Well u gotta take the stand again. Let them know he can’t have it and if they give it to him anyways let them know u will be taking it away from him and they will be responsible for whatever hurt he is feeling
I don’t think this is about the Christmas present I think this is more of a respect thing. I just went through something like this with my sons great grandma and I just looked at her and said I appreciate that you want to spoil him but please respect when I tell him no it means no. (Background: my child wanted a certain necklace and it was pretty expensive and he is 4 years old and was throwing a fit so I said no and walked away from the store but grandma was like just let him get it grandma will pay. It was not about the money, I have the money, it was the fact my 4 year old doesn’t need to be rewarded for throwing a fit.) Anyway I do agree since the gift is already purchased just have them keep it at their house and he can enjoy when he visits.
Intercept it. End of story.
I don’t believe this is about not wanting to spoil her child, which by the way, is her prerogative not to do.
These video games destroy a child’s imagination, lowers their social skills and creates more lazy behavior. I wouldn’t want my children to have them, either.
I say if you’re the parent, and you don’t want this in your house, return it. There is nothing wrong with that.
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Your family knowingly went against your wishes. Return it to them, this action clearly shows they have no respect for you .
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I underrate where your coming from. If they already got it…tell the NO again. If they go to give it to him…take it away. Your the parent, and you should be respected when you say something like that. We dont allow any kind of “gun like toys”. One year, my youngest got a nerd gun, and we took it away. We went to the store with him, and we got it exchanged for something else. He understood. If you have certain rules, then that’s it. People need to respect the words of the parents.
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I completely agree with you.
Maybe she’s upset it costs more than the things she bought and is jealous he will be so excited about someone else’s gift than hers. Who cares? I never tell people not to buy something for our daughter. They can get her what they want. It’s about them anyways, not u
Tell them to keep it at their house and he can play it on visits.
You Are ultimately responsible for what your child does.
I would be furious. My parents & in-laws respected my wishes when my kids were small. How dare they ! Return it.
Wait until they buy him a phone . Lol let them enjoy giving .
I just tell them the truth and if if they don’t like what you told them not to do for their during child’s gift that’s fine you don’t have to like it but they should have to respect you and your wishes for what you want for your child and you are right you don’t want your child throwing up and spoiled little brat. Painting should have him earned it they give it to him without your permission regardless make him earn it then you won’t feel so bad
I am a grandmother and what is the big deal it is Christmas you are not going to have the grandparents around forever lighten up a little
There has been lots of that happening lately I’ve noticed
your kid your choice. i know its hard for todays parents to believe but no kid needs video games. you told them no and they did it anyways. thats disrespectful and if it were me id return it and use the money to get him other things
Tell them thanks a lot make sure they send the receipt so that you can exchange it for something that is approved by you do not let this slide, undermining BS
“Another one” so it seems he has one already people.
And now you can play with him, on another tv, which would be awesome. That’s what we do with our xbox’s.
I’m sorry but as a parent if you ask someone not to get your child something they need to respect that! I have given things back before or made my child donate it. I am the parent and people will respect that.
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Be grateful you have grandparents for your kids and to spoil them , mine have one left and didn’t get to know their Grandma’s at all
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Grandparents won’t be around forever so let them spoil him he’s gonna look back when he’s older and going to have fond memories with them let him get as many memories as he can with them while he can
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Same thing happened to me. I didnt do anything about it though. I would have preferred that they listened to my wishes but they only get to enjoy them for a while as children so I decided to choose my battles and walk away from that one. It’s the holidays, I didnt want to create conflict.
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Speaking as a grandparent it is not okay to disregard the parents wishes.
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Give it back. They need to respect your wishes.
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Sounds like the best solution.
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I am a grandma and I spoil all my grandchildren but if their parents said no to something I respect my children enough to obey
We ask the parents in advance what our gkids need! No problems😊
I think you should choose your battles. I understand it’s frustrating but its Christmas and it makes them happy to do it and your kid will be happy they did, too. You’re gonna come off as the grinch.
I doubt you’ll want to look back at the time you had with them and remember the time you ruined christmas over grandparents spoiling grandkids which has happened to plenty since forever.
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Do as I once did and you may not have this problem again. I returned them for cash and put it in his bank account. Then I made sure the “gifters” knew about it.
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Grandparents are going to spoil their grandkids maybe talk to them?
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I totally agree with Tasha Lee Ann. Don’t allow people to tell you what they are or not do when it comes to you and family or disrespect in any way, shape or form. Truthfully what they are saying with their is that they don’t care what you say, they are going to do what they feel like.
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Put it away and maybe let him play it on a cold rainy Sat when he has finished school work/chores etc
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Tell them to take it back or keep it at their house. They shouldn’t have gotten it if you asked them specifically not to.
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Just limit his time on it or buy educational games bc his grandparents won’t be around forever to spoil him
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my mom does this all the time just teach him about limits or put it where he can only play at certain times
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One day they won’t be there to spoil them. My grandma spoiled me plus my parents couldn’t afford alot…
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You should honestly be grateful that you have parents even In-laws that love Spoiling their grandbabies during Christmas time, Not everyone is that fortunate & I would let him keep it because it was a Christmas gift & you can’t control what other people get you’re kid’s no matter how badly you want too & I also don’t see anything wrong with them getting everything they ask for it’s Freaking Christmas time only comes once a year if it was all the time then yeah I could understand
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Have them keep it at their house for him to use when he visits them.
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To me that is a lack of respect. I would not allow my son to have it. Let the grandparents return it for something else or keep it at their house not mine.
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Just make it known that you will have control of it even if it means unhooking it each time from the TV. I see it as a good way to earn time on it by doing chores you want him to do
u know, when my mom passes away i will want to see those days again when she spoiled her grandkids rotten…there is no way on earth i wd ever reject a gift she gave my kids, even if it was what i dont like. they see our kids w different eyes than us parents. u just limit his time on it but dont ever give it back to her, bcz one day she wont be there anymore, n the last thing ull care about is that she gave ur son something u asked her not to.
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Your the parent, be the parent, if you dont want him to have it, then return it
Take it back to the store and get what you want him to have. This is your child and they need to respect the boundries you have. I’m a grandparent and I work very hard to respect my children’s requests, I don’t understand the grandparents that don’t.
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Grandparents will be grandparents just saying. My mom did me the sameway last year about a phone. I just limit her time on it
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Put it in the closet or have them keep it at there house…
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I am a grandmother of 12. I fell as that I can buy my grandchildren whatever I want. I raised my kid’s so now I get to spoil my babes…however I do understand what you are saying but I feel it would be my choice☺
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I don’t see a problem at all. Be glad you have someone other than your husband who spoils your child
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Be grateful and gracious but make sure they understand your reasoning for not wanting your child to have another gaming console. Maybe suggest to them and your child that it be kept at their house. While i do agree with some on the grandparents spoiling their grandbabies and thinking about when that grandparent is gone, it’s still not right to go against your wishes as the mother.
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All us parents should know one thing by now. Grandparents will do and spoil those grandbabies any way possible. But I do understand where you come from with the gaming. My son’s 9 and he’s never been big with games,hes a outside kid. But maybe keep it at there house he will have one to play on when he is there
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Talk to them and explain your reasons for not wanting him to have another one. But sense they bought it tell them to keep it at their house so he can play it there when visiting.
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I’m just saying be grateful
Some kids don’t have grandparents to spoil them
Plus you can’t control what others get as a gift it’s not your money
You can say so in your house about controlling how the children use it
The fact that people forget is that they are thinking about the person and showing that they thought about what the child really wanted
There are kids out here that don’t get anything
Maybe you as the parents can talk to your kids and maybe next year give to a child on the Angel Tree and show then that they should also be grateful
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I believe also your point in why he can’t have one is a great one and I’m sure your son knows y he can’t also for the grandparents to do that’s says f why mommy and daddy won’t get it and teaches him to go against you when you say no gma and gpa will say yes
That’s not the point he should give his old one to a friend that could use one.
Tell them to keep the counsel at their house. They already got it so I would6make them take it back
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Why are you seriously coming on social media about this… Do you REALLY need outsiders opinions to handle your personal family issues.?
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Put It away or leave it at their house
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Your parents have no respect for boundaries or your family. This is a serious problem. I would tell them that he can not accept the gift or accept the gift and return it for the money. Some parents feel that they are entitled to do as they please because they’re grandparents. SMH
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Maybe they cld have given it to a family who wld appreciate it. Your son probably will enjoy it, don’t worry they’ll be dead before you know it! Then you can be controlling as you want. Geez get a grip and be grateful. You don’t have to control all things!!! Ungrateful.
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Put it up in a closet and gift it to the person who bought it next year
As for let the grand parents spoil the kid/kids. They still can but they need to follow rules u set instead of making u look like the bad guy if they can’t respect that then they don’t respect you
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Be an adult and sit them down and tell them how you feel about them buying the gift after you requested them not to. Explain why you didn’t want him to have it.
They may have thought you couldn’t afford it or your child never gave them any other items he wanted and they didn’t want to buy something he wouldn’t like.
Let them know that they can leave it at their house and he can use it over there.
Return it. Your his mom and what you say goes.
Choose your battles. That isn’t to worth fighting over. It is still up to you if he gets to play it or not.
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Either ask them to take it back or donate it.
There’s spoiling and theirs disrespect if a parent says no that means no
Let him have but it to be kept at their house I to believe in boundries grandparents or not and even if the console is kept their if you set a time limit or that certian games not be played that should be respected also you are the parent. Tell them of they give it to him other wise they’d only be teasing him cause he’s not using it and they should respect your decision your their child and he’s yours
They did not respect your wishes and that to me is selfish and very disrespectful
I woul have them take it back or keep it at their place
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Maybe they can keep it at their house for him to play when he visits.
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Dealing with the same and it’s like this: you disrespect my wishes, I remove my family from the toxicity. Flat out. Make them keep it at their house so he can have it when he visits. Mine have learned that I’ll either take it away and give it back or remove it till they’re mature enough. My kids, my responsibility and this condoning spoiling and disrespecting is why the kids are they way they are.
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Also: Grandparents earn that right! Y’all sound like my baby daughter, 29 she has 2 I still will spoil my grandchildren. Life is to short to bitch about this kind of crap! I know because my children just lost their father Dec 2 at 59 year’s old… Our grandchildren no longer have him to spoil play with ect… Stop sweating the stupid small stuff…
Tell them thank you but it has to go back and they can do it beforw your son sees it or they can be there when you tell your son he is nor getrinf it cause its goinf back. I agree kids dont need everything they ask for. That’s the problem with kids now an days