Leave him and do like I do self care, exercise for you and be the girl he can no longer have!
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Girl get your ass tf outta there noowwwwww. I mean yesterday. 3 yrs girl?? Lose the weight for YOU not him. Love yourself to know God is giving you a opportunity to LEAVE. 
You gained the weight because of him. Stress causes that. If you leave you will lose the weight. Don’t take him back ever.
If he is that shallow that he isn’t attracted to you based on “your shell” he is not worthy of your heart. Show him the door.
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If you gained 60, lost 15 and are at 145 are you saying he wants you at 100 pounds? That’s crazy. You should be loved for you not a size. I went from 109 to 177 and my husband stop whistled and begged me to do bediour photo shoots and dress up in the bedroom. Im back to 145 but he doesn’t care about my weight, he loves me and thinks I’m sexy either way. That’s how love works girl.
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You’ll lose probably 200 lbs of useless fat if you dump his ass
Kick him to the curb. Then loose the weight for you. And then show him what he has lost and get a real man that will love you for you.
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He sounds like a douchebag.
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He doesnt find you attractive at 145lbs?!?!
Girl… you can work things out if you feel that thats what you really want but know this… things will never beenthe same. You’re gonna be in constant doubt and worry that its gonna happen again if something about you isn’t “perfect”.
Do you really think that this is a healthy good relationship?
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He should love you passed your appearance that’s not love. He isn’t worth it ! and you should never lose weight for anyone but yourself. He ain’t the one sis
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There’s many, many, many men who will love you how you are. Not how they want you to be!! 145 is not fat at all!!
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Love and attraction is deeper than physical. There is more to it than what is visible! Your time with this person is up. He is a tool being used for you to recognize your own worth. Recognize and appreciate the lesson and step forward.
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He dose not love you for who you are all he is seeing is the outside not the beautiful strong women inside. He dose not deserve you at your best if he can not support you at your worst.
Well I guess he never really loved you. Leave and get on with your life
I’d leave him hes supposed to love you though whatver ditch him and move on that isnt true love
Kick him to the curb and move on and live for you.
I’m my opinion, leave him. When you marry someone it’s not for their looks, if your looks are the only thing that attracts him to you he is not the one.
No he’s not worth it or worth anything!!
Move on. If he’s being this horrible over you gaining some weight then he doesn’t love you and isn’t worth even being around. I’ve gained weight at various times throughout my relationship with my husband and he’s never said a word to me about it. At one time I was 80 pounds heavier than I was when we first got together. Again he never said anything to me about it or acted like it bothered him at all. If you want to lose weight then do it, but don’t lose the weight because it bothers him.
Better or worse, sickness n health…
He’s already showing vows would mean nothing to him
Drop his ass. What would he say if it was him who out on weight.
Also if you are looking for a good program to lose weight… try noom. I lost 28lbs in 2.5 months and have kept it off
You should lose him… he’s your extra weight! After dropping him then work on yourself for you girl. Don’t waste your time trying to impress him. He should love you for you and not your weight.
Lose weight for yourself… He’s showed you his true colors… Time to move on
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Leave. Find someone who will love you for what is inside and not outside. 145 is not large at all.
I think it’s reasonable depending for him to be honest in saying he is not attracted anymore. I would be if my man put on a ton of weight and was not taking care of himself. It’s important to take care of yourself for you and for your whole family. If it’s important to him it should be important to you. My husband and I talked about this scenario when we got married and what our expectations were.
He is not the one. Simple. Leave him and make room for the man who will be all that you need and desire.
Nope. He doesnt see your heart🤷♀️
No because if he loves you he’d love you with the weight or without
If he truly loves you it would be unconditional. If he wanted to continue your relationship he would help you achieve your goal. Time to move on. 
girl, if he loved you he’d love you no matter your size. most people don’t stay the same size forever! whole man in the trash
I’ve always said to myself if I can’t be loved for who I am then, now and in the future, by the man who told me then that he loved me. Then I can take a long walk off a short pier. Cause I’m worth so much more to myself than any man that loves the beauty outside and not the Beauty within. There are so many more fish in the sea that will see your worth within your heart not just what’s on the outside. He’s looking for a prize wife not a beautiful soul. Send that man packing down the road. Find the one that loves your heart not your looks.
you are a strong wonderful person and deserve better thsn what he is offering which is a life of never enough. you can do better so say adios and be free
Oops he can take a long walk off a short pier.
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The right person will literally love you at every weight, size, shape, whatever… I could share pictures of my husband at his heaviest and then him now I never even noticed the size difference until pictures as crazy as it sounds because I loved him and never saw appearance like that and he is drastically different. But I genuinely could never see until looking back at pictures and he has always been that way towards me as well. The right person should always make you feel sexy and beautiful and help you if YOU want to loose weight not tell you you have to 
I’m sorry you’re going through this
RUNNNN!!! Weight is a hot button issue for me! In the 16+ years I’ve been with my hubby, I’ve gained, I’ve lost, he’s gained, he’s lost, etc…. But he ALWAYS makes me feel loved, even with my added weight! I birthed his sons! If he can’t love you and your worse, he doesn’t deserve your best! Even when I’m so down on MYSELF for my weight, my hubby has NEVER made me feel bad about it! EVEERRRRR!!! Period! 
real man right there! There are plenty of people out there that would love you for you! All of you!
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Wait, your 145 and he says your over weight?! Leave
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Move on… he should love you either way.
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Run as far as you can. If he truly loved you, he would love you for who you truly were. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but you got this. Remain strong and you’ve got me cheering you on 
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Leave him
He doesn’t deserve u
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Leave him now because your weight can change, your appearance will otherwise change, your ability to care for yourself independently could change…and this is obviously not the person who is going to see you through those kinds of changes. I like to think a better partner is out there that would be.
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Leave. Fuck that! I have a thyroid problem. When my fiance and I met 7 years ago, I weighed 140. I’m now around 185 and he treats me no differently. It’s not about the physical appearances. We all age, most people do gain weight being happy and as they get older.
You leave. My husband loved me at 120 and 181. If he loves you, he loves you no matter what.
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Did he say it was your weight specifically?
Mmmm…. want to know a good way to drop 200lbs?! Drop him and never look back 
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Don’t just leave him RUN girl as fast as u can.Do u tell him if his hair is thining? My. X used to take food away from me right out of my mouth.l lost weight til l wised up & left him only to start eating uncontrollable now l have a eating disorder just because l put up w a man who told me how l should look, weigh, dress…naw hon get out.
Get rid of him! Never in my life would I let a man make me feel bad about my weight
That is really hurtful, I’m so sorry. I’m not going to tell you to leave him bc idk the dynamics of your relationship. Make sure whatever you do, you do it for yourself.
Tell him you’re glad he was honest w you bc now you can tell him his ya know ain’t enough to take care of all this anyways. You’ll be better off
Leave. He doesn’t love you. Girl, run!
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Lose the weight for you… and then leave his ass!
He’s not worth is. I out on 45 pounds. I went from 130 to 174 and I hate However my old man loves it. I got a butt now he says 
. So you need to find a real man that will live you no matter what.
What if you became disabled and he wasn’t attracted to you because of that? How would you “fix” that? Dump him!
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I would say RUN as far and fast as you can.
Move on! He doesn’t deserve a beautiful person like you! He should love you regardless of weight - he should love you for who you are!!
You will show him up just you wait and see
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The love of your life would love you and find you attractive no matter what! Get rid what an a-hole! X
Tell him he has a small one and that you can change your situation but he can’t change his then thank him for giving you an out☺️
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Say goodbye…don’t look back!!
Leave him. If he’s this destabilized over weight, how will he handle a crisis? He’s an asshole.
Dump him, then work on you 
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Not attracted to and not in love are 2 totally different things. I went. Spiraling durring the covid lockdowns n put on my pregnancy weight n then some as I had a 1 year old at the time.
My husband is very blunt and pointed it out in his own way n how I was at my biggest he’s ever seen we grew up together. I was livid but here we are 6 months later and I’m skinnier then we we started dating In 2013 n then I was 10 years ago. Because I took his criticism n used it as fuel. To work on being my best self. Hell he even got a little bit insecure. I am still 15 lbs from my goal but at the end of the day I’m thankful he pointed it out when he did cuz my health , mental systems, n mood have improved so much
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Loose the weight for YOU but dump his lame ass. He doesn’t deserve you
Leave. If he can’t love you at your worst, he doesn’t deserve you at your best!
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Is sounds like he love is based on conditions and not unconditionally. It’s time for you to leave and love yourself enough to do it
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You deserve better!!
Leave. There may be more underlying issues, but the weight thing is shallow. Life happens. He’s suppose to be by your side in the ups and downs.
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No, he’s not worth keeping around, leave his ass.
Leave… that’s your red flag🚩 you deserve better
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Beauty will fade… He needs to grow up.
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First of all, the pandemic has only been 2 years so if he’s been unattracted to you for 3 years it isn’t just about your weight. Second of all, you are not required to look any way or weigh a specific amount for a man.
If he was worried about your health that might be one thing, but being unattracted to you makes him sound like a controlling, abusive, a-hole.
So to answer your question, no he is NOT worth staying with.
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I’d focus on yourself
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3 years? Why hasn’t he left if he’s not attracted to you then? The door goes both ways!!
Give him a big giant push out the door and tell him to go find Barbie…but i’ll guess he will be out of her league and he’ll see what he left at home!! Stupid ass lookin for his greener grass…let him go find it! Move on girl! You got this! 
I’d say leave but it’s not that easy. You’ve already invested a lot of time in this relationship. I’d say have a good talk to him about if you’ve got Or want a future together. I would lose the weight for yourself. Good luck x
A person who loves you loves you no matter if you weigh 145 or 345! They do not throw your flaws in your face. If he loved you, he would have tried encouraging you, not belittling you. Throw that whole damn man away sis! You deserve better.
So he wasted three years of your time/life🙄 He can’t be trusted…
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Losing him you will lose weight… u don’t need a man like that
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uh RUDE? find someone else.
He should never make you feel this way, walk away from him.
Yuck. Please leave him. He doesn’t love you. If he did, he wouldn’t care that you put on weight. He’s shallow.
Leave. Your weight shouldn’t be a factor in love
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Girl throw him away! I’m sure he ain’t the picture of perfection and has his own faults….
You’re beautiful just the way you are.
If you have to maintain a weight in order for him to love you is that really love?
Does he love you or your body? I would rather not be with someone who’s solely concerned about how I look
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Hell no you don’t fall in love with a persons shape
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Do not stay. That is bullshit.
Leave him?! Baby run past him as fast as you can! You’re dealing with a insecure narcissist!! Run like the gingerbread man did!!
Honestly leave. That’s bullshit, a real man loves and is attracted to his woman with extra weight or without. Just more cushion for the pushin
You weigh 145 and that’s unacceptable to him!? Girl, move on.
I could see a man being concerned if your weight is so unhealthy it’s causing huge health problems, but even then, that’s not the same as being unattracted to someone.
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What a di**!!! I’ve had 2 children and put on weight. My husband still loves me for who I am. Not what I look like. Don’t ever change the way you are for someone like that. You do you! If you want to change yourself go for it. If your comfortable in you body do you! You will find someone else who loves you for you.
Only you can decide that. It’s your journey honey, but the fact that this question comes to your mind carries some significance.
So your ex fiance you mean. Girl dont you marry anyone who doesnt wanna be with you no matter how you look. He should be so madly in love with your dope soul that your physical appearance change doesnt falter his feelings in the slightest. You deserve better.
Say it again you deserve better
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He fails to recognise you as a person. You are still the same person deep within. Not worth staying with.
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Leave. This is a huge red flag
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Ew. Drop him. In life our body’s are always going to change. He obviously doesn’t love you for your soul and mind or heart… you deserve better. What happens if you guys have kids? Your body is going to change… he sounds like a child’s not a man. If you lose weight do it for you! Screw him.
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Lose a quick 150 pounds minimum by leaving his ass. Find someone who loves you for everything you are and appreciates you.
145lbs? Shoot. Girl, you need to leave his sorry butt.
Tell him you haven’t been attracted to him ever since he became stupid and controlling.
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Umm what🤨 , once weight is mentioned i personally lose feelings like that’s a deal beaker and a big WTF for me. Body’s change . Not always from weight gain… having baby’s, aging , surgery’s I mean if he’s that shallow I’d run away he’s trash.
Damn…he must look like a ken doll 
Nah. He’s not your guy. In the course of a long relationship you will each gain and lose weight, hair, money, jobs, status, etc. Those things fluctuate. If he can’t handle that about you, he probably can’t handle that about himself either. It takes maturity. Get someone on your level.
Please don’t stay, if it’s your weight that is a concern can u imagine what else he has to say
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