A newnorn should not be crying long as they do need their needs met quickly…that being said, tell him to tend to the baby!! I swear some of these men were not raised right!
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Like, angry how? Are you perceiving his anger because you feel guilty or is it more than that?
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what’s wrong with his sorry butt he sure liked getting her here I bet
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Either he needs to calm down or do it himself… It’s ok for babies to cry a little bit.
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Throw him in the trash and get a new one.
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Has he always been like this, no patience? If so, you can’t get mad because it’s something he’s always done so you gotta help him before it gets worse. Hows he adjusting to being a daddy? Is he helping, are you letting him help? Talk to him, ask him to jump in by checking his diaper, wrapping him up in a blanket, offer binky, burp, or just hold him until you get a min.
Another thing to think about, are you sure your not just overwhelmed and you feel like hes getting angry when maybe he’s not? Hormones are still crazy right now. Now, I’m not saying it’s your fault but being a FTM is hard work and confusing as heck!
Communication is a HUGE thing. If you can’t, this relationship will never work.
And let him know, baby can cry for a min, it wont damage baby or anybody else.
Congratulations and hang in there!!
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Is he not able to get to the baby? Wtf?
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Sounds like a controlling asshole. Tell him to get off his ass and do it himself it he doesn’t like how you handle things. If he continues, than dump him.
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Throw that man in the garbage
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Are his legs broken? If he can do it faster, by all means mf have at it
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My exhusband was the same way… and would get physical with me if the baby cried for longer than he thought she should. That behavior is a red flag for me!!!
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You need a new finance
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First baby or not. The baby is 12 days old and you should of both took parenting classes if you didn’t know the basics of caring for a newborn baby .
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He should help you instead of being upset with you. Ion care what he got going on if the baby crying and the baby need a bottle. He should tend to the baby while you get a bottle , did these men forget that teamwork got the baby here in the first place
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Tell that muthafucka to get the baby then TF
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If he thinks you’re taking too much time he could get up off his fat ass and take care of the baby. Otherwise he needs to shut up. It’s bad enough that outsiders will mom shame. You don’t need him doing it too.
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Take a high flying leap in a tall bucket of s. T
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I mean, are you letting it scream for an hour at night Bc it’s hungry?
If so, then he’s justified…
If you’re taking a shower and the baby wakes up… No biggie.
Nobody has the answers, we’re all winging it!
I’ve been winging it for 18 years and mine are alright!
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I’m sorry. GET THE FUCK OUT NOW!
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Why can’t he? Babies learning independence is good. Let the pediatrician explain its not harming the child so he’ll back off. Congratulations momma
Why isn’t he attending to the baby?
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Everyone is nervous and anxious and tired with new babies. Alternate who gets up. If you had csection or complications then he can hand you the baby.
Sometimes is awkward to explain what you’re going though emotionally and physically- but fill him in, calmly tell him what you need from him, ask what he needs from you and negotiate it out.
You just grew a tiny human m, you can handle this! Good luck and congratulations!!
Red flag! Take your baby & RUN!!!
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You need to get out of that relationship. Like yesterday. 
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Tell him to get up off his ass to her ‘faster’ … lazy shit!! 
Tell him that if he can get the baby faster, he is welcome to do so.
Also, make sure you arent just letting her cry it out at 12 days old. Not saying you are, but there isnt a lot of info in the post. If it’s taking you 10 minutes to get a crying newborn I’d be mad too… but if you are literally trying your best to get the baby as soon as you hear him/her, he needs to chill.
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Tell his ass to go if you aren’t “fast” enough. Wtf is wrong with people nowadays smh … girl you are doing great don’t let him make you feel bad 
Both of you are on edge & it only gets harder to be honest. He needs to help you.
He needs to get up and help
It depends on the situation. If you let your baby cry for an hour because You don’t want to get up then yeah it’s justified but he could get up hisself and tend to the baby also. Unless he has to work the next day and you do not, then you should get up and try to let him get as much sleep as possible. But if you get up as soon as the baby starts crying and he still gets angry then yeah you should leave. Is he just aggravated because he was woke up or is he like really pissed off? Because there is a difference.
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Do the same to him. Coz he’s slower also
#its both parents responsibility
wow I would smack the hell out of him !!!
Well he should be helping if the baby is crying? But if he’s not going to, he’s not going to. My kids dad never helped and you just gotta accept it. For me that meant leaving him and being a single mom. He was a waste of space in the house. But if your baby is 12 days old, he or she really should not be left to cry. This is important time and I’m sorry you aren’t getting help though it, believe me I know how hard that is, but some days you aren’t going to sleep, shower, or get anything done when you don’t have help and that’s just the way it is. Your baby should not be left crying regularly right now.
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Don’t marry him. If he won’t help out with the baby; imagine how it be with another child. My husband and I (as a first time mama) took turns feeding and changing our baby girl every two or three hours, day and night. No problem at all! Worked well for us. If given the chance, we’d do it all over again.
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He should use some of that energy to help “get to her faster” instead of being angry. How gross.
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Well I’m sure he can too so he should be quiet lol
I have 4 kids and u learn “getting to the baby fast” is not always a good thing. They need to be able to self sooth and by anyone rushing to the baby as soon as the 1st whimper comes out a lot of times turns them into a cry baby and a needy child. And by needy child I mean a child that don’t learn to do things for them self. Example: when my 16 year old was small I was the mom that jumped when she sneezed it took me forever to get her to sleep through the night and even today she’s very dependent 
my 15 year old now if she whimpered and I knew she was fed and changed I let her whimper she learned to sleep through the night at 1 month same with my last 2 even my 8year old is very self sufficient she can do pretty much anything for herself. So I learned not to be that mom to jump when then whine. And if it’s something they need… fed, bottle, hurt themselves that’s different be there but also split the responsibility between the both of u. Y’all went 1/2 on a baby u didn’t do that on your own
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Tell him to go crap out a bowling ball wait 12 days and you guys will have a race to see who’s faster. If he wins he can continue to tell you to move faster😂
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I’m surprised he isn’t being very attentive being the baby is only 12 days old. I’m sorry you have to deal with everything alone but don’t worry it gets better 
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Um! Why don’t he take his lazy ass and get to the baby faster! Its not just your responsibility! 
definently leave before things get worse. Congrats on your new baby. I wish you the best of luck.
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Tell him to get up an see how fast baby is sorted then! Xx
Snap back or send his ass to do it if he can get to it faster. I jist wouldnt allow that personally. Your resting and healing too.
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Have you got a receipt? I think that one is broken and you need a replacement 🤦
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Ask him why he’s not getting there if it’s a problem.
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Leave n dont go back
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Why dont you talk to him, tell him you are nervous and not completely equipped. Tell him you are happy he is concerned and ask for his help. Let him know you respect his concern and NEED his help.
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Tell him parenting is hard and he can tend to his child as well if youre not fast enough.
If youre too slow then he should be faster 
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Why would he even be saying anything like this? Babys cry. Its gonna happen and probably alot. If he cant deal with it now at 13 days, I would hate to think what hes gonna do when the baby gets older and throws a fit.
Its time to sit down and have a real talk and if you dont get the answers or vibes you are needing, maybe you and baby need to go stay with some family. Being a parent doesnt come with a rule book and the best thing you can do is always follow your instincts. That baby was created inside of your body and you have and know what it needs. God loving vibes sent your way.
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He can tend to the baby.
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Are his legs and arms broken?
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Um… enlighten his ass your still healing after 12 days btw he can get his ass up & at least go get the baby for you if your breast feeding since your not moving fast enough for his liking or he can hit the road 
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It does not hurt the baby to cry some. It builds up the lungs. Think some kind of counseling would help you both. Think of your child first. Dont sound like your husband is a patient man. He is not first anymore. Im sure he is jealouds. Get help now before its to late.
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If he might be scared of the baby, which u need to break him of… he needs to be FULLy involved with caring for the baby. Also… definitely a red flag.
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You should be tending to your 12 day old baby ASAP in the tummy they were always warm, always fed always content with feeling snug you need to reassure them and take care of their needs it’s 12 days old bot 12months old and you need to accept that you’ll regret not taking care of your baby and holding them all that you can when they are growing up and don’t want to be held anymore yeah it’s exhausting but they didn’t ask to be brought into this world and if you can’t properly attend and take care of your child then you shouldn’t have had one .
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You’re still healing too, so fuck that
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Smack him and him to man the fuck up if he thinks you’re taking too long.
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I don’t see a problem with him being angry Especially if it’s your only child. I’m about to have 3 babies under 3 and I tend to them as soon as they need something. But depending on the situation he should also step in and help if you’re busy doing something else.
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Why can’t HE get to the baby fast enough?!
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Tell him to suck it. If he’s so super fast he needs to get on it
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Listen, if you’re the one taking care of the child you get to make the decisions. If he would ever like to get involved he can respond to the baby faster. Otherwise, I would assume it’s none of his business.
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Be faster or have the baby closer
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Get someone, whom he respects, if he does, to tell him to pull his head in, a lend a hand, and ask him is he going to grow up and be a Dad in the full sense of the word, or was he just a sperm donor…if the latter, pack his bag…
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Does he have a broken leg
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Does he not have arms?
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He can be a goddamn father and tend to the baby. As a matter of fact, he should be tending to the baby because your body is recovering from pregnancy AND labour.
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Um I’d tell him to get off his arse and help! It’s not just your child, it’s his as well.
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Hunny first of all you are doing a fantastic job being a first time mum is hard stuff yes it is scary and no you are not ment to know everything it is a day by day learning experience, there is nothing wrong with your baby crying… My partner was like that with our first baby but only because I was breastfeeding so was the main one doing bub so when she cried he felt helpless and would get upset feeling in a sense useless because he felt he couldn’t do anything to help so would take that out on me by snapping at me to do something to stop her crying my advise if bub is crying and u are busy or whatever pick bub up and go place her in daddies arms and ask him to give bub a cuddle show dad that he can help sometimes men just need to be shown these things rather then told
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Yeah he can get his ass up and take care of the baby as well. It’s not solely your responsibility.
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He’s the baby father,right? Tell him if it bothers him so much to get his ass up and tend to the baby. When the baby was conceived, he was there. So he can help out a bit and stop telling you what to do. It’s hard being a new parent but both of you have to work together for the child. If he can’t help you, maybe he’s not the one. Take your baby and go…We’ll talk to him first, if that doesn’t work out, make a run… Hey, don’t worry…your going to be a great mom, it comes naturally. 
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Tell him where the door is and for him to open it and leave .
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ummmm tell him to get the baby if he has such a problem
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Tell him to buck up and shut up.
You learn together and do not deserve to be singled out and made to feel like a bad mom.
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The adjustment period is a hard one. Sometimes it takes a while to get the hang of it. Yes being attentive is important and creates a good bond, but you just had a baby and sometimes it’s hard, especially on your body.
Girl you just need to throw that whole man away and start over.
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Is it his baby? How about he gets up and gets the baby.
Know in your heart you’re doing the best you can. Keep doing that…
Tell him he needs to calm down before you put him in charge of the baby
He can get his ass up and tend to her then
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He may not realize how hard this is for you (being devil’s advocate does not mean I approve of the behavior b4 I get mobbed by angry women) let him know! Clearly and with no room for misunderstanding…I’m tired, I’m sore, I’m healing from 9 months of creating a ba y and giving birth. Help me. I’m sure you’re both stressed and it’s all new to both of you. Communication is key to relationships. If he won’t communicate then call his momma to come get her toddler and finish raising his ass
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What his legs broken or something
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Tell him to suck your ass. He can get the baby. It’s both of your child not just yours
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Tell him to help! How are you supposed to know?
I’m sure this has been said 100x already, but as a Mom if 2, who’s Ex never attended to our children,…, you “carried” that child and did the heavy lifting for 9 mo. It’s about time he picked up the slack!
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Tell him to HELP tend to HIS child instead of getting angry at you for not moving fast enough !
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Do his feet not work???
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Okay ladies chill 
He clearly doesn’t understand how exhausted you are, and He never will. You can try to explain it to him though as best as you can. Tell him you’re still sore, tell him you’re tired, tell him you just need to eat one meal. Ask him to bring the baby to you or start asking him to do other things to help. Men are simple creatures, you need to tell them how to help. Also the baby WILL survive. I promise a baby crying for a couple minutes will not kill it. He needs to relax and realize that’s what babies do. They cry sometimes.
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Your fiance needs to help out with the baby too.
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If he can get mad at you, you can get mad as well for him not getting his ass up to get his child too. It’s not just you taking care of the baby. Share the responsibility and when your baby starts to cry, tell him to get her. If he complains, get her in your own time regardless of if it’s not fast enough for him. He’s not exempt from his responsibility either
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i always say “if you don’t like the way i do it, do it yourself” this includes dishes, laundry and even driving. you literally just pushed a human out of your vagina. (or maybe your belly, still wonderful❤️) you’re a brand new mom and you may have PPD, as most new moms do. and him getting angry towards you, is not helping! HE needs to help as well!
talk to him and tell him exactly how it makes you feel. and that he helped make the baby, he can help take care of the baby. and if he doesn’t want too, or gets mad and starts a argument about it, tell him to get out. it will be better for you and your child in the long run. i promise you. it isn’t worth your child seeing that, hearing it or anything. hopefully, he won’t do that and you guys can actually talk and he will understand. it is most definitely easier for a dad when a baby is born, most usually they sleep right through screaming when the baby wakes up every 2 hours, they are “afraid” to give them a bath, all sorts of things. there’s way more in store then this.
DO WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST.
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Why the hell is he not getting to her fast enough! I hate guys that think it’s all on the mother 
My advice, tell his ass to get up and tend to the baby, how the hell is he going to get mad at you when he himself isn’t even doing anything 
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Husbands always get a pass. Let’s stop this bulllshit!!
Ummmm tell him to get the fuck up and tend to the baby himself then if you apparantly don’t do it fast enough.
Also throw him in the trash
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Tell him to fuck off
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Tell him if you’re not fast enough then to get his own ass up to HELP! Since it’s his child too! He helped make that baby then he needs to helps take care of him too! No real man leaves it only up to his babies mom to take care of the baby. They’ll help without being asked!
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Sweety you’re doing a great job. Dont let him put the pressure on you! Shame on HIM! Useless guy.
Try to swaddle your baby if you don’t and use a pacifier for soothing.
For all 3 of my babies when they were newborns.
Before bed I like to bathed my babies, swaddle and rock them to sleep. (With a pacifier after being fed)
Middle of the night my baby do wake up and cry for his bottle so I would get up, fed, burp, swaddle and rock to sleep again.
During the day when my baby is fussy I do play soothing music and let them watch tv from far away and til this day I still do the same in the morning. All three of my babies were easy.
I used a pacifier for all three of my babies.
My daughter was 16 or 18 months when she stopped using her.
My middle child stopped using his at 18 months and my youngest stopped using his at 12 months!
To me, pacifiers are my life saver. I had families who said “pacifiers are bad” “good luck weening them off” and honestly, if its gonna shut my baby up when they are screaming bloody murder, I’m using it!
My kids are now 6yrs, 3yrs and 13months and are not screamers or criers in public or at home. They have their bad moments but those only last so little. But all depends on the child too. Some child are tougher then others no matter how hard you try… I really feel for you mama. Tell him to get off the couch n bed and GROW some manners to lend his time to HELP you! To learn and to grow together! It’s a teamwork! He cant sit there and complain if he isnt putting in the work!
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When u jump that very second u will end up spoiling them they will expect u to jump when they get older if hes so worried tell him to get off his ass
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Are HIS legs broken???
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The baby will get used to you doing things and getting to them or you can tell him to do something if he doesnt like how long you’re taking
Anger around a new Mother and a baby is never a good thing. Perhaps consider talking honestly to your baby health nurse or a Counsellor for support. I personally wouldn’t be tolerating that. My fear is it may get worse in time too.
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I think a lot of women forget that men deal with similar to PPD and PPA as well. Maybe he gets anxious when the baby is crying and lashes out, which is a common occurrence with anxiety. Maybe he feels like he’s not good enough because he doesn’t have the same bond you do, or feels useless because he feels he’s not as good at caring for the baby as you are, so he just lets you do it. All the focus is always on the baby and the new mom, and everyone forgets that the father is going through shit too. People don’t ask the father how he’s adjusting, they just expect him to be perfect and be a never ending support for the mom and baby. Mom’s are told it’s ok to take time to themselves, but a father is expected to go to work, support his family financially, come home and help with the baby and chores and be the “perfect” father and husband/SO.
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