Get a lawyer go to court with her and be her witness. Also have the cop that gave her a ride at court or get the police report. Get all messages from him for the judge. If u have pictures of what he die to the car take that. Document everything however he can get joint custody.
You have the cop record of him leaving her and baby on Sid of road. What more would you need!
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Get legal advice quick and a protection order swift to protect the mother and baby.
The court will find the truth, that’s their job. Just make sure y’all have everything documented. I kept a journal, I also had a recorder hooked to my phone and the beginning of every phone call I would say “this call is being recorded and will be used for court purposes”.
Of course with everyone having cell phones these days that recorder wouldn’t work. Maybe they have an app for that. 
By document everything I mean everything, Drs visit, parents visits, grandparents visits, play dates, sicknesses.
Don’t just document the dad’s part of things literally document the kids life for the courts.
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If the allegations are false, then they have no case. My ex tried to do this to me claiming some pretty wild stuff, but they could prove nothing of it. He did not get full custody, in fact not even 50/50, and he still pays child support too. If your daughter hasn’t done anything wrong and the baby is in a safe environment, then you guys really have nothing to worry about. He can claim bullshit all he wants, but unless he has solid proof of neglect or abuse, then he will never get full custody. Get a lawyer for the mediation. He will most likely get NCP custody, which is every other weekend.
His words carry no weight. We need some proof. Don’t worry the judge will see right through him. Its his word against your daughter so hopefully she has some proof.
Everyone keeps saying he has to prove things, that’s not always true. It depends on the judge. It SHOULD be like that, but wasn’t in our case. My ex did the same thing to me, the judge believed him without proof and gave him custody. Get a GOOD attorney and bring proof of everything you are saying, ALSO for any allegations he can make toward her bring evidence that discredits it. Once you discredit someone in front of a judge the judge typically stops believing everything they say.
You have proof. Get the records from the PD when he brought her home. Then go to mediation
My grandson was taken from my daughter for bruise! It was Mongolian spots since birth. She said a nurse told her they were bruises. No proof, but I stopped and got the Dr records. He was home 2 days later. Now they don’t even know where he lives, cause we can’t find them. It’s ok, she married, and he has 2 sisters and a fantastic stepdad, he calls dad.And dad says, my son
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They have to prove the claims.
Is his name on birth certificate??
Document EVERYTHING. Do not “be nice”. Do not give him ANY sympathy. Get an attorney asap.
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Ok…First and foremost, file custody paperwork (thru a lawyer if you can afford it…pro se…on her own…if not) if they have not already done so. Most likely the court will set a temporary visitation schedule for them to follow until it get to the hearing…do not allow him to take the child until you have that. Follow it to a “t” and be prepared to file contempt on him for not bringing the child back like the temporary agreement says. (Know now that most of the time the police can not get involved if he doesnt… they will tell you it is a civil matter and to file contempt.)
The courts will look at best interests of the child. They will not care about things that do not directly affect the child. Be sure to focus anything you say on how your daughter’s considering those best interests. (You can google the points of best interest for your state) Do not tear him down…just state facts that have verifiable evidence and show those best interests.
Then document as much as possible and get copies of any incidents the police were involved (like giving her a ride home with the baby.)
Take the emotion out of it…accept that even if he was a crappy partner, the court will not use that against him in regards to parenting. Most states follow a basic 50/50 schedule nowadays unless distance makes it unreasonable. I know parents who live 4 hours apart, with kids not in school yet, who do week on/week off and meet halfway once a week to exchange their children. Prepare several options of 50/50 and basic parenting times (Every other weekend and 1-2 evenings or overnights a week) that are in the best interests of the child…not the parents, cuz the judge doesnt care about them.
There is so much more you need to know…I know of an excellent Custody group on FB that will help you if you want to PM me. It was started by a lawyer and she has a private, paid group as well that will walk you thru your case. They are not a yes-man group…the answers can seem harsh, but they are realistic based on the actual law and what courts are like. There are member from all 50 states and Canada…many of whom are dealing with exactly what your daughter will.
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g an attorney; get proof of all his tricks; go to court! he is probably trying to get out of paying child support! HAS HE PAID ANY UP TILL NOW?
Your daughter can bring her paperwork from the domestic abuse cases and won’t have a problem winning
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Video tape n record tape his voice, being nasty to u write time n date, tape n video his mom too,
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Have the cop testify.
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is it on record that he left her n baby on side of the road n a police officer had to bring them home that will hurt his case i also suggest your daughter go file for custody cs n him weekend visitation n keep every thing documented
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Get the police report when he left you and baby on side of.road.its hard to have a child taken from mommy without hard evidence to show the mommy is not.good.don’t stress too much.I had 3 little o es and my ex tried 5 times for.custody.he.lost every time and I was.granted.more.child support.each time
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If he stranded her and baby and a cop had to drive them home I would think that alone would hurt him in court. And sad truth is (bc it’s not always fair or right) moms have more rights in court. They’d have a hard time with 0 proof taking her baby away from her. If it’s all lies I would try to help her stay calm. Find that cop and bring him in as a witness if possible. I’m sorry she’s dealing with this 
Document everything…and it is hard for a father to get sole custody…joint custody is probably what will happen…
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She needs to go file for emergency DVO/custody against him and y’all need to have everything you can printed out that shows his narcissistic behavior and abuse. You also can get the cop who had to bring your daughter home to write a formal statement/affidavit to take to court as well. Also have the police report from her windshield being kicked in even though she didn’t press charges.
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Get a lawyer and document everything and tell her to be careful what she texts…because they can use that against her.if no one has filed for custody go do it asap!
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First off if there’s no custody agreement as of yet I would not send the baby because he doesn’t have to give her back I would file asap! Document everything and get that police report when he left her and the baby on the side of the road. He can’t just throw false claims around he had to have proof to back it up.
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Your electronic device is not allowed in the court room. Document everything. Text messages are printable. Emails. Printable. Phone calls and duration of phone calls. Who called who and Dates and times. My ex brought me back to court as a hobby. 48 amendments to my divorce. That’s more than 48 times to court. For the divorce. More for the kids custody and his whopping $38 a month in child support. Have info to prove each and every accusation is wrong. If he brings other stuff up in court (and he will) respond with I did not have time to prepare for that as it was not in the original paperwork. He will have to file again. The judge will Give you time to respond. This is not uncommon. My ex even went so far as to tell CPS I un-Alived the kids. Five cars two officers each two investigators and two CPS workers showed up. My kids were having a sleep over so I had something like 9 kids over at the time. And they got mad at me. Because I laughed at them. It’s invasive and stupid waste of money and resources. But it’s allowed. This was the last time he did that. This was his fifth time calling CPS and I got smart. Because I told all of the officers and CPS that if they reported back to him it would be a violation of the OFP as third party contact.
Look into laws about filing false accusations. Not sure where it could go. But it may be worth it. I’m sorry. But criminals have more rights then the victims. Because they know the system and how it works. If I had to do it again I never would have hired the lawyers. I was better at defending myself then any one of them. And I was dumb and went through three lawyers before I finally said. Yeah, I can do nothing for free. Or take care of it myself for free. If you do hire a lawyer do your homework. Get one that is not part of their good old boys club. They all work together every day. And they all know how to work with and against each other. Good luck.
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They need to prove she’s unfit. Tell her to remain calm and collect everything for your lawyer to see. Be crystal clear on all information. They will see he’s the one who isn’t safe.
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CPS always does an investigation before moving a child who is reportedly being neglected or abused. The truth will be evident. They just don’t take kids from their Mom unless there’s a reason.
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Poor children. It breaks my heart a child always has to pay for supposed adults who have a child and continue childish behavior theirselves. Maybe your daughter should take child and move far far away from all this drama.protect a child by whatever means.
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You have to have documentation to prove your daughter’s side of the case. Photos with time and dates, police records of her being in side of the road where he left her, texts from him and/or his mom showing they are mean or unstable. Pictures of the home abides stays showing it’s safe… DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT!
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Without proof of abuse, neglect, or an unsfae living environment they aren’t foing to take her baby. Get a lawyer and be prepared for court though. It’s time to get custody and child support sorted out since yall are going to courtm
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If they have no proof the courts will require it before they would ever remove a child from either parent. The fact that she has proof that a cop had to drive her and the baby home because he refused is huge. That alone proves that the father has 0 caring for the child’s well-being and I would get a lawyer.
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He is not the baby daddy. Thats such a disrespectful title. He is your grand baby’s father. And clearly he wants to be involved.
He will get visitation rights. Unless they can prove he’s a danger to the child. They don’t care about the adults arguments. They look at parent child relationship.
Document everything, text messages are hard to prove, because they can be edited, emails are best, or a parenting app. check your states laws for recording. Some are a 1 party state, where only 1 has to agree to be recorded. Others are 2 party, where both agree.
She probably needs to go ahead and get a custody going at the court house.
But be prepared, now days it’s pretty normal for dads to get 50/50.
MAKE SURE SHE OR YOU ARE NOT SENDING THREATENING MESSAGES, OR VOICEMAILS, OR EVEN PHONE CALLS. If it isn’t a question about their child, she shouldn’t answer.
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You have the police reports right? If not get them
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He has to prove everything he says. They can send someone to check for anything he makes accusations about. They shouldn’t just take word of mouth.
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DOCUMENT EVERYTHING . Get the cops information to testify. Hopefully everything they discuss in text messages is saved .
Remember they have to prove it before the court acknowledges
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They will need to prove these unsafe conditions. In the meantime, look up how to completely baby proof a house. Keep the house clean. Get a statement from the police officer who drove your daughter home. Get paperwork and the pictures of the windshield and have them ready for proof. If you can afford one, get a lawyer. You have to be ready for him to get visitation, since he is the father and he is entitled to it, but getting full custody is unlikely.
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Best thing is to get a lawyer save all messages they cannot remove a child if there is no proof of abuse or neglect let your lawyer handle it from here
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Let him take her to court. He won’t win full custody.
She Need to file custody
Get a lawyer if you don’t she will lose
Contact local domestic violence center
The fact that he left them on the side of the road and refused to pick them up is putting the child in danger. This honestly sounds like my daughters Dad when he was using drugs.
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Make sure you know the cop that drove your daughter. If he testifys in court for you affirming that, her boyfriend has no chance
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Tell her to keep track of all the text messages keep the voicemails and get a lawyer
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Get a lawyer, get a written statement from the officer who picked her up. Wrote down everything and I mean everything with dates as to what he has done. In court if it is written down it is the truth!!!
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lots of people would be for hire to beat him in a little bit😂
Make sure she has proof to counteract all of his accusations.
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you have YOUR daughter get a lawyer and fight. my state is 50 50 no matter what is documented. so be prepared. your daughter needs to do all of this.
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Get a lawyer and take him to court
Depends on the state I know where I live given the facts and an officers statement he wouldn’t be granted any rights and if he got visitation it would have to be supervised at their buildings twice a week for 2 hours 
but every state is different
Let me guess- people without a pot to $h!7 in running their mouths about going to court and getting a lawyer? Take the steps to file for court ordered child support and let them run their mouths. If paternity hasn’t been established yet the courts will establish it. Any lay out the guidelines
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This question screams for legal advise.
Your daughter needs legal advise asap. Your daughter is an adult. You have no rights here unless you want custody of the child.
Have your daughter call legal aid in her area and see if they can help her. She is going to need to follow their advice. Have your daughter call child protective services. Have your daughter order or request a police report from the incident or at least get the record that shows who responded to the call for assistance. Provide CPS with the police report or log from the officer who drove them home.
Mom: Your daughter is an adult. She needs to be doing these things herself. Do not continue to rescue her. She does not listen to you. She is happy in her role as a victim. She needs counseling to break the ugly cycle of codependency. Help her with that. Help her establish a good home for the baby. Help her keep her appointment with child protective services. Help her keep her appointment with the legal aid society.
The Office of the Attorney General (OAG) can handle everything here and they do it for free. They set up child support, custody and visitation. I advise your daughter to bring an attorney with her, but it isn’t necessary. I’m not sure about other states, but Texas has a “child under age 3 provision” wherein the child is not allowed to go overnight to the non-custodial parent’s house until they turn 3. At the very least, baby should not go overnight until breastfeeding is complete.
If he tries to take the baby and there are no court orders in place, the police won’t do anything. If they do have court orders and he does anything at all against them, he will be in contempt. They also have the option to use a specific app for communication which is monitored 24/7 by the OAG/government. Everything there is recorded. If either one attempts to contact the other outside of that app, they could be in serious trouble.
He seems abusive and possibly violent. I hope that isn’t the case, but I wish the best for the safety of everyone involved. If he becomes threatening at all, I’d have her gather evidence and file a restraining order until everything can be settled.
Stay ahead of things. The best defense is a good offense. Are they for sure taking her to court? Has she been served papers? Or are they just telling her these things and trying to scare her? Either way, you both need to be calm, collected and prepared. He isn’t going to gain custody of the child unless the child is in immediate danger under your daughter.
If your daughter can’t afford a lawyer, I suggest seeking assistance with Legal Aid. Take pictures of the living conditions for the baby: Where they sleep, the food contents of the pantry and refrigerator, snaps of the living spaces, etc. Make sure everything is baby proofed. These are things CPS would check for if ever they were called and are things courts may ask about.
Also… if he’s been or becomes threatening or violent or anything of the sort, I’d have her make a police report EVERY TIME something like that happens and tell her to possibly seek aid from a women’s shelter or violence center. Best of luck to all of you. 
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Start keeping a record of everything. Have contact with him via text or email only so you have proof of everything said. Or record any phone calls. Make sure your house is baby proofed and has everything a baby would need and start your defense
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If it’s untrue you shouldn’t worry. Get proof. Photos of everything. Keep all the texts and calls. Don’t delete ANYTHING.
Social Services will be investigating.
Start a journal / diary.
He has to have proof of those things to prove her unfit. She needs to have documentation of all these things that have occurred with him. He sounds like a damn nut and a dumbass mother pushing him to file,
They could dropping someone off at the side of the road isn’t illegal tho and it can be turned into the fact that SHE was the one who wanted out and he let her. It’s all he said she said on both ends, but he’ll definitely get his visitation
Let him take her to court. Take the police repost in to court he will lose
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Have her hire a lawyer. Have her document every incident she can think of. Every detail. Compile proof such as texts, police reports, social media posts and present it to the lawyer. Try to leave personal feelings out of it and focus on facts or events that have happened (which is hard to do when it’s such an emotional situation, I get it.) Chances are it won’t go to court if they can mediate an agreement. It is awful to go through the process of it all, but unfortunately it’s the way things typically happen when the relationship doesn’t last. Better to do it now, rather than years from now.
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I would ask the cop to testify thay he put her and the child in a dangerous situation. Also tell her that next time he gets violent, record it. Next time he damages property, press charges. All of that is evidence that works against him and definitely in your favor. Also I wouldn’t worry… judges are usually good judges of character 
. If he can’t prove the child is in danger in your home, he has no case. And the judge just might see right through him. Consult with an attorney…most Consultations are free.
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Without proof, none of it will hold up
Especially since a police officer can be called in as a witness to say he drove her and the baby home because baby’s dad refused after kicking her out of the car
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Well I would get a lawyer and have the cop testifying for her and show proof of where your daughter and grandchild live and if they have no proof then your daughter will win cuz that ex sounds crazy and so does the mother
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She needs to keep all proof of communication between them, get a good lawyer and start a paper trail.
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Been through this heaps. Firstly She needs a lawyer. Asap.
Do NOT let him take baby anywhere until court order is made.
Keep ALL records of contact, texts calls times dates etc.
Do not argue with him, no matter what he says. Keep it about baby.
The bigger her support system the better in the eye of court.
Drug test.
And be consistent and strong. Best of luck
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She needs to get a restraining order.
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Try to document everything, text , e mails , pictures of any kind of accident, call the police if needed, keep the place clean and organize, make sure is baby safe and that the baby has everything she needs.
I will not be worry at all , if they don’t have any proff they will lose the case .
Taking to court for child support and for visitations agreement establish by the court
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Judges like documented incidents the more paper you have, the better off you are.
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Document Document Document
Call the police every stinkin’ time and file a report. It’s called CYA
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Def get a lawyer and try to get an much evidence as possible, texts, emails, phone calls, that incident with the cop try to get the officer to write a statement stating her had to drive her him because that right there is child endangerment sorry your daughter is going thro this, she should’ve listen to you
Get a good lawyer, file for child support and document everything
This happened to me some years back. It went all the way to trial. I won…
Immediately hire an attorney. Document every text and email, save them all. Record phone conversations. Don’t flip out if CPS investigates just go along with it. They likely don’t have a leg to stand on, they just wanna start a bunch of shit. KEEP YOUR COOL AS BEST AS YOU CAN!
Good luck to your family and take care.
Join the page One Moms Battle everything you need to know about family court is on there. Prepare yourself it’s not gunna be pretty
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Well you need to get a copy of the incident of the cop driving her & the baby home!! That is Proof that he is unfit as a parent.
Keep all records of text messages, she doesn’t want to engage on the phone talking,
You need to get a lawyer 
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First off is he even on the birth certificate? If not they’ll have him do a DNA test, then they’ll go from there forward. Save every text, Facebook message, email and voicemail. Do not let her talk to him unless it’s about the child. If he makes any threats against you guys, file a police report. I’ve had to do that numerous times with my daughter’s father. If he comes over and you’re in a 1 party state make sure to record it so you can show the judge how he acts towards y’all.
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Document everything. Take pictures of baby’s bedroom, daycare center. Get letters from teacher, daycare, church, neighbors. Show they are thriving in a good environment. Even physician updates. Get a copy of the dad’s criminal record if he has one). Show employment history (and his also). Have no contact. Do not want to be provoked and/or recorded. Nothing on fb
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Courts dont listen to hear say so unless their is proof courts wont do anything about that, but tbh it could work in your daughters favor getting a court order he will have to stick to it aswell or get introuble. Id just go get a lawyer and gather any evidence you can to show the courts who he is
Document everything! Save text messages , record phone calls or record interactions with them !! Get the cop to say he gave them a ride home !
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Record record record- write everything down, copies of messages. Let it be known you will be recording phone calls
As long as she can prove the allegations false everything will be fine. Court doesn’t run on hear say. 
What country do you live in message me if you live in New Zealand! I’ve been through family court before
If he is claiming all that, why didn’t he report her to CPS? That’s what the judge is gonna say? Otherwise he’s talking with only words cause if anyone felt baby was really unsafe, CPS should have been called. Many people try to claim this without anything to back it up. If he doesn’t have proof she won’t let him see the baby… again words. Same thing with your daughter… she needs to record conversations or all text and email only. Then it isn’t he said/she said
A judge will not take a child away from the mother unless there’s proof of abuse. The father has to provide proof that the mother is unstable or abusive
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If he is the father they will likely share Custody. Meet with a mediator to save money and time. See you a parenting arrangement and document everything.
Get a lawyer keep records of everything
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They never take a child from their mother unless it’s Proven she’s unfit. Just roll with it and say ok see you in court.
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Keep a record… and she should have pressed charges.
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Prove that he hasn’t paid for diapers, toys, childcare, ect. Prove you have. Show receipts. Watch him at all times. If his name is on birth certificate and there’s no custody decree he could take him
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Get the police officer who dropped her home to write a statement. If she sees a consistent GP or her child does, request a statement of well-being for the court.
Anything can be a he -say -she -say everything will need something to back it up, witness statements, text messages etc… something that references what he’s saying or she’s saying.
If the child has had no contact with child protection services and no investigation has been had into the child’s well-being. This process would occur if allegations are worrying to determine the child’s living conditions etc if an intervention needs to be had. No one parent will have the right to full custody of a child unless good enough reason is given.
Another thing to keep in mind - unless the mother of the father is of danger to the child, she has rights to see her grandchild also. If this has been something you’ve been trying to stop it may not look good in the eyes of the court unless you have a decent reason. (Fear of the child not being returned to the mother while no custody is in order is a good enough reason most times, if you can proof there has been a threat of not returning the child)
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Keep the baby until court he sounds dangerous
Document Document Document
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Keep a record of everything. And once the court finds out he abandoned her on the side of the road with a baby and another cop had to take her home, his sorry tail won’t have a leg to stand on.
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You have the police eye witness. If anything they’ll check on her environment & if it’s clean & safe NO JUDGE takes a baby from the mother without ABSOLUTE PROOF. Hearsay is nothing. Calm down & now think ahead. File a pfa on HIM for abuse & neglect leaving you & the baby alongside the road. Courts will investigate HIM too so they need to be careful what they wish for! Relax Mama:pray:t2:
One day at a time
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Document everything! If you can remember the cop or even police station he was out of that had to drive her home see if they have a record of that. Have her push for supervised visitation until primary custody is established. Make sure that he has to confirm thorugh text that he is coming or not so there is documentation if he doesnt show up.
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Keep all evidence… texts … messages… record everything… and check in with the officer that drove her home and see if there is a record of it anywhere as him leaving her and the baby stranded is not good for him
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Do a background check on both him & his mom. Get some evidence that will stand up in court. Even record any conversation with them. By law, you have to tell them they are being recorded. Make sure that is in the recording- you telling them it is being recorded. Good luck. Feel for ya
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Is there a paper trail of the report for the windshield even though she didn’t press charges and any report where the cop drove her and the baby home? Anything that she has texted you or told you document it with the date and time in a notebook y’all can take it to court you’re also her witness ! prayers for y’all 
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Get a good family attorney…like yesterday. Also document everything and save all text messages and voicemails.
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Does the cop have it on record that he had to bring her in a car? She could use that against that.
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Document everything. Only communicate thru emails or text. No unsupervised visits until court is over with but if he wants to visit allow him with her and a 3rd person such as you or your husband and I would do it in a public place . They will have someone come check out her place if they are claiming it’s unsafe. Get a lawyer if and when he serves her. Most dad’s especially that young don’t file they just threaten to scare.
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