Why must he be angry,he must help u out wyf some of the chores:smirk:
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tell his ass to get up and help if he don’t like it then Bye! let him get mad screw him
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Tell him since you’re not fast enough; let’s see how fast he can be
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Hell, tell him to get off his ass and take care of it. It’s his kid too.
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Sounds like he doesn’t do shit to help out.
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Oh hell no. Tell him to get his ass up and tend to his crying baby.
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It will get worse with time. If you are the only one who is expected to get up when the baby cries, that will NEVER CHANGE. The demanding impatience will not go away, and may turn to demeaning you and emotionally abusing you. Do not wear yourself thin by being a single first time parent in a relationship with someone you need to walk on eggshells around
Momming and babies gets easier i promise. But he will get worse. It’s SOOO EASY being a truly single mom and soaking up every joy your babe has to offer. If he doesn’t wise up soon, move on. Not every man who has a child is meant to be a father
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Tell him to get his lazy fucking ass up and help instead of bitching and moaning. What a nasty human being. Better yet, kick him to the curb. Fuck that guy
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First and foremost you cannot spoil a baby. They cry for a reason even if it’s just that they want you to hold them. Do not ever let anyone tell you that you can spoil a baby by holding them too much. Secondly your baby’s father needs to understand that the only way your baby jas to communicate is by crying. It is completely normal amd crying generally peaks around 6 weeks. It does get easier. Newborns are so hard and the post partum hormones are a fucking beast. You are doing amazing! My son was a tiny crying asshole until he was about 3 months old. Take the baby out for a walk, get a carrier that you wear and wear them. Do be cautious about taking them out places though because it’s cold and flu season. Do not let strangers touch your baby. Dont worry about making them angry, they can just go off somewhere and be pissed. Ask for help if you need it from family or friends that you trust. I used to shower with my son in a bouncy seat and most of the time he fell asleep while I was in the shower. I’m a nurse with 6 years of peds experience and being a new mom was still a huge adjustment for me. It will get easier in some ways. My little one is 2 now and I cant believe how fast time has gone by but when you are in the throws of having a newborn it seems like an eternity. You are doing a great job! Make sure to take some time to take care of yourself. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
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Went through the same with my first baby and all i cam say is i wish i would have told him to get the hell out or help me by getting the baby himself. If he can’t do either then i should have left. Babies cry. Get.over.it.or.get.out!!!
Well, it seems as though he doesn’t have any fucking room to talk about “not getting to the baby fast enough” seeing as how he apparently is slower than you cause it seems he damn sure hasn’t gotten up to get her. He can shut the fuck up and help or shut the fuck up and let you handle it. Either way, he WOULD NOT be talking to me that way whilst sitting on his ass. You did not make that baby by yourself you should not have to fully tend to the baby by yourself. You need to put him in his place or get out of that relationship. Getting angry at you and yelling at you for not being quick enough is bullshit, abusive, and disrespectful as hell, especially if he’s not doing anything to help you. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with that at all.
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Why is HE not getting up to HIS child?? Instead of getting angry he should be supporting you😥
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Throat punch him?! He could always get his ass up and bring the baby to you. OOoorrrr take the baby and be a daddy 
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For God’s sake, with a 12-day old baby how could there be room for anger? You should be all drowning in love and counting your blessings!
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Sounds like the reality is starting to set in for him. The pressure is now on and he’s not sure how to respond. Did he by chance take any parenting classes? Does he know how to take care of a baby? Maybe some compassion and encouragement might help ease the anxiety. Reassure him the baby is not in danger when crying at this age. It may just be wanting a food, a diaper change or even being burped. Sometimes the crying is actually a good thing as it helps develop and strengthen the lungs. Maybe show him how? It might help to develop the bond between him and the baby and the three of you as a family. 
I could tell you the same things I have been reading in the thread but I’ve been a long time acquaintance with anxiety and a lack of knowledge/understanding from others and it’s always the same reactions. He is the child’s father and will be a part of you and the baby’s life from here on out. Figure out a way to make it a win-win-win for all of you. Twelve days in is a tad too soon to sever such an important relationship. Seek help from family, friends, counselors, social services, church etc. As always, if it gets physical, you will need to take the baby and leave to safety first and sort out the relationship second.
Peace be with you and yours as you travel down this exciting new path of life. May God bless you and keep you all happy, healthy, safe and covered in love and grace. 
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It’s his baby too…
Is your name The Flash? Then tell him to shut up
My MIL and pedi told me once babys need to actually cry a bit. How else are they going to burn off energy. But hand him the baby and leave the house. Do it before the next feeding. He will have a change. It’s his baby too amd shouldn’t be all on you.
It’s okay if a baby cries a bit but he can also get of his ass and help instead of telling you that you should be faster…You are both parents…
Hold up… did you by some miracle make the baby on your own??! No you didn’t, he needs to stop moaning at you and get off his ass and help with his child!!
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You will grow miserable with this man. Leave.
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I’ve been thru this…
It does not get better…
When you get back to yourself, get rid of him…
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Tell him to try be you for a day. That will calm his tits!
Tell his ads to get up!!!
Since I didn’t see this mentioned… babies have to learn to pass gas and sometimes that dirty diaper doesn’t come easy for them. They have to learn to go. And they cry while doing it. We all know gas pains and pains from #2 can hurt. He needs to chill
If he doesn’t like the care you have your child, then he can do it. 
Why tf is HE not going to attend HIS baby?!?!? Wtffff
You just gave birth less than 2 weeks ago… a whole ass baby just punched kicked and ripped it’s way out of your body!!! Of course you are “fast”
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Something wrong with his legs?? Let me guess he is playing Xbox?
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It takes time but I believe you can tell the difference in a baby’s cry . A little fussing for 30 seconds is not going to hurt. I do not personally believe letting them just cry is a good thing. They need to lmow they have someone who will be there for them when they cry . Jts the only way they have to say hey I need something. Even if ita just to be cuddled . I’d tell him to shut up and let you be the mom and it’s his child also …so no reasom he cant pick the baby up and change or cuddle whatever needs to he dome .
Was he born without legs? Or arms? Is he so obese he’s been bed bound for 3 years? Like is there a reason he can’t get his entitled ass up and take care of the baby that he also created? Or is he just being a whiny ass lil bitch?
I agree with another commenter, hand him the baby and go do something else. He’ll figure out that it’s not as easy as he claims it is. Mf thinks it’s easy because so far you’re doing all the work.
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next time he gets mad, look him dead in the face and say “weird. i dont remember bringing home 2 babies from the hospital”
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and then tell him to get fucked if he isnt gonna help you. this is 2020 mf, you helped make this baby
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Well, could he get to the baby faster and give you a break ? I mean it works both ways 
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12 days old 
meh I was waiting for the chance to go to Bub . All they do is eat sleep n shit .
Seriously? Thats a huge red flag and you need to stop that behavior now. There are 2 of you, youre supposed to be partners. Communicate. If he refuses to change or not communicate, leave his ass in the dust, or youll regret it forever.
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Maybe he needs to try a bit harder to be a dad. What an ass.
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Tell him to get the fuck up and get the baby if you aren’t moving fast enough! You JUST had a baby FFS!
I’m sorry, i question his brought up who , instead of getting angry at you should be helping you in this very sensitive period of life.
So he can’t do it too? If you’re supposedly not getting to the baby fast enough, what’s stopping him from getting to the baby?
Depends on what “not fast enough” is…
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tell him to pitch in and stfu!
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Girlll nipnthat shit in the asssss. Asap. Being a momnis hard as fuck. And if you got a narcissist on your ass? Your chances of survival mentally or even physically go down. Be careful.
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Fiancé? You’re not married yet. Get out while you can!
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He can get off his ass and go himself if he’s not happy!
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Hand him the baby next time he wants to run his mouth and go out to eat or just relax for a few hours.
Since he thinks he can do so much better , have at it.
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Is he helping with the baby that he is the father of? It is a lot of work to give birth and then immediately have to take care of a newborn. It takes two at least to take care of the baby.
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If he thinks he can do better get up off your buns n go for it!! Both are parents both can share !! 30 yrs married n kids it’s not ever a competition or power issue its a together n compromise n communicating ;")
We need a bit more context OP? Does he mean when you are busy with something and can’t get there , is he doing anything at that moment in time that he can’t get to the baby himself, is he just lazy and won’t go and expects you to? Difficult to understand what “not fast enough means”?
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He’s the father n he needs to help you with the baby . For god sake it takes two to have a baby. Good luck
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So annoying when I read things like this. He can tend to the baby you created together.
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He helped create the child, correct? Yes. So tell him to get off his motherfucking ass and help if he doesn’t think you’re quick enough. You’re a new mom! And probably still healing.
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Tell him to get off his ass and take care of his child too
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I fully agree with ALL of the other comments. A newborn doesn’t need to be tended as soon as they whimper b
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but if your “man” believes so then let him do it!
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Tell him to pik up baby if hes not happy
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So… ima going to assume since he says " you ain’t fast enough" his legs are broken? Or maybe he has a bad hip? Is their something wrong with his arms? I mean it can’t be his brain since hes able to talk he should be able to read a container and make a bottle himself or change a diaper… and ima assume he ain’t working if his ass is pestering you about your timeliness smh I mean damn being a parent is a 50/50 kinda job hes more than capable of doing the shit himself… hell tend to the baby let him cook, clean the bathroom kitchen and everything else, he canlet the dogs out, he can do the laundry and pay the bills shit next time he tell you to hurry up with some shit I’d clock that fool in the head and tell him to do that shit himself… smh men trying to be dictators 
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Just curious where is Jill supposed always be she is never on the show same with Christine … but glad Christine isn’t she is so boring and obnoxious and never wins a case lol . Its not like people are knocking down her door for jobs!!!
It’s just nerves that’s really all it is.
12 days old.
Yep, definitely nerves.
Remember that it’s ok for babies to cry it strengthens their voice and actually creates what their voice will sound like when they start talking.
All nerves and not that serious.
Just keep calm tell him to stay calm cant argue and expect to be at your best.
Dads are more whiney I think when it comes to newborns. They freak out like that for some reason.
But he needs to chill and let mama handle her child. Idc what kind of man he is how good of a man he is how good of a father he is.
You’re a mother, your intuition and instincts have been set for life.
12 days old? You’re healing, what’s his excuse?!?! Tell him to get off his ass and do it himself!!
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This is funny to me cuz my baby daddy would get upset if I was always running to our baby he would say let him cry a little it’s good for his lungs and u dont want him getting use to u being there every second cuz its gonna eventually overwhelme you.
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I’m sorry this man-baby is making you feel this way.
Ask him to man up and take a proactive role in fathering the child.
It’s his baby too.
Tell this to your best friend or mum
Watch them hit the roof at him xx
Tell him get ur ass up .didnt make the bsby bu myself.
Tell him to get off his lazy arse if he doesn’t think you’re doing it well enough.
Tell him to get off his ass and get the baby himself. 
I agree with everyone else sayn that U did not make that baby alone , he needs get off his arse an not bitch at u !! 12 days old , first time mum I bet ur knackered… feels for u love, stuff what he says, sounds like ur practically doing it on ur own must b hard… keep it up bet ur doing great
You are doing great just block him if you can. Tunnel vision just focus on yourself and baby.If he’s acting like this already I don’t see him changing anytime soon sorry