If he already has one the Sell it on Offer Up
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Some of these comments help me realize WHY so many kids are disrespectful and entitledâŠYâall are raising them that way. 
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Refuse the gift itâs only going to get worse my in laws did this all time and I let it slide when my son was young lately theyâve brought my son several cellphones over the last year cause he keeps losing them and now good ole grandad brought him a car for his 15th birthday after we had discussed that my son had to make $1000 towards his first car and we would help him get one on his 16th
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Make him do jobs like help with dishes is 15 minutes on the game. Picking up his toys is ten ect
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I would say they can keep it at their house or youâll return it and put it towards a membership somewhere like the zoo or science center or something. Itâs nice they want to spoil him and buying him presents is appreciated BUT they should respect your wishes as his parent (especially since you specifically said that you didnât want him to have another gaming console).
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Sell it and get him something else. Or just get rid of all the video games.
We donât have them in my house and we donât have any issues. Thereâs plenty more to do with our time.
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Someday you may wish that the grandparents were there to give gifts and attentionâŠlet them keep the game console at there home and he can play with it when he visitsâŠmaybe itâs something he and grandpa can do together.
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Make them keep it at their home, he can play it when he visits, and if they bitch, remind them you told them NOT to get it in the first place!
I would say itâll look good in the closet!
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Maybe sell the old and let him buy games and accessories for the new one with the money or donate the system to another family
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How about you graciously accept the gift and limit his playing time if it bothers you that much. You shouldnât get so upset that your family bought him a generous gift but be thankful your family cares.
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I would return it and get him a bike or something fun to do in summer
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Get over it! Mom says he already has one, so she allows him video games. Who is she to say what gifts are given her child? Like does everyone make a list and give to the grandparents saying âthis is what you are allowed to gift my childâ?Maybe teach him gratefulness, not that whatever Mom says go. Power trip much? I think mom is just trying to make Grandma look bad. The child obviously asked Grandma for it. Itâs Christmas and Grandma wants to spoil her grandchild. Seriously a sad situation when a Mom feels she has to decide what present Grandma is allowed to gift. And all you saying sell it, pawn it, etc. are pathetic. Sounds like communism. Only momâs concerns are valid? Pssh. Saying she doesnât want the child think he can get whatever he wants is the dumbest excuse Iâve ever heard; at Christmas. Does she want her to give him a bag of rocks or something else he doesnât want? Thereâs a much bigger issue here and some of you canât see it.
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Give them a chance to return it or gift it to someone else to get him something else. If they donât and he opens it Christmas morning tell him it is for when he visits them and it isnât going home with you.
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I say keep it but dont give it to your son till he gets older?
Just tell them to take it back because you will not let him play it
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Just sell it! Youâre the parent and have to deal with your child daily not anyone else
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Everyone saying return itâs kind of cruel the kid is going to see it so what youâll take it away from him cause you think he shouldnât have everything he wants thatâs horrible! Kid already saw it! ⊠I understand being frustrated if they did something you asked them not to do but to take something away is mean just limit time on it
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Some people have nothing better to do than complain about nothing. Lol
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I donât see what the big deal is, since he already has one? Most grandparents enjoy giving things to their grandchildren! Let it go.
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Just let them keep it at their house for when heâs there. Like thereâs more serious things to complain about.
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Leave the game at grandmaâsâŠhe can play it when heâs thereâŠIâm not saying itâs ok to disrespect parents wishes at allâŠitâs notâŠ
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For me itâs not enough info ⊠is an update to the old one? Is it a different type altogether? Bc not all games are on all platforms⊠I like the suggestions of just limiting the game time ⊠Iâd be stoked if my kids grandparents did stuff like that⊠but we also game as a family here⊠but if the child has seen or knows the gift is coming you can also cause a lot of resentment from the child if you just get rid of it⊠I know I would be very upset⊠pick your battle bc it may seem trivial but to a young kid stuff is important esp gifts from family âŠ
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Let him have the video games. Just teach him balance. First world probs
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Controlling from the grave ahem I mean grandmas house - I would either have it at her house or receive it and put it up until YOU ARE READY TO USE IT⊠then bring it out and thank them. I donât people should be obligated because grandparents want to spoil their kids - parents make the call 
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Donate if you donât want. Whats the big dealđ„±
This is like my MIL, she always bought big stuff⊠swing sets, bikes, now for xmas he has a dirt bike. Heâs 2. She just bought all the stuff because she wants people to know that ânona bought itâ.
And guess what swing set still in a giant box not built, and dirt bike no way in hell he riding when heâs 2. He doesnât even know how to pedal a damn regular bike. So itâs in the shed till heâs ready.
I cant believe so many people are saying sell it⊠I say sell the old one trade it for games or donate it. Learn to play it with your kids I wish my kids grandparents wanted to spoil my kids and I cant wait to spoil mine! I get they did something u didnt want and itâs frustrating but itâs even more so when they dont!
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Let them keep it at their house
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I wish I would tell my mom âIâm returning this gift that you bought your grandkidâ. That would work out sooooo well for me
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Stick to you values PARENTS. Your the one raising this child and your values and wishes are the ones that count. Get them to take it back before Christmas or you can do it your self after Christmas and exchange it for something you think it approriate for an 8 year old. You son should never know that the family disrespected your wishes so much.
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I completely understand this!! Sell it or put it somewhere he canât have it, youâre the mom
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Im a Grandparent and I dont think parents(you) should tell parents(your) what to do or dont do EverâŠ(respect your Parents let them be Grandparents After Christmas You Parent Your child or children on what matters mostâŠgrowing into responsible,respectable adults IMP cause you asked
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I feel its christmas one time a year that kids are supposed to get what they want. For some reason I can picture you as being the mom that gets their kids clothes socks underwear toothbrush for christmas. Just because they get something they want dont make them spoiled let the kids enjoy the holiday.
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Itâs not okay they have disrespected your wishes, but they have obviously put a lot of thought into it and spent a fair deal of money. Accept it and thank them, but ask them to keep it so he can use it there. If he wants to predominantly use the new one, keep that kne and take that ine to their house.
Really isnât an issue, they clearly love their grandson 
Its what grandparents do. Lighten up. Just limit his time on video games
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Doesnât have to be an hour.
I would keep it up until you feel hes ready for one Iâm anal about screen time for my son so Iâd be pretty pissed lol
Just put it away untill next christmas and get him something else thats âfromâ the grandparents. Just be happy he got anything. My family doesnt buy crap for my kid.
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YOU ARE THE MAMA! Your rules are the only rules. That was flat out disrespectful of them to do that. Let your kid know that you told them no and they didnt listen and they knew you would not let him play with it so you are not âthe bad guyâ. Tell him your reasoning and let him know he can keep it for when he is older or sell it and save the money for something else he wants (a cool summer camp? Clothes? A bike?)
If you plan to return it or give it back, please do not let him see it. It would be way too cruel if he saw it and then you took it away, plus it would make you look like the bad guy. Try to be discreet as possible and talk to your family again, and inform them that you will not be accepting the gift or you will be returning it.
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You could put it away for him till he is older.
You donât tell others what they can buy for present their money âŠif you donât want your kid to have it put it up Jesus get over yourself
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I told my boy he couldnât have a nintendo switch. His dad said maybe his next birthday when heâll be 8.
My Mum. Nanna suggested she gave him her DS Lite. As she said she doesnât play on it anyway so itâs just collecting dust and this shows us how he handles having one. See if he is mature enough to play one without any frustration and to see how much heâll actually use it. I am glad she suggested it. Itâs great having a trial
I still think that her wishes as the childâs parent needs to be respected when the kid sees it he will also disrespect his parents
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Maybe the grandparents can keep it at there house for when hes there� 
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Bottom line is you are his parent and what you say goes if he already received the console I would choose to lose THIS battle vs punishing Your child for his grandparents choices. THEN in the future any Gifts given would have to be seen and approved by me first and i I would make it clear that if I make The rules And failure to respect that will result in them losing the privilege to give my child ANYTHING .
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He just wouldnât get it. 
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Have them return it or keep it at their house. They shouldnât disrespect your wishes if they want to remain in your life
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Say thank you and put it in a closet or lock it up. Same with any present you have forbidden. If grandparents ask about it, say they knew you had asked them not to buy it. They raised their kids, now itâs your turn. Your house, your rules.
Alternatively, itâs for their house only & he can use it only when he visits them.
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Give it back. Youâre the parent, your rules.
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People collect video game consoles I donât see an issue with this lol, I like to play video games and different consoles have different games
Id take it back to them. Stand your grounds or it will happen again
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I would say to them you can return it. Either we take it home and sell it and is never opened or you return it and stick to our guidelines.
I tend to be harsh about present guidelines. I have gotten rid of presents before.
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Leave it at their house. Donât bring it home.
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Tell them to keep it at their house?
You donât think your son should have everything he asks for?
Why not make him earn game time or something like that? Why would you not want your son to have the things that will make him happy?
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Keep the new one in the livingroom and limit his playtime on both systems.
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Take it back! You are the parent and have the right to refuse something you deem inappropriate!
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Take it back/or sell it, or limit thenhell out of his gaming time⊠shits annoying as hell
Hmm Iâm a grandmother and I appreciate getting my grandchildren presents itâs up to the parents whether they play with them or not
If you asked them not to, you have every right to be upset.
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Leave it at their house for him! I despise when someone does this to us! IT IS SO DISRESPECTFUL TO UNDERMINE WHAT A PARENTS SAYS FOR THEIR OWN CHILDREN! im right there with you. Specially when you tell them and they still do it anyways! I cant tell you how much this stuff gets under my skin, specially where its not one incident its multiple, like what the parent says doesnt matter!
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Store it away in the closet
Iâd be upset. Grandparents are there to spoil within the boundaries the parents set out. It doesnât set a very good example for the child if mom and dad say no, but they can run to granny and grampy and get exactly what they want. Itâs not giving the child the impulse control and respect for you that you need. My parents and in-laws always ask what she needs before what they want to get her just because⊠however, that being said they also always tell us when they buy her something more along the lines of a want.
What Iâd suggest is if you know what box itâs in, out it aside for another time a present is required, or kindly tell them they can keep it at this home for when he visits.
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I would sell it and get something you think is appropriate. They have gone and disrespected your parenting to go and give your child what you specifically asked them not to it is their own fault. If they crack it over you selling it I would simply say well you should of gotten him something he was allowed and not go and get him what I asked you not to. That is so disrespectful and rude
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YOUâRE the one in control of when he plays it so who cares if they bought it
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Youâre the parent,they should be respecting what you say. Iâd take it back if I were you. How rude and disrespectful of them.
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I am very firm on my video game gifting rules. They were told not to and they did it anyway.
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I wouldnât allow them to give it to him!
Itâs manipulative on their part.
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What wrong with a gameâs system⊠smh u need to worry about when he get older
Say wonderful now you have one to play when you come to grandma(or whoever) wasnât that great of them to get you one for their house. And send it home with them ( or leave there)
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Amen I agree with this 100 percent
Put it away or give it back to them. Donât let him use it 
Either return it and let your son pick out some else or else donate it or something. I agree the grandparents over stepped, and if they ask where it is. Be honest tell them you told everyone no to certain things so it got returned for something else.
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Thatâs so rude, my in-laws asked if we wanted a tablet for the kids and we straight out said no, they are too young (6,4 and 2 yrs) and they didnât get them one but my brother in law got my son a nerf gun when we did say we donât like the idea of toy guns but if he is given one that it doesnât have bullets, he ended up with 210 bullets
Boundaries??
I would advise it must stay at the relatives home for when your son visits. Youâre not being rude. They are. I understand why youâve set that boundary. Good luck 
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Extremely rude. Theyâve put you in a tough place because âifâ they give it to him, youâre the mean mum that wonât let him play with it. Ask them to exchange it for something else prior to givingâŠif they kick off about it then just reaffirm that you meant what you said. If they give it to him, then send it home with them for him to play with at their house. You need to draw a VERY FIRM line in the sand because they will continue to undermine you if you donât make it clear that your word goes
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Not right of grandparents to do. Have your son donate the other system to a child he knows that isnât having such a great Christmas. Just because it started by a negative act, doesnât mean it cant end positively.
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Welp itâs up to you if you want the device in your home, if its family your son sees often enough it can be something he does when hes there if not itâs your choice mama bear! Return and let him pick something that youâre okay with him having if hes already seen it. Best of luck!
Same thing happened with my family, my 3 year old and an annoying ass fake pony
I wouldnât be too upset because grandparents wonât be around forever and as long as you have instilled good values in your child they wonât take it for granted. My 5-year-old has a PlayStation and a switch. Heâll stop playing his games to go fishing, play baseball and play outside with his friends. I never understood why someone would dictate what gifts others get their child when you can put rules around those gifts. They love your child and want to see the excitement your child will have by getting what they want. I also donât buy my children a lot of toys during the year so birthdays and Christmas are the time for that I see.
Take the gift respectfully ask for gift receipts and return it for something else.
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Tell them to keep it at there house for him to play it there
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Itâs a gaming console that they have probably heard the child talking about, that he/she wants. Iâve never understood people dictating to others what they can and cannot buy someone. Itâs a gift at Christmas not a gift for it just being a Monday. Ask to leave at the grandparents house or limit the time the child plays with it. The grandparents had no obligation to even tell her what they bought. But taking a gift away from the child after they have opened it and etc is just wrong. Your punishing the child over you not liking the gift and making them think they did something wrong.
If you donât want him having unlimited time on it. Then make a chore list. A requirement of a clean room. Homework done and then allow x amount of time on it.
Show him responsibility gives you a reward.
Same with going to work and getting a paycheck
Then tell them he cannot have it and you will return it if they give it to me so they have either return it themselves and get him something else or nothing because you are told them not to get him one and they went against your wishes and thatâs not ok and disrespectful
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Totally not cool, I would just tell them to have it for him at there place for when he comes for a visit there and if they donât like it then to return it
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Do what I did when my daughter got a tablet and we werenât ready for that. Lol we took it. And she will get it when we feel like sheâs mature enough to have one.
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Tell them to bring it back, no 8 year old needs a gaming console especially if you asked them not to, tell them to bring it back and get something sensible 
I may be the only one here but Iâve really never dictated or felt the need to, what other people bought my kids as gifts. However, my MIL brought over presents to my house and informed my kids that they were for her house. They were crushed. It was really really f***ed up.
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Accepted it then sell it. You said not to. They didnât listen so profit from their stupidly of not listening. I would!
Hide it. He can do extra work to earn time on it. Iâd be pissed as hell about it!!!
Tell them to return it! My children have a tablet but they will not he having a gaming console until theure teens at least. No judgement on those that choose to let their kids. But youâre the parent and they need to respect that.
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Stay strong mama! Dont give in! Great job doing whatâs best for your son. Stand your ground because youâre his mother and you know whatâs best for him. Also, no one should get away with purposely undermining your parenting. I had it happen where I didnt know in advance and my son opened a brand new tablet after I had already clearly explained that he wasnt allowed a tablet until he was older. Then we had to explain to him what happened. We returned it and spent the money on other stuff for him and he was even happier. Sounds like they did it on purpose to he difficult, there are a million other gifts that would make him happy.
My adviceâŠLearn the difference between to, too and two 
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I would let them know that he wonât be using it period. Iâve made it clear to our family that we donât want electronics for our daughter what so ever unless we give it to her then itâs not okay, and if they didnât respect that then I would kindly tell them to return whatever it was or Iâd return it myself and give them their money back. Itâs completely disrespectful.
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Youâre the mama. Too bad they wasted their money.
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Its not okay. Tell them to take it back or leave it at their house. Its beyond disrespectful
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If you said no, then it should of been no.
Iâd tell them if they give it to him that youâll just sell it. Iâm big on boundaries and my parents wouldnât ever go out of their way to go against my wishes when it comes to my kids.