My son is the 5th, he is currently expecting a boy, who will be the 6th with the family name. He’s proud of it. It’s a tradition. It’s his legacy. If your husband is that determined, why stop him? I didn’t care to much for my sons name, but it grows on you, because the name won’t matter, ur child’s face does. Btw, his name is Ernest, yup, I birth a Ernie! Lol
My oldest son is a Jr. He hates it. Actually he hates his whole name. I didn’t agree to his name. His father named him while I was asleep
I can tell you having a junior sucks when they get older. Mail is hard to differentiate. Other issues can arise when companies try to differentiate the two. But you knew about the tradition prior. You have to keep your word.
Maybe hyphenate or give him two middle middle names that you both can agree on.
I think every child should have there own name…
Since he already will be getting a nickname why don’t you call him by his middle name. The name that you like. 
Children should have their own names and not feel obligated to name after family.
I say let him have the first name and you choose what name you want for middle name (what you’d like for first name) and call him that. But then ofcourse he wouldn’t be a 4th so idk this is a hard one.
Go with it for tradition and insist on choosing his nickname yourself.
Call him by middle name . And make sure what ever goes at the end Jr, Sr etc that it is always used.
My son is a 3rd and I hope he has a son one day to be a 4th
My ex was the third in his family with the same name he goes by his middle name so there is no confusion and I’m the second one in my family with my given name. I have chosen not to use it as it is an unusual name that most people can’t pronounce. I was called by my given name till I was old enough to say I didn’t want to go by that name and my family agreed to use a nickname.
Why don’t you give him his dad name but put your husband middle name first and then his first name for his middle name
I think every child should have their own identity
Is his middle name acceptable? My Son goes by his middle name.
Use your husband’s first & middle names but switch them around.
Noooo. You’ll never hear the end. Ohhh he’s just like senior My rule was that the name we picked could not be in either family. This is a new baby. Give them their own identity
No you guys have to find a name you can agree on.
Pick a name you will still like when he divorces you and starts a new family.
Name him after your husband and call him by the name you would choose instead. My father in law’s mother did that. His name is Anthony she calls him Lorry, the name she picked
You pick his middle name and agree that’s what he will go by so he can be distinguished from the others
So you agreed and now you want to change his mind what is the problem again?
What about his fathers first name and a figferent middle name. Then call him the middle name
How about middle name as first and first name middle
I would give in to my husbands wishes…especially if I had already agreed before.
Uh your the mother put your foot down and say its gunna be agreed on and if you dont wanna agree on somthing else you will pick a name on your own!
So what’s the boy name he wants?
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My husband is Patrick Joseph, my son is Patrick Michael…didn’t want my son nicknamed PJ…I hate that.
Is it worth a divorce?
I told my husband no to his name. It’s Francis. My son would have been the fifth if we went with it. My husbands father is a criminal and my husband gets confused with him often because of the name. His father even screwed up his credit. So my son got his own name.
Use one as a middle name…marriage is about compromising
Anyone else curious what the first name is?
You name the baby after your husband. That is just the way it works. My grandson had his fathers name on, My son has his father name, and his father, my husband, has his fathers name. All the same name. . It’s called tradtion. Charles, Charles sr., Charles jr. and Charles III. No confusion.
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Wow so going back on your word, great lesson to teach your girls already
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Pick a middle name you love. I have went by my middle name my whole life.
Stick to your guns and do the compromise thing. There can be some serious confusion with same names!!! Ive seen it during travel, no fly lists, warrants and more. Its crazy. I get that its family tradition but if you want it one way and he wants it another then common sense says you compromise, period!
Come up with a name you both love to add to your hubby’s name …the new name will be the name your son can go by 
I agree with you, but you did agree. Stand by that.
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I have a family member whose son was the 4th!
He is call “Dru” for qua”dru”plet(4)!! Just a thought!
Go ahead and find out the gender…because if it’s a girl you no longer need to fight 
…i get it me and my husband could not agree until about a week before our son was born…
He needs us own name so he doesn’t have to live up dads name.
Don’t let him win !!!
Am I the only one dying to know what the name is that this child will get!? Lol
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Do you like your husbands middle name? If so, give him the name your husband wants then call him that to avoid confusion in the family and his own identity.
If you choose to keep his family name going, for a nickname my thoughts are to call him Sonny
My son used his first name as his son,s middle name. He shared his first name with his dad
Give him dads first name and give him his own middle name and call him by his middle name
If you don’t know what you are having find out. That way if it’s another girl you can argue over her name. If it’s a boy pray about it.
Give him a cute middle name and call him by that!
No pray for a girl. U carried the baby nine months u should pick the name
You could always call him by his middle name problem solved
We have a 4th we love it tradition trumps all in our house
IThis is a sticky situation. Maybe you will have another girl. End of problem lol
What you name him doesn’t have to be what you call him.
You already agreed. Think of a middle name you like and call him that
Why not just tell him, you don’t like his name?.. 
Be like george foreman name all his kids george a fter himself
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We have Uncle Bobby,Little Bobby and Bitty Bobby😄
You have already agreed , don’t take away his dream
Ask your older children
Sorry, mama…I’m with hubby on this one.
If it’s a boy use your husbands family name and call him I V.
There has to be a name you both like.
Start your own tradition.
To all the ones saying give a different middle name or a second middle name, that would change the name. He wouldn’t be a 4th then. The name has to be exact in order to be a jr, 3rd, 4th and so on. My husband and I are having the same problem. He’s a jr. I agreed to name our first son after him and his dad but I told him he’d need a middle name so I can call him that but my husband said no cause then it wouldn’t be the family name therefore he wouldn’t be a 3rd. After doing research it’s sad to say that he was right. Now my kid will be larry Vasquez the 3rd and what am I supposed to call him? The 3rd?
Ian means 4th, like Trey means 3rd.
I don’t think i could be the one to break the tradition
I think you should keep your word.
I like the name levi
Just nickname him “Quattro.”
You agreed many years ago
We agreed to let me name all the girls & he got to name all the boys
Draw straws. Whoever wins gets to name the baby.
You already agreed, suck it up buttercup
Put your foot down!!!
Quit whining and crying. Grow up for Gods sake. Let him give his potential son the family name. You sound like a spoiled brat.
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My X wanted to name a son after his favorite cousin that he and his mother doted on. I agreed until I actually met the big military jerk. His wife was frightened if him and walked and sat in a chair, taking up as little space as possible. She never responded to any of us when we spoje to her exceot in one word answers. His two sons about 3 and 4 were the quietest boys I have ever seen they ran and played like small boys, but silently. I saw, and no one else at the house did, when they ran through the living room and came to where their dad was standing, both stopped instantly with their arms at their sides and looked up at him and then scuttled sideways around him still facing him and when around and he hadn’t noticed them, they quietly, quickly turned and ran through the kitchen to the enclosed back porch to play. I hoped that his wife woukd be able to leave him soon but never ask about her after that visit. His mother is my X-MIL’s older sister and she, my MIL and all the family doted on him because he was this big important Marine Drill Sargent at a basic training base. My MIL’s sister lived in the next state. They were over for the day to visit because the son and his family qere visiting. After that visit I told my X that I souldn’t even name a dog after that SOB but he refused to listen. Kept telling that if our second was a boy he would be named after that jerk. We had a girl but I even caved on her name. Didn’t want to see his mom throw a tantrum be ause I named her after my mother, but both of them had the same first name, and she told me I couldn’t name my baby after both grandmothers, I had to pick which one I loved most to name a girl after. That was BULLSHIT, but I caved and used the muddle name I chose as her first.
Two years later, after we split and 6 months later our son was born, he told everyone his name would be after the military jerk. I nixed that, had a name chosen but decided to make it his middle, my dad had a mean streak and would have made my life misrable if I named him a name he didn’t like. I finalle saw a first name I liked that fit with my first names of my kids. Had to nix a nic-name from his family, named my son Stephen and my X’s family called him “Little Stevie” and in their family nicknames were forever. My X to his dying day called his sister “Sissy” as if it was her name and I hated that. Imigine a 6’2" guy being czlled “Little Stevie” because that would have happened if we had not stopped it when he was a baby.
Compromise. Just because you’re pushing out the baby doesnt mean everything is YOUR final say. Yall are ridiculous. Use it as a middle name. That’s compromise.
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Honestly i had the same argument with my partner. We made a deal that i could name the first girl but our first sons name would be his fathers. Im not big on family tradition naming as i think its outdated and coming from someone who was named after her grandmother it was hard for me growing up. So to compromise ive told my partner that i will be calling our son by a nickname so to not get confused. He choses to call him is legal name and thats what we’ve agreed on. I think this kind of thing should be 50/50 between eachother and sometimes you have to choose your battles. I get where your coming from 100%. I think parents names are fine as middle names. 
My guy and I came to an agreement. If it was a Girl, I got to pick the name. Her name would have been Amelia Carol-Joyce. (Middle name after both my grandma’s, whom my sister was also named after) and since he already has two girls he said if it was a boy he would love to have a Jr. And I’m 100% okay with that. So in 4 weeks we have a little John Jr. we are going to call him Little man, Junior, or little Johnny.
Men are just so dumb!! I wish they could get pregnant and see how it feels!!
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I think you need to understand that this family tradition means a lot to your husband. He is proud of his name and his lineage. Just because your son would be the 4th doesn’t mean he would not be his own person.
My fiance is the 3rd. He wants to keep up the tradition if we have a boy. I hate basic, super common names, and his is Michael. But i think its sweet he wants to keep the tradition going, and because i love him, i want that for him because it will make him so happy.
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My son is a Jr and i absolutely regret it for soooo many different reasons!! Im actually contemplating changing his middle name
Sounds like you two need to sit down and have a face to face conversation not just texts to about why you don’t want to name your son that. Be open and honest but don’t be a dick about it.
My husband goes by his middle name instead of his first. So just pick out the middle name that you love and call him that.
You both agreed upon this for years. He will be the 4th you just have to be sure and put that number he is at the end of his name at birth so that in fact he is not confused with his dad, gr.dad, or great gr.dad… Give him the name and come up with a cute nickname that you like and call him that - it’s an easy compromise and to a lot of young men would be an honor to carry on the name of their decedents that far back. And to your husband it is an honor as well to have a son named after him and the ones before.
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Would he be ok with you picking a name without him having any input if it was a girl?
My so s were ALL so happy when they got a bit older to find out they did NOT carry their dads or gramps name as hubbies parents wanted!! They were happy that their names were THEIRS but each xarried a middle name!
Our friend is named his family name and they just call him a completely different name that is not even part of his name.
Give your son his fathers name but then just call him by his middle name?
That’s what my grandad used to go by for the same reason
Well… WHATS HIS NAME??
I feel like if you said you would, then consider keeping your word. He sounds really excited about it and it seems to really mean a lot to him! Compromise comes from both sides.
Pray for a girl! You already committed and family names are very special.
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Lol. I named my son after his father’s name and hated it, so I put his middle name what I wanted and I’ve always called him by his middle name, school called his middle name too. Lol
I totally understand what your feeling!
Sweetie my daddy and my momma chose my name. My momma wanted Tonya Melanie Tonya to go along with Tommy Melanie after a friend of her’s. Daddy asked what was her middle name momma said Gay. Guess what I got stuck with. Yep Tonya Gay. My daddy has been gone 2 yrs. I got a son in law that only calls me by my first and middle name. I used to get teased alot. Now that my daddy is gone I’m honored to have that name.
Why don’t figure how to incorporate the name. My ex didn’t like that I wanted babe my son Raymond… So I just used Ray as a middle name. My youngest daughter has my grandma’s name… Mayhgen “May” is my is my grandma’s middle name. Another daughter as the same name but as a middle and I spelled it Mae… Be creative with it. I have some cool stories on how I came up with all 5 of my children’s names…
Let him have the boys name it means something to the dad and it carries his name. So then your son can do the same. My husband had his frist boy with his ex. And did not have a chance to say what he wanted for his name and when we got together and had my frist baby and it was a boy. I said u can n as me your son after u. He was so excited
Also your the one carrying the baby and has to go thru the pregnancy all the pain hormones. Should be your decision especially if baby gets his last name
Maybe give him the first name as a middle name if that works.
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I think if the baby already gets his last name.then u should choose. I picked my 3rd daughters name and she got his laat name