I think it would be good to get the advice of men in your life on this one.
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I regretted my choice to let people bully me into circumcision for my son. Please think long and hard on your own and think of him before you think of family members on this matter.
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Honestly when I told the doc I wasn’t circumsizing my son, he sighed in relief and said, “thank goodness i dont have to cause that much pain to another baby boy for no reason.”
If you look into it, there is really no reason to do it. It was created to stop boys from masturbating in the old days and girls had their clits burned away.
If you do more research you will find none of the arguments your family are throwing at you are true.
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Both of my boys are and they have thanked me for doing it!
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Not medically necessary and these days a lot more people are moving away from having it done. I don’t feel like they’ll be as stigmatized in the future.
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I have three boys and none are circumcised keep it clean and there shouldnt be any problems.
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I did not with my son. I started teaching him Very young how to clean himself. I supervised him until he was able to bathe by himself. We are very close and I have asked him about teasing at school and he said in his school he was not the only one so there were no issues.
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I did not. He is 23 and has been fine. Talk to your pediatrician there is little medical reason to do this. Only cosmetic. What you want it to look like.
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It’s your decision, as parents.
No matter what you decide, pros and cons will be brought up throughout your (his) life. It’s normal to wonder about what ifs.
So, if you have it done, you’ll wonder what if you hadn’t. If you don’t, you’ll wonder what if you had. You’ll always hear both sides.
The most important thing is - you make the decision, and be at peace with it.
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Nope…In my opinion it should only be done for medical reasons.
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I have three boys. Uncircumcised. Perfectly healthy. But it’s your choice don’t let others bully you into thinking you are wrong. It’s your children end of story.
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In the end the choice is yours but personally I had my son circumcised because they say its better for hygiene purposes.
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They don’t want to feel bad for circumcising their sons… don’t do it!! I have two sons one circumcised one not and I feel terrible for doing such a barbaric thing to my son. I was young and his father pushed me into doing it, but I was wrong to cave, if your son wants to be circumcised when he’s older he can have it done with pain meds which they don’t even offer for poor little babies.
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My mom didn’t do it to my little brother, my husband also isn’t. You just need to teach him to clean there.
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I have 6 sons and None of them have been. And no problems
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My son was a premie. I did not have him circumcised. He is 20 yr old now. Taught him how to clean himself around age 3. No problems or complaints.
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I wanted but my ex didn’t so I lost the battle. But our son got sick his 1st week after we came home and they did a catheter and missed so they had to do it again. It was painful to watch. That alone I wanted to do it. But he wouldn’t let me. It’s just cleaner and you don’t have to worry about it. Or show him how to clean it and make sure it’s clean. And as an adult he still making have accidents I remember having to take clothes to my ex at work because of it
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It is a human rights violation in my personal view. You didn’t ask my personal view but you asked why everybody is concerned so I am being honest. It is becoming less and less popular in my experience due to parents becoming more and more informed. I encourage you to continue to watch documentaries and read as much as possible until you feel ready to make an informed decision.
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Let’s just say his ladies in his future life will thank you , as will he . Infection pain and just more work involved forever if you just don’t get it done . No one wants to date the weird guy with foreskin … but to each their own
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I would do it because when the kid is older they will be upset and it will hurt them more when older…
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I honestly had my first circumcised. A lot of people kept telling me it was needed and I honestly felt peer pressured into doing it. Second time around I asked multiple doctors and they all told me it’s more of a preference of what the parent wants. It is not medically needed. I’m honestly so happy I did not get my second sons done.
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One issue that does arise. When ge gets to be older (80s) sometimes they have to circumcise them as the skin cannot be pushed back then. It’s very painful when done at that age.
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For so many reasons, It would be a mistake to cut him. Of course the most important is that HE HAS A GREATER CHANCE OF DYING DURING THE PROCEDURE THAN HE HAS OF EVER NEEDING A CIRCUMCISION. It is his body. What healthy, functional body parts do you cut off little girls? My son is two years old, intact, and has never had a single issue. None if the intact kids I know have. However, I have SO many friends who’ve had their kids botched and need multiple surgeries and seen some almost die. It’s not worth it.
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I had to have my son done at 5 wish I had done it at birth but due to a difficult birth he could not have it done. Much harder on him if you have to do it later.
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Its a personal choice and not up to your family. I did with my son because my mom didn’t with my brother and he kept getting infections and the skin was growing over his pee hole and starting to cause problems with urinating. So at 5 years old my brother had to get it done 
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There’s no medical reason to. It’s becoming an “old fashioned” procedure. You’re going to have to research and make your own decisions. Not only this, but EVERYTHING. Family will always have opinions. They have already raised their kids. You have to stand strong in your own beliefs and choices for your own kids.
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My boys were & Id do it again for hygiene reasons! Geez some people!
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There is always those that are so against female circumcision which is barbaric so is male circumcision. Why destroy what is made perfect
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We chose for the reasons of health. It was very uneventful and we have never regretted it. Speak to your doctor. Your choice should be respected. As was ours.
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Depending on your beliefs. I’m Jewish so we did that but we were able to use a professional and my child had medical attention etc. Also it’s not just cosmetic it can cause health issues further on in life without doing that. Just something to think about.
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I don’t have a boy, an I’m a female, but from my point of view I just don’t see why you would have any unnecessary procedure. Some people have a lot of extra skin and I can understand being concerned about hygiene, but just like everything else they will learn from you. Sometimes they cut too much and it doesn’t heal well, infection, and even loss of nerves. If it ain’t broken don’t fix it 🤷
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Waiting for later is to much pain for them , I would do it now forget what they have to say . I had all my boy’s circumcise except the last one he was to small to do , I seen my Grandson have his and they didn’t cut him . They have this new way of doing it with some kind of String and eventually the skin comes off by it’s self , never seen this before .
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We didn’t our son but than when he was 4 he had to be for medical reasons it best to do it before they get older
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Both my sons were. I have a relative whose spouse isn’t, and she gets lots of yeast infections. There are medical bias for it. However, it is your choice.
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Wtf… everyone saying “it’s your choice, none else opinions matters”… but the people saying they Did do it or Would, everyone is attacking them for Their Choice!! Stop being such hypocritical biotches
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It’s not medically necessary until it becomes so infected that the pain is horrendous. Or they decide on their own that they wish it would have been done once they decide to get married and then the pain is horrific. I have never heard a grown man say I was circumcised and I wish I wasn’t but I have heard them say they weren’t and wished they were.
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Both of my boys are circumcised. When I did it with my first, it was because his dad wanted it done. It turned out that it was the right thing because of a growth they were able to remove. It was a danger enough the insurance refunded me because it was medically necessary and no longer an elected procedure. The same thing happened with my youngest. Idk if there was a way they could tell before they did it or not but again the insurance reimbursed me as it became a medical necessary. It’s really what makes you comfortable
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For starters don’t worry about what other people say, people will argue with every decision you make. As long as you show him how to clean himself properly he will be fine.
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I circumcised both of my boys, because there’s a lot of issues with infection and cleanliness when they get older. If your worried about pain…I promise you that baby don’t feel a thing. But either way it’s your decision on what you think is best for your baby.
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I let my son’s dad choose for him because in the end a man would understand it better than a woman. He wanted our son to be circumcised so that’s what we did, but to be honest do what makes you feel better. If not doing it helps you keep peace of mind then don’t do it! You can read research until you are blue in the face. Do what makes you feel comfortable.
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My sons are now adults. When I had them it was very common and expected. I had it done because I was told that was better for their hygiene. Recently, when people were saying it was bad and that the boys would be angry when they grew up for having it done, I asked my boys if they were angry. Mine said, ‘no of course not in fact thank you for having it done.’ Now they have small boys, they all had their boys circumcised too. Its said that its horrible and painful. They also say that the baby is tied down. None of that was true for my boys. They had me feed them right before so that they were sleeping when they did it. None of my 3 boys even woke up during or after. It healed very quickly and they never showed any signs of discomfort. Plus having it done as babies they won’t even remember it so if there was pain they have no memory of it.
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I think it’s not anyone else’s decision. I personally did have done for my boys while we were still in the hospital when they were born. Mainly because it is believed to help them from a hygienic standpoint… no other reason. But not necessary
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It’s YOUR child…YOUR choice! Not circumcising doesn’t mean unsanitary. It’s absolutely ok to NOT do so. As long as he knows how to clean it when he’s older, there’s no need to do it. I feel like this procedure is mainly just to make it look better.
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I have 2 sons. They are circimcised. Had no issues. To me its the norm. As I have never been with someone not circumcised and probably never would. So as a female POV on that it makes me think it affects tnem as they get older and give them a self conscious complexion.
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My father was circumcised when he was in his 50s. He said it was horrable painful ge did7 this on drs recomedation as my mother developed cervical cancer he said the chances to developed cervical cancer is much higher with husbands or men who are not
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My son is…my brother had to get done from complications when he was 8 and now his son who is 7 has to do his. I’d rather do it early than that late especially in my family.
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We had our son done because his grandfather was not and developed health problems that required him to get it done as an adult and the doctor told us and so did he that it was very painful to have done as an adult and took a lot longer to heal.
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I recommend it. I know a few guys who had to have it done as grown men. They got infections or something Idk. I did with my sons. Their fine. I have no regrets
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I had all 4 of my sons done when they were babies…no issues what so ever. It’s a personal choice that you as the parents make. No body is gonna judge you if you do or dont
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I circumcised my son and literally felt AWFUL afterwards. He was in so much pain! I definitely wouldn’t do it again.
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Better question is what your comfortable with. We decided not to out of personal preference… but I wish I made a different decision. Not something that is irreversible but is very painful to have done later in life.
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Both of my son’s are. They can develop a lot of infections as they get older if they don’t clean it thoroughly. Also I didnt want them to get picked on while changing clothes in the locker room, kids can be utterly cruel.
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They’re concerned if you make a different choice they’ll have to deal with the fact they put their child through a painful surgery for nothing.
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The baby came out of your vagina right?? It’s obvious you are the one to make the decision how is this a hard choice?? Who cares what others want!! Stop caring about others opinions bc obviously they don’t care for yours
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It doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks, he’s your child. Make your own decision.
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I don’t have boys but live in germany and you need a medical or religious reason for a circumcision so the majority isn’t circumcised. Yeah there is a possibility of tearing but I only ever heard of it once and that really was a freak accident. You just have to learn to keep it clean and teach them basic hygiene b
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My son isn’t circumcised. If you teach him how to do proper care he should be fine. Do what you feel is best my family did the same to me but his father and I wanted him uncircumcised. It’s your baby not theirs. Like I said. Teach him how to properly clean the area
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You do what’s you think is best. It is not medically necessary it’s purely aesthetic. My son is but my husbands not
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I had both my boys circumcized. There’s really no right or wrong answer. Most will argue with you about cleanliness. As long as you teach him proper hygiene, pulling the skin back and cleaning around it good, there shouldn’t be any issues. If he doesn’t do that later in life, it can cause issues with the skin shrinking some around the head and making it painful to pull back. Bottom line, he’s your baby. You made the decision that you think is best for your baby.
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Both our sons were circumcised. One the day after he was born,the other right on the delivery bed. Their dad wasn’t and he makes sure he’s kept clean at all times. At the time our sons were born it was recommended. As long as you teach your sons to keep themselves clean there should be no problems.
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It’s totally your call. You have to live with the choices you make for your kids, so follow your heart and know that you took the decision seriously and made the best choice you could.
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As a mother of 2 boys, and a former surgical technician; I chose circumcision due to not making them feel differently among their peers later in life. This procedure was based on religion, and has no medical bearing. Fed to believe that is less painful for infants to go through than an adult. I have witnessed that the surgery later in life is a bit more extensive
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It’s your child, so your decision. We chose to circumcise our son because his father wasn’t & absolutely hated it. He had infections alot even though he’s a very clean person, so he decided he didn’t want that for his son. But that’s one person’s experience
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I left it up to my husband. Both boys were circumcised & I’m relieved. Both boys are on the spectrum, have serious sensory issues, & I’m glad the hygiene isn’t an issue.
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Just saying, my sisters and I broke the cycle. 4 of us girls. Between us we have 5 boys and all of them are whole ( ranging between 16 and 5 years old). Our families disagreed. But they are perfect and no issues.
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Completely up to you. I guess circumcision slightly reduces the chances ofvarious infections, and personally I prefer the “cut” appearance, but I’m sure others think the opposite. Just throwing one thing out though - my husband and his first wife couldn’t conceive but nobody could figure out why. Doc said it was a long shot but suggested he get circumcised. At 25. Three months later she was pregnant with their first.
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I don’t understand why people would cut a part of their child off. If it wasn’t meant to be there then why are they born with it? I only have a girl but if I had a boy it would never cross my mind to get that done. Thought it was just some religious thing and was old school. I have a brother and have no idea if he had it or not, don’t really want to think about that tbh
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Sorry but, I had my sons circumcised. Why? Because as a mother I decided that what I wanted for MY son. Why aren’t you? Because thats what you as a mother choose for YOUR son. Your family isn’t paying for your son, or raising him, and I bet they didn’t give birth to them. Im sure you don’t want to fight with your family either, but its your decision and your husband’s of course. No one elses
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My son is going to be 18 and he is not and as long as you teach them when they are old enough how to clean it properly they will be fine
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I feel its completely necessary to have it done.
#1 reason is when they get older and cannot care for themselves it can lead to major infections. Ive heard of way more problems having the skin left on then removing it. I will always advocate thats its healthier to have it removed. It serves little to no purpose no matter what anyone says.
Do it for the health of your baby
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I had a cousin that suffered a pretty serious medical emergency because of his foreskin but I’m not sure how common it is. I know paraphimosis is one possibility but I’m not sure if that’s what he had or not.
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Honestly have a conversation with your doctor and do your research. We did just because my fiance explained how he felt and we researched and asked questions. I think its really a choice of the parents who have all the information. But, there is a medical reason down the road to do it at birth.
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Its not their choice you had your son they didn’t. If your conflicted now on weather its thebbest choice or not ask the doctor about the pros and cons and make your decision based on medical facts rather then other peoples opinions on your child
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It’s no one else’s business. There is no reason to tell them if you are or not. Other people will try to parent your child forever, you have to find your voice.
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I am an adult male. you are making a poor choice for your son.
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My father told me that he wish for me to get my son circumcised because it would cause medical issues if not done. Since then I learned my father is not and has a lot of UTIs and other problems. So do your research and ask lots of questions.
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Nah dont. My sons arnt. Many reasons, not only is DEATH a possibility. Its cruel and NOT necessary. NOT YOUR BODY NOT YOUR CHOICE. YOUR BABY OR NOT.
I HATE that my hubby was cut. Go investigating and see the reasons WHY its NOT good. Its NOT necessary AT ALL
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I chose not to do that to my son. The skin is there for a reason. I don’t understand why people voluntarily decide to do that. Unless it’s for health reasons, why would you feel the need to have your son experience a pain like that if he doesn’t have to. They strap them down and it is such a horrible and traumatizing experience.
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I absolutely LOVE that all these mommies decided to go against the norm and choose to leave their child intact 
It is your child and your choice, but there is no medical need for it at all. It is 100% a cosmetic surgery to continue social norms.
Hygiene wise, it COULD help but then again so could teaching them how to properly clean themselves.
I haven’t been blessed as a boy mom, but when I was pregnant with my 5 month old and completely convinced she was a boy… I made it very clear that there would be no circumcision at all. My SO was with me 100%.
The procedure is brutal, in my opinion. And not necessary!
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I didn’t have it done until there were problems when he was a bit older and it was medically indicated. I would have left it if it wasn’t necessary. On the other hand I’m glad we had it done when we did. It’s really a personal choice if not medically necessary.
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It is completely up to you. I dated a man that wasn’t and I swore if I had sons that I would. Looks better, maybe more accepted, I feel it is cleaner but don’t let anyone talk you into either way.
If it helps think about what your son might think. Good luck honey
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I was against circumcise too. But at the age of four my sons foreskin did not fold back
So i had no choice but too have him circumcised. He had a rough time. Poor kid.
Better of doing that procedure when they are babies
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It’s YOUR son. YOU make the decision on what is best for YOUR child. Do your research and make an informed decision.
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My son is and actually the did it in a different way then the tradition cutting the excess off. No need for vasaline and gauz. It was used with a ring. There is a higher risk of yeast infections if not done at any age. But it is your son and your choice to do it or not. Get ready hun it’s only the beginning to the judgements of parenthood. Take it with a grain of salt.
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I did it for my son, because I didn’t want him to feel insecure about himself in the future
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My son is. The doctor said her son is too, so that helped me make my decision. It’s more sanitary.
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You are doing the right thing! Tell them is disgusting how obsessed hey are with your sons genitals and getting all in your decision making! XO
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We chose to circumcise our son. But I was very on the fence about it because it’s his body and I didn’t want to alter it. But my husband talked me into it because it’s “cleaner” and also will look the same as his dads so there’s no questions with it when he’s older like “why does mine look different than dad’s?”
But it is totally up to you as the parents. You did not make the wrong choice. There is no wrong choice. Tell them to suck it.
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Advice… do what the hell you want to do, it’s your baby not a community baby. He came out of 1 vagina so the owner of the vagina makes the decisions. The end.
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I have 3 boys all cicumcised. It’s cleaner. And when they get older some say more aesthetically pleasing. I did it because I believe it’s cleaner. My husband feels the same. He is also circumcised. But it’s up to mom and dad.
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I didn’t get my second son done and he ended up with complications and had to be done at 18 months which was so traumatic for him. I would get it done for health reasons.
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It is YOUR child. You do whatever it is you feel is right!
I personally had both of my boys circumcised. I’ve never done any research on any of it. It’s just the norm I suppose in my family so that’s what I chose to do.
If you’re second guessing yourself I would have a conversation with your pediatrician about the pros and cons of both!!!
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You do whatever you feel is right. I will say this though. I work in a hospital and we get several older gentleman who are having it done later in life. Most because of medical reasons. All say the same thing, they wish their mothers would of done it when they were little. Healing from it when they are older is extremely hard. Some are not able to “perform” afterwards because if how traumatic the procedure is when they are older. My son was but that also has to do with my religion. You do whatever you want to though. It is your child and ultimately the choice is yours. Your family will get over it eventually.
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I never done it to my little boy… all they need to be taught is how to wash themselfs which isn’t hard. That’s a lot of pain for a little baby… 
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Where im from they dont do that and nobody has any problems.
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Its a lot harder when deciding to do it when he gets older
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I had mine done. Made my ob/gyn use anesthesia for the operation though. I trusted him . My son is gonna be 32 this yr. I never regretted my decision!
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Both my boys are after watching my best friend suffer thru the years from his mother refusing to have his done. He finally had it done at age 18 and he’s doing alot better but his case personally made me get both my boys done and I don’t regret it.
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Not a mistake. I kept mine intact. No infections, issues, no problems. Potty trained. Happy, healthy little boy. Almost five years old.
A cousin is an elder care giver. She has no problems with her intact clients. She cares for them and bathes them. Foreskin is not a problem
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It’s your choice. My son is circumcised. He was given a small sedative, a pain block and topical. He wasn’t tied down. He didn’t cry. He healed fast. It was 1974. I didn’t know much.
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