make those changes happen with your support. And i think you are a stellar parent for being open and asking how to help
I would start with a psychologist and therapist just to help you and the child better understand whatâs going on and what this means and if this is something that they really want. In the meantime before you make any major decisions I would start with stuff small like letting them pick more boyish stuff like change their hair change their clothes and stuff like that. Try to be understanding and keep in mind they are still the child they were before they are just expressing how they honestly feel now thereâs a chance maybe they were afraid or just didnât fully understand it themselves just yet and now theyâre starting to understand whatâs going on.
We as parents should be supportive of our children as they figure out who they are. What harm is it going to do to call your child by a different pronoun or let them dress differently? If itâs âjust a phaseâ cool, theyâve figured out thatâs not what they wanted, however, if they truly do want to transition later in life and you arenât supportive now they may never come to you again because of it. My daughter (12) came to me a few months ago and said they are nonbinary and would like to be addressed with they/them pronouns, but understands that Iâm their mom and I can still say she if I want to. I try to use their proper pronouns as much as possible to be accepting of who they are as an individual. Itâs hard switching as a parent, theyâve been she their entire life, but I want them to know I love them regardless. Just asking questions to get a better understanding of what they need from you is a great start. Discuss it with them, let them know youâre trying to understand and are accepting of them no matter what. If theyâre mature enough to say they want to transition listen to their opinions. Theyâre people too, and they need guidance and love from us in this cruel world. You got this momma 
Iâd let her express herself as far as how she dresses, if she wants to use a nickname she feels more comfortable with, ect. But I wouldnât support any kind of surgeries or hormones until they were an adult and it is safe to do so. Be supportive. Fighting them will only push them away. Maybe there was some childhood trauma causing gender dysphoria, or maybe they are just having a hard time finding who they are. I wouldnât make any huge decisions at this age though.
My friend is a transgender MTF. Heâs absolutely miserable now and wants to turn back AFTER years of hormone therapy. He tried to open up to his LGBT support group and they bashed him for wanting to be who he was born as. Called him a trader, a fake, and shoved the reasons why he transitioned in his face. He reintroduced himself to me as who he was born as. But to the rest of his world, heâs stuck as erica and has been extremely mentally unstable since. Iâm afraid my friend will commit suicide because heâs now stuck in a body that isnât his and he doesnât want. He said when it comes down to it, transgender started for the drug and sex scene.
Sounds like that group is pretty closed minded.
It also goes against my beliefs. I can respect your opinion on the matter, can you respect mine?
If sheâs serious about the transition she would need a readiness assessment that would help her mentally and everything physically can be done afterwards. This is to make sure that this is what she truly wants and they will work with her
I have absolutely no idea of what advice to give a mom but I do know I would love and support my child in any way. I would also probably have to unfriend some people on social media. Good luck to you mama
I mean I can say it would be shocking. Obviously thats your little girl and thatâs what you may have expected or wanted but it is her life/body and if she was truly that serious about it i would be willing to work with her to get what she wanted. Idk about starting hormones/anything permanent right away because she is so young. Let her have more time to figure it out or whatever but if she wanted to go ahead and dress like a male by all means do it.
You love your kid, right? You want the them to be happy? Let them be themselves. -transkid mom
Well me being a strict ish parent my kid canât even choose to dye his hair or get piercings til heâs 16 let alone change his gender. Life changing decisions should be done when theyâre a little older and know a little more about it.
I have a few family memebers and friends with the same situation. I researched it and found that itâs pretty much a fad. That itâs social pressure not to like or accept who you are, itâs the new cool thing to want to be a boy. Itâs mostly hitting girls in her age group. Iâll see if I can find the video of the expert I watched. She said if this were a real thing, we would see women in their 40âs and 50âs now changing genders because they can. We arenât seeing that at all. Being a girl going through puberty is HARD doesnât mean you jump ship and change your gender (which is biologically impossible) We have seen kids really tank when theyâve changed their gender and still suffer depression and increased suicidal thoughts because the one thing they thought would cure all their problems, doesnât. Your an XY chromosome or XX and nothing will change that. Learn to live who you are.
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My daughter went through many phases (this being one) and I supported every one of them, they need our love and unconditional support and respect 
Support your child adapt to a new name (if they choose to change it), change their pronouns to what they like, take them shopping/haircut, etc. Just support and love them.
Also some of these comments 
same people that donât even let their child decide if they wanna be religious or not BUT thatâs a entire different conversation. Please take the time to educate yourselves about the difference of gender and sexuality. You will find this isnât just a âtrendâ is has been going on well before the internet.
Just love your baby momma. He/she will decide who he/she wants to be. Be supportive and talk with her/him as often as you can.
Your job as a parent is to love your child unconditionally and allow them to openly express and be who they want to be. You are the safe space and learning to accept who he wants to be starts with you. Maybe he wanted to do research and figure everything out before bringing it up to you incase you had any questions.
Let him start to explore his gender identity. Let him get hair cuts he wants, pick out new clothes, ask if heâd prefer a different name and make sure other people in his life donât mis-gender and mis-name him.
The idea of âthey donât know themselves yet!â Is absolute bullshit, because none of these parents arguing that would lay the same argument for cisgender kids 
if cis kids can know who they are, trans and non-binary kids can too.
I am here for my son, no matter what. The same goes for any future children as well. G is only 2 right now, but when he is old enough to articulate which gender he feels he is or whatever his sexual orientation may be, I will be here. 1000% ride or die. I will forever be his biggest supporter, cheerleader, advocate, etc. If you canât love and support your children through whatever comes their way, send them my way - Iâll love them for you.
Not circus not my monkeys but 18 years of age is the legal age to consent to sex 18 years should be required for consent to change gendersâŚ. But I would support her in the emotional and mental things she could be experiencing
Let her dress how she wants but nothing major medically should be done till she is 18
That is just my opinion
I would immediately hug my child and thank them for feeling safe telling me. I would start looking for a doctor who does puberty blockers to buy them more time.
Another thing I would do immediately is honor their choice of pronouns.
Please, no hate. My struggle with this is the community I live in. If my child were to identify as LGBTQ+ I would be supportive, however, where I live itâs a very close minded community. Bullying is already horrible and I can imagine even more so if a child were to identify as LGBTQ+. My fear would be the horrible negativity they would face in our community. I understand you cannot shield your children from everything nor can you be embarrassed to be who you are but at the same time as a mom you want to protect your child at all costs. How do you explain that to your child? Also, family⌠grandparents that love your child but feel this is a âphaseâ or the child is just influenced by peers/social media. My feelings are that may be true but donât tell my child that. Once you dismiss their feelings as their feelings you ruin that open relationship, youâre telling them theyâre wrong. How do you tell that grandparent, kindly, to shut it? Sorry this is so long but this post opened up the perfect convo and people on here seem to have some good advice. For those ignorant people, donât waste your time commenting. Thanks!
If it were me would be accepting and encouraging of my daughterâs choices but I would arrange for a meeting with a child therapist that deals with gender identity and transition. If she is true to her heart about wanting to transition than the counselor can prepare her for the physical and emotional changes. If it turns out your daughter maybe does not actually feel as if she is a male then it will be realized before any physical transitioning is done
I donât have any experience in this field but I would say 12 years old is way too young to be deciding to be a different gender. I would think those decisions need to be made when sheâs more mature. Support her completely all the way. Regardless of the decision she makes.
Unfortunately gender identity has become such a huge issue in our teens that they are pressured by others to identify themselves. It has even gotten to a point that when you say straight, they are questioned about not at least being Pan sexual or A sexual. Realistically many of our kids get to 13/14 and are forced to identify themselves and then struggle with identifying themselves by being in a relationship to enforce that identity.
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Id Tell her when she is old enough
When sheâs research all the pros and cons of this transition, When she discovers how incredibly harmful it can be, And has more wisdom the knowledge.
Go for broke
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As someone whom is lgbt myself, people simply are who they are. I would recommend taking her to an lgbt inclusive and informed counselor to have a professional speak with your child and help them, help you, give recommendations for next steps.
Communication. Be as open as you can. Talk to experts. Do you research. Therapy for you and your child with someone familiar with the lgbtq community. Talk to you childâs doctor ad well so they can hear what the process is to transition. And be open to anything that is not permanent that the child can try. New clothes or hair for example.
When sheâs an adult she can do whatever she wants. Until then. Itâs a hard no.
Support her feelings but make her wait. If she wants to wear boy clothes and whatnot, fine. But make her wait until sheâs old enough to make her decisions as an adult. It could be a phase and she could just be a tomboy. If not, thatâs fine too. Tell her she doesnât have to dress like a girl but no serious changes until sheâs old enough to make the decision legally and pay for it herself.
Sheâs too young for something so permanent. She may just be influenced by the media or people around her.
I think nothing medically yet but if he wants to be male and let him live that way and when he is 18 ect can do stuff properly as at 18 your old enough to know whatâs what xx
You can let her/him do the simple stuff first, like let them cut their hair (it will grow back on the off chance that itâs just a faze), clothes shopping in the boy section (theyâre only clothes), call him the he/him pronouns, and refer to him as your son. If on the off chance that this is just a faze, it can all be reversed, hair will grow back, she can go back to girl clothes (or stay in boy clothes, theyâre more comfortable anyway), and go back to she/her pronouns.
I think asking adult trans people would be a great way to come to your answer.
I believe there are people of many preferences. I also believe itâs been turned into a popularity contest in ages 10-14 at the schools and have listened to the girls go off about each preference and then change their minds. Itâs cool
Not to be straight right now and thatâs what parents need to realize. Society says of your uncomfortable you must be something else. Make them wait. Say ok thatâs great your waiting until your brain finishes itâs primary development before making a decision like that. Dress how you want we did. I have a 17 year olds 11 year olds down to 10 month old and pregnant. I can honestly tell you. The first two the schools started at about age 12 pushing nonheterosexual
The next two were pushed this year at 10&11. So the girls are 5 years apart and the age they start pushing sex has also changed by three or four years. I say let them eat cake and get muddy they can worry about that stuff after high school. Nobody said they couldnât be what they want. But even our whole lives we were told not to conform to what is popular just because everyone jumped. Like the cliff question. This has been turned into a cliff question. And sexuality now has its own parade and national holiday. Yet weâre complaining about kids being used in the sex trade and still pushing kids to be Sexually confirmed by age 10. This is rediculous.
In the context itâs like making a baby decide how it gonna die at age 80. We have to stop pushing our kids and let them just love and live and be kids. So sad
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