So because you didn’t fight for your girls to be in your wedding, their father has to suffer at his?
Your picking the wrong times to be selfish.
I personally think you should reevaluate yourself. Where do your priorities lay?
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Well first off why the hell did you let your ex husband dictate your kids being in your wedding in the first place? Because now homie is the kids step dad and is around… this makes absolutely no sense.
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So confused. Did your current husband not allow your children to be at the wedding because of how controlling your ex is? Or when you say husband in your post are you talking about your ex not allowing the kids to be in the wedding?
You and your ex sound like a bunch of children. Very petty
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Unfortunately you had already made your decision by allowing your now ex husband to control the wedding, leaving your daughter’s out. You cannot allow your daughter’s to not be apart of their father’s wedding now, when he is making an effort for them to feel apart of his new family. That is a memory they will treasure forever and bonding with their dad and his new wife and blended family.
Because you chose this, unfortunately you mustn’t be petty because you let your ex husband dictate otherwise. It would be cruel to say no simply because you didn’t want the drama during your time, (imagine how your daughter’s felt then and imagine how much they’d think of you if you took this away from them too).
Suck it up and be happy.
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Why do you let him control you like that!!! I wouldn’t of even told him when my wedding was. No one is gonna tell me my kids can’t come to my own damn wedding!!!
Sadly. The situation seems your fault. Those girls should’ve been at their mom’s wedding. Period. That was up to you.
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It’s too late now… you let him exclude your girls from your marriage? My life is my kids…
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you should have insisted on the girls being in your wedding
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you allowed it to happen who doesn’t let their kids come to their wedding!?!?
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I can’t say I’m surprised, not to sound rude but I would’ve fought harder for my kids to be in my wedding or at my wedding. If you both share custody then there’s no primary parent to overrule the others. All I can say is that you should fight for them not to be in or at his wedding but in doing so, when the kids get older they’ll see that you did the same he did and then think you’re both bad people. Trust me kids grow up and they realize who the bad parent is and then they will most likely choose not to have anything to do with that parent. It was that was with me and my mom, I haven’t had much to do with her since I was 16. Even now that I have a 5 year old daughter, who is my mothers first grandchild, my mom rarely ever has anything to do with her, but being my sister (the golden girl) had a baby, my mom let them move in with her (when she refused to let me and my child do that) and takes care of the other baby and has more to do with him. My daughter will see the truth when she’s older, I just let my mom go on about what she does and not even let it bother me. But at the end of the day this right here is a good lesson to be learned. Put your feet down and don’t let their father control your life or your relationship with them. I’m surprised you found someone to marry you being you let your ex control so much of your life. I would never ever be with a man who was like that with his ex or anything.
Just like he shouldn’t of had a say in regards to your kids being in your wedding. You allowed it, don’t be petty now that he’s getting married lol
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Renew your vows and make them a part of it this time.
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Sometimes being petty about things will backfire on you. Some day your girls will figure out who they can count on and it probably won’t be Dad. Perhaps learning to get along socially with their father and his new wife will pay off in the long run. The girls will enjoy being part of the wedding. They may ask some day why they were not a part of your wedding and you can tell them the truth without embellishments and even at some point you all may be able to celebrate and take part in your girls weddings. Getting even hurts everyone. Be the hero is this case.
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No, it’s not fair. All you can do now is renew your vows on your time to have the kids and include them whether he likes it or not. Just don’t tell him or them. Just do it.
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Did u leave him cos he was controlling? Why are you letting him still control you?
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Not fair to you but it’s unfair for them to miss both they just want cake
You have a new ceremony take pictures with them or take a family portrait with your wedding dress on with your new husband and your girls.
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yall she means her EX husband wouldn’t let the girls come to her wedding. their dad, not her current husband, their step dad. and now their girls are in her EX husband’s wedding even though he wouldn’t even let them go to her wedding.
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Who has that kids that day?
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It’s was simple you should have planed your wedding when you had they not on his time
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How did this happen?? Did you plan your wedding on his weekend?? Otherwise, ain’t no baby daddy going to tell me what I can do with my child on my time
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Well that’s bullshit. Looks like he is still able to control u even tho u are not together. U need to stand ur ground with him or it will always be that way.
Let it ride. He’s just trying to hurt you. Don’t give him the satisfaction. Take the high road. Keep it positive.
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Be the adult and let your daughters take part in their fathers wedding. Don’t stoop to his level of immaturity.
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I. For the life of me. Will NEVER understand how somebody can marry somebody that don’t get along with their children. How can you TRULY think they are THE ONE, if they split your family?! I just don’t get it. There is somebody out there who would love your kids and vice versa. You need to take a long look in the mirror and stop settling mama. You are stronger that you seem, and braver than you think. You deserve to be loved in a real way.
Just tell him no what’s good for the goose is good for the gander
You’re still calling your ex your husband 

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Your first mistake was to not have your girls at your wedding! Even if you had to change the date to a day you had your girls that should have been done then there would have been nothing he could have done! And 2nd if his wedding is on a day he has the girls you can’t tell him no… If its on a day you have the girls then its your right to not let them go, but 2 wrongs don’t make a right! Take the high road and let them go. When they grow up they will know who was the bigger person and who was the problem!
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Allow them to go! What’s the big deal? Be the bigger person and save your energy for what truly matters in life. Your girls are watching y’all behaviours. Remain humble!
Let him live his bitter life! He’s someone else’s problem now 
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Watch and see next he’ll be trying to replace their mother (you) with his new bride . It sounds like he’s a control freak for 1 and 2nd doesn’t look at you like your worth the happiness of having your little girls see you marry the man you love lol cause we can see why it isn’t him ,I had one just like him
Renew your vows, say nothing to the girls or him, bring the girls, job done, i dont understand how you agreed to them not being at your wedding, they are your kids too and that’s bound to hurt them
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Personally I think you should have had your kid in your wedding regardless of dad saying no as long as the wedding fell on your time with the kids… that’s gonna be memories you’ll never get back. So with that being said if dads wedding is on his time then there’s nothing you can do about it just like if you had yours on your time… 
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Can’t change the past sad yes but do the girls want to be in his wedding? make it about them not him, he sounds like a jerk but if you keep them from being there it’s on you be the bigger person
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None of his business of u got married if u knew he was a ahole I wouldn’t of even told him anything especially marriage. Not alot u can do now of the girls live with him
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Life isn’t fair. I would not have let my ex-husband tell me what to do, but that is in the past. As a lady stated above, you can always re-new your vows at the 5 or 10 year anniversary. Yes, your girls could’ve been part of your ceremony too, but by not allowing them to attend his wedding you’ll only create hard feelings that your girls will have to contend with. That isn’t right for them. They shouldn’t have something like this happen to them. Once they are adults, they will understand. Hold your head high and be the bigger person.
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l get pald over $ 130 per hour w0rking from h0me. l never thought I’d be able to do it but my buddy makes over $ 15286 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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The fact that you let him tell you no is extremely sad, your girls should have been at your wedding too. But I’m guessing if they have been invited and want to be at dads wedding it would be wrong to take them away
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Stop been a push over to him stand up for yourself.
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Say no…do him how he did you.
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you dumb asl… i wish someone would tell me my own kids couldn’t be apart of something so memorable.
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Wow super asshole. Your fault for not having girls in your wedding your new husband should have put him in his place to start. You have no choice but to allow girls in wedding if they want that is. Unless it’s like on a day girls are to be with you? If that was the case then I’d take them somewhere fu just to piss the ex off lol petty I know but funny. But we mother’s strive to be the better person so we’d let them go. Good karma I say. Good luck keep us updated.
I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. The big deal should’ve been made when he told you that your daughters couldn’t be in your wedding, but you just let it go and agreed.
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Let them go, it’s not about you. I’m sure your girls would love to be at their fathers wedding. Why involve them in a tit for tat battle with your ex? He used them as leverage against you, to hurt you, which was wrong for everyone involved.Why would you repeat his behavior and use your kids as leverage just to get back at him? Kids are not pawns to get even with people.
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Two wrongs don’t make a right! Be the bigger person! What goes around will come around it always does!
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You should have never went along with the first request but don’t stoop to his level … There’s so much my BM has done that I would never do cause of “it being fair” I always do what I feel is best for my kid fuck my feelings or hers about it … But before either of these things if y’all don’t coparent well then all details of decisions should be ironed out in court … If you have your days then should’ve just had wedding on your day and said fuck em but we’re past that now
It’s not fair, but I would have never stood for that at mine to begin with, I would have gotten married while they were already going to be with me so he’d have no say in the matter. But now you can’t really do anything about it so just let it go. Trust me, it’s not worth it to be upset and start an argument over something that’s already done you can’t change. You’re going to have to deal with each other forever.
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l get pald over $ 130 per hour w0rking from h0me. l never thought I’d be able to do it but my buddy makes over $ 16091 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
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ya just tell him they are not going and dont let him come get the kids
Seems he still controls you
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I don’t think theirs anything you can do. You also didn’t have to listen to him when you got married if you have shared custody. I’m truly sorry your feelings must be hurt but aside from having an unnecessary argument with him I’d just be the bigger person and let it go.
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I really can’t disagree with the people saying two wrongs don’t make a right. But also I can entirely see why you remarried if he’s still controlling your life after your divorce and that pisses me off to no extent so dead ass, plan a weekend for the girls that weekend and explain that they have plans and the girls shouldn’t be used in any one’s wedding if that’s what he wanted so bad. I don’t see it as you using the girls, I see it as you’re not allowing him to use them. He has a problem, because he definitely is doing this nasty shit on purpose.
You gave him that control still after you divorced him. He will probably not let you have a voice.
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You missed your chance to fix this when you got married.
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Remind him of his reasoning at your wedding
You need to stop being so weak and stand your ground! Tired of seeing woman be weak
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Just continue to be the better person.
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Let them be in it. If it was a big deal to you you should have stood your ground then. Nothing you can do to change that and not allowing them in the wedding is something you’re doing to them not him.
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You do want you what your time with the kids as he does what he wants with his time with them.
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I would return the favour and refuse to let them be apart of his wedding!! He set the precedence 
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take the kids to Disney that day…
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There’s nothing you can do now. You should have put your foot down as their mother and had them in your wedding. I would never let another person tell me what I can and can’t do with my child!
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My first question is do you share 50/50 custody? If so, it’s too late to revisit your wedding. As someone stated be the better person. Being in the wedding must be exciting for your girls. I don’t think you would want to be the bad guy and upset them. They come first.
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If it’s his weekend, nothing you can do.
Tell him absolutely not
Only the children suffer in these circumstances.
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That was you fault for listening to him. He obviously didnt ask you if they can be in his and at this point if you say no he already knows that will upset your girls.
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l get pald over $ 130 per hour w0rking from h0me. l never thought I’d be able to do it but my buddy makes over $ 17069 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
Don’t stoop.
Let them go.
They’ll know you did the right thing and that’s far more important than them realising they have 2 petty parents!
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Do you not have split or sole custody? Sounds like you don’t have any legal rights by the post.
why didn’t you just plan your wedding on a date where your girls were with you?
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Do y’all have court orders? Is it his weekend or yours? If it’s yours then no don’t take them. Or ask your daughters if they want to be in the wedding if they are old enough to know what it means.
How did he keep them out of the wedding? If you planned the wedding for your time with them he couldn’t of done anything. You chose to let him control your wedding so leave it alone. The only people getting hurt are the kids.
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Be the better person and let the kids go if they want if not take them on vaca
Not much now
I’d be damned if he told me no & I complied
Be the bigger person don’t stoop to his level of pathetic. Those kids will see who was in the wrong eventually.
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First thing I just don’t understand why you kiddos weren’t in the wedding it just doesn’t make sense to me but you should let them go to wedding dont stoop to his level they will have fun
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Nothing without hurting your children. Always take the high road for them.
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l get pald over $ 130 per hour w0rking from h0me. l never thought I’d be able to do it but my buddy makes over $ 18943 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
Let it at this point. He’s literally just looking for a reaction, don’t give it.
I had a kid with a toxic person too, got to choose your battles. Your girls are going to have fun, this was specifically just done to affect you. Its totally okay and understandable that it did, don’t show it. I hate that petty bullshit, but at the day its harmless for the girls.
How could you not let your children be part of your special day. They will hold that against you for the rest of their life’s. You should have fought harder for them. They will remember being part of their dads wedding.
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The girls should be apart of both weddings plain and simple.
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I say go get your girls and don’t allow them to be at his wedding at all … your not hurting your girls , your protecting them from an evil man who kept them away from your special day
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I’m thinking these ?s are ment to rile women up cuz honestly wtf you mean your thier fkn mom grow a pair and stop being a weak ass bitch just think of the example you are setting for your girls …
Same thing u did when u got married nothing
Nothing. What’s done is done. Don’t make it worse.
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Seems like your ex was very controlling and still is…you should pkan a weekend that you have your girls with your husband and do a commitment ceremony with them …that way they will know that they are loved by your huband too…just a thought…and its never too late to do it…have a nice little cake too…if you had planned it better and not let your ex know you could have gad your daughters included…he probably is so filled with hate and mad sure your kids thought you didnt want them included…
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Tell him they are not coming . Plain and simple. Lol 
So reading this I’m making a guess, u don’t have custody their dad does, really depending what ur agreement in court was depends what u can do! If ur supposed to have them at that time or what not u can raise hell but remember ur angry (rightfully so) but what u do can n will affect the kids! Be the bigger person an let ur girls see good examples and when they are older and ask questions which they will they can thank u in the end for being a role model and not punishing them because dads an ass an control freak!!!
Quit fighting and co-parent your kids.
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Just let it go - don’t stoop too his level, don’t let him control you like this 
They will be at an age soon enough where they will figure it out for them selves. Congratulate him and let it be - he’s your ex for a reason 
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Yes…if it was your time to have them…he should not have anything to say about it
He is a narcissist, will never change, don’t stoop to his level. My ex recently told my future daughter in law that he will not attend their wedding if I am there. Still control after nearly 20 years.
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Show up to their wedding too with your girls…lol
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You can’t say anything. He didn’t have the right to say ur girls couldn’t be in the wedding but u allowed him to. Now they will be in his wedding and u can’t do anything about it.
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You blew it the first time and did not fight hard enuf for your girls…
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Don’t get married twice cow. Are you retarded?
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Next time keep your own private life private. Only tell him what he needs to know and arrange things around times that you have your children in your care. Problem eliminated.
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Wow I can’t believe you allowed him to keep YOUR daughters out of YOUR wedding. I’d be very upset if I were your daughters missing out on your big day. That’s just terrible.
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Renew wedding vows before his wedding and include your girls…I’m petty…
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My ex and I separated nearly 6yrs ago he got remarried a few years ago didn’t tell our children he got remarried they had to find out when they saw photo of the wedding.
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When my ex got engaged my youngest (who was about 9 at the time) LOST IT. I was the one to talk him down and explain why mom and dad will never be together. My boyfriend sat him down and told him that when he proposes he will talk with both my kids first. We plan on having ALL of our children at our wedding REGARDLESS of what my ex says. I fight for what’s best for my kids…ALWAYS. Make sure you do a "family ceremony " with your kids…AND DON’T TELL YOUR EX! make sure they know THEY are a priority to you and your husband. They will see the light on their fathers behavior as they get older.
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