Is he broken? Like is he not physically capable of picking the baby up and comforting them until you get there? Put a stop to this now or it will never end.
Pray for kidney stone for him . Then he will know what women go through 
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its his child too. tell him to suck it up and deal with it.
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Please tell him I said to go fuck himself. Sincerely, mom of two with a 7 week old at home.
Dad sounds like an idiot…and a dick. Hang in there mommy and welcome to the club. Put a stop to this at an early stage or he’ll get use to it…I mean your fiance. Might want to wait a bit and see how this goes before marrying this dude. Yikes!
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Men will never never get it! No offense even the super dads out there. Your recovery physically and mentally is very fragile at this point.
Its hard but being Mom sometimes is growing thick skin over time.
Snapping back, in my opinion- Won’t help. Especially if he isn’t being proactive in helping.
Maybe ask him to help? Not in a snappy way but a way that makes him feel needed?
Ask him if he needs you to show him how, kindly tell him his baby needs him too. That bond is important. You want him there during this time.
If that fails… See if you can hire a mommy assist or a close friend or Family help.
Can he help out more? Take turns?
Uh tell him to move his ass and do it his damn self if he has an issue.
he need ms to be there for you and baby. you carried the child for 9+ months and if he is capable of doing other things hes id capable to take care of the baby. i would lose my shitif my SO acted that way 12 days after our son was born. you helped me make him, it’s also your responsibility to care for him.
Tell him to go suck a dick
Tell him to get off his ass and help you.
I think if he’s dad then if it was bothering him so bad he should get off his butt and get his child just saying stay strong
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You’re still with him?? Wow.
Everyone is attacking the dad, not saying it’s the moms fault BUT is the baby fussy because it’s hungry? If she’s exclusively BF then he obviously can’t help there. Are you waiting until she’s blue in the face screaming before getting her? I mean there’s always 3 sides to every story: his, hers, and the collective truth.
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Baby is only 12 days old and he gets mad? Umm why can’t he get up and get baby? You just put your body through hell he should be helping
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You are still recovering. He can tend to the baby faster.
he totally can help if she is exclusively BF. he can bring the baby to her. he can change diapers. he can comfort the baby until she gets there.
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Throw the whole man out
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First off constantly running when the baby cries isn’t always the best and secondly he needs to relax or get the baby him damn self!
Honey, this is fate giving you a hint. This guy doesn’t love you. He may have loved making the baby, but if he can’t drag his ass off the couch to help you then he’s not worth it. Get out before he breaks your heart worse. 
Has your fiancé got glass legs? If not, tell him to get up and tend to his baby.
I am too mad to comment. Is he a trophy father? What’s his use?
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If he wants a promotion from fiance he better learn compassion and kindness!
Yeah tell him his a father get up and be a man and father and assist with raising and feeding and changing if he a man that is
Is he helping ? Is he getting mad at you because you leave her to cry ? There’s not enough info. Recovery is a complete bitch but as long as you are not purposely letting her cry he has no reason to get mad.
Maybe he should be helping more?
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Leave and take that baby and never look back. Find a new man and a better father figure for said baby.
Tell him to STFU and get up himself.
You JUST had a baby. He should be helping you, not scolding you!
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He needs to chill out. It takes time to get into the groove of things. My kids are almost 10 years apart and my youngest is 3 months old. Over the last 2 weeks we have finally gotten into an actual routine and I’ve learned most of her cries now. Be patient with yourself, but nip his behavior in the ass now. His hands and legs work, he can use them the same as you.
I would tell him it’s your turn it’s his kid to.
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Well how fast are you tending to him? Are you letting him cry? If you arent actually taking to long then he should get up to bub if it bothers him so much
Tell him to get angry at himself for not being the father in every other way besides having a penis and sperm
Even at 4 months old, I don’t stop what I’m doing as soon as my daughter starts getting fussy. It is different when they are newborn but I still didn’t jump up in excitement when she started crying. Sometimes it’s hard to get up. But I would explain that to him. Don’t even stress about him getting angry, you are a new mom! You don’t need new stress. Explain to him how you feel AND that he can get up too and help if he thinks you aren’t doing it “fast enough”.
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Take your baby and leave the useless cunt
Biiiiiiihhhhhhh. Tell his ass to get the fuck up. You JUST had a baby. Like ffs. He needs to learn now, it is HIS baby too. 🤷
Why isn’t he getting to the baby faster. It is his child also. A real man gets up.
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Bring this question over to STAY AT HOME MAMAS🍒
It took two to make the baby. And it will take two to the raise the baby.make it real clear now.It is 100% and 100%
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Is he maimed? He can get up off his ass and help!
I’ve learned to not post my problems online cause everybody says leave. Talk to him but mostly just do what you think is best. You’ve got this Mama! And congrats on the babe!
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Tell him he has 2 legs and a heart beat. She doesn’t need to be picked up straight away, she could just be fussing.
Well, considering I had a lot of issues with my first one and almost lost him in delivery, I was a wreck. I was an emotional batcase… so all it took was for me to snap one time and I had zero problems after that. You can only take so much mentally and physically! I’m not saying to leave him but definitely stand your ground! Having a newborn is not easy… hang in there mama, you got this!! Congrats on the wee one 
He could help tho…
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This has to be a jokr
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By not getting to her fast enough do u mean, shes been crying for 15 minutes and you’re doing you’re eyebrows or shaving ur legs?
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If hes there to see your not ‘attending to her fast enough’ WHY THE FUCK ISNT HE ATTENDING TO HER!
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You’re a mom, and being a mom is hard. Being a new mom and a first time mom is really hard. If he doesn’t want to help, he has no right to judge. Sometimes babies will cry and you go to them only to find they have soothed themselves. That happened to me a lot when my kids were tiny. Letting your child cry for a few minutes to make sure they need you is nothing bad. It will take time to get to know your baby, so don’t let the opinions of people who don’t help you control your feelings. Being a mom unfortunately also means receiving criticism for every little thing you do.
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He can tend to the baby as well if you’re taking a second too long. Sounds like a jerk
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Tell him to get off his ass n help with the baby
I just want to ask why he is getting mad because YOU arent tending to the baby fast enough? Tell him to get his ass up and be a father or get the fuck out becauae you dont need that shit in your life.
Why isn’t he getting there fast enough also!?
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He can’t tend to the baby? Yes it will only get worse! My son’s dad totaled my car & w/ 38 stitches I had to walk alone to the Dr because “he didn’t have too” if he can’t help now he’s never gonna help until he seeks help. Get out safely and take care of you and YOUR baby since it seems he’s acting like it’s not his
Hot grits will make any man move and fast!
Ask him is it just your baby or is it our baby remind him you took care of the baby 24/7 when you were carrying it what’s his excuse you are tired having a baby is exhausting you need at least three months to recover your body has been pulled out of shape your insides have been cramped for 9 months and yes you’re going to be slow to move and tell him you’re the child’s mother not the nanny not the servant and to get off his dead ass and help take care of the baby
Maybe child development classes will help y’all better understand your baby as well as communicate with one another. Mr Fiancé needs an attitude adjustment. He should be helping you with your baby or at least asking you if you need help in anyway… if you’re breastfeeding, and that’s why he feels like he can’t help… start pumping momma! Or even suggest he make dinner, to help out. Don’t let fiancé get use to kicking his feet back, it’ll just get worse.
What is his side of the story? Long hours at work? Your reason for taking so long, facebbok posts? Poor child
You honestly should be resting and healing. He should b the one getting up with the baby and allowing you to get back to normal. If he can’t do that for you I would leave and go to family member house that will let u rest
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Tell him he’s lucky. My husband had to take care of the baby and me because I was partially paralyzed for a full year pp. The epidural caused a severe nerve injury.
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Tell him he should’ve gotten there faster instead of saying something to you. 🤷 You gave birth 12 days ago, what the fuck did he do?
He needs to help its not all up to you
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Tell him to help or stfu. Babies don’t die from crying for a minute. And his lazy ass can also do what your 2 hand can do. why are men so lazy 
What’s he doing? The baby is fine. You need to heal. He will get over it or get the baby for you like a real man would right after thier child was born
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Why can’t he get her?
How long is it taking you?
Why is it taking x long?
Too much missing from this
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uum he can get up himself if he has a minimum speed limit
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Are his legs broke??? He’s the one sounding like a baby. Its very hard being a first time mom and your gonna have to learn a whole new routine and so should your finance if he’s gonna be there. Its gonna take you both to take care of this precious baby. And by no means should he be getting angry with you!!
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So he’s sat there telling you to hurry up and tend to the baby? If he thinks his baby needs tending to so quickly, then why don’t he get up and do it?
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Sounds like a controlling P.O.S. don’t let him treat you that way. You are doing the best you can. The first three months I found were the hardest with the sleepless nights but it gets easier my lovely. Tell him to get his arse up if he wants a rapid response.
He need to help too u did not make the baby by your self
So. Tell him to get he’s ass up and help
And if I was u I was think. How far will go with this relationship sweetheart.
Tell him that he can go get the baby himself…he is the father…no reason you need to be the only one…especially with a 12 day old baby. Also he needs to stop because being a first time mom you are already prone to getting PPD. It’s a huge adjustment. I’m sure you are doing great. Communication is key especially with children. Marriages fall apart over resentment from things like this. Its starts small and then it’s your whole world. Speak up now and tell him how you feel and that your a team. He can get the child too…even if he works and your at home. My husband wakes up every night with at least one of our children and so do I and I stay home and he doesnt. Its teamwork.
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Perhaps he could get up off his ass and tend to the baby for you ? You only had her 12 days ago and I’m sure you are extremely tired and hormonal?
Tell him to get off his ass and get her himself then 
hes a dad just as much as you are a mom.
this man child you have will never change unless you open your mouth and speak up. Tell him he can help too.
- If your changing that little babes most are going to cry while being changed, its cold they don’t like it Hell I would to if I was the size of stuffed animal and taken out of my warm clothes.
- If your breastfeeding sometimes latching can take minute it’s new and it’s tuff sometimes. If your not breastfeeding then making bottles takes a minute or 2 gotta get the temp right and made right of it could hurt that little babes belly.
- Explain to him it’s not going to hurt the little babes to cry while you make a bottle or change his/her booty. If he has a problem with it then pick the baby up and hand the baby to him to sooth while you make the bottle or whatever you gotta do. He’s daddy he can step up too! Rant over
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If it’s not fast enough for him he needs to get his ass up and get the baby for you then.
Are his arms and legs broke?? He can tend to the baby too.
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What do you mean by not tend fast enough? Like are you breastfeeding and staying asleep or avoiding getting up to get the baby? Hes a dick but you gotta watch these kinds of symptoms for post partum depression and such. Lack of motivation to take care of your baby is a big one
Too much info missing. 5-10 minutes of “ I can’t get up “ is one thing. 10-20 mins of “I’m not getting up” well someone’s gotta do it, so you should definitely be up & id be complaining too.
BUT there is nothing wrong with asking for help, just remember that this is a good time to start YOUR routine too.
This older women on here are being very rude and demeaning. Do not listen to them. Babies cry. You’ll get to know your baby soon enough. This is already a stressful time for you. Do not let his words get to you. He could be helping with the baby too. This too shall pass. Best of luck.
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He can attend to her too …take your time babies cry …
It depends on why he’s angry… is he angry because he was woken up or is he angry because he loves the baby so much and doesn’t want the baby crying too long. If he’s angry because he was woken up, I’d be worried what he would do to you or the baby if he got up . If he loves the baby and doesn’t want it to cry too long then he should be getting up to sooth her and holding it lovingly while you get things ready to feed or take care of her.
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My advice? Yes, keep the baby get rid of fiancé.
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Love half a story to get the witch hunters out.
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Tell him to get off his ass and get her. You aren’t the only parent, and his legs ain’t broke. Just because a baby cries doesn’t mean you need to rush and pick them up every time. Ain’t nothing wrong with crying for a few minutes. If I had to guess why he does that is if he is a first time parent also maybe it’s the crying he doesn’t like hearing or used too. But that ain’t no excuse. He better get used to it and start helping.
Why cant ge tend to the baby?
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His arms aren’t broken! He can help
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I don’t know your situation and how your fiancé contributes but I can say that I get mad when my husband doesn’t attend to our 1 year old quick enough. I work 2 , 24 hour shifts and expect to at least get two solid nights sleep a week on the days prior to my shift both for my safety and sanity and so I can do my job. However if I’m waiting on him on those nights by the time he gets up the baby has fully woken me and I might as well have gotten up to get his bottle myself. If he’s your sole provider right now he might be feeling the pressure to work more but the exhaustion is preventing it?
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Tell him to kiss your ass!! You grew her, carried her, brought her into this world and will move at the rate your body allows! If he has an issue, do it his damn self!
oh honey, if this is how he is now, just wait until you put that wedding band on…he will control you even more…because you are allowing him to ! Put those big girl panties on & talk to him. He also could help & if he can’t maybe it’s time to leave 
And please don’t give the excuse, ‘you can’t’ . Because you can & if you don’t, don’t complain with how he is treating you !!!
I’d say there isn’t enough Information to go on. When I had my children my boyfriend would complain if they cried a lot but it was during the night when he was trying to sleep. And I know a lot of you would say “too bad, he can help” but no… as the mother you have time home to heal and tend to your baby. A lot of times the husband doesn’t and has to still work. Being that my boyfriend works very hard and long hour to provide for us and for me to have stayed home. I feel it’s only fair I give him the respect I would want and quickly tend to the baby so he can get rest. Now if it’s during the day or evening that he’s complaining then there is no reason he can’t help you out. Men also don’t understand what women go through and I know I’ve had to repeatedly as for help at times because my boyfriend didn’t understand or he would forget. Just communicate better and see what happens.
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Talk to him about it.
Nothing will change if you don’t talk. That should always be your first response. He could be stressed out and/or anxious because of the baby too.
Tell him you want/need help if you need it. Or you need some understanding if you’re willing to do it all on your own. Let him know how his actions hurt you.
That could be all he needs. He might not realize he’s hurting you if he himself is hurting.
And yes, ladies, our men can be emotional and hurt during this time too. We’re not the only ones dealing with the change.
But until you talk to him you can’t act like everything is terrible or it’s over. He’s not a mind reader and what might be common sense to one isn’t to another.
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I feel theres not enough information here…
If hes complaiming because like your purposely avoiding getting up to get the baby then thats one thing and u may wanna talk to a doctor as it could be a sign of ppd/ppa
Buut if its because it takes a minute or 2 to gwt what you nees for the baby or to figure out what the baby wants then tell him he can go get the baby himself then. Babies cry. And it takes more than 2 secomds to make a bottle or get to the baby or do anything else you need.
My fiance was the opposite. He would always get up and get what the baby needed even when i was doing it. And hed even wake up at night and tell me ro go back to sleep and that hed feed her because he knew that i was home w her 24/7 and being a sahm(especially a new one) wasnt always easy.
However his uncle(who we lived w at the time) would scream at me if the baby was crying for more than 2 seconds. And his aunt who lived across the street and we visited a lot would get mad if i wasnt tending to the baby the exact second that she started crying. Like id bw standing up as soon as she cried and it wasnt fast enough… And i eventually just stopped going over there bcuz it was stressing me out
Maybe just sit down and talk to him.
Is there a reason he can Not step up and help
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Honey,push him off the bed and while he’s getting up tell him to walk his ass to attend you the baby, also maybe talk to your doctor about PPD❤️
Tell him to get off his ass and see about the kid if he doesn’t like the way you do stuff, besides it’s his kid to.
Tell him to ( Suck It Up Buttercup) it’s time to step up and be a dad and do his part!
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Ugh. He has legs and arms I assume…and can pick the baby up himself.
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Why can’t he go and get her for you?
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Newborns fuss. That is what they do best. Your fiance is either clueless or a first class jerk. Only you know which one fits him better. If it is the second option, run.
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Tell him if he can do it "faster " get on it.
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Tell him to get off his ass and help you
If he has time to get mad he has time to go help
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The him to start helping if it bothers him so much. You also need to heal…your body just through 9 months of intensive changes, and then there’s the damage from birth. You need to heal.
Does he help???
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