Dont get rid of him. Youre so big and probably not able to have sex he has needs whats 15$? Give him a break
Omg leaveeeee and co parent. My ex fiancé did it our entire relationship, kept lying and then apologizing for it. A man who REALLY loves you and cherishes you would fucking never. You deserve better, leave his ass.
My heart hurts for you 
I’m sorry. Been there w my ex and it still affects me today. It’s got to be hard w the baby etc. To leave. Just focus on what important right now and the answers will come
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I may be the odd man out here but I dont see an issue. Only fans is pretty much just live porn. And if that was the only time then maybe he didnt know what exactly he was paying for n was curious.
I was in a 3 year relationship , about 14 months in he started acting weird about his computer , which we both always used . Then he moved the room around so I could no longer see the computer screen if I suddenly walked in the room while he was useing it .
One day I started digging and of course found dirt , bunch of nude pics hid away in a folder , we discussed , he admitted and set boundaries that this was not ok
He begged pleaded promise never again cause he didn’t wanna lose me . So I try my best to trust him , months go by and I see nothing to give me a bad sign , then one day he’s online and I suddenly walk in the room and I see him clicking really fast on the keyboard by the time I walk around the desk it’s on a wildlife page 
but I could feel it , I just knew he was at it again , I asked him and he swore on his life no he wasn’t doing anything . My next step download a computer watcher , it can record everything and no one is aware it’s doing it , it’s mostly used for parents to keep check on children’s online history . I promise you it is worth whatever the monthly cost , let’s just say nude pics in a file was nothing compared to what I found out after installing the watcher program . So yes if you catch them once there is always more , they won’t stop , they will just get better at bidding it so they don’t get caught again . You deserve better .
I don’t know why people be like “Set boundaries so they know next time, and there’s better communication” as if OnlyFans is acceptable for a fxcking relationship. 
Girl just leave him for a few days, doing you boo, Make him watch the baby and say you gotta get some shopping (which is true) but Pre book it for collect the next day , and just go out and get drunk 
for the night.
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Do something once and lie about it, they will always do it
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Ok, so, so far he’s:
• Disrespected you
• Lied to you
• Hurt you
• Broken your trust
Unless you both sit down and discuss this fully, openly & truthfully you’ll both not be able to move on (if that’s what you want to do) He absolutely owes you an explanation (at the very least!) If he can’t be open and honest with you then what is the point of carrying on with the relationship? What is it you want from this going forward? Do you want to end things right now? Divorce? Work things out? Stay? Get relationship therapy? Whatever it is that you want, you go ahead and get it… If you want to divorce and leave, do it, but hold him responsible for his actions first. Make him sit and explain why he chose to do this to you. That HE has caused the end of the relationship & divorce (if that’s the route you choose) He has to take responsibility for his stupid behaviour… Deep breaths, stay calm and focus on your next steps and where you want to go… 
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What can you get for $16.05? Seems really cheap and such a random amount. It’s definitely the lying that is the worst for me. Not looking at porn. I’d definitely have a serious talk, find out what he paid for, and couples therapy. (If there wasn’t a baby, I’d say walk away, but I know it’s not that easy).
It sounds like a subscription fee. I’d demand to know who he paid. It could be a friend or someone you mutually know, and that would cross even harder boundaries for me, as well as be extremely embarrassing. There’s no excuse for him lying or betraying your trust. Consent, trust, and respect are everything in a marriage. The only way to repair this is with him coming clean and him putting in the work to earn your trust and respect back.
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There is a massive difference between porn and only fans. Hubby can watch all the porn he wants but if I found an only fans payment his life would not be worth living .
You need this shirt!
It was literally posted right
under this thread!
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Wow lately on all these posts everyone is so Leave him dump him. Lol
Communicate more. find out what he wanted and why he feels uncomfortable getting it from you. Why does he feel the need to lie instead of working it out. Then decide if it’s time to leave.
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There is so much information missing. Like how do you know it’s onlyfans? And if you really think he’s bluffing with not knowing where the charge came from have him despite it with his bank.
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Men are sexual by nature… You can set boundaries but be willing to try new things or spice it up a little in the bedroom… After setting your boundaries talk to him about things that he likes things that he’s into things that you could do to keep him entertained or captivated by you. Try new things without letting him know, spontaneity to some guys is even more sexy than normal everyday “let’s have sex” cause we are dull and it’s expected… Men like sexual women no matter what they say nobody wants a “dead” lay so be exciting and it won’t take boundaries to keep your man or to decide not to leave him because then you both will be trying to excite and keep each other. I am gay by the way so believe me I am on your side but I also know how men think and what they want.
I am truly confused as to way women get upset about men watching pork or going to a strip club if that’s all they doing let them men are visually creatures they enjoys seeing naked women it doesn’t mean they love you less they are just wired that way now if you are upset about him lying that’s another thing but girl you just had a baby let him please himself while you heal and worry about your body recovering instead
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NEVER cry over a man. He is obviously cheated. Get out of the relationship.
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Satisfy him in the kitchen so he doesn’t have satisfy himself online.
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Shit make you an only fans.
It’s one thing to watch porn, there’s tons of free porn out there, it’s an entirely different thing for him to pay for something he could just as easily get from me for free all he’d have to do is ask. That’s where I draw the line.
My man told me to other day he was horny when he got home from work and I wasn’t home, so he took care of himself. I don’t care about porn…but let me tell you, if I found out he was PAYING someone for pics or vids I’d snap!! I’d be just as pissed off! That’s not okay what your partner did Momma!!
It’s honestly not that bad. It’s just live porn tbh. Give yourself some time, make him handle baby . Set boundaries from here on. It can be over looked if y’all really love each other and want one together. He lied .some do. He needed some relief. Some do. And you just had a baby some do… it’s an adult thing and we’re all adults.
If your man is paying your money to someone to get off he can see his way out the fucking door. If he can’t be honest with you that’s another reason he should be packing his shit! There is so much wrong here even without only fans.
He’s lying that’s the big issue here. Ladies that are defending this behavior I feel for you. If you allow your man to lie to you that’s a real issue. Ok with porn great. Ok with lying not great!!
He probably subscribed to certain pics from someone
This Ruben Rodriguez
Days before birth…he looked at porn. And only fans bet is likely better than porn gun in terms or women not being objectified as badly and very little
Human trafficking.
I’m either too old or seriously committed to my husband, but I have no idea what onlyfans is. However, I’ve seen a lot of it lately. Honestly, it’s your choice. First choice you have to make is do you want to try to work it out or are you done? If you want to work it out, you need to sit him down and tell him this and then tell him you expect full transparency. Work through it. Counselling if need be. If you dont want to work it out, start looking for a place with you and babe and rally behind your support system. I’m so sorry this happened. Love and light to you.
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Who to say that money went to a girl… guys are there too…
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Girl, you deserve someone that will love and appreciate ONLY you. Especially, after you’ve had his child. He obviously doesn’t respect you and the fact that he had the audacity to log into his OnlyFans account on your phone is proof. I wouldn’t waste my time with someone like that but that’s just me. That thought of him deceiving you will always be there. Leave while you can.
Only fans is just nudity & porn! It’s content of all kinds that the creator wants to be paid for
Create your own OF and get him to subscribe to you lol