Maybe u should masturbates in front of him… and then hold him off a bit…
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Is it a recent thing? There have been research studies done in the UK that have found that people are having less sex since COVID 19/lockdown as the stress, boredom etc are damaging sex drives.
Is he addicted to porn? Get professional help first before leaving.
There’s a sex and the city episode about this. Haha season 3 check it out
Maybe he’s Gay? It’s a possibility
Masturbates all the time + libido is low = does not compute.
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I’d say go get your cat wetttt, you deserve it… let him jerk it, his loss.
My daughters father was like that and then he cheated a lot so I left he wants me back but I’m happily married and my husband wants me all the time and only advice I can really give you is leave and find someone who wants you 24/7
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Does he watch porn all day jerking off?
so hes happy to masturbate but not have sex with you
Get a vibrator. Beat him off. When he masturbates, let him cum on ur tits. Get creative. Watch porn together. Be open minded and supportive. I have the same problem at my house. We try to do different things. His libido is low and I’m menopausal but we still want to be intimate.
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Good lord how did this man hating conversation pop on my page… I was curious how women really felt and I I read Is fuck him get a divorce!! I don’t know what or why the problem is but maybe try and help him figure it out…
Fucking divorce divorce divorce. Or cheater cheater cheater… how about maybe part of it is you and y’alls relationship y’all have…
Who knows maybe part of some of these comments are true but come on not every women in here was the most loving saint wife that never did anything wrong and he just cheated…
Sitting here talking to my husband about this… First thing my husband said is,”If hes masturbating he has a sex drive. He’s either not attracted to her anymore or he is cheating or both.” He said if it was him and he was having “medical issues “ that was keeping him from being able to perform, that he would have been at the doctor trying to get it figured out because he loves sex. He wants to be able to have sex as much as possible. Also he said that he would do whatever to make sure that I understood that it wasn’t me.
My thoughts: Not having sex drive or having a “medical issue” is something you go through WITH ur wife. It’s something that deeply effects both of you. You just don’t jack off give ur wife some dumb excuse and expect her to just be okay with. Not care enough about how she’s hurting , doesn’t care enough to see a doctor and include her so they can figure it out as a married couple.
I’m very sorry this is happening to you. Of course I don’t know you but I do know how this feels. When I went through something very similar he was cheating on me. He would just tell me some bullshit and then get irritated at me if I questioned it or even had an emotional response to the situation. Yup now I’m with a man that can’t keep his hands off of me. 8 years and I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life, going through medical problems my self, have lost most of my hair due to my illness and I still catch him peeking at me when I’m getting dressed etc. Men want to have sex, men love sex, if something is keeping them from sex they will do what they have to to fix the situation so they can have sex again etc. That’s why Viagra exist. Men want sex even if they physically can’t or have a hard time trying… they will figure it out if they want to have sex with you.
I think you know in ur heart that he is cheating and/or isn’t attracted to you anymore.
Husband says I have to put a disclaimer:
Everyone is different, his thoughts on this or exactly that … his thoughts and feelings. Nothing is an absolute. And he/ we are probably wrong. Cause we normally are. Lol
I really hope you figure this out so you can find your happy again. You deserve someone that loves you deeply and someone who can’t keep his hands off of you.
Good luck.
Get nasty as fuck and I’m not talking spanking and fuzzy handcuffs I mean try being his little slut sorry not sorry we gotta do our part as well and we cant expect to just expect him to want because we have the vagina we gotta keep it interesting it’s fun for you as well if he still doesnt feel bbn like it then he needs to go fuck himself for good buy foreal get in his laptop or however he watches porn and find out what he likes it might be a little awkward or feel a little embarrassing but if you go straight into slave mode and do whatever you like as well never be ashamed of being a fucking freak its fun
Sex helps relieve stress,Duh…
Masturbating tho
Sorry.
Not.
Great.
Leave him. As soon, as you can.
Honestly I have been at that point. And it came from i was so wore out and stressed i just wanted that moment of relaxation and I love getting my lady off and I love the intimate part of us having sex. so I didnt just wanna be like let me use you real quick and not worry about your needs.
I know it sounds dumb but it just felt like It would be selfish and I want her to allows feel special not like I’m using her.
The 18 hour days of extreme mental and physical labor had my mind so wore out it couldnt process everything correctly.
Honestly say you want to masturbate together. Understand that he still finds you extremely attractive.
His mind and body have just given up. And if you tell him you dont think he finds you attractive anymore his mind will panic because he does and since his brain has given up he cant figure out how to phrase it in a way to help you understand. So he just gets upset at himself for making you feel that way and not being able to express it correctly.
So honestly my lady didnt understand exactly but asked me if we could masturbate together. We did and during the course of that situation she reached over and started rubbing my thigh slowly and would squeeze my thigh as she was in moments of intense joy. My mind started saying oh we like this. She started sliding her hand closer with each pass till she decided she couldnt take it and proceeded to help me with her hand and eventually proceeded with her mouth. In the end she got exactly what she wanted and so did I even though i couldnt process that i did want it that bad earlier.
And let me tell you that knocked me right out of that mood.
If that dont work get him some kind of male enhancement it will knock him back into the game.
We feel so wore out we want it but it just seems like too much at the time which then makes us feel like shit because we want to give you that but we cant seem to get past the road block. Then add in we are failing to meet your needs just makes that road block harder to overcome.
We dont want to admit we are having problems so we use generic response “oh libido”
Just remember we know we are failing you and we hate ourselves for it.
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Some of y’all need fucking therapy. 
just because he has the energy to masturbate does not mean he has the energy to have sex.
I have an extremely high sex drive. But even then, my depression can make me lose the will or energy to actually have sex with my partners. I still masturbate regularly when I go through those moments though, because as he said it’s great stress relief and can help me fall asleep. I’d talk to him about it as honestly as you can and ask him to do the same. It could be a variety of different things, lack of energy/motivation, new stress factors, new medications, hell even a change in diet can affect it. Talk about it and tell him your concerns and if it is depression or another illness, help him get the help he needs.
Could it be an ED thing? Guys can still masterbate and cum soft…
So, I’ve heard guys who masturbate often are able to have an orgasm without getting hard…it’s an embarrassing issue & likely won’t admit if that’s the case 
perhaps that’s why, he can’t actually fuck you if he’s soft…but hE CAN still rub one out.
Look, sometimes people wanna have sex. Sometimes people want to masturbate. Has this been an ongoing issue the whole time? Or is it new? If it’s new he needs to go to the doctor. And DONT assume he is cheating if you want your marriage to work. You have to give him the benefit of the doubt, and that is exactly what a marriage counselor is going to say. If it’s been an ongoing issue, then he may just not be an intimate person, and you made the choice to marry him. I hate that people act like divorce over petty shit like this is such an option these days. You made a vow, as did he.
If it’s new, tell him to go to the doctor.
If it’s been like that the whole time, reevaluate why you married him in the first place and get a vibrator. 
He needs to go to a dr.
Girl fill up the draw on your side table! And start a PornHub account!! Girl there is more than one way to skin a cat AND listen i know you love him but start ignoring the fuck outta his ass too!! Start satisfying YOURSELF FUCK HIM!! Along the way your gonna have one of theeee best orgasms by yourself! I swear to GOD!
Jump on and take control… boy you gonna give me the D tonight cuz I’m taking that shit lol… hop on take control. Good luck
Throw that whole man away…smh
Girl you better go and get you some cock!!!
Uh tell him if he don’t start hitting it, you’ll find someone who will-fuck that life is too short-and if it doesn’t make sense it’s a lie, something doesn’t sound right here. For you make sure you shave and everything is fresh and ready. If he still doesn’t START PACKING
He’s definitely cheating
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My ex was JUST like that. He wasn’t having an affair . I never knew why . I could drop a towel in front of him and he would push me away. That literally pushed me away . Together over 15 years . We divorced. I’ve been the happiest ever . Eventually found someone who loves me like I’m supposed to be loved . I should add - the ex ended up apologizing for never wanting me etc . Never knew what he was missing …and now is a man whore
Just leave and be done. Sounds like a piece of shit.
Okay so forget all the people that says leave your husband because that’s a terrible thing to do just over sex. Second, masturbating doesn’t mean he’s cheating.
If you feel like the intimacy is gone, there is a reason. Yes, stress causes low libido. My opinion, take it. If you want your man, honey, take him! What’s he gonna do, throw you off? Maybe if you initiated it and just did some role playing and took that shit instead of asking if he’s in the mood, it might be better for him. And you too. Good luck darlin 
He may be porn watching
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I have also had the same experience. I struggle with weight issues and self esteem. Mine thinks low self esteem is unattractive and yet he still does these things. I am sorry you are feeling like this. I know it isn’t easy or desirable. I try to counter act it by enjoying my own body and the reality is that some people can’t live without sex. My husband watches porn and doesn’t give a fuck how i feel about it. I think often that i settled into the wrong relationship. I don’t know what the answer is but i support you. And i hope you find time to love yourself.
Tell him to stop masturbating…
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He lazzyyy he dont wanna have to put in work to make u cum. Selfish. That is all. Try spicing things up. Either that or hes fucking someone else…
My husband jerks off as well at work to release stress so he says to, but we have sex just not on them days n honestly not as often cuz he’s pretty much a one n done man. N if he can jerk off his libido isn’t low quite the opposite. Thing is if he is working alot might be just that its simpler for them to do cuz there lazy to have a entire work out with there woman. Cux its too much work besides if he comes quick anyways isn’t even worth your time. An if your self esteem is shit your not getting off yourself cuz it isn’t a consistent intimacy going on in your life lack of work n effort. Fk it all
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Counceling my friend.
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You could suggest - masturbate together, could be fun !
It’s quite common , when there are issues in a relationship, that the sex life becomes , well there is not much of it at all. A healthy relationship, will have a healthy sex life. I suggest you both seeing someone who can help you communicate and resolve what ever it is going on
He’s an asshole
Get rid of him