No! You’re daughter wants to do this. Extracurricular activities should be encouraged. You learn many valuable lessons of being part of a team. Your husband needs to embrace this.
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I wouldn’t have the heart to do that
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Keep her in cheer.
Like you said… She’s worked hard to get where she is now. And it’s obviously something that she still really enjoys. Your man might not like that she’s in cheer but he will get over it.
And…maybe you and your man should sit the other kids down and ask them if they want to be in any sports. If they say that they do want to, support their decision.
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You should at least sit her down and ask her make sure that she really does want to do it and she’s not doing it just because you want her to first.
No!!! You’re in the right mama. She has worked her butt off and to pull her from.it just because it doesn’t fit his lifestyle is wrong!!! If she enjoys it and is working hard what does it hurt him? Would he rather her be hanging out with drug addicts and running the streets? Busy kids stay good kids.
Do not let her stop because of this. She will resent you both. He will learn to live with it if he wants you in his life.
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Your daughter needs to stay in cheer. But sounds to me like this is not really the man for you. He needs to emotionally support the needs of your children. Explore his reasons for not wanting this. Look carefully. Why are his kids not in activities? There’s something there that you are not seeing.
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You know answer. Don’t take your daughter from cheer.
Absolutely not! Tell him when any of the other 3 want to do something then they get to travel. Period. The heck
That’s also a red flag
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Just tell him that she’s staying in cheer. You shouldn’t have to explain why she should be allowed to just because his kids don’t do travel sports.
The kids, their mother and he made all those decisions long before you moved in and you shouldn’t have to stop something just because they made those decisions.
Likewise the decision for her to be in travel sports was made long before him.
There is no way to compromise on it. She is either in or out. And his reason isn’t good enough on why she can’t.
I’d tell him your more than open to his kids doing travel sports.
And if he forces you to explain it “I made the decision to be with you, but she didn’t. She has already had to change a lot of things because of what I want and my love for you. It’s only fair that I respect that this is something she wants and that she loves doing. If you want to offer for the kids to do travel sports to be fair, we can work that out. But there is no way I’m agreeing to her quitting.”
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No, don’t take her out of cheer. That’s the one things she’s earned and remained constant through all this change. Stay firm and continue to fight for her to stay with her cheer group
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She needs to be allowed to continue to cheer if that is what she wants to do.
Why should she be stripped of something she loves. This is why kids start rebelling. Don’t do that to her. Soon the the other kids will find their own interest. He on the other hand is wrong for even suggesting. Sounds controlling
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If you give in on this then what will he want you to give up next. Stop moving into a man’s house.
Leave him.she should not have to stop.
No…let her cheer! Don’t cave in.
I would not make her stop, especially since it’s something she loves and has put so much work into. Sounds like a lot has changed and she might need cheer to help her feel like there is still some normal in her life while she works though this.
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Why on earth would he want to take that away from her?
Not a chance.
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If she likes it, DO NOT pull her!!
Red flag—he’s trying to be controlling!!
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nope. not wrong. Keep taking that baby to cheer mama
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You should absolutely NOT make her stop.
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No let her follow her dreams at her pace.
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No. He seems not to care for you kids better becareful.
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Look up a few options for all of the kids and give them choices! Tell them that it is not that the other kids don’t get to, it’s that they don’t want to. I would never keep my children from doing a sport or activity they liked just because the other children didn’t.
I’d ask him honestly how he would ever think but everything taking away something from a child that has worked so hard for it would be appropriate?? That’s a red flag in my opinion.
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So you are questioning if you should reward her hard work, love and dedication with making her quit because the new guy doesn’t like it? He sounds like a controlling a-hole honestly. That’s YOUR daughter.
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Absolutely not! U already uprooted her school and home. He’s rude to even ask that if u
My sweet daughter competed in all all star cheer for 14 years. Cheer is expensive but worth it. She also cheered for 7 years at school. All Star is amazing.
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No you are not wrong
No that’s not ok. Especially if you’re willing to have the same energy towards all the kids. If they don’t want to that’s on them not the child that wants to
No! Let her do what she enjoys. If the others want to do sports or something else, encourage that also. It’s not your daughter’s fault that she’s into sports and the others aren’t.
If he isn’t going to be supportive of your daughter now, how is he going to be once your married?
Hopefully as long as you Keep being a good mother he will see the best part of parenting hopefully he will see your more hands on approach to parenting that evidently he has had
Take her cheering away because the others have little to no interest in some kind of sports or activity? I would let her cheer! Help them find an interest. There are loads of things. They might like one.
You have your answer momma but I’ll put in my 2 cents. DO NOT make her stop. That would be her’s and your choice.
She’s only young once, she will not get this experience back in the long run. Let her continue her passion.
Please don’t take her out of cheer.
Several of my granddaughter’s compete, and have gone to Vegas for competition.
They love it, and it’s so important to keep kids busy doing things they enjoy.
Absolutely NOT! I don’t think he should really have a say. It isn’t something she just started and if you pull her out she will be angry with you and hate him
Her life should NOT change!!!
Please don’t make her stop.
Absolutely do not make her stop. She will not only resent him but she will resent you and the other children as well.
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She worked her butt off…
That would be like a slap to the face especially since it isn’t for any other reason besides, “the others don’t”. That isn’t a good enough reason to stop her from doing what she loves to do.
No don’t make her stop .new boyfriend is going to have to understand that this is her thing …it’s not her fault that he never encourage his kids don’t ever stop encouraging yours
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She has worked her butt off to be where she is in cheer. Taking her out now would be crushing to her especially with how much hard work and dedication she has had to be on the level she is. The fact the other kids are not involved is irrelevant to her and her journey in cheer. I would not pull her. He needs to support her dreams and ambitions. If he feels it’s unfair maybe he should put some effort into finding his two kids something to do or be apart of. Not basically punish (for lack of better words and she will feel that way) her for having that dream.
He should put his kids in activities then! What is he waiting for? He probably expected you to do it
Absolutely NOT. She should not miss out on something she loves to do and apparently very good at it!
No! Leave her in cheering. She will hate you if you take her out.
No. It’s good for her confidence, fitness, teamwork and mental health. All kids should be in activities they enjoy!
Don’t rip her from cheer. If he has an issue with it he can stay home and take care of the other kids!
Let her cheer if she still wants to just because the others don’t participate doesn’t mean she should sacrifice if it’s something she wants. The boyfriend fiancee is wrong… Keep encouraging your daughter, she’ll resent you if you make her quit because he doesn’t want her to.
tell your fiancé he does not dictate what your daughter only you can tell her no. he need to get a life and his two kid do what they do. so let her Cheer as long as she love it. Do not stop her from doing it just because your fiancé does not agree with you. Does he pay for the trip for or you do pay for it for her cherring?
I would take myself out of that relationship
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No way in hell would i be making her stop. Its not her fault the other kids arent doing anything. Let her keep doing what she loves. I would be telling him to deal with it
Do NOT take that away from her. If he cant see the importance that is plays for her and you, then he doesnt deserve to be a parent to her.
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My daughter was in Cheer and I know how hard they work. I would not take her out!! It is something she loves and if you take her out she will only resent your bf, you and the other kids. I would say that if the other kids wanted to get into a sport they can do so. actually they should have done it a long time ago. Best wishes
Tell him since your daughter wants to do travel teams we need to sign to other kids up that way it fair to her since she has worked hard
She shouldn’t miss our cause to other kids don’t want to do the same thing
If any of the kids have a gaming system that they love to play and the daughter doesn’t enjoy that then those kids shouldn’t have that gaming system if you wanna look at it from his point of you that unless they all for equally love it an equally want to do it then none of them deserve it
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Omg dont you dare take that from her for him! Its you’re duty to stand your ground here. He is absolutely wrong! 100% wrong! Make him read what you wrote. Youre kids have made huge sacrifices for you to be with him already. I wouldn’t take this from her. She will resent you. And she’d be right. This is your daughter for life and you owe it to her to ensure she follows her passions in life. When my son decided to quit hockey, I was disappointed. I wish so much he stuck with sports. Now he’s smoking pot
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No way I’m a cheer mom as well and that would be so heartbreaking to my kids so you shouldn’t pull her out
Why even consider making her stop! Hell no.
You shouldn’t even have to ask. Of course you shouldn’t pull her from cheering!
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Remember this is a skill that could help get her into college. I would not take her out
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This shouldn’t even be a question. 
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Don’t let her stop until she wants to
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Absolutely NOT! He needs to get the hell over HIMSELF! That young lady has Worked her butt off to advance at the level SHE has achieved, if she were MY child, Ol Boy would have 1 of 2 choices, Show her SUPPORT OR SHUT THE HELL UP! I swear, People need to UNDERSTAND being a Step parent means YOU are the PARENTS support system IT DOSENT MAKE THEM THE PARENT!
ABSOLUTELY NOT! Your daughter loves cheering! Keep her busy!
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Don’t make her quit, she has worked hard to get where she is, Your daughter needs to come first in this case and if he makes you try to make her quit, you need to say goodbye to this relationship. Your kids were in your life before he was and she was in cheer, they need to be your top priority not the fiancé.
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Absolutely not!! Just because the others are not interested! You might want to twice about your relationship! Don’t make your daughter suffer because of anyone!
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Absolutely do not take her out of cheer. She will never forgive you. Not only that there is no real reason to do so which makes it even worse
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Absolutely not, it’s harder than ever now days to get kids interested in anything other than phones with games, playing games etc. She did this before you two got together, how dare he do it now. If you give in and make her quit, not only ate you gunna break her heart but you will be letting him control all of you
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My daughter a cheerleader and dancer and she does competition and I cheered and dance as my bf knew me when I was a cheerleader and he would never tell me my daughter can’t do cheer
. His kids don’t do anything but he doesn’t say anything about mine doing stuff he says my kids are lucky to have me as a mom
Why does he have a say? You don’t make his kids do any sports. Their choice. She was doing this before u two got together n she shouldn’t have to choice. Don’t let him ruin it for her.
Do NOT make her stop! Talk to your fiancé and the other kids to see what they might be interested in trying. If they say they aren’t interested, that is okay. Fiancé should be okay that they are all different. Just don’t stop your baby girl from doing what she loves.
No you shouldn’t make her stop. You should make fiance stop acting like a bitch baby cuz he never thought to help his kids find something they love that much.
NO!! Shame on him for even suggesting it and not supporting your daughter!
I Would be questioning His place in my Life…Not My Daughter continuing to do cheer …
He has no right… If he didn’t get his kids involved in stuff thats on him, Your daughter shouldn’t have to suffer because of it.
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No. No! NO! Let her be her
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Keep her in cheer thats your baby he’ll get over it
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Hell no!! From another All 
momma
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Absolutely do NOT make that baby stop!!! She has worked hard to get where she is and so have you!!! That’s not easy on momma either!!
Me personally if someone was going to try to rip my child of her joy I would leave if we couldn’t come to an understanding. You are her mother and you make the choice!!
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His fault for not getting his children into sports🤷🏻♀️ keep her in cheer!
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Absolutely not, she should be able too do her cheer leading it’s something she loves too do, it shouldn’t be took from her if it makes her happy if the other kids don’t want to get into sports it’s not her fault and she shouldn’t be punished because they don’t want to do anything…
Do not make her stop , you worded this perfectly … maybe say exactly what you said here only addressing it directly to him . 
good luck 
Do not stop her from cheering if she loves it let her continue. My daughter has cheered since she was 3 and she turns 13 this year, its amazing to look back at past videos to what she can do now.
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No you are not wrong! If he wants your daughter to stop her sport because his children don’t play sports……you may want to rethink getting married to him.
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Get your priorities straight.
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Please let her continue doing something she loves! Don’t let him guilt/bully you or your daughter into feeling guilty about her pursuing a sport. Your kids should be your first priority, so be careful and be sure that you want to marry this guy!
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Umm no not at all (from one cheer mom to another) he should support her cheering just as much as u do he didn’t think to put his kids in any kind of sport that’s his prob and if his kids haven’t suggested joining a sport then obvs they ain’t interested but that don’t mean ur child has to stop what she loves u keep ur baby in cheer and u let her do what she loves doing u got this mama
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Ummmm what your kids have going on should not be limited by what his kids don’t have going on tf
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Fiance or not my kid would come first and the fact that he is making a big deal about this shows his character I would be questioning my relationship with him not my daughter’s enjoyment in life.
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You let that baby girl do what she loves and tell him if he doesn’t like it, too bad. Not his kid, not his choice.
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ansoluyely mot. she should stay in it
Maybe you might consider helping his kids find what activity they would like and then help them get started. That would bring your family closer and everyone would feel better.
Do not make her stop! She will resent you for having to give up something she loves. Ask his children if they want to get involved.
Tell your man to stop being a jealous selfish ass and suck it. You do for your kids they come first before any dick.
So your kid has to give up something she loves, because his kids don’t have something like this?? I’d probably really think about the marriage if he is trying to stop your kid from doing something they love. For one of the stupidest reasons I’ve ever heard
Do not make her stop!!! Tell him it was you two adults decision to make this move & you’re not going to punish her for your decision… if he can’t understand, you may want to reconsider this relationship.
Don’t stop her, stop him. Either he gets with the program or he just gets. That is your daughter’s life. He doesn’t like it, maybe he should have paid more attention to his kids!!! Ditch him!!!
Fiance needs to sit down on this one. It seems pretty none negotiable to me and honestly pretty selfish and jealous on your fiances part. Support your daughter to reach her dreams 100%.