When we were growing up and left our stuff laying about our parents didn’t say a word. But the next morning it was gone. Some times it might not sink in for a day or 3 that it was gone because like most kids we got too much. Sometimes it would be a week or more before and our attitudes before we got bit back. My oldest brother thought he was cool so he s tarted leaving things he was too old for or just out grown. Our parents were not stupid. It only took me about ten days to get my gift back and I can guarantee it was a one time deal for me. My young brother was only 5 but if mom found something on the floor she would tell him to pick it up before Santa’s elves made their rounds.He was up this stairs and just to be safe he would put is under his pillow. It took a long time for brother to get his act together. He had couple other things taken away but the first thing that was a super duper model aircraft carrier. His birthday was in October and dad wrapped it up and gave it to him. He was elated. Dad just looked at him an said " Yes dad "he was told the next day we had a chore to do. We went thru lots of things that were not played with or out grown plus lots of stuffed animals. We all scrubbed them clean, boxed them up and dad came downstairs with the other two gifts ha had forgotten about and told him since they didn’t matter to him he had to donate one. Anyway after all that we took them to the fire station for them to give out. After dinner our parents had a talk with us. From now on it was going to be something to wear, read,want,something to read and if you were really lucky a surprise in your stocking. I truly believeworking on those darn lists then scratching something ott was hard work and we never went without because we got too many things before.
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I know it’s not uncommon for kids to have electronics but it is common they break them. I tend to see parents preach to their kids about the importance of valuing things but kids learn more from example we set more than what we tell them. Try your best not to spoil them (I know it’s difficult) your kids will appreciate things more if they have a few things to cherish and not a bunch of stuff.
Sounds like they have to many toys in there rooms need to take some out and it should be easier for them to clean there rooms and take care of what they have
Take it all away.make them earn everything they have work for it chores yard work house work pet care something to make them understand what you do to give them those things you are failing them wake up
Maybe instead of giving them something you do something meaningful as a family and make an amazing memory to share together. They may simply want more time with you!
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I would try a toy jail. Make a reasonable list of things they can do to get items out of jail but every time you have to pick something up put it in jail. Things they could do would be simple chores like picking up, dusting, sweeping and wiping off the table. Just make sure its not something you expect them to do daily already.
The important thing is if you say your going to take something away then you have got to follow through, every single time. All parents struggle you’ll get through this and you reached out! good job! It sounds like they are over stimulated with what they have. Mine are much younger so i have toy boxes i rotate ever few months or so and its like christmas every time i do. It is important to learn gratitude and i wish you the very best in teaching that lesson.
have you tried getting organized totes for each thing?? i have done this with my daughters LOL dolls/barbies. she has a regular toy box then has a labeled tote. she knows if they are not in the tote i take the tote away…
try getting them to organize it. and say okay first one who picks up everything where it goes wins. i make clean up time fun for my 8/6/2 year old. they like when i make games out of stuff like that.
Make them earn it… extravagant things they want i make my boys ear thier money and they save up for the things they really want and they take care of stuff they buy themselves… they are also now 15 and 14… but we are starting this with the 7 yr old… its a hard lesson but they need to learn it.
Give that stuff to kids who would appreciate it
When I was younger maybe a few years older than your girls and I refused to clean my room or take care of my belongings I got 3 chances and if I didn’t clean up or change my act my mom would take off early and clean my room I was literally left with my bed, a radio and 7 outfits. After this happening twice I kinda got the hint. It sucks coming home from school to absolutely nothing.
You are trying too hard to keep them happy. I have two ladies all grown up with children of their own. I never bought toys or unneccesary items to keep them happy. If it’s just given to them they have no respect for how much it cost. If I give them something to keep them happy - it was something from a 2nd hand store. If they didn’t care for I repack it & toss into garbage or donate to a good cause. I see them as parents & they are stingy with their money. I never gave them presents for Christmas or birthdays. They were happy . I see them treat their children the kids are normal ,& they have respect for others. Just sayin’.
You’re too easy in themm they’re never going to listen to you. For their birthdays don’t buy them anything. Or maybe like 1 gift each. Because if they’re not going to take care of their stuff at Christmas they’re not gonna do it for their birthdays. Show them the stuff they broke and that’s the reason they’re not getting anything or x amount of gifts. If one starts to take care of her stuff reward her and then the other will follow suit. You gotta place boundaries and show them consequences.
You give them to much and expect to little 
you’ve shown them they can have what they want when they want with no action on their part. Like why would you spend THOUSANDS on Christmas? I spent $400 between my 2 kids 6 and 8 and they are more then happy and not overwhelmed by so much shit. Start taking their things away. Anything left in my living room, goes in he garbage.
Clothes, new shoes would be great enough. Maybe just go big on the treats laid out for the day? Christmas was enough.
Cause they’re kids, kids don’t give a dang 
that’s exactly why I barely buy my girls any toys or anything too nice, I let their aunts, uncles etc buy those things 
Modeling how to take care of their toya might help. I puck up w my kids & show them how to take care of their toys.
Clothes or give them cash/gift card (20$ or whatever) shows them that things aren’t cheap, so they have to choose what’s important and mine seemed to take care of it better if they “bought” it with their (actually yours) money. It’s hard but tough love… there are so many things I wish I had done differently but mine all turned out to be good adults and gave me grandbabies.
I would take it all away and let them be bored. We didn’t have all that stuff when we were kids and survived! As far as getting things for their birthdays I would maybe suggest crafty things like “adult” coloring books and just hands on things to get their minds ticking
I’d personally give them £50 each and they can choose what to buy with it along side the clothes you’ve brought… if other things get trashed simply donate them. Just got to stick with it xxx
You have given them to much they don’t appreciate it a lots of kids are like that now
If you make a threat at needs to be a threat you’re willing to keep. too much stuff can be overwhelming and they don’t care because they have so much.
I have half of my kids stuff away. We always take and give back. So I stopped that. Now it has a real consequence. For the tablet and switch. From the very beginning I’ve been crazy. Every time I see it being thrown around. I take it. Now we don’t have that issue
There are better ways to show your girls then threatening them I would collect there things and make them go with you and give them to a foster person the the children who will never have nice things and see how your girls feel about it let’s hope they realise that you are not going to buy them things that they won’t look after. I have spoilt my longest son I have 6 children and I could not afford at the time when I had my first 5 children to be able to spoil them the youngest one has had every thing I remember when he was 14 I bought him a gaming computer top of the range nearly £2000 pounds he was so nasty and wouldn’t do anything for me even to the point that he threatened me so when he was at school I put it up for sale for £500 pounds I sold it with in 10 mins obviously because it was only 4 weeks old all under 5 years warranty anyway when he got back from school I asked him to do something for me he refused saying that he was going upstairs to play on his computer when he got upstairs he screemed and shouted put a hole in his bedroom door he didn’t stop shouting for at least a hour he came down and said that his computer had gone I replyed by saying wa yes I know I sold it he then said that I wasn’t aloud to witch I replied if you ever speek to me again or raise your voice to me again I will take everything I had ever bought him to the tip it might seem a bit extreme but it worked
There you go… Material things meAn nothing
I might be bashed for this. I’m in a similar situation. My son is 9. His whole life I have spoiled him whether it be with clothes, shoes, toys, etc. His bio father walked out of his life completely 4 years ago. All these years I was trying to fill that void in the only way I knew how. I never had nice things as a kid but also wasn’t taught to fill the void in other ways because my bio father walked out before I even met him. I messed up big time. I have been a lot more lenient than I should have all these years. Now he is ungrateful for everything. He is grounded and has been for over a month because he thinks he can ruin things and talk to me however he wants to. All he has in his room right now is his mattress (he messed up the nice wood frame that we now have to repaint) pillow, blankets, his clothes, shoes, and books. He’s also able to ask to use art supplies with supervision because he painted on the carpet. For the past month he has learned to fold his clothes and put them away and for the first time enjoys reading books. He has definitely learned some things being grounded and has changed his behavior some. All of his toys and movies are packed in the shed and he only got to ride his brand new bike once before being grounded. We are trying to stop him from thinking he is so entitled and can talk back and disrespect us so much. Our daughter is one and we are trying hard to reverse his attitude before she’s old enough to catch on. Once you spoil them it’s so hard. I’d take all the toys away and make them learn they don’t have to have them if they won’t take care of them. He also didn’t get presents for his birthday because we over did it on Christmas and he got in trouble right after Christmas. He actually admitted to us that he is still acting up because he believes we will give in. Not this time! Good luck momma!