Just change locks and don’t let him in unless hes on the lease…
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Things can be replaced. Pick your battles and protect your peace.
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Be smart some possessions aren’t worth fighting over. I’ve started over with nothing at least 3 times. Some people lose their life over stupid things.
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Community property gets split evenly…
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It depends on the state you live in. However if one party of a marriage/common law/relationship leaves it’s considered abandonment and you can go to court over it.
There is a child involved so I would try to make it as amicable as possible and split whatever.
I think it depends on what it is. Say it’s the washer and dryer, No judge in his right mind would allow him to take that out of the home when there is a child or better yet a baby of his in the home. So I think it all depends on what it is, in the meantime I wouldn’t give them diddley squat!!!
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Give his fair share back and be done with him.
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Keep things you use daily stove, fridge, bed, stuff like that you and your child will need. Give up stuff like couch. He can sleep on that haha. His dresser keep yours if you have one each. Hanger that his clothes was on. One pot, pan, spatula, fork, knife, spoon, bowl, and cup. This way he can eat. One roll of tp, one container for his lunch and so on. This way you amd your baby dont go without. If you have 2 tv give him the smaller on.
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Yes he can ask any lawyer and they will tell you that
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The mature thing to do when people break up after sharing a household is to split everything. You honestly think you should be entitled to everything you both bought, together? Sorry but no wonder he left 
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Just split the damn items and move on with your life.
I moved in with my ex, furnished the house with my own items and still left him half after 5.5 years together.
Dont be petty, you share a child together. If you cant agree on who gets what, sell the item and split the cash.
Otherwise go to civil court and take it up with a judge.
Its petty ass shit like this that gives all baby mamas a bad name.
Once you’ve even been in a domestic partnership for a certain amount of time depending where you live, when you split up you divide everything in half. It doesn’t matter who paid for what. You’re not entitled to anything more because he left the house?
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Even if he left the house voluntarily that’s an insignificant fact. The facts are you two are no longer together and you have items that you purchased together which means he has just as much right to them as you do. You wouldn’t like it very much of you decided to leave and then he didn’t let you have anything. You guys need to find an amicable way of splitting things up so that way everything is even and everybody’s taken care of. If that means you need to replace some of your possessions then so be it. There’s no difference in him having to replace them or you. Make the split easier for your child and learn how to co-parent and get along and keep things Fair.
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He is entitled to half. You sound bitter that he left
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If it was purchased together the courts will tell you to divide it up, Half and half. If you can’t do that on your own a judge will help you decide what his and what is yours. Same with time with your child. IF you can settle out of court because it just gets messy and no one ever gets everything they want during a break up.
Regardless if you were married or not your common law (or domestic partnership) because you have a child laws may be different.
Anything he solely purchased will be his to take, Anything you solely purchased will be yours and everything purchased together will be divided
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I can’t believe some of the harsh comments on this. Put yourself in her position. Partner moves out, reasons unknown (none of our business), woman has a baby to worry about, yet there are some twits who feel the need to even go as far as saying “no wonder he left you”. 
Laws across the world are different. Here in Australia a woman with child is entitled to up to 70% of total equity. Obviously other things are taken into account to determine this.
So take it easy with your comments people, and have some compassion!
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Just because you two didn’t work out as a couple doesn’t mean you should be petty and keep everything. Split everything you bought together 50/50. Maybe make a list of all the items and take turns picking what items you want. Also, 50/50 custody of the baby. The child is both of yours and deserves to have equal time with both parents. You both need to be mature adults about the breakup, for the baby’s sake.
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Let him have them I walked away with nothing and was so proud of what I achieved by myself material things mean nothing you’ve got the best your child xxxx
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Hell if yall are splitting… why keep anything yall got together? If it were me I’d let him take whatever he wanted and get myself stuff that has no ties to him
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All these hateful ass people on here. 
Married or not. Receipts or not. Be an adult. Anything YOU brought to the relationship is yours. Anything HE brought to the relationship is his. Anything y’all got TOGETHER is y’all’s TOGETHER. Sit down like two ADULTS and divide things between you. If he gets the couch, you get the bed. If he gets the living room tables, you get the kitchen table. When a relationship ends, it’s not fair for one person to have to start completely over when they have spent years of their life building with someone else. It would be a different story if he cheated on you or beat you or something like that. Don’t be spiteful and hateful just because he doesn’t want to be with you anymore and left. And if you can’t agree on who gets what, take everything y’all got together and sell it. Split the money, use that money to start rebuilding your individual lives.
It’s a civil matter typically, in most states, because you weren’t married. You will each have to show proof of who paid for what and those belong to whoever paid for them. The stuff you can’t provide proof that were purchased jointly (so anything you owned before or was a gift are excluded) is given a monitory value and divided equally between the two of you. The fact that he left the house makes zero difference. Example: you live with a roommate, which is how the law defines the living arrangement, you feel for whatever reason you need to move out (baring any consideration for a lease or ownership of the house) you are still allowed legally to remove your possessions. And can even bring law enforcement to ensure that you get them. The fact that you have a child together makes no difference either. The money for the child is a child support issue not ownership of possessions.
Hope you’re able to get through it peacefully for your little ones sake.
Possession is 9/10 of the law. He left it so… His loss 🤷
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I let my ex take what he wonted after 10years of us been together and 2 kids never married , I even let him take our bed , the way I seen it is was these items are replaceable and not worth fighting over , we also do 50/50 with our kids .
Its only fair that things brought together are split between you both , no matter the circumstances on why you split he is still intilted to things and not made to leave with nothing
In Australia. He is entitled to half.
You’re not entitled to keep the lot just because he moved out.
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I can’t believe how salty and selfish some of you are. If you have a child together… Cut your losses, be fair and amicable because youre going to have to deal with each other for the rest of your child’s life. No wonder women get such a bad rap when it comes to sharing a child with someone…
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You weren’t married and unless you have receipts that have your name, card info or won’t matter. And cops etc will say it’s a civic matter. If you bought it together then be adults and figure it out.
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Everything that’s in his name you have to give to him sorry. Everything in your name he can’t take… anything that’s in both names well he can take you to court if he truly wants to.
I don’t think so. He would have to take you to court I believe. Unless it’s like the car that’s in his name. Then he might just be able to come by with the police
Also remember you cannot be petty about material things in the end cause at the end of the day y’all have to be civil for the next 18 years due to y’all having a child together so put your differences aside and stop being petty 
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He can have a police escort to take things out of your house and if anything comes to a disagreement then the police can escort him out and take it to court.
My opinion let him take it. I agree that it’s better to part on amicable terms unless he starts being very unreasonable
You keep the things under your name give him the things under his
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There’s nothing in that house worth fighting over besides the kids…
Yes he can take you to court and legally get his stuff. If its in his name or he paid for it the judge may grant it returned to him. Its just a civil matter. But remember now you have a child with this man you will want to be amicable because it does look better in court😉
If stuff is in his name then by law he can.he can apply for a recovery order at the courthouse
If u bought it together then its only right to split it, if u were the one to move out would u want him to do u that way?
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Legally the things in his name he can take.
Be civil like 2 grown adults and talk about what you both need to make the best decision on who gets what
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Don’t give him anything get a lawyer ASAP change the locks!!!
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Just give him what’s his and quit complaining.
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don’t fight over material items …
Yall need to decide who gets what and be civil mature adults about this. I dont understand why some women think that it’s up to a man to do everything.
If he didnt take anything and had to buy all new stuff, the next complaint would be that he is broke, he isnt helping support the kids, or he has an inadequate living situation. Blah, blah, blah.
Are you not just as capable of purchasing some items needed for the home?
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Not sure how it’s going to be arranged but I think you can let him take things that are not really needed by you and your baby. If you bought a crib together, I don’t think he needs it when he leaves. Just talk and sort things out.
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If some of the things were bought in his name or he has receipts to prove he purchased them, then yes he can take legally take them or go to court and sue you for them if you refuse to give them to you.
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Get a saw cut them in half…
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Keep it all honey. Just payment for putting up with his rotten. Hide.
Does he pay child support for the child? If not slap that on him too
GoD BLESS
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Regardless if you were married or not he still has rights to get his stuff … why fight about it you will still have a life with him for at least the next 18 ,19 years (depending on what state you live in ) because of the child … if your going to be petty about stupid stuff that can be replaced what are you going to do with the child … he / she still needs both parents
Not sure about property but you need to make sure you have a custody plan in place or he can come take your child and you can do nothing about it.
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Keep it or go to court!To take anything back he has to have proof!
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Um, he has as much right to joint belongings as you do.
Sounds pretty selfish to me.
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He walked out he gets nothing. Your child needs these things. I agree with Keli except for the trade of child maintenance. Too bad for him. He made his choice.
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Uhh yes. He has legal right to his things 
Some of you women on here are just petty. So, he’s not allowed to walk out of a relationship unless he’s willing to forfeit his shit? Are you serious? Y’all sound like my ex husband.
You’re being petty. Let him get his things. If it was you in his position, how would you feel?
He is entitled to anything in the house that was brought while living together weather he walked out or not and there isn’t anything you can do about it only things he can’t take is stuff you have brought after her moved out
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He walked out on you and a 4mo old let him figure it out
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He left if. He didn’t take things he may be able to check with a laywer
Its stuff let him have it.
Let me take his stuff. Its not right to make him have to refurnish a new place. If he bought it he should be able to take it.
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He is not a real man,and that is what you get for not respecting yourself and having children with out getting married . I feel sorry for that child. I know what some people are going to say …Even if you are married , he would walk away. “Ladies” should respect them self and don’t have children with boyfriends.
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Girl, you gotta alot of growing up to do. Y’all got kids now. Time to stop being petty and selfish and learn to work together. Y’all in this for the next 18 years and it isn’t about you or him anymore.
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Sit down and discuss a way through like adults
If it’s in his name, whether you bought it together or not, and he has those receipts for it, or proof of purchase in his bank account, he can take it.
The only way it doesn’t work like that is if you were married.
So allow him to take the stuff in his name, you keep the stuff in your name and replace it.
I understand it’s hard, but relationships end. Things can get nasty, but don’t make them more nasty than you already need them to be. Remember he has just as much right to the baby as you do, he is no less than a parent than you. And move about your day.
Legally though while his name is also on the lease you cannot change the locks without giving him a key, and he is allowed at the residence at any time. And he is legally allowed to leave his stuff in a place he legally has his name on and such and you cannot destroy/damage/throw it out/sell it/keep it. Until his name is off that lease he can take you to court for property damage and make you pay for it.
As long as he only takes his stuff thats his right doesn’t leave u or ur child to suffer ie sofa, bed, cot, fridge, basic things like that he shouldn’t be allowed to take.
I once left a horrible relationship, and this guy change the locks and just left. I was able to grab my things with the police present. But was only able to take thing that where clearly mine. Things like the TVs and whatever else he will not be able to take. Unless he can prove it’s his.
He should take you to court for half of everything y’all bought together. You’re not entitled to everything just because you have a kid by him. And with this attitude if i was him I’d take you to court for joint custody. You’re going to be one of those bitter exes that’ll do everything to make him miserable.
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It is so funny how bitches be in their 20s much more bitter than our mamas be in their 70s …
Give that man his things 
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Figure out who wants what and who needs it more & divide it up as equally as practical. Hire a mediator if it would get too ugly. Honestly, this is not that worth fighting about.
For example, if you keep the bed, he gets the sofa to sleep on; you keep the kitchen table & chairs, he gets the dining table; he gets the desk if you have the counter. You keep the crib, he gets the changing table. It’s all just stuff, much of which can be replaced with trips to thrift stores, so don’t either of you make this too big of a deal.
Each of you gets to choose one non-negotiable item that you must have or has sentimental value to you. Hopefully it’s different things. Don’t fight about them. Maybe if you have only one car, the other one can buy it for half the value or trade for an equivalent amount of household stuff. A new baby doesn’t really need too much.
Maybe you each make lists of “really wants,” “fine to let go,” and “OK either way.” Then only discuss and negotiate over the stuff you both want. This may also depend on who has the child more often if custody isn’t split 50/50. A baby can sleep in a cardboard box with a foam mattress and be changed on the floor and fed in a parent’s arms if they’re only going to spend a few days a month in that home.
Focus more on shared custody & co-parenting. If he has no interest in rearing the child, have him legally relinquish his parental rights if available in your state to a single mom. Makes life easier in the long run but then you don’t get child support.
Once you both calm down & get used to your new situations, sit down together and see if you can come up with consistent house rules. E.g., when and what baby should be fed at each stage, when & how to potty train, how and when to discipline, how to deal with holidays (alternate, switching in alternate years; suck it up & do them together, what to do when plans have to change), bedtime hour/s & routine, rules for having people over when child is present, when & how to notify each other in case of emergency or other situations, how to handle medical decisions, getting first right of refusal to babysit, religious upbringing, etc. Kids are adaptable & there can be different rules at each house, but the more consistency the better. Renegotiate as things change.
Remember, it’s not a competition, and don’t bad mouth the dad in front of the baby, ever. Your child may be an angel or holy terror, or alternate depending on age and circumstances. Both of you should avail yourselves of any parenting classes, books, videos, podcasts, parent groups or other resources available to you. You can learn separately from the same things, then discuss what each of you wants to take away and apply from the lessons. Continue discussions and revisions as often as possible, take deep breaths & remain civil. Instead of his & hers, concentrate on best practices. Not sure if Super/American Nanny shows are still on the air/online, but you can see effective techniques used on actual families. Please vaccinate, but you can negotiate when each shot is to be given, sooner or later, all at once or spread out.
I’m sorry your relationship didn’t work out. Counseling for both of you will help you come to terms and deal with all the emotions. Bitterness, resentment and fighting for control steal your happiness and youth and curdle your relationships with your child.
#JudgeRinder
Hit him up, he’ll sort you out 
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Wow it just amazes me how some people think just because a girl spreads her legs, has a kid by someone that if they split they get everything!! Women have become gold diggers - it is sad! They use their children to take advantage of the fathers. So what he left, we don’t know why. Maybe it was her, maybe she cheated, maybe she was a bitch! How come we automatically assume the guy was wrong! Ok so you have the kid, yeah he should financially support his kids and see that child. But that doesn’t give you a right to have everything he’s left if it belongs to him. Mothers always want more! Mothers try to live off their baby daddies so they don’t have to buy the shit themselves and I don’t care who thinks I’m wrong for saying this it’s the truth! I would never have done this to my kids father.
Why don’t yhall sit down together and see what you can live without that maybe he can use
Because you have a child together try keeping most of it but if that’s not possible try splitting things up if he wants most large things go to court. You have to co parent for a long time try to do things peacefully sometimes it’s just not possible
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I don’t know where you live but in Texas whether you have kids or not as long as he contributed to the house he by law can still come and go as he pleases and take whatever he wants to take no matter if it’s for the kids or stuff you bought or bought together. Also in Texas if you want him out and don’t want him removing anything, you have to go before a judge and have him evicted. Don’t know that this helps but I would try having a civil conversation before involving the courts because if you do share children then now they will be thrown up in the middle of it and they definitely don’t deserve that.
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Don’t have kids with someone you don’t plan on spending forever with maybe also, if he paid for half, then half of everything is his.
periodT
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He’s responsible for child support for sure. I don’t know what he can have though. I would check with an attorney over your state laws and how they look at common law arrangements without marriage
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He is entitled to half of anything bought during the relationship. I think it’s selfish to think it should be any other way.
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The sad part of it is is it is a civil matter it will have to go to court you do not have to give him anything out of the house you can just wait till you go to court and let the judge separate everything between the two of you
I guess I’m confused…he willingly left, like there was a fight and you said to get out and he did? Or he just never came home from work? What are the things he is wanting? If it’s things that are in deed his, what’s the problem? I divorced my ex husband after 15 years and I let him keep the house and everything…took what was mine and was sentimental and never looked back!
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First off you need to find a lawyer and thank God he not coming after the baby yoyr n9t married you better RUN not walk and get temporary cousody of him if you haven yet thats the mmost important thing cause at this moment if neither has went to lawyer neither one of you have cousody
Look at this way, those belongings versus a peace of mind. I would choose a peace of mind any day.
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Might be time to talk to a lawyer, if your not going to compromise with him. Yes he left but it was his life too.
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Since he left and u have a baby he should just leave everything as is.
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The thing is as well it also depends on the state you live in. Like the state I live in they are all for equal parenting time unless one parent isn’t able. And it doesn’t matter the age. Also if his name is on the birth he also has rights to his child. You need to go to court be civil and work out a way to equally divide up the household and baby stuff. Your only going to be hurting the child in the long run. It is in the best interest of the child to work together and do what is best for that baby. Fighting over material things that you both bought isn’t fair to the baby. Work together and it will be better in the long run. Would you rather be civil and get along or fight all the time and be unhappy? Move on from each other and work together for what’s best for your child you have together. He is still that baby’s father and has rights
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Let the courts decide, depends on your state, and since never married. He should have taken what he wanted when he moved out.
Try to come to an agreement with him. You guys have to coparent for the rest of your lives. Try to make things easier for your child. And tell him this too.
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I understand how you feel that happened to me twice. First time he just took what he wanted, I didn’t fight him, we weren’t married but lived together 3 yrs had a son.
Then years later my ex husband took big floor model tv, mini freezer and my dog, I was upset about the dog but I figured after 10 yrs of marriage it was the least he could have, house was in my name, car was in my name, again I didn’t fight it. It was a bad relationship and I was happy to be out.
Pick and choose your battles otherwise you may just make things worse for yourself, sending you hugs
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Sounds pretty selfish to me of you not to want him to have ANYTHING even when you said yourself that some were even in just his name…
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He left he could of kicked you out but did the right thing since you have a child together. Ask yourself why can’t he have some of the things if they were bought together. Its just easier to let things go material things can be replaced!
He left, walked out on the family unit he had helped make… I say make him take you to court over it so he can go ahead and get his child support payments set up 
… Maybe he won’t be trying to play house with no one else til he figures out what he wants 
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Sounds like he is deserving of half to me.
In Colorado I think if you’ve lived together for awhile they look at it as married. You might want to talk to a lawyer. They sometimes give advice for free.
You can buy him out of those items at reduced cost…wear and tear. Approach him with that idea.
Half on a marriage!!! Proof of purchase when you shack up!!! Lol simple and straight to the point. Don’t waste the courts time.
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No, while you have his child, no courts will let him have anything the child will need now or in the future!
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You keep stuff you bought in your name and the baby stuff you bought. Everything in his name and baby stuff he bought should be given to him. You can replace everything. Are you gonna be that mom that bad mouths the dad all the time or make it difficult for him to see his baby without you being around
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Do you own the house together? If not, change the locks. Possession is 9/10ths of the law. File for child support, let him counter petition and hash it out in court.
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Depends on where you live. I am in Louisiana and he would not be able to take anything unless you let him have it. Only his personal belongings. Clothes, bath and health and beauty products etc.
Just keep the things you bought and that are in your name and let him have the things that are in his name and that he bought…That’s Fair…tall have a baby together so I’m hoping yall can agree on things that concern the baby in a peaceful manner and dont fight in front of the baby
If any of the things you bought together benefit the baby you have then No
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If he helped pay for things I think the civil thing to do would be to EQUALLY divide things up. He spent his money on it too. It’s only fair you guys sit and decide which items should go with whom. It sucks you may have to buy some new things but it’s only fair.
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Possession is 9/10 of the law. If he still has a legal right to be in the home then he has a legal right to take whatever he wants. If that’s the case it becomes a civil matter therefore needing civil court. If he has moved out and has no legal attachment to your home, he has no legal right to come in and take anything, that would be robbery. He would need to take you to civil court for what it is that he wants.
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