What a dick my husband would never say that.
Time to throw him away no man or anyone should be judging a person weight I have had 3 kid n my weight is all over the place my oldest is 7 n my youngest is 6 months old so I don’t expect my weight to go back all the way down before kids but I am gradually losing
Leave. Becuase if he doesn’t respect you over a little weight gain then he won’t respect you if you decide to have kids motherhood changes bodies and if you ever decide that is the route you want to take he still gonna be an a hole
Unpopular opinion: your partner is aloud to have his or her preferences. Now hear me out, I don’t know how it was said or in what context it was said and I also don’t know what his intentions were so if it was hateful and abusive, well, that’s never ok. BUT your partner is allowed to communicate their wants and needs to you and if that person is not attracted to a certain body type, this one particular being a bigger body type, he is 100 percent allowed to communicate that. No one should be forced to stay in a relationship where that persons appearance has changed drastically. It’s just not fair. We all have our preferences in what we like and I’d rather have my partner tell me than not tell me so I didn’t know I needed to fix it. He is not forced to stay and he shouldn’t if he’s not attracted. That’s not what he signed up for and is unfair. However maybe you could ask for his support in losing weight and use the experience to bond. Good luck!
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Yeaaaa. Get rid of him. My husband still married me after gaining 50lbs from medication. And now I’m pregnant with his son and gained back the 40lbs I lost prior. Looks are not the reason your with someone if he’s that shallow leave him. He’s a dick
No he can’t love you for you get rid of him
Why would you want to stay with someone who does not find you attractive???
Simple answer to “is he worth staying with” NO
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I think u already know the answer 
and also don’t be surprised if he hasn’t already cheated on you throughout your relationship to come and say that to you 
I say you round up his belongings and throw em outside where he’s staying at and text him n tell him you just finished throwing out the trash 
Lose weight for you. He could of said he was concerned about your health, but he didn’t. He made it all about himself and that is a concern if you were ever going to marry him. Sounds like you two may already have additional issues if you’re “separated” while living together. What does that even mean? Green light to talk to others?
IDK, hun. Counseling if you two try to stay together, or even for just yourself. There are more appropriate ways to communicate with the one you’re supposed to care about—sounds like he severely lacks in this.
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For me, I’d Leave. Outer Beauty is not permanent. We all get fatty and wrinkly…I wont tolerate anyone with this kind of mindset… he isnt perfect either. Its a big NO. Move on. Be happy and confident of who you are now.
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Weight goes up and down. Hair will change colors. Our bodies will change. If he isn’t attracted to you anymore then he doesn’t love you. Real love is unconditional! I’ve gained weight too over the last yr but my BF STILL loves me and tells me how beautiful and sexy I am. Time for you to leave him!
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Why is this a question? Leave!
Girl! Time to focus on YOURSELF! Kick his behind to the curb! Turn on lizzos “good as hell” and go on about yourself!
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No. . . Beauty is not in the eyes, it’s what’s inside, and shouldn’t matter what you look like. This is what my husband tells me. He said I didn’t marry you for what you look like but what’s inside.
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Leave. Anyone who truly loves you won’t care about your weight. I’ve gained a lot sense my husband and I got together but he says it don’t matter to him. I’m on a weight loss journey that he supports 100% so I can be healthy but otherwise doesn’t care.
Y’all aren’t even married yet and he’s telling you this
Do you really believe he’d honor his vows? For better or for worse? In sickness and in health? If his main drive is physical attraction? I doubt it.
I’m sorry but your fiancé sounds like a d*ck. It sounds like you need to lose him more than you need to lose that weight.
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No because he isn’t into you. That’s what he is saying. Dont even try to fix it. If he is saying he isn’t attracted to you that’s big … let it go. And find someone that wants you for you.
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Throw out the whole boy
Lose 200lbs by dumping his sorry ass!
Um what? Lose the weight for yourself. Why do we feel others opinions validate us? I’ve been married 41 years, my weight was never a deciding factor in whether we loved each other completely or stayed together. Sounds like your man has ego issues & should have his bags packed for him.
He doesn’t truly love you so leave him sis.
Get the hell out !! That’s no man that’s a pos !!! I’ve always been a size 8 even after 3 kids . My liver took a dump twice I went from 125-130 to 180 even as high as 227 and my husband still thinks I’m everything to him . You hunny know this answer just do it .
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Leave.
In fact fun away as fast as you can.
And find someone that loves you for being you
Well first of all he’s a dick and second he isn’t worth shit! Let him go
You have the perfect opportunity. Use it wisely.
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If he doesn’t want you now f him throw him away Whst if he gained weight bet you wouldn’t flinch
Move on, find someone who loves YOU for YOU. and work on your self when your ready to!
Cya! You’ll find someone that loves you
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Lose the weight and the man - he isn’t marriage material
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I’m going to shimmy my way in here with a different perspective. In no way, shape or form am I supporting a man making rude remarks about his wife’s weight, however, I can see where your partner gaining a lot of weight can change your attraction to them. In my opinion, it’s all about approach regarding the topic. Support your partner. Encourage them to exercise, go together, babysit the kids so they can work out. Ultimately love is not based off someone’s weight however if my partner goes from 150 lbs to 400 lbs, I cannot say I would still find them attractive. Call me arrogant or fat shaming or whatever you want, but it’s no different than marrying someone who wants the same things as you and then turns around and changes their outlook on life — typically you’d go your separate ways. Fitness and living healthy and caring for your body are all life goals too and if you don’t share the same views it can be a deal breaker. My suggestion would be to talk it out and see where things go. Good luck 
I’d dump his shallow ass faster than a speeding bullet
So, he looks like Chris Hemsworth right?
Girl, get outta there!
If 600 lb women can find someone to love them as they are then so can you. Life isnt always pretty. Sometimes you’ll put on a few pounds. Sometimes your skin might break out. Sometimes you might be struggling with your mental health. Sometimes the house might be messy. Find someone who loves you anyway
When you’re with someone for the long haul… hear me out… you aren’t with one person. You’re with the many persons they develop into as life goes on. Mental health, physical appearance… it all takes a part in playing different roles in the different people they will be in the years you’re together. I say leave. If this new version of him is “un-inlove” with you… it’s not really something you can control. I would take this as an opportunity to grow into who you’re are now suppose to be. Not an easy process, as Ive been through it. But it’s rewarding and will build resilience within you.
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Why be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?
Move on so you don’t waste anymore time you can’t get back.
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May GOD Bless you and help you.
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He has seen you at your best and now has seen you at your worst and his feelings are not the same. You want someone who has seen you your best and worst and can’t tell the difference
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Hun you are more than your “weight”… If he only loves your outside beauty then he isnt worth your time… Outter beauty fades, our bodies change, especially once you give birth… What happens then? Let me tell you sweetie, he aint worth it!!! Dump him, kick him to the curb… Love yourself and your body… You are amazing and if he cant see past the external, he has materialistic/superfiscal idealism that will never be satisfied… And he needs help for that…
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That’s up to you. I wouldn’t.
Look, we all have our prefrence. Regardless of what that is, it’s ok. Everybody is different.
So, grieve the loss and move on for you. Move on in a way that’s healthy for you.
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Everyone has their preferences
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LEAVE HIM and lose the weight for YOU so he can cry about it 
but only lose the weight if that’s what YOU want because hot and sexy doesn’t have a weight requirement 
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Run… you have a boy. Not a men!! Your weight shouldn’t even be a problem, imagine if something life changing were to happen, I bet you he would run and avoid any responsibilities as a partner with you. Life is giving you a big hint!!!
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If you gained weight, like most of the rest of the world, during the pandemic, which started in 2020, but he’s telling you that he hasn’t been attracted to you for the past 3 years, something doesn’t add up! It sounds to me like he’s looking for a reason to end it. I was 155lbs when I met my husband, in the past 3 years, I’ve gained and lost and gained and lost… it has t affected how my husband looks at me or feels about me. If he loved you, your weight wouldn’t matter. So I suggest working on losing more than just the 60ish pounds you’ve put on since the pandemic started. Id be working on losing that 60lbs plus whatever he weighs! Tell him to kick rocks! If you wanna lose weight, you do it for yourself, not for anyone else!
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If he won’t support and love you just because you gained some weight can you imagine how bad he would be if something much worse happened? Your wasting your life with this creep. Love yourself most of all and know your worth. I’d rather be alone and love myself than give my love to someone who does not deserve it!
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It’s time to move on. I’m very sorry that it happened but glad it did before yall were married that isn’t the type of man you want to marry. You deserve better
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Nope !!! He’s gotta go. When you lose the weight, what’s the next thing he’ll want to change?? If he doesn’t want to be with you… he DOESN’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU!!! Let him go … and go be happy.
Leave him, your better off without him and given his reply he doesn’t deserve you. Has he gained weight???
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Leave him. It isn’t worth the mental struggles that puts on you. Then lose the weight for you and only you. You’ll be much happier that way.
Please love yourself enough to leave him. Do not let anyone make you feel bad about your appearance. You deserve better.
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His love is conditional. Be thankful that you are learning this before marriage. It’s best that you cut ties and move on from this relationship. I am sorry but he is not husband material. You deserve more!
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I’m sure he gained weight too! Ignorant mfer! Kick his ass to the curb! 
Leave him. My man has gained weight during the pandemic and asked me to go on walks with him and exercise with him. He’s not healthy with his weight gain. It don’t bother me. I’ve gained weight but I needed to. A man who loves you will love all of you. If your not happy with your weight gain work out or ask him to work out with u. But a real man will love all of you and be attracted to u no matter if you gained. Like others say he’s a boy. Get yourself a real man hun
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Definitely not. Leave!
No. Move out now and move on with your life.
nope kick his ignorant as to the curb
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If he can’t love you at your worst then why should he get you at your best. Fat or skinny does it really matter? Tell him to sling is his hook.
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Sadly people like what they like. I would have a problem if my mate put on a lot of weight because that is not what I am attracted to.
True love is unconditional
Get TF outta there. Lose weight or stay the same as you are now, he AIN’T worth it.
No he’s not worth it, he should love you for you, not your size. He’s a shallow dick head, get rid of him. If you’re with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself all the time, then this is not someone you want to be with. Do you want to spend your life feeling like shit all the time? Because that is how it will be, unless you maintain a perfect weight for him, always look your best, and don’t ever let him know you are but a mere mortal, he wants a perfect princess, all the while he’s a nasty dickhead. Get rid of that POS, lose weight for you, not for anyone else. Go out and enjoy life and eventually you’ll find a guy who loves you for you.
Please leave him! He basically telling you he’s ready to move on
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Heck no. Someone should not have to lose weight or change self worth for another person. Make your self happy by dumping this POS and finding your own happiness and the perfect person will come in your life. That’s what I did after my 1st marriage. I found myself then my current hubby came along without me looking for him. We will. E married 21 years here on Thursday the 2nd and together in March for 25 years. Hugs and best wishes to you. My hubby put on weight from not smoking any more. Weight should not matter. Its the person and the personality not looks that matter as much. My husband is handsome no matter how big or old we become. My attraction to him was he was handsome but how he treats me is what I fell for.
Leave his shallow ass
Dont let the door kick him in the ass on the way out. Aint no man who says they love you lose interest bc you gained some weight. Thats just an excuse and straight BS. You can do better
Lose weight and dump the man.
No if he ain’t happy with how your body changes and he can’t get over himself he ain’t worth it
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The only extra weight you should lose is the dead weight, him. You need to love your self REGARDLESS and find a man that will love you for you, extra weight and all.
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I’d leave and focus on your own happiness in every way you can. The right man will love you at 120 or 200 lbs.
my mom ended up being 350 pounds before she died and my step dad loved her regardless, find you a new man hunny
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Oh dump his ass!!! If you look at a person on the outside and can’t love them no matter their weight, then you don’t love them for the person inside… period…
Leave . What if you have a baby and gain weight? Leave now. You deserve better .
If he really loved you the weight wouldn’t matter
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Who says that? Girl, go. You think you’re gonna be skinny forever?! Who is… smh.
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Wow!! Girl… why you asking the internet!!! You wasting time reading all this mess when you could be throwing him and all his stuff out. Truth is…his little d**ck can’t handle a thick girl.
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I’d seek counseling. I think it’s not about your weight. Something else is going on. 
Loose 180 pounds by dumping his ass.
Lose a huge amount of weight by leaving his ass and his opinions and you’ll feel light as a feather 
LEAVEEEE.
Tell him to take his rude self elsewhere. I bet he doesn’t look like a perfect Ken doll anyway.
Definitely not worth staying with. Time to tell him goodbye
No he is NOT worth staying with ~ Why are you asking ??? He has probably replaced you !!! SAY. "Bye, Bye, Hosea …
No how dare him love is love an you should not deal with his shallow disrespect. If you want to talk it out and you want to loose weight for you that’s one thing.but because he wants you to be a size of his choice hunni he should love you regardless.
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Dump him first, work on your self, then DON’T look back!!!
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I feel this because this was me back in July. That is conditional love and you deserve better. You are NOT the problem.
Nope not worth it. If he can’t love all of you no matter how much of you there is to love then he ain’t the one!
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Absolutely dump his ass right now … dont stay with a man who says that to you
Nah boo. Leave him. Continue on your journey of self love. There is someone out there that will love all of you no matter what.
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If your fiance can say something like that to you then hell no he is not worth staying with
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I have always felt if someone does not love you if you get fat or put on some pounds they never really. Loved you In the first place…NO one ever stays the same , as far as looks go.in other words if they don’t love you when you are fat they won’t love you thin for long.love has nothing to do with the way you look
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I wish you all the best 
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My husband loves me either way. I put on 40lbs as well, and he still loved me the same. I’ve lost 30lbs and he still loves me. Never a single comment about my weight, because he respects me.
Yours is simply a dick and kick his ass to the curb
If his ability to love you is based on your appearance, he’s never truly loved YOU. He is in love with HIS idea of you.
He’s not mature enough (and may never be) for marriage.
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No leave his ass if he loved you he would stand by you no matter what
Nope. Bye 
…he should love you and be attracted to YOU through all of life’s ups and downs, even weight… and encourage you. I went through the same thing. Its hard to separate but so worth it.
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Come on now girl you really need us to tell you to leave his sorry ass??? This disgusts me when I hear about men like this that exist out there in the world and it makes me more thankful for mine each and every day. All I know is this, life is way too short to stay with a man that thinks and acts like this. Go find you someone that worships you and thinks the world of you when your heavier than before and when you’re skinny. And another thing, for your man to think and act like that he better be absolute perfection with his judge mental ass, he better not have even an ounce of fat on his ass and he better be looking like Brad Pitt! Before ya leave sis make sure you tell him about hisself and his imperfections that way you drag down his self esteem the way he’s done to you so when ya leave maybe he will get a reality check and think twice before he does that to his next girl.
No way, definitely leave.
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Leave weight doesn’t make you different are being loved if he doesn’t love you because of your body he doesn’t love you at all
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Ok il keep it short and sweet
Hes a prick …
Leave his ass and show him what’s he missed out on sounds like a vain arsehole x