If she won’t let you talk to the ex, have the courts do it. When I was divorced, there was a clause in the divorce decree stating that neither party was allowed to try to alienate our child from the other. The fact that he allows this to happen shows he’s a nutless wonder, and NOT the “great father” he is described as.
Oh hell fucking no that’s your exes fault I’d slap the shit out both of them
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Slap that bitch. I would never force my step kids to call me mom. They can call me by my name and I’ll still treat them like my own. I hope you figure this out soon.
Beat her ass!!! What’s the confusion
Put her in check!! Not ok!
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Teach your son how to milk that bitch for everything every chance he gets !
Go to the house and talk in peraon stop beong a pussy about it. Mom up and figure that shit out instead of asking online for help help yourself.
Good. See you in the morning. I love you.
Oh hell nooo fuck her fuck ur baby daddy that is not okay
Talk to your lawyer.
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Your utterly weak person, its your son, tell her NO. your kid is going to be utterly confused and cut all ties with this stupid person.
Confront her!!!
Oh lordy .I probably be in jail…
Have him call her Mommy dearest Lol
Hopefully you’ll know what movie I referring to 
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thats super abusive of her,and if he’s allowing it he’s part of that abuse no reason why he has to call the c*nt mom,ever. That’s an earned title(most step parents earn that trust)
i don’t think you will have a chance on this unless ex husband steps in. if the other lady has control over the calls etc, you don’t have a prayer. so sorry for you and your son. your ex needs to step up, but sounds like he won’t now and hasn’t for a long time. courts will no deal with this at all. good luck.
I would go over and have a talk with them.
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Take it to court . Sounds very unhealthy, i want a clear line of communication with the kids other parent. A judge will enforce it
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How old is your son? Is he able to talk about it with you? My step kids asked if they could call me mom when their mom temporarily moved out of country. I said yes but every other day or so, we all sit down to do something for their mom. Weather it would be a picture or a note and we’d talk about her, as their mother. Well, she came back and freaked. So, we corrected them until they now call me by my first name. They have told me they want to call me mom but mommy get mad and yells at them. But also yells at them when they call their step dad but his name… Now I have my biological 2 year old who also calls me by my first name but calls their mom mommy. My advice, if you can, talk to your child. Let them tell you what they are comfortable with and go from there. Custody battles are super ugly but sometimes necessary.
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Call your attorney! That’s harassment!
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It’s called parental alienation… it’s illegal.
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OMG 
Your poor son. How this must sting to know his father isn’t putting him first, not seeing his own sons uncomfortably and how the gf is getting in between a healthy co-parenting relationship. Momma Bear, you gotta bring out the claws and take that man to court or mediation. You didn’t sign up to co-parent with a gf that is emotionally abusing your son. Continue holding your composure, just stand up for yourself and your family. This is not okay.
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You need to discuss this with your lawyer. Having conversations about your joint child is an important part of coparenting. If someone is getting in the way of that you need to have a real chat with someone knowledge of your court case.
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have your lawyer call her
I had this happen to me as a child. That woman was/is an evil narcissist and it causes / has caused a ton of issues. She came in and took over ALL communication controls, even between me, my sibling and my ‘Dad’. 
Strengthen your child - build him up as much as you can, teach him to not buy into the lies, but as long as he is little, play her game in her presence. Not playing the game in her presence will make him a problem for her. Trust me, you DO NOT want that. -j
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Get a lawyer. Have it on the court papers that he is to call he’s biological parents mum and dad only but, let him at the age of 13+ to make that decision by he’s self. Also have down that parent communication is a must and must only be done from parent to parent.
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I have a stepdaughter. I have raised her since she was 6 months old. And I would NEVER force her to call me mom. Because I am not her mom and would never try to take her place. I would have a conversation with both of them.
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My bfs child’s mother has never even been in the picture and I do not force her to call me mom after being with her father for 6 years. She sometimes asks if she can but I have always made it very clear to her that I want her to call me whatever she feels comfortable calling me, whether that be my first name or mom or mama, whatever. But I would never, ever force her to call me mom. It is insane to me that she is doing that to your child.
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Dont send him there anymore. If he wont co parent with you, you dont have to co parent with her. She’s not a parent and has ZERO rights. Get an attorney right away and fill them in.
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I don’t want my,child calling anyone else mom .I gave her life not a stepmother. Unless the mother is not a mother get my drift. A lot of stepmothers are good there’s other names to call them with respect
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Oh hell no. Stop letting your child go around them and modify your orders to say child cannot be around girlfriend and she can’t live with child’s dad until married. She is crossing several boundaries. She is not his wife. The law sides with YOU. She has no legal right or say so. Also, even if she was a step parent she wouldn’t have rights. The rights belong to you and that child’s father. I’d put her in her place real quick. My son doesn’t even call his step mom, mom.
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Nope he should not be forced to call her mommy. That is your place not hers. If it came from him that is one thing. My second child has started calling my husband dad but it came from her and he has been in her life for more than half of her life. If you cannot communicate with your ex because of her then go to the source if you can. Good luck
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So I have a step daughter I’d never force her to call me mommy… she asked. Mom got extremely upset the judge said she can if she pleases it would be a different story if I MADE her. I do not. She just does. At this point if she stopped I’d be very upset… because it been years and I’d correct her BUT she started it the day she met me. She asked first and I said of course. But a judge would definitely say it’s not play to force them to do so if they do it naturally that’s just life though. My stepdaughter calls her mother by her first name while here also. I do not correct her because we have had to pick her up at a CPS station because mom was running from the cops and got into a car wreck with my daughter in the car… So I dont force her to respect her after she did that to her and showed very little concern for my daughters life.
Does your exes new girlfriend have kids of her own in the house?
That is not cool. She’s power tripping. If my husband and I ever split and his gf did that I would beat her a$$. 
then my husband’s
If you can not communicate with the father I would take that as a safety situation as it’s unsafe for your son to go with him .
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Making them call her mom is wrong. But our counselor said that If the child chooses to call a stepparent mom or dad and you force them to stop its a form of abuse. She said that usually kids who feel comfortable enough to call someone mom or dad or any form of those knows they are loved and cared for. Something people don’t understand sometimes is that the word mom,especially young kids is an action not a name. Moms take care of you and kids see that and will call a woman mom sometimes just because they know mom means safe, mom means love and if they are getting that from the people in their lives then you and that child are lucky. My sds cal me mom and have for 6 yrs. We tried correcting them and the counselor said to just let it go and let them call you whatever they are comfortable with.
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Omg! She wouldn’t be telling me I can’t communicate with the Father of my child and it would be a cold day in hell before any of my kids called someone else Mum! I’d explain to my child that he/she has one Mum who loves them very much and the name ‘Mum’ is special and should only be used to describe that person… maybe think of another name he can use for the Step Mum… obviously kid friendly 
x
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Try talking to both of them to address the issue. And u have all right to be upset. No child should be forced to call someone else mommy.
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I have it in my divorce that they can’t call anyone else anything close to mom. The courts could help
Confront him face to face. Stop relying on a phone.
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WTF is wrong with some people 
Absolutely no way on earth would I let this keep happening!!
Your his mum!!
Are they crazy!!
No.
Just NO.
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That is crazy!! She should respect you and not push that on your son . I have been a step mother and have step parents no this is not ok and not normal .I called my step dad, dad but that was my choice. If he felt like he wanted to call her mom and they have been together for a while. But a child should never be forced to call call someone mom or dad .
Stop letting him go with them. If it’s court ordered go back to court as that is concerning since she is not even married to him and it is scary to think he would get in trouble for anything involving someone who is not even a family member
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The fact that he gets in trouble for not calling her mommy is fucking psyco and borderline abusive. It’s yalls child not her child. She is nothing but the woman giving up kitty for the meantime. If there is NO RING on that finger she ain’t mommy.
If you can’t talk to him then I wouldnt send him there. Tell him there’s no communication and you don’t feel that your son is safe there
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Tell the b… That you’re allowed to contact the father of your kid and butt tf out. That ain’t her kid. She ain’t his wife she ain’t a step mom. She’s a gf
the girlfreind has no right telling your son to call her mommy she is not his mommy and your x should step in and tell her you are just my girlfriend he dont need to call you mommy but it sounds like he has no back bone you need to step in and tell your x a few things
Smack a bitch
And the ex for allowing it
There is no way in hell, my ex or myself would allow anyone to come in between the co parenting relationship we share for our son. In my opinion, he’s not as “good” as you say he is because what he is allowing is toxic af!
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Ummmm that sounds crazy and controlling and I’d be extremely concerned and consulting a lawyer 100%
Somebody would be catching these hands…
Call up the girlfriend and tell her that unless she can produce the stretch marks to prove that she did indeed birth your baby boy, she has no right to tell him to call her mommy. And if she has a problem with that, direct her to this post and we’ll help you handle it
I’d be full on LIVID. Would go directly to HER and get her know that my son will NOT in fact be calling her mom. So glad I’m married. Could not control my temper if I was you.
No what she is doing is highly inappropriate and could be construed as child abuse. She is not his mother and what happens if they break up? If they break up then she has forced him to feel a certain way about her that will be very hard on him. She’s not thinking about him she’s thinking about herself and how it makes her feel when he calls her that. Which he really doesn’t have to call her anything. If he’s not comfortable calling her that then he shouldn’t be obligated to do so. And I would bring it up with her politely and respectfully. That it could be very detrimental to him if anything were to happen. It’s mentally messing with him. It’s disrespectful to you. And he shouldn’t be getting in trouble if he’s uncomfortable. I also think that you should bring up to her that it’s not legal for her to stop communication between you and his father. It’s a joint custody and as parents you have to have communication with each other. And that you could potentially bring him to court if she continues to do this. I think you should keep a journal with all the dates of when she does this and take screenshots of everything. I don’t know if this could be taken by CPS. But I do think it’s mentally not OK to do to your son.
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For one you not being able to call or text your child’s father is unacceptable. How are you supposed to know what’s going on…or let him know what is going on? Being civil is not just doing what the other parent wants. It’s finding solutions together. I’m sorry but mommy is reserved for the mom. I wouldn’t. Be nice about that one. If he wants to call her mom when he’s comfortable …ok. but why mommy? Poor kid is probably so confused
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My questions how old is your son?. Can you go to her with your son and be civil. In front of her ask…What does your son want to call her? What is he comfortable with. Ask why he gets in trouble if he forgets this is wrong on many levels but should be corrected before gets out of hand.
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If domestic relations were involved, or a court hearing there are only two people permitted in the room. The mother and the father. No steps. So it should be with your son. You need communication with the father of your son, not his step mother. I had a very wicked stepmother and believe me, I know from experience the hold some of these women put on the dads. Some dads just can’t take the bickering and walk away like mine did. At 66 I still grieve over missing my father not being around.
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I’d call your ex, if she answers ask to speak directly with him, if she refuses, the next time make dad pick him up or he doesn’t go until you can calmly talk with dad one to one. She needs to step back respectfully. Dad needs to go some balls, and back you up.
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I’d simply text them both and tell her in no uncertain terms. My son is not comfortable with calling you mom. He has a mom and I’m her. If you wish to push the issue and punish MY SON for not calling you mom. I’ll have no choice but to involve my lawyer. Your choice.
Dad you need to back me up here as OUR SON is being manipulated into things hes not comfortable with. How we gonna play this.???
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She can’t legally stop you from taking to your ex, nor should she be forcing your son. Lawyer up and take them to court. The court cares about the child’s best interest and it’s not in your sons best interest for you to have no communication with the father nor is it ok to force him to say things he doesn’t want to or feel.
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See I’m ghetto… I could NOT control myself if my child came home saying this woman is forcing him to call her mommy…I would be making a trip over when they are both present …without my child and we would be having a discussion… they can’t get right with it then dad can have visitation with out the gf present …I dont control his house but I do say when it comes to my kids and that shit would stop immediately…do not put up with that its shameful your ex let’s it go on.
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Tell her to back off! Your son has 1 mother only & that’s you, not her! My 5 year old step daughter calls me by my first name because I’m not her mother nor would I ever take that away from her mother.
Your ex’s gf is well & truly overstepping the mark there!
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I would tell him that if it makes him upset that he needs to talk to his father about that. But I would never show any animosity towards her in front of him. I suggest when he tells you things like this you do not react at all and just calmly say well since mommy’s not there you need to talk to daddy about that.
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Some great ideas given. This is actually a legal issue. Serious at that. It is called "Parental alienation " and if continues after court gets involved, orders can be changed in many ways. Supervised visitation; stay away order on gf when child is with dad; change in custody. Child should be seeing a therapist that can document for court his feelings and wants regarding this. He can be appointed a CASA …(Court Appointed Attorney) who will speak for him in court as to his feelings based on visits and documentation from the therapist. Good luck and always put your child’s needs first.
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This has Red Flags flying everywhere!!!
No one should FORCE a child that isn’t biologically theirs to call them anything other then their name, and then to punish them if they don’t is a form of controlling and abuse!!!
Mum and Dad are reserved for those who are Mum and Dad UNLESS the child themselves chooses to call them something else which is perfectly fine, but Mum (or Mummy etc) what ever your little one called you, is reserved for you and you only. It should be how you are referred to when you are not there…… Your child should not be forced to refer to you by your first name…… again with the controlling and abuse!
As for communication, you need to be able to speak to the child’s father. You have joint custody and it’s a requirement of such. Maybe asking to meet with them both to discuss your concerns calmly in a neutral environment. If she refuses to allow it then try calling him during his work hours then if that doesn’t work then maybe you need to head down the path of Legal Mediation.
I’m a Step Mum myself of Two Beautiful Girls who call me by my First Name. I refer to the Girls Mum as Mum when speaking to them and her First Name when speaking to my Husband. It can be a minefield at times but we luckily get along quite well because we RESPECT each other and the rolls we play.
By the sounds of things your ex’s new partner doesn’t know what respect means. Hopefully things can sort themselves out for you without needing to get the courts involved but remember they are there to protect your little boy.
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I’m a girlfriend dating a dad. Mom has physical custody. Never have I intervened with how mom and dad deal with their son. He calls me sam or mom on the occasion. In my opinion she is stepping WAAAAAY over the line. Should she be a parental figure? Of course, shes dating your sons father. It sounds to me like u need to have a talk with HIM…not her. If she says no, then guess what. No kid. Sorry not sorry. But she is out of control with this new power she has
First place it’s disrespectful to you for him to call you but your first name. She is not his mother. His father should not let it happen. I would not let her around her when he see his father
Forcing a child to call you by any title is ridiculous. And for there to be consequences if not done so is wrong. Absolutely pick your battles and if your ex wants to be abused by his woman, great thats his choice but he needs to protect your child from the abuse. And so do you. If you cannot communicate with the other parent please get the courts involved. He obviously chooses the woman over your son, so make it official by taking him to court
Thats insane smh. I would definitely find a way to address this to the ex and his gf togethee juat so she understands clearly that that’s not okay. You dont force a child to call someone else mom. That is your child with him and someone needs to speak up for your son. Who else wpuld it be if not you??
If your ex is punishing your son or allowing a girlfriend to punish him if he doesn’t call her mommy, he’s not a good dad. You know it’s not okay for him to be forced to call the gf mommy.
Can you talk to him when he picks him up or you drop him off for visitation?
Even if she is there. Who cares? That’s highly inappropriate and also…that woman is insane.
You birthed that baby. You have the right to be angry. Only bio-mom is mommy, he can call her by her first name or maybe mother or mom. Not mommy, that’s reserved.
You could stop all rights for the father and go to court as it seems she is answering all his phones not him, and the gf could be stopped from going to court by you and your lawyer she is not the mother
The father needs to step up and quit accepting the wishes of an over controlling woman . He should stand up for the child .
She has issues… screams personality disorder. Not ok. And to not allow you to talk to your ex?! Ugh.
I feel your pain. So Sorry
I am not the person to cause drama…but I would be so pissed!!!
I had this happen when I was a bit younger, so from a personal stand point No she is a GF not a step parent . She has absolutely NO rights to have your child call her anything but her name. Once she is legally marry then yeah probably be a bonus mom but it’s all within it’s given time. You completely need to address it with the father whether she looks at his msgs or not or it cause a problem which it should not cause it’d be ridiculous on the gfs part to do so but we all know crazy ppl exists so I would definitely address it my child mental & emotional care comes first and does not need that type of confusion.
Thats life. They will never change
Grow a pair and step up, cause you are just watching this crap happen.
How does your child get picked up? Does he Come? If he does discuss it with him then. I’d refuse to allow your child to go down until he’s willing to come and speak to you about the issues. He will eventually crack as he will want to see him. I think what’s she’s doing is very inappropriate and confusing for your child. I’d be putting my foot down until the situation is sorted. How can they punish him for not wanting to call another person mum. That’s disgusting
You are his Mother not her. This is not acceptable.
Tell your EX to grow a pair
I would lose my shit with this woman!
If communication ceases to exist, warn them you will bring in a lawyer. Also set up counselling sessions to allow the child to express the situation for his benefit as well as it can be used to prove your case with the lawyer. And if he was a good father as he has you believing then he would stop the gf on all her bs ESPECIALLY the calling her mom
It’s super weird and uncomfortable and it’s clearly effecting the dynamic.
Weird! I’d tell my kid no. You call her by name, I’m mom! She can fight me for the title, I dare her.
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Wow- hopefully that relationship doesn’t last long. That lady is nuts
What’s wrong with being able to talk to ur ex about personal things involving ur child…. And who the fuck does this cunt think she is especially making my son call her mommy. Excuse me? Did you birth this child? Did he come out of ur vagina ? No. So sit the fuck down you dumb ass bitch. Im sorry im getting heated but this just really upsets me. Especially when I read that the child gets in trouble if he doesn’t call her mommy. And where the fk is the father. Why is he allowing this to happen … ugh I swear if this were to happen to me I would slice my exs dick off and shove it up his ass. As for that bitch gf of his … there are ways to put trash whores in check. Don’t ever fuck with my children.