I am looking for advice. I asked my mom and my family, specifically not to get my son video game consoles for Christmas. They went out and got him one. If we wanted him to have another one, we would have gotten it ourselves… it’s not about money, we can afford whatever he wants, but he is eight years old, and I don’t think he should have everything he asks for.
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Yeah I would leave it there then if you specifically told them not to get it.
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I would have a talk with them and ask them to return it for something else
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Sell it and put the money in his bank!
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Sell it 
use the money towards a gift YOU want for your son.
Its christmas why not. Shouldnt be up to u what grandma gets unless it violets ur religion and person beliefs like guns and soldiers.
If he games and she knows it why not?
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You can always store it away and then give it to him when you think is right that he can play video games. My dad sends my kids stuff that I tell him not to buy and it just goes in the closet until I feel they are old enough/mature/good behavior what ever and then I give it to them.
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I wouldn’t let them give it to him if I said it was something I didnt want him to have…no matter what it is. I would also have a talk with whatever family member did it.
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Leave it at your parents house…and he’ll have something for over there
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Have him leave it for when he visits.
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Have them keep at their house for when he visits or stays there? Last year we bought my kids these giant trucks. My mom got the same set. One stayed at her house and the other was kept at ours.
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Talk to your mom about it then
Tell them it stays at their house
For one, ya I wouldn’t be happy if they did it after you asked them not to. So, either leave it there or ask them to return it. As for the him getting everything he wants… if they did it just because that would be a different story but they are doing it for Christmas so he wont think he will constantly get what he wants.
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Leave it at their house so he has something to play while there. 🤷
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Why can’t he have what he ask for? That to me is just weird. Nothing better than seeing their face when they get it.
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It isnt Christmas yet you could let them know if the items you dont allow are given they will be returned.
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Put it away until you think he’s ready for it then
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Ask them to keep it at their house for when he visits! Don’t be a turd and return it or sell it! I understand you not wanting to “spoil” your child but let them do something they obviously really wanted to do for him!
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If that was me, it would be for their house and if they don’t want it there I would donate it or sell it. My mom is great at not buying stuff I don’t want, but my mother-in-law tries to out do everyone and I have actually taken stuff she’s got back and when she asks about it I flat tell her I told her not to get it and took it back
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If they knew you said no and it was clear then they will have to make better choices or not be able to gift to your child , its rude to over step your wishes .
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That’s so wrong of them and appears spiteful. Poor judgement on their part and I agree with you.
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Doesn’t matter how many consoles they have if you’re limiting their time on them
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Grandparents are meant to spoil their grandkids a tad bit. But if you’re not ok with him having it at your house that is totally your right as well… maybe suggest it stays at grandma and grandpa’s house for when he comes to visit find a happy medium…
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It’s up to YOU when he plays 
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Just sell it and get hike something else with thr money or give it back to them. We dont allow video games in our house either so I understand.
That’s literally what grandparents are supposed to do. Buy gifts for their grandkids that their parents won’t buy 
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All these people saying sell it are truly pathetic! Grandma got her grandchild a toy. They arent around long. I wish my son had all his grandparents still alive. Limit his time and grow up
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I don’t see why an 8 year old having a video game console is in issue? If your worried about it leave it at there house so he can have fun when he’s not at home
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I would limit his time on the game, so many hrs a day. Mayb even say an hr twice a day. After homework & chores are done play for an hour. Then again before bedtime for an hour. Otherwise have it at the grandparents house for visits n such.
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Keep it at their house so he can play it when he goes over there?
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That’s what Grandparents fo though , they spoil there grandkids … Why not just let him keep it but maybe keep it at their house for when he visits them he can play over there
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i agree they should respect what you say as his mother take it back an get the money for it then an get him what you think he should have an if they can’t be respectful of you then they obviously shouldn’t be getting anything for him
I agree with Sydnee, have it stay there at their house…
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Just take it and pawn it. You dont need to tell them what you did with it.
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Just whatever you do dont make your child feel like they did something wrong to not deserve it it or feel the tension between you guys… that’s a horrible feeling… my suggestion is before he opens it let him know it’s his but its gor when hes at their home… and also have an honest conversation with your parents about what’s allowed in your home and they need to respect that as well
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In my opinion its just a video game let him be a kid but also if you feel its not the right age yet then keep it til he hits the age you want him to have it
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Why would you return it? Imagine how that kid would feel, opening a present that he really wants, only for mom to return it. You can set limits on how much he plays it.
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Lol my grandparents used to do this when I was there to visit 
and whenever my mom came to get me they told me to go hide it in the closet so she wouldn’t see it and get mad
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Use it as leverage he does as you ask meaning chores cleaning room picking up .Advantage on your side… See all things are not bad
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Let them know you’ll be returning it, so they have a chance to get him something else. If they still choose to disregard your wishes, return it.
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If you told them not to, it is pretty rude that they did it anyway. I do think you’re being a bit silly though. Tell him he gets a half hour a day or something and let it go.
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Personally I wouldn’t be mad at all… if he already has a game system cool… you can just limit the time he spends on each
Grandparents spoil their grandchildren and I personally find nothing wrong with it! I would be grateful. It is Christmas- just imagine the look and excitement on his face when they give it to him. Pick your battles with your family wisely…
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Compromise…have them keep it at their house. They should respect your wishes
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I got my first game console when I was four having one is not an issue it depends on if you’re going to limit when he plays he probably wanted on because all of his friends have one and grandparents see that kind of stuff that’s what they are supposed to do
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If you dont want him to have it then dont let them give it to him. Period. It doesnt matter who is trying to give it to him. YOU said NO so it shouldnt have been done 
period. Or if you wouldnt care to leave it at the grandparents house then you could do that as well. My kid wont have shit if i dont think she should have it. Idc who gets all pussy hurt over it lol ill have my reasons for saying no just like im sure you have yours.
Keep it at grammas house.
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I’d be upset that they deliberately ignored what I said, but they’re family and it’s Christmas. I’d ask them to keep it at their house since he already has one at your home. I’d also make it clear that you are the mother and from now on what you say goes and they need to respect that.
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Then refuse to let him open it.
“He is 8 years old and I don’t think he should have everything he asks for.”… its Christmas and they’re the grandparents. Leave it at their house. It’s not that serious. All the people saying “sell it”, y’all wonder why you have problems with your in laws.
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It’s Christmas time !! It’s hard enough wondering what to buy for gifts for loved ones or even friends !!! I’m a grandparent and I enjoy buying my grandchildren things and especially what they really ask for !! Your only a kid once in this short lifetime !! Better buying them what they ask for instead of wasting money and they never touch it !!!
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Why do “families” feel they don’t have to respect the parents requests in regards to their own children! It’s disrespectful!
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Just have to set rules for him. Might be they don’t agree with your parenting. Either way have a heart to 
I say losin up a bit it is rude that they ignored your wishes but… they want to make there grandson happy I’m sure it something he talks about alot and they want to make him happy and now you can make rules to your son on video game time and use it it to your advantage
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I would appreciate it all and accept it with an open heart. It’s meant to make your son smile and grandparents don’t mean it in a malicious way
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I would go out and buy them a puppy. Seriously what is wrong with ppl?
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Just limit screen time! Or I guess put it up somewhere and hide it until you think he’s old enough LOL I understand that you’re upset that they didn’t listen but there’s ways to Idk get around it I guess and still do things your way
I spoil my grandsons but if their parents told me not to get them something that they didn’t want them to have. I would not buy it
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I wish this was a problem my kids had lol. Its super disrespectful in my opinion for anyone to go against your wishes. If you don’t say anything then they’ll keep thinking the disrespect is okay. But you also don’t want to punish your child for something they did. I’d flat out have a conversation and tell them look I said no. No means no and if you do it again I’ll have no choice but to trash it and let them know it’ll hurt your son.
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Maby just stash it in your closet till you feel he needs it
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Let them keep it at their house, or return it and let him use the money on something else?
I get that they didn’t respect your wishes but compromise with them. Tell them to leave it there for when your child goes there so he has something to play while visiting
You are right to be upset but I think there are other ways to show your son how to be a humble person. I have the same problem with my own children. I can’t help buying them what they want. One day I read something that changed my perspective. It was “being humble is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.” Be glad your family wants to make them happy. We can not control what others do. Take him to donate some of his toys or have him help out at a shelter. He can have things and still appreciate them. I’ve always said a man with very little is humble. It’s when a man has everything that his true colors will show. that has to do with what you instill in him and since he has it good ( for lack of a better adjective) it’ll be a little harder for you but I’m sure you’ll do a great job♥️
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Not wanting your kid to have something because they shouldnt have everything they want is silly because they will never get everything they want unless you have millions so you will always be able to install that with other things they cant have…
Limit and monitor usage of it but it’s no different than any other leasure activity.
Though I do get being angry at getting something you asked them not to it’s totally undermining you as you may have good reason id have a word about this after xmas
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Let them give it to him at their house and it stays there, and be frank with his grandparents and tell them when it comes to your kids, what you say goes
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Tell them that you don’t want them buying your child anything without your approval and that them getting your child what they wanted for Christmas is not appreciated and will not be tolerated. Then send them my way, my daughter wishes her paternal grandparents would so much as give her a call.
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Just do what you think is best if it’s interfering with the school work and put time limits
I wish my children had grandparents to buy them gifts
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Just limit screen time. What’s the big deal? At 8 I had my first console too and my mom has made sure before we even thought about touching that console we came home, ate, showered, homework and clean room. If I brought home bad grades I couldn’t play etc. set boundaries.
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Have them keep it at their place. Simple.
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They deliberately went against your request, undermining your parenting decision. Tell them they need to keep it at their house for when he visits, but you wont allow them to undermine you as a parent.
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Your reasons are your business and IMO it was extremely disrespectful (and possibly spiteful) to do the exact opposite of what you specifically requested. YOUR kids, YOUR rules no matter the reason. I’d be PISSED!
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Well you already stated he has a game console, so the reason isn’t not allowing them in you’re house. If that’s what he asked for I don’t see a problem with it. You can still limit game time and now he has more than one to pick from. They’re his grandparents and won’t be around for ever. Let them give him this. It’s Christmas. Wish I could afford to get my grandchildren something like this but we have 10 grandchildren, 12 children (6adopted) daughter in laws, etc. You should feel grateful they are able to provide an extra bit of happiness for Christmas.
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I’d say at this point it’s the principal… They ignored her wishes, went behind her back and bought it anyway.
Accepting the gift also means you’re accepting the broken boundary and inviting them to do it over and over again. Being grandparents or old doesn’t exempt them from being decent.
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I have a diff opinion then most of y’all. I think it was messed up. Because your trying to teach him to appreciate what he already HAS. I would give it to him since it’s already been bought and everything but I’d have a talk with your family and explain your reasoning on your parenting. Grandparents make it harder to teach our kids things like responsibilities and appreciation because all they want to do is spoil them. Which is okay but they should respect your wishes.
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i wouldnt allow them to give it to him, and when they ask why, remind them they clearly went against your wishes. or tell them in advance if they try giving it to him, it will be sold/given away/put up/etc whatever you wish to do with it- Because YOU said no, and you are his parent not them. I don’t understand why some families people think its okay to go against the parents wishes.
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Just keep it at the grandparents house and he can ply on it while he’s there 
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Allowing my kids to earn time on games has really been a game changer with my herd of 4. Limit to only an hour on weekends but try not to feel mad at your in laws. You will poison yourself if you allow this to cause you so much unhappiness. I hope you have a Merry Christmas
My daughter wud send it back
I wudnt dare
Maybe have a talk with them
Grandma’s will do that 
give him the gift but set rules he can only play it on this day for this long
ID LOVE TO KNOW… when did we get to pick and choose what we get for Christmas from people. It’s a GIFT! Accept it and move on
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I went through this with a tablet. Stand your ground! No, is no. Why should they be able to disrespect your parenting choices. Have them return it for another gift or tell them you will.
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So, it’s a console. I thought it was something crazy. Lol
I get it, they did what you asked them not to. You can be super mad and petty or you can talk to them.
Tbf, has be been begging for it?
That said, ask them to keep it at their house. Find a compromise.
If you decide to keep it, invest in an egg timer and control his game time.
As a mom, we do sometimes make the dumbest rules for grandparents. They’ll do what grandparents do, bc they did it with us & grandparents are supposed to be fun. Like Aunts and Uncles. Our kids get ice cream for breakfast and tons of candy at the movies. Sometimes it’s more abt control than the gift.
Make sure you know the difference momma.
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It’s your right as a parent to refuse this gift … and I would
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My grandparents got my brother and me a tv for christmas when we were kids and my parents didn’t care I mean just ask them to keep it at there house for now
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I would put it in the Christmas bag and give it back to them as a gift for themselves. Is literally about respecting your wishes
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It could be an opportunity to discuss abundance, manifesting, and philanthropy.
Something like,
“our family is blessed with resources that other families may not have in this moment.
In reflection of our family having received so much of what we wanted for Christmas this year, let’s go through some of our things and donate or let’s volunteer our time”
One may not wish to teach placing guilt or barriers around manifesting positive outcomes…including accepting physical world abundance.
And yet an aspect of living in integrity may involve learning that those who have manifested current physical world security may have the increased opportunity to share that abundance, be philanthropic, volunteer, etc. Pay it forward 
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Wow. They got it for him. Be greatful. We bought my 5 year old 2 switches xbox 1 ps4 and an ipad. We just made sure the content was age appropriate. He gets rewarded when he moves up a math level. Right now hes gone from addition to subtraction and rough with multiplication
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Yes I’d be upset too, and I’d tell them to take it back before he sees
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Sell it and give the money back as a gift on Christmas. Keep the same energy.
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Have you not heard that the reason kids are spoiled is because no one will spank Gramma?? Don’t take away her pleasure, just make rules for use of it…and look at it this way. When he misbehaves, it is one more item you get to take away until he learns his lesson…there are perks!
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Give it to yhe Salvation Army or throw it out, then maybe they will stop this disrespectful kind of thing in the future.
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So have them keep it at their house for when he goes over there. It’s not that serious. Even if you kept it at your house, you are the parent and control game time.
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I would literally tell them to return or I’ll be selling it if I told you not too and you did
Why do people think they can go against parents rules 
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Return to sender… address unknown… no such number… not in MY HOME… easy breezy
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I personally dont see a huge deal. Set your rules on the console once its opened. And have the be the 1st thing you take away when misbehaving.
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Make grandma keep it at her place
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I would make it perfectly clear how you feel about the whole situation to begin with. Strict rules must be enforced with the child and Grandma and Grandpa MUST GO ALONG WITH YOUR RULES IN FRONT OF THE KIDS. Other wise they will throw it in your face well G-ma & G-pa said this. Also You and only you buy the games !!! Some games can sound innocent but there is violence, sexual content you just never know. And I would get a timer, and use it. But I’d get a semi complicated one, kids are smart now a days and will try their best to extend the time. But there is no sense causing WW3 over it but I would let them know how disappointed you are in them and that they have lost a bunch of your trust. That may make a lasting impression more so than just anger. Good luck and Merry Christmas 
I say put it up till next year and give to them
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