My son was the same way. I know it sounds crazy that a child will act that sort of way so young but turns out there was an underlying issue. My son was diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder & his body was seeking a lot of vestibular & proprioceptive input (which explained all the rough housing & constant tantrums). Ever since starting OT there has been a significant change in his behavior & is able to self regulate, lessening the outburst.
Hahaha. Hes 1…“significant” anger problem? REALLLLY? And does stuff he knows he shouldnt? HES 1 LADY! Geeeeez. Also kids are ALWAYS going to want whats not thiers. Its something new. Sounds like your just expecting way to much.
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Sounds like you shouldn’t be supervising any children… Even your own… How did you have 5??
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Sounds like you’re favoring your kid over your grandkid. Hes one maybe try teaching your kid to share. He’s freaking 1! It’s not like he even understands his own emotions right now. You don’t sound like a happy grandmother
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My God! What an awful child! I can not believe that child had the nerve to come out NOT KNOWING EVERYTHING AND EXPECT HIS LOVING FAMILY TO TEACH HIM WITH CONSISTENCY AND LOVE. How dare he!
You lady sound like you ought to stop having children yourself. You should be ashamed of yourself. That poor baby! BABY
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How about be his grandmother. Why is that so hard? You say you have five children so you should understand how kids need attention and like to discover and explore, you should also understand that he is not stealing your son’s toys, unless he is purposely taking them them home sneakily (which at 1 year I dont see) they need to be taught to share. And also yes growing up that close they will fuss and they will fight but believe it or not they will miss each other if stop allowing his nephew(?) over… just my thoughts
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Lmfao he is 1 and “he knows better” woman please how did u ever raise a child before 
i have a 2yr and 1yr and they get into everything, fight over the same things thats what babies/toddlers do!!!🤦🤦🤦
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Your son can’t share toys? If you were my mom you wouldn’t be watching my kid anymore.
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Y’all are crazy! Yes, he’s one. That doesn’t give any child the ok to be mean. 3 kids, teens now, but sibling rivalry and touching stuff that doesn’t belong to you or temper tantrums were a hell no.
Try doing something with them together such as crafts, a game or just playing with them. Be silly, make them laugh with silly faces, silly dances, just fun. Reward getting along and good behaviour. Good luck!
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He’s 1 don’t expect him know not to fight or anything talk to him
I teach the older kid to share, say he will drop it soon then it’s your turn. Bc really they only want the toy for a moment or two… I used to buy the same toys for both my kids, bc when someone touches something… it becomes interesting to the other one, so each gets the same toy.
Kids that little don’t know yet, the 2 year old is maybe ready to learn sharing and taking turns, but the 1 year old is just too little to understand that. And gets interested in what the other kid does, trying to learn and explore what the big kid does
Lmao everybody keeps commenting on how HE’S ONE! Get over it. Everyone has different standards for children. I’m with OP. I’d be irritated too. Thats because I know what my kids are capable of. And they know better. That could be the case with OP as well. Maybe she held all of her kids to higher expectations than the 1years mom does. It’s a combination of his age and the parenting. My kids have had rules for their whole life. I teach “NO” as young as possible, so my kids don’t act like this at any age. People parent differently I’ve worked in a daycare for years. I’ve seen it all. I get tons of compliments on how much my 10 month old understands & it’s because I know how smart he is, so I push him to learn more
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Well for one he is 1. Kids fight it is a part of life. Try entertaining them and doing stuff with them. Also when he does act out calmly try talking to him and explaining why we don’t do that.
Sounds like y’all need to pop on Winnie the Poohs “Sharing is Caring” learning video…
If you were my mother and speaking about my 1 year old son like that I’d happily find someone else to mind him … He’s 1 he’s still learning … I have a 2 year old and 6 year old and they constantly fight but do I blame my youngest because she doesn’t share 
no because it’s something that they have to be thought… I don’t understand how can you call your own grandson a difficult child
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It sounds like you just can’t handle the kids. HE’S ONE! They get into everything so you have to watch them like a hawk. If that means you have to TEACH them about sharing a hundred times a day then that is what you do, It takes patience. Some kids are more curious then others and not all kids are born with calm dispositions and that’s okay.
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Wonderful grandmother 
hes one.
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Toys he doesn’t want to share should be put up prior to the other child coming over. They need the same exact rules set. No child should have to watch another child play with a toy and not be able to to play with it themselves.
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Your grandson is 1…he doesn’t yet know what he is or isn’t supposed to be doing
Also maybe teach YOUR son to share…
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What in the methed out shit did I just read?
Hes 1 wtf are you talking about. This has to be a joke post
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Learn the two of them how to share their toys instead of defferenciating who’s toys it is,let them grow older knowing to have each others backs ,no special treatment for any of them, you taught your daughter all the things she should and shouldn’t do the same for her son you are the granny after all
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He’s 1, how could YOU as a grandmother speak so ugly about a 1 year old with “significant anger issues” I’m assuming he’s the only child your daughter has and is still learning how to be around other kids. I’m sure he feels that he’s not getting the same love as you are giving your son. If I were your daughter I would find someone else willing to care for him and give him unconditional love. What kind of “grandma” are you…
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He’s 1. That’s it. You dont get advice. He’s a baby, a 1 year old baby. Ffs
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If this kid is 1, he’s not the issue. And if you can’t redirect and teach him, that’s not his fault either. You can have expectations, but at 1, what he’s even capable of knowing and learning is limited. You’re the adult. If there’s a problem, it’s not the fault of an infant. You should stop keeping him. For him. And if I was your daughter, I’d be looking for somewhere else anyway 
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First off he’s 1?! And you seriously think he’s the problem? I have 2 kids 19 months apart 3 and 19 months And they fight over everything and break stuff and make messes. They are small children, your the grandma buy your grandson a few toys that are strictly his to keep at your house if you think he’s stealing your sons toys - but then I want you to treat your son the same when he tries to steal those toys, toys at a thrift store are usually pretty darn cheap so don’t use money as an excuse, but to me that sounds like he’s trying to play but you and your son are not even trying to interact with him. And blame him right away for being bad. A 1 year old is not bad it’s not possible. And does things he knows he shouldn’t WTF again he’s 1!!! You need to tell his mother you are not able to watch him and she needs to find someone else, your looking at your grandson as a problem when it’s really you. I’ve seen it with a lot of grandparents they don’t always bond with their grandkids and for some reason grandsons especially and look for something to blame besides themselves. Do that Baby a favor admit that, say you can’t watch him anymore and then try really really hard to spend some time forming a healthier relationship with him when your son is busy or not around. I have a child development degree with an emphasis in infants and toddlers, and 9 years of teaching 0-4 at a daycare and preschool, their brain is just not developed enough to comprehend right from wrong at this point, and those of you who are saying your kids didn’t act like this cause they knew better make me laugh. Ya scared them into behaving that’s not the same as knowing right from wrong . I do complement you for asking for advice but honestly the problem is you, please take a step back do some reading and research in toddler behavior and quit watching him at least for a bit
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Maybe stop watching your grandson.
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Idk what 1 year old listens lol, some kids have more of a temper more then others. And hes a boy, boys get into everything. My son sure did.
Clearly your mindset is set on mommy mode, not grandma. So ofcourse your gonna hate the “other/not yours” kid…if you cant love them both the same then you should tell your daughter about it and not watch him anymore…this is why i cant let anyone watch my kids 
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So thankful my mom is nothing like this lady. My son has the best grandma 
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Can you see that they have similar toys? Same balls, plastic trucks, soft dolls, board books, stuffed toys, etc. so they can play with the same things at the same time?
Can you designate separate spaces for each child? Play yards, child gates, separate rooms if you can keep an eye on both.
Maybe spend more time cuddling the littler one as he is the one separated from his mom, he is the younger one, he has more to learn about everything. Can you get a wrap thing where you can wear the baby while you play with your toddler?
Maybe set up different nap times so you can spend that time one-on-one with each of them.
Is the baby anxious? Maybe having some of his mom’s clothes with her scent on it would be calming for him.
Good luck mama/grandma! The kids are lucky to have someone who loves them and works to make things better for both of them.
Wow what a Shitty grandmother
Omg you would never watch my kid if you were his grandmother 
hopefully you tell “grandson’s mom” aka your daughter 🤦 that you think she needs someone else to watch him.
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My mother did in fact teach me that if I don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all for the only thing I can say this moment it stop watching your grandson because you don’t sound very nice or very understanding it’s all about what your child wants and that’s about all I can politely say…
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Kids are going to steal toys. Always.
And being a year old, when new things are put in front of them, they are gonna play with them! They are curious little beings!
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I know what your going through. My son is now five and he has ALWAYS been difficult. I finally got a referral for a behavioral therapist before he started kindergarten. His diagnosis was ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). When a child is diagnosed with ODD they usually have accompanying issues, such as, HDHD, Impulse control, etc. The only way to help the child with ODD is therapy, for the parent and the child to help deal with the problems. My son is doing much better now. Good luck
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1 year olds don’t listen. No child listens 24/7. It takes so much patience to deal with multiple children. I don’t see the problem with him wanting to play with your child’s toys. Every kid likes new stuff that they don’t play with everyday. 
maybe you need to teach them to both share instead of separating the 2. It almost seems like you attend to your kid first & always blame the other child which is not okay.
You should be ashamed of yourself…how could you not want your grandson around? Sounds to me like you begrudge your own grandson…if you were my mom I wouldn’t want you keeping my kids.
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News flash I have a three year old and a 1.5 year old they fight all day every day over every single toy unless there is physically two of the same toy lol.
I think you need to get over it and accept that it’s normal behaviour for there ages 
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He’s 1!!! How does a 1 year old have anger issues? And how does he do stuff he knows he shouldn’t do? He’s 1! He doesn’t know anything yet until he’s taught and it surely doesn’t sound like any of you are teaching him anything. YOU are the problem. You are not properly watching him. I highly doubt that he is so fast that he is able to get into everything. The reality is, you pay him no attention and don’t notice when he is getting into stuff until it’s too late. Your daughter needs to find another sitter for the safety and well being of her son
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I’m sorry…this is a 1 year old. You’re expecting way too much in the way of emotional maturity and that is extremely unfair to him. He’s just not capable of the kind of manipulation you’re accusing him of. I think you need to rethink your handling of the situation, or tell your daughter to find someone else to watch him.
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YOU need to teach them to share. 2 year olds don’t even understand that concept yet, clearly or your child would be doing it with his baby cousin.
You’re kidding right .
HES ONE YEAR OLD. ONE! this whole mindset of your kid is an angel and your grandkid is the spawn of Satan needs to stop. As well, claiming he should know better ??? He’s been on the planet for 365 days plus some? That’s it. Grow up grandma.
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You talk like hes a random kid instead of your grandson.
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Youre the human equivalent of a wet dressing gown sleeve
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Discipline… Boundaries…
I would get two of each toy or the ones you lay out and use a play yard or baby gates to give each child a safe place to play and discover.
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Hes 1…and the other is 2…my 2.5 and 6yr old fight like no tomorrow. 1 year olds are still very very young to treat lile they should know better…and also what kid would want to play with their own toys when theres tones of new toys to play with.no kid ever
Life with kids.deal
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He’s 1 … what do you mean he gets into stuff and doesn’t listen?? Lady HE IS ONE!! He doesn’t know his toys, from his cousins toys to the dog’s toys! They aren’t developed enough at one!
Tell your daughter that you cant handle two children that small and have her find someone else to watch them.
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Mate, seriously any toy that comes anywhere near a baby or toddler of that age belongs to them in their eyes. .you’ve. Raised a few kids you should know this. Humans dont come out knowing how to share toys or behave civilised thats learned behaviour normally shown to them by a caring compassionate adult I think your expectations are too high ffs kid is one…give him a minute. give him all the toys let them fight over It thats what kids do. If you can’t handle it dont look after him.
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Sounds like you should teach your 2 year old son to share toys with your 1 year old grandson. They are babies. They dont carry vendettas common now
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He is 1 and is a baby… this is normal and the problem is how YOU are taking it as rebellion and getting stressed clearly. How you are handling the kids and favoring your own over your grandchild they should all be treated equally. When they fight over something they both lose it. They should learn how to play together not seperated because it belongs to the other child. Getting into things you have to teach him not to do that keep on him. Tell him no he cant talk to him. Dont abuse or put the kid down. Keep him busy with something else. And as for your son is upset the grandbaby is taking things you are teaching your son how to not share. How to be rude and not show empathy. They are family and should be loving eachother, playing together, and learning how to play together.
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Ummmmmmmmmmm… Yeah he’s one years old…of course he’s interested in whatever toys lying around do you think he’s old enough to distinguish the difference between yours and mine and what do you mean he does things he’s knows he’s not supposed to do he’s bloody 1 years old… Honestly for somebody who’s had five children you should definitely know better.
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Omg I just cant even 
… HE IS 1!!!
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Wow…just…wow!
I actually really don’t know what to say
But I’m going to try to say it in the nicest way possible… 🤦
You have 5 children?
Yet, you can’t tolerate two toddlers, doing what toddlers do!?
Try working at a childcare centre! 
You refer to your grandson as, and I quote: “THIS KID.”
Oh, we will get you wrong when you say you love him more than anything - because you’ve made it quite OBVIOUS that you DON’T!
Kids fight - ESPECIALLY TODDLERS WHO GENUINELY DON’T KNOW HOW TO SHARE!
You have toys around that are specifically designed for young children, LET THEM PLAY.
If they fight over a toy, TAKE IT AWAY FROM THEM BOTH!
You’re reinforcing the negative behaviour with what you are doing.
Kids break stuff - maybe put away the breakable things? And btw - toys get broken. If you don’t want to replace them, put them away.
Your daughter is working to support her family. You’re getting to spend time with your grandson. You’re going to be the major influence as to how these two are going to grow up and the relationship they’ll have with each other.
I think you either need to admit that you don’t like your grandson, and ask your daughter to find another babysitter (after which, may I add, please never ask to have your grandson over EVER again)
Or
Get
Over
Yourself
And be a good role model for both children!
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Are you fucken kidding me. Hes 1years old you dumb peice of shit you are!!
Without seeing this play out for myself I cannot comment as to what could/should be done differently.
Maybe your daughter needs to find alternate childcare.
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I’m so glad my children do not have you as a grandma. He is still a baby it sounds more like you’re not able to cope with two young kids.
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Hes 1! Thats what they go through this, put away what you dont want broken, and 1yo dont know better about anything lol
1st of all im a mom of a rambunctious, doesn’t listen for shit, amazing, handsome, wonderful, one year old son. He fights, has tantrums daily, doesn’t like sharing, hits other kids, bites, (just started) it’s normal. Completely normal. You need to take a breather man.
Omfg lady hes 1, the only advice I have is for your daughter, and it’s to keep her child away from you, lol if you got grown ass kids why are you still having babies granny? 
Wow ok he’s 1 year old. If you have 5 kids then you should know how babies behave. ALL children do this. Your 2yo would be the same
You daughter needs to keep her child away from you and your perfect son 
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Hes one. He has to learn how to do all these things you’re expecting him to do already. Its not easy and can be very repetitive, but I mean you had kids so you should have a grasp of this? Every kid is not the same.
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Normal. Give him a break. He’s only 1!
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You sound like a 1st time mom but claim you have 5 kids? Good god your grandson is 1, of course he’s going to get into stuff and want to play with your kids toys. Teach your son to share!
All these grandmas in here have 1 and 2 year olds damn!
LOOOOL.
just put the kid in the bin.
ffs. his 1 year old i dunno what you expected people to say. how much do you expect him to understand and comprehend? his probably an only child at home as well. kmt.
fix up or don’t bother with him at all cos right now you sound like an idiot.
Wow!..You, ma’am, need not to watch your grandson again!.. the baby is 1 year old… he doesn’t know what is his or yours… he can’t walk, talk, and barely communicate… but, you are communicating loud and clear… You do NOT like your grandson and it’s sounds like you would oppose violence upon him… Tell your daughter what you just put on social media; I’m sure you will lose a daughter and grandson.
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If I was your daughter, I wouldn’t allow my son around you again. He is 1. You are delusional to even think he should know better. He wont know better until he is school age and even then, that’s iffy. You’ve got serious issues.
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As a mother with a five, two n one years olds this is normal. The only thing I found that does help is to separate them from each other. I let them play in different rooms or I sit with them together and play with all of them. It’s hard to get up n down since I’m also 36 weeks pregnant. But if u are teaching them to share. which is the best way so they don’t fight. I always tell them sharing is caring. But u are expecting to much from a one year old. Because he is considered as a baby still.
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He’s a baby for crying out loud! Maybe your days of having the energy for little ones is gone but understanding that he’s just a baby (Both of them are) is something that’s just common sense.
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They are both babies they fight over toys. My kids do the same thing. And trust me a 1 year old doesn’t know better. Just let them argue over the same toy. It’s just noise it isn’t going to kill you or them
This has nothing to do that it’s her I have a grand kids just like this and he is like 3 kids in one in to everything on too of everything does not will not share my daughter comes over and by the time she leave I am exhausted …I could not imagine babysitting this boy all day my BP is sky high when they are here …I feel for you…
FIRST OF ALL YOU NEED TO STOP COMPARING YOUR GRANDSON TO YOUR OWN CHILD !
all children are different and at this age it is completely normal for the 1 year old to act this way … especially since you are not reinforcing positive behaviour.
If they argue over the toy take it away! Or sit down and interact with them and show them how to share the toy by making them take turns with it.
It called teaching him ! He is only a 1 year old and you need to really remember he will eventually learn dont just expect this 1 year old to be like your 2 year old. that just makes you look very ignorant. If you have children you should know all children are different and develop and learn at their own pace but at this young of an age i think you sound absolutely out of your mind for talking the way you are about a 1 year old.
Like common how are you seriously comparing your 1 year old grandson to your 2 year old son …sounds like you need to stop watching your grandson and educate yourself.
Sorry but this just seems like you lack common sense
Like who compared children especially when they are 1-2 years old
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I have 2 grand daughter’s 1 year apart one I’ve had since birth the other my daughter’s child been in the situation but they both did it to each other if you watch carefully the older one is just a bit more advanced at doing shit to the younger one not to be seen love both my grand daughter’s they are 9 and 10 now very close but they bitch at each other but no one else can ride it out it’s your attention they want
Your child must b perfect I’m assuming .
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Separate them . Simple. Play or play alone. One on each side of room with toys .
Obviously none of your children are close in age… some children are easier then others. That’s life. No child is the same. Learn to be a grandparent and a parent at the same time when watching the children. play with both together. It’s your job to help them learn. Both of them. Your child should share his toys. Obviously he has a problem with that.
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You don’t love him. You sound irritated of your own flesh n blood. You need to chill.
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sounds like my 2yr and 1yr old they cant share its part of learning. You said you have 5 kids if that’s true you’d known by now they dont share its “mine”. Anger issues can he talk yet? Maybe hes trying to communicate but cant so he lashes out. Also you sound like your 2yr old is better. If you don’t like him around then fine im sure your daughter would never let him see you again I know I would
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They are both still little and don’t 100% understand rights from wrongs… my daughter is almost 2 and tries to test her boundary’s all the time! She also has a brother who is a year older and they disagree sometimes and fight over who plays with what it’s normal there children. you can’t have a bunch of toys out and not expect your grandson to want to play with them. Ever think to teach your kid to share instead of banning a 1 year old from playing?
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& the award for world’s best grandma goes to…
They are new toys that he doesn’t see at home all the time, he is 1! Your son is older teach them both how to share! Baby is just learning and if baby does not have any sibilings then he prob does not know yet how to share! Give the baby a break and if you are keeping your grandson alot, then you can help teach baby as well. Why should mom have to bring a 1 year old their own toys? Like your baby isn’t much older they should be playing with almost the same age range in toys.
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How did you raise 5 children and not realize that at infant at one year old who can’t talk and maybe not even walk yet, does not have the experiences yet nor brain development to do what you seem to think he should? Are you possibly going through menopause causing you not to think clearly? There is no way anything a one year old baby does is his fault. He is not a smaller size version of an adult or much older child. For that matter the two year old is not at the stage in brain development to understand about sharing, playing together etc. without it being taught. And under no circumstances should they be left alone to figure it out themselves. Nurture and teach. You are the role model. If you can’t give your undivided attention to them, don’t put them in this position. Let your daughter find a care taker who is willing to give him the love and attention he deserves. Don’t make it about the one year old. The issue is yours. Own it.
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If it’s that much of an issue tell your daughter to find other childcare. Problem solved
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Wow. Some of these comments… I have the same situation as you!! My daughter said I should act like a grandma. But it’s hard when my child is the same age. It got to the point where I stopped watching the grands (still love them to pieces) because I have children to raise too. It will not change no matter how much you try! Be ok with being grandma and not sitter… my grands always got a little more leeway than my own!!
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What the hell 
thats all normal for a one year old. The problem is you lady, not the child. Reading your post had me dying laughing because i cant believe there are people as ignorant as you out there get some help hun
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The child is 1??? They don’t fully understand things still even if you say no to something they will still get into things and want someone else’s toys you can’t get angry at an infant for that. Kids fight you should see mine going at each other and mine are close in age so it’s gonna happen. I generally hope your daughter sees this and what your saying about her son your grandchild …
Have the mom get some toys for him and leave them there. They will be new to him when he gets there and he’ll play with those. Kids will fight and they always want toys that are new to them. He’s 2 and learning, show him grace and love or he needs to be watched by someone who can.
Think your daughter needs a new babysitter, he’s 1!!! Fml !! I just… I just can’t 
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Don’t have him there anymore until your daughter deals correctly with his anger issues. It’s just not worth upsetting your household for one unruly child. Your not doing anything wrong in telling her that he can’t be there, she needs to deal with this herself.
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He’s 1 that’s just a baby. I can’t believe the expectation you are putting on a child that young. He’s going to grow and feel like grandma hates him because you have these unrealistic expectations for him. This post breaks my heart, I hope you tell his mom to find someone to watch him that actually will give him the love and attention he needs during the day
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Your daughter let’s him do what he wants probably. Children have to be taught to behave and respect. It doesn’t just happen.
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Set the boundaries and give your son his own area with his his own toys. Your grandchild is only one but can be taught basic expectations and what isn’t allowed
He. Is. Fucking. ONE YEARS OLD.
I’m not going to criticize you because I do home child care and I know that sometimes a kid is just not a good match for the environment, or 2 kids can clash to the point that it makes the environment too stressful to be good for anyone - the provider, the other children OR the child who is acting out. On top of that, Grandparents do not owe their children child care.
So, my advice is to chalk it up to a clash in personalities and give your daughter notice that she’ll need to find someone else to keep her child. Your other option is to limit what things are accessible to your Grandson when he visits. Keep the play area to only the living room, for example and keep set toys in there that anyone can play with, and your son needs to keep his toys in his room. That’s not going to help with the behavioral issues though. Only you know how much you want to deal with it. It’s hard when you’re stuck at home all day watching someone else’s child and you’re not enjoying it. I’ve had a lot of children I enjoyed caring for and a few that no amount of money made it worth it and I ended care. Just because you’re Grandma doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to have feelings or issues with your grandchild’s behavior. Good luck to you!
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A one year old shouldn’t be left without adult supervision repeatedly to get into and damage things. Either you’re actively watching him or you’re not!
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Please stop watching him. He’s one and you’re horrible.
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Please stop watching him. He would be better off on daycare. You are extremely bias and not mature enough to watch him. To say a one year is stealing stuff 
. Tell the mom you don’t want to watch him and get yourself some psychological help.
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Whoop that ass grandma… all these people saying hes just a k1yr old… that is when you starting teaching the what No means. And if they dont listen you whoop.that ass. My sis in law has 3 kids 5,4,1 she let’s them do what ever tf they want and always has since they were born… whoop that ass and make then learn if you dint start young then they’ll never be able to learn