How should I react to my fiance getting angry over me not getting to the baby fast enough? She is 12 days old and it’s my first child. Being a mom has been pretty rough, and it makes me feel worse when he gets angry at me,
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Tell him to fucking do it if he is so fast
Why doesn’t he get off his ass and help too?
Tell him to do it if he thinks he can get there faster.
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I’d be like then be useful and get your butt up then. 
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WHY isnt he doing it?
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Tell him to get off his ass. Thats my first thought. 
Tell him to get the fuck up and do it himself then 
Hand her to him and say here you are you do better!!!
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Instead of him getting angry y don’t he get up and get the baby. Simple solution really
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Is there something wrong with him because he can’t do shit
Tell him to get off his fuckin ass and help. He helped make the baby.
Im sure your doing great momma parenting doesn’t come with a manual 
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So I assume he is disabled somehow or on the phone when he gets angry? I only assume that, because there must be no way that he can physically get to her for him to be angry at you!! 
Lord have mercy…More and more thankful for my husband every day.
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If this is kind of an isolated thing—like he only has this response in this particular instance rather than all the time, and you’re constantly walking on eggshells all the time—It could be an anxiety response. Talk to him about it? If he’s just a jerk all the time, then you’ve likely got bigger problems.
Also, he should be helping. Baby is just as much his responsibility.
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He laid down to make the baby too. He needs to get off his ass and tend to the baby too.
You’re still recovering from birth. They DO NOT understand what we go through. Tell him you’re doing the best you can and ask him to jump in and help when he can. He will adjust to the newness also. Hang in there mama! It gets easier!
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Tell him you can pack up and leave with the baby real quick too.
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^same thought all these women feel…
Punch him in the freaking face next time he gets upset.
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You just had a baby!! Tell him to get off his behind and help you!
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Y’all should be a team. Work together
That also depends how long does it take you to get up to take care of the baby at 12 days old You Oughta when you hear that baby get your butt up and move if you are getting up but you’re moving slowly due to the fact that you just left the hospital it wouldn’t hurt him to get his butt up and
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Hes got two arms and two legs that work make his ass get up and do it
Is his legs and arms painted on?
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Okay. Stop. You gave birth to a baby 12 days ago and he is getting mad that its taking you time to get up and get to the baby?! You just wounded your body giving birth to a baby and are EXPECTED to be in pain from the birth. Explain that to him. Moving HURTS. Peeing hurt, pooping hurt even worse than child birth. Tell him to shove it.
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Smack him upside his head. For real, go take a day for yourself and let him deal with the baby so he can see how hard it is and be a little more appreciative
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What, his arms and legs painted on or something??
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I’d tell him the pull the finger out of his ass and to help you with her instead of belittling you. Ask him if he just pushed a watermelon out his penis and when he says no tell him he has no right to be criticizing you when he does nothing. I would reconsider marrying that twat
…get mad at him for not attending to the baby. Your body is recovering from having his kid. Jerk needs to shut the fuck up.
Tell him if he can do it better he can do it himself and leave for about a week he will be begging you back by the end of the first day
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You should react by tossing him out…you dont need that kind of negativity in your life.
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It will get worse. Tell him to gtfo
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My boyfriend/baby daddy just sits there while our 1 month old son is sitting in front of him crying. He doesn’t get up unless I say “are you going to see what he needs?”
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You’re doing great mama! Tell him, flat out, to chill. He can just as easily be tending to her!
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He helped made the baby. Get smart & tell him to help or get out
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Tell him to get up off his ass and get that baby!!! He should be taking care of you both, so you can recover!!!
Wtf. Why isnt he getting the baby fast enough? The baby has TWO parents, one of which isnt healing from birth. Screw that…
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tell him to get off his ass and get her than. you just pushed her out or had her cut out and he needs to shut his damn mouth.
He has two
arms. He needs to helping too.
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If you know your baby is okay don’t worry about it. I doubt you’re neglecting your child and if he has a problem with it then maybe he could help you out
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Tell him to get his ass up if it isn’t fast enough jeesh cut ya some slack !
Tell him team work! It takes 2 to make a baby and he can help too.
Diaper changes. Things around the house. Etc
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Well, why isn’t he responding faster then? I would ask him that. He isn’t getting there before you are, so how does he have room to talk?
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Tell him that if he can get the baby faster, he is welcome to do so.
Also, make sure you arent just letting her cry it out at 12 days old. Not saying you are, but there isnt a lot of info in the post. If it’s taking you 10 minutes to get a crying newborn I’d be mad too… but if you are literally trying your best to get the baby as soon as you hear him/her, he needs to chill.
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You don’t have to take care of two babies momma
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Uhhhhh clearly tell him to get off his ass and step up
Tell him to get to the baby first. Then kick him in the fucking nuts!
Tell him to get the baby
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Tell him to get his butt up and help or stfu.
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Tell his ass get up and help you didn’t make that baby by yourself don’t take this that’s abuse that will only gets worse
He can’t get to the baby?? It’s not all on you dear. He needs to help
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Throw the whole husband away. Nope nope nope.
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Then there’s opportunity for him to respond faster too! What a jerk. It has nothing to do with your care for your baby it’s about him getting irritated
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Babies cry… make him grab her
Men just will never understand what it takes to bring a baby into the world!!! I would be having a talk with him my husband worked 6 days a week still came home gave me a break after work when our baby was first born and still helps me with her when he gets home now!!!
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Why cant he help id tell him to piss off
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Remind him that the child is his too and he needs to support you.
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Did his mummy jump every second for him?!
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Tell him to get his ass up and help. Parenting is hard. No one said it would be easy. I’m sure you’re the best mom you can be 12 days post giving birth. You’re going to need help you can’t do it all alone.
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What’s up with men these days not stepping up and fulfilling their responsibilities? Takes two to make a baby and a damn village to raise one!
Is he not able to get the baby as fast as he would like?
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You need more details here if you want help.
How long are you waiting?
If it’s over 5 minutes, I’d say- motherhood is hard, but it’s what you signed up for. Get up and do your duty.
Is he helping too?
If not, let him know that it takes two to make, care for and raise a baby.
If you think you have PPD, you should talk to your doctor.
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I’d tell him to f*** off.
Tell him to fuck off lol You need to heal! Have him bring you baby.
He can get up do something to help too instead of watching YOU do it all if it bothers him so much. You’re a new mom and he needs to cut that shit out and help you -not make you feel anything but awesome and doing the best.
My husband is awesome with our daughter
Tell him it’s his turn…
It should say #EndOfRelationship. He sounds like a child himself, that’s really pathetic. Tell him to Google " how bad is after birth pain? " OR better yet, tell him to you tube it. If he still gets on you about not magically appearing after 0.2 seconds tell him to F*** off AND BE A MAN. He helped create that life, He needs to prove himself to you right now sister.
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He sounds like a total loser. Acting like it’s just a woman’s job to tend to a baby. Even if you’re breastfeeding, he can get his lazy butt up and bring her to you. He should be pampering you right now, not acting like this!
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That’s crap he can get the baby as well it’s not just your job and sometimes they have to cry while you get what they need together 
it’s better than dropping them
Crying for a few minutes isn’t going to hurt the baby. It actually helps strengthen their lungs. Tell him to step up or shut up. If he’s not going to help, his thoughts don’t matter and can get tf out. 🤷
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The daddy seems broken. I recommend getting a new one lol. In all seriousness he does need to help since be helped creat the babe.
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I’d be telling him well than you do it if you think you can do better…
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Honestly the first few weeks of my sons life were so difficult. It was like I was meeting my man all over again, and it wasn’t fun
You both want what’s best for the baby and end up putting such high expectations on each other… Try to remind him you guys are a team and have to work together and not against each other. Let him know that he is making you feel insecure and suggest that he helps you. The best way to get through it is to be as honest as you can with him about how you feel. Ask why it’s making him so mad/anxious that you’re taking your time if you’re not neglecting the baby.
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Babies have two parents, and HE should be helping tend to you in your recovery.
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Tell him if i am not doing it fast get your lazy ass up and attend to the baby
First of all being a first time mommy takes a lot out of us.
Second your still recovering from labor.
Third he’s the father he has to help to.
Fourth he has legs arms feet and hands use them!
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Apparently he’s not helping with his daughter at all?? Bad sign so early
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You both need to sit down and have a conversation about it. Try to have this conversation when the baby is not in the room. Communication is the key to find out what is really going on and try to come up with a plan together. You can make it something fun to do.
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Is he disabled? I’m guessing he is just as capable of taking care of the baby as you are! 
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Maybe it’s because he is feeling stressed to
Is he handicapped? That is his baby too ! Tell him to get the eff up and tend to his baby.
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Why can’t he react ? Why always you ?
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Just breath . Be good to both of them anyway. It gets easier
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If it bugs him so much tell him to get the fuck up and get the baby for you ! What is she waking him up at night ? Poor guy then sleep somewhere else dude . I’m not man bashing but I’m so glad I’m with a woman!! Every time I fed the baby at night she would get up change him when I switched sides and get whatever else I needed !!! Good luck
I assume his legs and arms must be broken?
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A baby needs to exercise their heart and lungs ok and crying a little is the only way for them to do so it doesn’t hurt them ok, they can’t get up and run around the block so it makes sense to let them cry a little, if he doesn’t like it then tell him to pick her up:thinking:
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But like if he’s getting mad, how long is it actually taking you? I mean he could definitely help but why is he getting mad about something like that if you werent going extremely slow? No it doesnt “strengthen a babies lungs” and it isnt good to let a freaking newborn cry for long(ask the ped)… I KNOW recovery is rough but i still hustled when it came to tending to my child. You both need to reevaluate in my opinion🤷
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Do his limbs work as well as his running mouth does? If he has a problem he can tend to his newborn too… it’s called being a parent incase he’s wondering.
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I would open my mouth.
If you have a problem with the way I am doing this than please get off your a$$ and do it yourself. If you can do better, please get up and do it. I promise you I am doing my best and you are making it so much harder. Do not criticize me if you arent going to f*cking help.
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Tell him to get off his ass. He can help.
Ugh. I pray you don’t have post-partum depression because I can’t imagine how much worse this would make it.
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He can tend to the little one if he doesn’t like how long you take (which probably isn’t even long) Also you don’t need to jump up every time your baby makes a sound either! Let them squawk away! One day you’ll need to poop and they’ll be in their playpen screaming at you. You can’t go to them the second they start crying…
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Ummm maybe he should try to help out in some way to maybe make it easier for you
Like he could bring baby to you he could rock her
Do you think you are Postpartum? Emotional issues? He is asking all of this of you?! Did he put a ring on your finger!?..
It’s okay for babys to cry , like fuck thats how they communicate . Tell ur man to get off his ass n tend to her if it bothers him that much
Is he disabled?
IF he is and cannot physically help his anger my be his frustration with himself for being “useless”
If he’s not then he needs to get off his lazy ass and be an actual father
Tell him to do it if he can do it faster.
Tell him to stfu and do it himself then