Oh hell no. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
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You share children with a deranged POS. Nothing you can do about it now. Don’t comment on it to your children other than asking them if they would like to be part of your “wedding” should you decide to have another one. Otherwise you’re wasting your life, it will only make him act worse/stir up a lot of pain and trouble for your kids.
Don’t have a say 
if he’s able to push you around dahhh he’ll keep doing it
Don’t like or agree with something stand up .
I would never let my husband if we split keep my kids out of the major important moments. But I ain’t a push over and will stand up for what I want and believe in .
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Renew your vows and involve your girls 
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That crap would not have worked with me period. Blood is thicker then water.
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I can’t even imagine what this would be like. It’s giving me anxiety just thinking about it. There is no way in HECK I would let anyone exclude my kids from a big life event. I would physically go and get my kids (if they were all on board obviously). You ex is a POS and will continue to do these things to you if you allow it. Your kids should be the only people in your life you continuously fight for no matter what.
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Let it go. You would only be hurting the girls.
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Sounds like you just didn’t put your foot down as their mother and let it slide. Too late to go back now.
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YOU ALLOWED it to happen meant to take your power back … ITS OVER MOVE ON NEVER LET IT HAPPEN AGAIN AT christmas …
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I can see why you’re not married to him anymore. 
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Why would you let him keep your own children from your wedding. Somethings missing from this story.
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You get your photography Redone with your babies front and centre🙌
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Yes but let them be in his wedding. It is not fair but then ex’s rarely are. Just thank the Lord He is not your problem!!! Move on.
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Do what’s best for the children. It’s hard & not fair to you or your girls but keeping them from his wedding will only hurt them further. Explain to them that their dad kept them from being in your wedding. Make sure they know that wasn’t your choice. Ask them if they want to be in his. If not then keep them with you.
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“I don’t even have a say in it, how is that fair?” Are you stomping your feet & shaking your fists, too? Understandable WHY he’s your ex ~ he’s “controlling”, you allow it, then call foul! Of course you have a say ~ they’re your children. That being said, pick & choose your battles ~ your children are impressionable ~ let them share in his day with his new wife & be glad she has him! You have your new husband & all is well with your children. What could be more “fair” than everyone being happy?
That is sad and controlling freak. I said let them be a part of his wedding for the sake of your kids. But next time, you put your foot down and say enough is enough.
Another thing, is you need to schedule your events during the time you will have your kids. That way he don’t have a saying about it.
My step kids bio mother is selfish like him. We always plan things to do during my husband’s parenting time but some of the stuff we have no control over them, we have to begged her to switch weekends with her. But whenever she have something going on and she need the kids. We have no problem about it.
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He will weep what he sows…No weapon formed against you shall prosper… vengeance is not yours … allow them to be in the wedding…they are kids and you may hurt them in your decision to fight him on this….
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The “let” or “wouldn’t allow” is such a strange term. It’s your life hun you can’t change the past but you change into some big girl panties and start doing what you want.
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THAT FRIDAY… Whoops… we just happen to be 10 hours away on vacation for the week. Sorry 
they’ll have to miss it. Have fun though 
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Make it a shit show or show up with ur new husband and kids as guests…
Cut your ex husband out of your life (as much as legally possible since you’ve kids together) he is toxic. Renew vows/or do a mock wedding with your new husband in a small intimate ceremony with your girls there. The second wedding can be just fun loving without any of the pressure of the first. Have elvis do it in las vegas, do a fake ceremony on a mountain top, during a carriage ride, on the coast…or whatever meets yours and his interests. My family is toxic but im working on cutting out anyone who brings high levels of negativity and misery and or drama to my sons life, your girls deserve better than him
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Who has primary physical custody?
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Keep the girls with you and don’t let them be in his wedding since he didn’t let them be in your wedding turn abouts fair play also you definitely do have a say so id definitely talk to him and tell him oh so its ok for them to be in your wedding but not ok for them to be in my wedding you then say well guess buddy there not being in your wedding either if I’m not allowed your not allowed type thing BTW everything in your post is bullshit especially since he thinks he can get away with having yalls kids in his wedding when he wouldn’t let them be in yours so again keep them on his wedding day and say we’ll sorry but we got other plans so suck it up buttercup
You should have had your kids in your wedding anyway. But that’s in the past. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Move on.
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That’s right let it go for the girls
Be bigger person one day ur girls will thanks u for that
Now is your chance to show your children how a parent should behave in these situations. Be the bigger person and always put your children first no matter how your ex behaves. As they grow up watching you they will appreciate and love you for it.
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When my ex got remarried, he did it on a weekend that was scheduled to be mine but I agreed to let him have our son for the rehearsal and for the wedding…then I got suckered into an extra night because my ex had been drinking
Your fault for not pursuing the issue
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As hard as it is - take the high road. Show your children how to be the better person and emulate how you can be above the drama of the past. Plan an amazing vacation with your girls and husband and look towards the bright future. Best wishes!
You gave him his way by not letting your kids be at your wedding. Big mistake
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He’s using your girls as pawns it is a form of abuse. If you have visitation through court I would address what he is doing.
Be the better person… Teach your kids that they are loved . Not pawns in your failed relationship war
Nothing you can do! You should have stood up to him and told him he can’t tell you what’s going to be happening, they are your children too.
Unfortunately he’s one of those dad’s that if it isn’t his way it’s nobody’s way. So for now drop it and let it go… it’s in the past now, if your girls ask why they weren’t at your wedding give it to them straight!
Where do the kids live for a start and why weren’t you strong enough to demand your own kids to your own wedding?
You said he’s controlling so you just agreed, so if you are that weak for your own wedding, how are you stronger now?
You clearly have issues co parenting and you need to either go back to court or stand up for your self.
What ever you decided to do just know you are being a role model for your kids. You can either show them women are to be controlled, Women can stand up for themselves and family, or women are petty.
Think about what you will do and how you will achieve it before you do it!
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Tell him no! They can’t be in the wedding
Let them be in the wedding and wish him well. Don’t be ugly like him. Show your girls that you’re the bigger person.
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You don’t sound like adults, they’re both your children right… not objects but people. You could’ve spoken up and I understand controlling partners but that’s seriously a topic that I wouldn’t have backed down from
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Do your girls feel comfortable going? Do they like dads new SO? Or is it just a game your ex is playing to spite you? I don’t know why you would ever give in to something like that just to avoid argument. Your girls should have been included whether it was an argument or not.
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Be the better person…
you will always be one up on him. And ask the girls. Let it be their choice. The shoe is on the other foot now, not jealous anymore because he found someone and is getting remarried…thats basically all it boils down to…couldn’t stand to see you happy so had to punish you in some way.
Always be gracious…your actions will speak volumes and people will recognise this and hold you in high regard. As much as it tears you up inside and want to do the same to him…don’t give him the satisfaction. There will come a day when your girls will realise his selfishness and your grace and will draw their own conclusion of the type of people their parents are. Let them follow your lead, not that of their Father. Always be upstanding and a good role model to your children. Show them your strength and how humble you are, and always show them love.
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I wouldn’t have listened to him in the first place. I recommend being the bigger person
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Take them on “vacation” the time of the wedding haha
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Why did he have more say than you? Don’t you have any custody rights?
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Well, your wedding is gone and you allowed him to control that situation. Don’t you have some kind of written agreement. Also it sounds as though the girls live with him? If you continue to be weak about that, then don’t complain when he continues to have his way!!
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His children will have their own opinions about their relationship with him. They will see who he is. It’s hard, but remember they may be children, but they see it too. Personally, I wouldn’t make a thing of it. I’d be mad too, but he’s probably going to be on his best behavior, and no physical risk is at hand. They get to experience a wedding and see family. I totally understand your side. You are better than giving into his bullshit. Hugs and hope you find some relief in knowing you see who he is, and can pinpoint his “power play”. Greyrock and take away that dopamine hit from him.
don’t you feel like your girls are gonna be “sick” that day … OH MY ! too bad…so sad …
Let it be the girls choice!! Ask them they are old enough to have voice in their placement in his wedding or not. Im sorry he is so controlling even after leaving him:/ but try and make this a good lesson for your girls showing they have a say in their own lives 
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Oh hell no he wouldn’t allow ur daughters to even attend your wedding so there for they would damn sure wouldn’t be in it or even attending period
You can’t, you let your boundaries be crossed and now he won’t. It seems vindictive and probably is but sadly you might have to agree to this as well.
Sounds like he is a controlling piece of crap. Nothing you could do now, just be the better person for your kids.
Turn the page …
Let the children decide if they would like to be in the wedding.
Don’t make the children be your weapons in the war with your ex
You can wish him well. Tell the girls best behavior and to have fun. If you remain friends with someone from the past, ask them to watch out for your girls. Depending on the relationship attend the marriage ceremony (not after party) with them
Hell nah I would pull the same card. If they weren’t in your wedding I wouldn’t want them in his either
What your husband did was so wrong and your daughters know it deep down. If you keep them away from their fathers wedding you will be showing your girls the same thing. Children should never be used as a pawn, so make sure they look as pretty as can be, and support them, and tell them to have fun. I can only imagine this is hard on you but be the better parent in their eyes.
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Who do the girls live with? Full custody? 1/2 custody? If it’s his weekend or his time then it’s his business if not then you decide.
If he has custody then he calls shot but if you do you can stop it now if you would have had them the day you wed then nothing he could have done