Let her smoke weed but put boundaries don’t treat it like other drugs. Or shell think that snorting a line is just as acceptable as smoking a joint
you have to be firm your daughter has siblings your way or the highway call police tell them she is incorrigeable and has to leave your home now ( sad but some youths never change)
Ur house, ur rules, so enforce them. She don’t like it? Tell her to move out nd support herself. That’s it. No questions about it.
Be glad she’s smoking pot and not shooting up heroin.
I grew up like most of these comments, where no you don’t do drugs, drink, or party, or sleep around. But there is a culture in our country where 1. Drugs are legal, 2. Sleeping around is permitted. Its NO BIG DEAL ON THE WEST COAST. But in the rest of our country it’s NOT OK, AND NOT SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE. I agree old enough to disrespect rules, drive them to the shelter. Emancipate that one. Dont argue , set BOUNDARIES and stick to them like glue. They’ll thank you when they are grown up.
Well, I’m not sure if marajuana is legal where you live or age to permit of legal recreationally. One thing is sure. Blocking numbers on your phone needs to be delt with. 18 or 50. Your phone is your private property. No one should have your code or password. Smoking at school is strictly prohibited everywhere… that needs to be addressed legally… smoking at home alone in the bathroom is another story… what is causing her to want to be disassociated or high while at home? This 18 year old is attempting to be numb feeling wise. Why? She is in your house. It’s one thing when peers are present and another when alone. One thing is sure. Marajuana may not be the worst drug out there, however, it is a gateway drug and normally leads to other substances. I cant tell you what to do. I can tell you there is something at the bottom of the drug use. You need to address that issue by whatever means possible. Counseling, is probably going to be what she needs. Some people just have addictive personalities. Some can use any drug and stop. Some cant. I wish you the best and am praying for your family.
Relax. Its only a little weed, and she’s an adult. 
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I would suggest sending her to counseling. She’s self medicating.
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Call the police, let her explain it to them…teach the hard way young.
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My house, my rules! Age matters not,!
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I had to send mine out of the house… but he had graduated several months before… it had been an issue… and he was smoking and trying to move a girl in the lower level of our home. We have other children and the conversations multiple times. He wanted the girl to live in our home or he threatened to leave. After a run in with the police for having weed in OUR car… that was a lease… that we had leased for his use…we finally had to tell him. If you want to live by your own rules, you have to suffer from the effects of your own decisions… not the rest of your siblings and family… we honestly couldn’t help him any further. It was time for him to grow up and make his decisions as he chose… not under our roof. I offered to help him find an apartment and get him set up, but he chose to leave that day. He lives in an apartment with the same girl… high likely all the time and definitely not living the life I’d hoped for him… but it’s the one he seems at peace with. He doesn’t come around unless the world is crashing in and needs money… I miss him terribly… hopeful and pray that one day… it will turn around. I’ll always be by his side… even if doesn’t think that’s the case and even if he rather I not be for now
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I suggest you lay the law down, its your house, your rules. If she wants to move out then up to her. Can’t be a friend and parent. You have to choose one or the other. As a step dad, I have told my wife this many times because when we met her daughter ran all over her because she was trying to be a friend. Once she figured that out, she started acting like a parent and her daughter now respects her as a parent.
Its just weed:rofl:
damn chill out smoke a little it’ll help:rofl:
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Heck naaw talk to a counselor to get help … u got other siblings in the house and they will do it if u dont put a stop to it… i dk abt ya but this is just a start get her HELP…
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Tell her to smoke outside…
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A good sound thrashing works most of the time.
Yes stick her in weed rehab, while there she can start using pills to cover up the real reason she even started smoking pot. Have you even thought as to way she is smoking weed in the first place. Please by all means rush her to take pills for those underlying issues. And then you will really know what is like to have a child of yours addicted to drugs. Please put your child in counseling, find out with the issues are that made her start smoking weed in the first place. Would you rather your child on an herb that is now used for many medical purposes or put her on a bunch of chemicals that can cause worse issues and make her truly sick until they find the right chemicals that “help” her. This is your child and you need to get to the underlying issues first off.
She could be doing a lot worse. She’s 18, if she’s doing something you don’t agree with and she thinks she’s grown, then kick her out.
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She in the shower 
turn off the hot water 
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Good luck, maybe counseling?
Simple. Follow the rules or get out.
Yall are suggesting grounding a (legal ) adult… taking a phone etc…
I smoked at that age… I dont think much my parents doing would have made a difference…
Idk hope my kid isnt like me 
Take her phone TV anything else she likes and don’t let her go out with her friends.
I’d have called the police on her. Idgaf, my house, my rules
tell her no more or she is out of the house
It’s just weed… Calm down Karen
Weed is legal in a lot of states as it should be
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If she’s money for weed she’s got money to start paying u for her staying there…start with that!!
Bist that ass. Bare bottom with a belt!
Violation of probation?? Juvenile Hall or jail, unfortunately!
Tell her the house rules.
Everytime she smoke weed smoke that ass.
Pray. Maybe try to get her into like a hobby or a program or something that gives her something to do and peace of mind
She’s showing you she doesn’t respect you. I would tell her that what she does outside of your house is her business (once she’s 18, which she’s not) but if she does it in your house again, she can find somewhere else to live. Has nothing to do with whether it should or should not be legal. Cigarettes are legal but most people wouldn’t want you smoking in their home and it’s illegal under 21 just to smoke cigarettes. Where is she getting the money to pay for it? Stop giving her money and turn off her phone. Don’t give her any car keys. If she gets stopped and has drugs in the car, you will be paying to get your car out of impound. If she goes to jail again, don’t bail her out. Time for some tough love. (No matter what anyone says, it smells like skunk and your car and clothes and home will smell like it too. Yes, even the good stuff. Y’all just don’t notice anymore. It’s not legal in her state and she could lose her other children.)
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What do you prefer: your daughter smoking weed or pick a different drug. If you take the weed away, do you think she’ll try something else?
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Lordy 
sending you prayers 
. I’m so glad I didn’t have that kind of problems with my boys
Unfortunately once she turns 18 you are not privy to her school reports unless she says you can get them. Or medical records, or anything. She is an adult. Rule in our house was, if you want to live here and have us support you, I will be given access to ALL of your school records, medical history, grades, passwords to your computer and total access to your room. I will not Snoop, but you will not break the law as long as you are under our support. Don’t like it? There is the door. We love our children dearly and would move mountains for them. We do not have to put up with illegal activity and we will not be held hostage by a little adult wanna be in our own home. When you love someone you need to also love them enough to allow them to have natural consequences. My daughter pulled the “I don’t have to let you have access to my educational progress”. Fine. “I don’t fill out the FAFSA form. I don’t pay for your room and board. I don’t pay for crap”. Only took about a half a month for me to get the results I was asking for. You are her parent not her friend. Set the ground rules and be consistent.
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Bust that ass big time
Your house your rules. If she wants the protection and benefits of living at your home then she needs to follow your rules.
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Take from her… her phone… her car… her bedroom door … whatever she has that you give her you take … very disrespectful to you and her younger siblings to think she is allowed to smoke pot in your house…YOUR house… hopefully you can talk to her and let her know why she shouldn’t be smoking but if your 17 year old child has the balls to puff in your house you have to lay down the law
Love her. Say hey don’t do dumb shit in school. Do it at home outside. It’s gonna be legal soon like cigarettes. Keep your baby safe from rape and stuff that can happened out there. If she’s gonna do it they will.
Kick her ass out. If she is 18 and considered an adult, Make her take adult consenquesnces. It wont kill her. If you dont want it in your home, then dont tolerate it. If you have no consenquences for her, she will never respect your rules
I mean when she could stop and attend college in a legal state if she focused on school more. I don’t think ots harmful except for the fact that it’s apparently illegal where you are and she’s too young to mess up her future with something so dumb
Turn her into authorities before the habit gets worse.
Shes 18, theres nothing you can do. Just b glad its not meth
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Send her ungrateful ass to a group home.
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I may get hate for this but whatever. Talk to her and be understanding. The harder you are the more you’ll push her away. It honestly could be alot worse. My kids are still babies but if it were me in the situation id honestly be greatful they were under my roof doing it. The world is so scary. I’d hate to chase my child putting fear into them where they’d be using elsewhere with God knows who that could potentially lacing it with God knows what. They’re gona experiment no matter what you say or do. And with people lacing even weed with deadly stuff it’s scary. I’d much rather them be under my watchful eye incase something were to happen then God forbid them out with people you don’t know who don’t care like you do if anything were to ever happen. But that’s just me. Give me hell if need be. But it’s a scary world out there. They’re gona experiment regardless of where. I’d rather be safe then sorry.
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Take her phone for a month and then next time she gets in trouble for weed, take it permanently. Then if she gets caught again, take her car. Then if she gets caught kick her out. Tough love now from you or she may end up with tough love from the court.
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Look up the laws n regs in ur state for med mj, try to talk to her about her stress n how it helps or get her talk therapy/ eval,look at alternatives to deal til u can get legal…sidenote they make cbd with zero thc…I take it for anxiety.helps alot.
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If she’s considered a legal adult (and chose to block the school from your contact list) in your state then treat her like one. If you don’t agree with it then it’s your house and your rules, it’s time for her to find her own place to do as she wishes. If you want to implement rules that she can smoke and not bring it in the home or around the younger kids then have a sit down conversation, lay down ground rules and call it a day.
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Talk like adults, if you punish her or be mean, it won’t stop her and she can basically get it anywhere these days and she will do it behind your back. Just my opinion. My kids are honest with me and we’ve talked about it already. I trust them. Sometimes being hard on them just makes them want to do it more. 
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Tough love. Don’t want it in your house? She’s 18 - change the locks. If she cant respect the rules of your house she doesn’t deserve to live there. Pack what is hers, not what you bought her, and off she goes. She’ll figure it out if she’s such an “adult".
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Teach her how and where to smoke it properly. Marijuana isn’t a big deal in my house, I will partake on the rare occasion, I had to teach my eldest son, 20yrs, how to medicate his anxiety because no one else would. It’s not an enemy, it’s a medication and a tool. If you make a big deal about it, it will only make it worse.
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Honestly as a teen who grew up as a rebel…just have that talk with her and her being 18 almost just allow her to and she’ll have to learn from her mistakes! If you try to stop her she will just rebel even more and possibly do worse!
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She’s almost 18? She’s gonna do it regardless then. Talk to her, maybe you guys could come to an agreement that you have her smoke outside in the garage. By trying to punish her for it will only make it worse& Honestly it could be worse she could be out getting drunk and catching stds…
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She will have to learn punishments on her own. My dad use to keep a drug test in the house to make sure he could give me randoms whenever so I never dared do any drugs
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Get her a therapist to help her through the trauma of being fatherless (or whatever is causing her to turn to pot) or a med card so she can smoke legally.
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Oh Hell no! When I caught my daughter she had serious consequences including random drug tests. But if she wants to act like an adult (like I told my 19) pay rent and buy your own food and toiletries and I wouldn’t tell u shit. Let him know my job was done and I choose to do everything I do for him out of love. Guess what she stopped smoking at home and my 19 year olds attitude changed real quick. Also keep them busy. Lots of extra curricular activities. And yes I still random testy daughter
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U want to know something this is hard but do able everybody’s so it’s legal " and I dont give a flying ***k have you’ve seen or got high yourself that shit make you upid on so many levels that they do it behind your back pure pressure fitting in, youth extra ,extra, extra, dont be afraid to woop sum ass your kids will thank u I want my kids to fear me enough to respect my home car . That parents have all the answers ‘no’ we dont if u love your kids talk and talk to them until your blue in the face I promise one thing as a parent you’ll sleep better at night! And hopefully your talks will always be on there minds and pray and finally good luck👍
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I’m in a legal state, the age to smoke cigarettes is 18, for pot it’s 21. Be honest with her about how you feel about it and that you wish she would stop, she probably won’t though. She was held as an adult, treat her like one. Tell her if she is going to continue to smoke anyway pot she needs to do it outside out of site and make sure she doesn’t expose the younger children to it.
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Let her do it, If you don’t she’s going to go looking for something harder. You’d also rather have her doing it at home then out in the streets as out there she’s more likely to be approached my somebody offering something more then a little pot zz. Seriously, Yes you may not like it but give her a certain space and time where she can do it at home and only then zz
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Your house your rules momma. If they treat her like an adult in the school than treat her like one.
If she’s got good grades, can hold her own. Let her. But lay some ground rules down.
I for sure would at least let her know. We have young children in this house. Don’t do that around them.
She’s gonna keeping smoking regardless if you tell her no and punish her. It’ll push her to be sneaky and it could lead to more trouble.
Just talk to her. Maybe she’s going through some shit and that’s helping. Or suppressing something.
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It’s just weed. Kids experiment with it. It’s scary how many people on here hate their children enough to ruin their lives or make them homeless over something that is safer than alcohol and legal in a growing number of states. Just talk to her and find some middle ground.
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This bull she is still living under her roof stop it before she starts using other stuff to go with it if she can’t live under your terms then let her get a job and move out its not fair to the other kids your are the mom step up by omega iron want get better she start stealing off of u next for her habbit
I’m in an unlegalized state and I’m assuming you may be. You could get in trouble with social services if you have younger kids in the house and she is smoking weed in there with them. At least you can where I am from. Tell her if she is going to, she needs to do it out of your house. She is 18, but that is your house with your younger kids in it.
Adam Ruins Everything had a clip on weed. I would suggest you sit down with her and watch it. It will ease your mind a tad and help her understand what weed does to the still developing brain
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Please don’t kick your barely 18 yr old daughter out over weed. Please. That’ll lead to much worse. Possibly even her death, of her being abused. Weed is illegal, yes. So talk to her about it. Set some rules, of course. But that is your flesh and blood. Your baby, no matter her age. How can anyone consider kicking your baby out an option? Help her. Don’t abandon her. Speaking from someone who was like abandoned at very young age, you won’t be helping her any. And no matter her age, you are her mother. Don’t you want to help her?
Just tell her not to do it in the house. She’s an adult but if she lives with you she respects the house rules and takes it elsewhere x
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I would talk to her about it. I use to do the same thing when I was in high school and didn’t care about what others thought or did until I got arrested. My mom left me in juvie to learn. Just let her know the consequences of what can happen if it’s not legal in your state and that they can charge her as an adult. That’s all you can do for now is talk to her and ask her why she does it because she wont stop unless she wants to
Shit it’s just weed be happy it’s nothing harder with the opioid epidemic we’re going through relax tell her don’t do it at the house around the youngins
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the golden rule, he who has the gold, makes the rules, it will be that way the rest of your life, if I say don’t smoke that shit in my house, you don’t smoke that shit in my house, and it’s not up for discussion
Tell her she can smoke just not inside or at school and dont be stupid?I mean the more you try to force her to stop will cause herself to put herself in worse situations and she wont stop.
I think the school was harsh on her… I’m in Canada though. Even before it was legal , you get caught with weed and get suspended for like 3 days but most teachers know and dont do anything … no cops called etc
Shes almost 18. Either she needs to follow your rules or find a diff place to stay
Well, not much you can do now right
Call the cops and report her
She is 18 … no longer a child and now that she is an adult there are still rules and expectations …no smoking in your home and depending, on your property if it’s not legal in your area …if she wants to smoke it she has to find a place that doesn’t endanger your home and property and if she is caught that’s on her. Treating her as an adult means she also has adult responsibilities so that can be getting a job and paying room and board and for her own cell phone and car insurance ect … do not give her any more money. This is better then punishing her this is giving her a reality check and taking responsibility for her actions and learning from the consequences.
First I would kick her in the ass then drag her ass to a metal health councilor and get her assessed. I might get the whole family assessed to find out what’s going on and how can we fix it!
Whoop dat assssss. Or don’t. She’s under your roof. You wanna smoke weed go live someplace else. You can’t act like you’re grown 30%of the time.
Tell her you dont like weed in your house and to smoke it elsewhere or get the fuck out. Also tell her not to be a idiot and smoke it at school.