honestly. Its your life your choice. But fyi i feel if your in a decent marriage porn or anything else doesnt belong in it. I feel if its there that theres somthing wrong in the marriage. Its just disgusting to have a man that chooses to not give his wife the attention she deserves and do like you said above. My prayers
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Opinions vary and not everyone is religious 
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The only thing bad about p*** that I see is that it portrays women with no imperfections it doesn’t show baby bellies and stretch marks and all of that stuff and real women have those things.
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Been there…fought 15 yrs to matter…walk away you deserve better and it will never be good there
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Or you could join him? Ask if he likes it like that or that way like the vid lol… your both adults, talk like adults and see where its going after that, and if still nothing, maybe its time to let go…
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Understandable. I have been down that road. It turns out he is a pediphile. He has a problem, not you. I learned not to beat myself up about not being good enough for him.
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Talk to him, find out what the deal is. If he’s only interested in pleasuring himself without you, then say goodbye, & find a real man.
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If you talked to him and he doesnt care about how you feel then js throw the whole porn addict away.
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Have you tried watching it with him?
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My ex husband used to do the same shit gave me that same excuse… My husband now has taught me that wasn’t normal it’s selfish an mean an shouldn’t be tolerated. I’m so sorry 
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The problem has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.
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Doesn’t allow for the way sex is supposed to be. Portraying women in a bad light.
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Ask if he wants to recreate while watching with you
YOU need to sit down with him and discuss this!
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Might wanna get another spouse.
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So sorry buy you something yyou can enjoy will he at that see how he acts then
Not everybody wants to watch porn so telling her to watch it with him won’t help. I find it disgusting and degrading.
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That’s why you have no sex life. He watches porn and a normal sex life does not live up to his expectations. It is a proven fact that porn will ruin a sex life. He needs help.
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Good to hear im not alone…
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Please don’t be offended by what I’m going to ask, is he doing drugs? Like meth , crack or cocaine ? Men who do those drugs spend a lot of time in front of the computer doing that !
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Why dont yall have sex though?
I don’t mind if my husband watches porn. I watch it too. I’d rather him watch it than be out there with someone else. We even watch it together. I see nothing wrong with it.
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In my opinion because I have been through this, porn can destroy a marriage and become a very unhealthy addiction. I would have a sit down with him and explain to him how it makes you feel and whether or not you are comfortable with the behavior continuing. Obviously if you are not having sex then that is an issue that needs to be solved.because a healthy marriage needs intimacy with each other.
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It’s not natural not to be having sex while he’s watching porn constantly. Get rid of him and find a man who loves you. You deserve better than that.
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Well first of all you need to pray for yourself, pray for your marriage and pray for your husband! Prayer is key! Go to God first, He can do what we can not! He can change any man’s heart! Lust is def a sin, it goes against everything the Lord stands for! Don’t let anyone tell you it’s normal or ok or join in. No ma’am it’s wrong all around! God created marriage for one man and one woman and sex is to be enjoyed only between the two! You become one spiritually and it’s something beautiful to share the love you feel for one another, making love to one another and feeling the closeness that no one else knows but only you two, it’s personal! Lust is not of God and nothing good can come from it! Negatives come with anything that does not line up to the Word of God and that’s why you are feeling bad about it! Get in touch with the Lord first ask Him to forgive you repent turn from your sins and let Him work every thing in your life out! I hope everything works out will pray for y’all!
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I watch porn without my SO. My SO watches pron without me. We watch porn together. Its about the ambiance for us. We don’t lie to each other and neither of us has an issue with it. We don’t cheat, we have a great sex life, and we love each other just as much.
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Have you asked WHY he watches porn but isnt having sex with you? Maybe he’s feeling some type of way also, or maybe he’s feeling ignored, or is tired of being dismissed. Or whatever. I hate assuming he’s a douche right away without knowing his side. Women aren’t the only ones that have confidence issues or issues initiating intimacy or fall on the wrong side of communication issues.
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What is the reason behind you not having sex there are so many things can can factor into this some people feel the need to have a little extra maybe he has other issues can be mental or physical i found out now that i am going thru a divorce it was me that caused us to not have sex try to talk with him
Go to a sex therapist. Be ready to put in work and even get your feelings hurt. Sometimes porn is an addiction, sometimes it’s not. But I believe it is better to get professional help than just throw away a marriage over no sex.
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No it’s not normal. It’s an addiction. Seek counseling. It’s a sin and just as addictive as heroin. Just left marriage counseling yesterday and learned a lot. Porn is actually causing men and women to have psychological damage! Get on your hands and knees and pray.
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Trash all the electronics. Not all men do it. The loyal ones the true men dont partake. Get rid of all internet access. Take a tighter grip on your man. Above all pray for him. Turn him over to Jesus. But you must first seek Christ. Porn is SIN. An only of the devil.
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It’s not normal at all. I ended my first marriage over his porn addiction. Im glad i did. Theres nothing wrong with watching porn or doing it together or any of the other comments. Until it affects your sex life and your relationship. Theres a huge difference.
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Watch porn with him. Also it can be a sensual experience for both of you to watch him masterbate. Maybe if he see you getting turned on by the things that are exciting to him he will want to include you in his fantasies.
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Tbh this is one of the biggest problems in my marriage. He would rather get off on a porn video than have sex with me and I feel extremely insecure about it. I think it’s really disrespectful and degrading to me. Watching it with him doesn’t always fix things fyi…
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And if a man gets used to masturbating then whenever he actually gets to have intercourse he won’t be able to do it
All I know is I lost my sex drive 2 years ago after I have my first daughter. My husband does watch porn and masturbates. We have sex maybe once every 2 weeks. I need to get hormones to fix me but can’t til I have our second child in November. Do you try to start it?
Try having sex with him…
NO ma’am its not NORMAL at all! Not all men LOCK themselves in the bathroom jerking off with an OBVIOUSLY willing Wife on the other side of the door! Too many young ladies today are accepting this disrespectful behavior being crammed down thier throats and labeled NORMAL! Or being labeled FRIGID bc they want thier Husbands eyes on HER while she gives HERSELF TO HIM! Since when did it become NORMAL for anyone to view anyone else in a sexual manner and expect thier partner to be turned on by it? Men are just as responsible for the level of intimacy in thier marriage! The Fact is its SELFISH, the only NEEDS being met are HIS! Never in all My Years has ANYONE ever said Porn SAVED my marriage! But your statement proves it DESTROYS them!
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Watch it with him 
your sex life will thank me later 
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Daniel Lauremore this is why I left you 
I’m gonna throw this out there for what it’s worth. There is nothing wrong with you. I’ve been in that situation. Try to talk to him about it. Ask why. I wound up leaving my ex husband because it progressed to cheating. But maybe an open relationship if it doesnt bother you or him? See if he has any kinks? Because honestly it’s not normal for him to be doing that. At all. And never never never do anything you yourself are not comfortable with.
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If he’s suffering from ED, he could be embarrassed to address it. It could be that he can only get up just long enough to bust one out, but not to please you and doesn’t know how to open a discussion about it or ask his Dr. for help.
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Sounds like “normal…” sex no longer interests him. He’s also very selfish not considering your needs.
What about watching porn together, then…
He needs “alone” counseling initially?
& you eventually included in the counseling sessions.
So sorry you’re having this challenge.
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Maybe watching other people gets him off?
Talk to him about your feelings. Do you know his kinks? Discuss what y’all both like. Discuss your wants and needs with each other. You could watch porn together if that’s something you’re into. Spice things up in the bedroom, maybe? Honestly he could be bored. Switch things up a bit. Don’t forget that it’s okay to learn together & not be the best at something. Laugh. Don’t be too serious. Be open about everything.
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Buy you a sexie gown and put it on and pradae around in front of him he might change his mind.
I was in that situation a couple years ago and I divorced him. Best decision for me AND my twin boys who now don’t have to grow up primarily in a home with an aggressive, porn addicted father.
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The sad part about it as a wife u could want this with him"porn" hi’s leaving you Out?! why not make it permanent! ? I dont no how to explain any easier than if u blame yourself for his short comings! And he keeps the tug a war without! U hes already left u!
uncool. hes clearly got a problem and its not about you. us women say what’s wrong with us that he prefers himself and a TV. the answer is nothing he needs to figure it out
so sorry
Sorry your going thru this.i had this problem with my ex but not with my current husband. You need to tell him how you feel.its not right.
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People grow out of their spouses. If he isn’t attracted anymore there’s not much you can do.
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Absolutely nothing wrong with you. Talk to him about it. Maybe y’all can try watching porn together.
Oooh i know that feeling all to well. It took a couple YEARS to get my hubbs to understand how it made me feel. At one time, i did him the way he had been doing me and watched porn openly. Made no sexual advances toward him for a month. I stopped going out of my way, and none of it worked. He eventuallt grew up and realized that what he had at home wasnt worth losing over fake screw sessions. Maturity comes w time. 16 years later, he makes me feel like im the only woman in the room everyday. Good luck w ur relationship.
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Spice it up and role play
Maybe try the swing lifestyle…
You must let him go to a mens cliniek something is serousley wrong
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You don’t turn him on
Who made watching porn normal? Men? Porn takes out the intimacy in real sex. Well yeah lets look at the chick bouncing her boobs and jack off not realizing it puts you into fantasy world where no one close to you can compete. Thats not normal. There are many men who are porn addicts but refuse to get help because they think its Normal. Its whatever floats your boat on what type of man you want. If you dont care he watches porn then good for you lol. But many women feel less because of it. You can tell they enjoy watching those women over you. Women watch porn too.Porn is not bad it just has consequences just like everything else.
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You have to ask yourself why you guys don’t have a sex life. Does he not engage it with you, do you not engage with him? This stuff happens, especially when being together for a long time. If you want a better sex life then you have to put in the effort, you can’t expect him to be the one to try every time. Just like he cant expect you to try every time. If you want sex from him then go to him and just do it. Don’t ask, just do. Most guys love when their spouse just randomly does it. If hes not into it or turns you away then you need to talk to him about your concerns. Everyone has their own preferences/kinks. Most don’t open up about them because they are scared of what their partner might think. Openly talk about what you both are into, or what you might like to do or try. Its very important to talk about it with no judgement and learn what will satisfy the other.
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Leave his ass…probably gay
He’s a man they wants everyone first and always if your not getting any I’d leave him and his porn
Masturbation is healthy, and necessary to maintain their prostate. Men are visual so porn is an outlet. Doesnt necessarily mean he has an addiction and I would be cautious to label him as such. You both need to talk and be honest with each other why you arent having sex. More than likely there is a simple reason why he is choosing to go solo than be intimate in the marriage. Most women dont want to hear that it may be them. Their reluctance to initiate, their constant no responses, etc. If that is the reason then you both need to set aside time for intimacy, regardless of whatever is happening during the day. If its a much deeper issue then counseling may be your next step. But you need to talk to HIM, not the internet.
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Girl, I just went through this. He also had an addiction, it doesnt stop. No matter what I did, it was never enough. I did everything every man would dream of and he wouldn’t bat an eye at me. Just get out… save urself heartache, just get OUT… It is not going to stop, even when he swears up n down he did. Hes still doing it. . You’ll find better, I promise and you’ll find someone wholl make ur bed rock. 
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It never stops.
It becomes a secret. An elephant in the room. But it doesn’t stop.
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When my husband is distant sexually, it usually means i haven’t been “trying hard enough” so to speak… Basically he gets tired of being the one to always initiate… He wants me to be spontaneous and go for it sometimes. He wants ME to display that im sexually attracted to him (as we expect men to act towards us). He wants to feel exactly what we want to feel, and if you’re not putting in your work, he wont either.
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It’s not natural It’s not Healthy either
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Your hubby has a sex addiction. It will eventually Lead to something very dark. Demand him to get help. Good luck. Sex addiction can be managed .
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try talking to him maybe he watchin stuff u dont do if thats the case fix it or try it or the problem will remain 🤷 if u dont talk about it or work that out what else do u expect him to do at least he isnt steppinbout your marriage. maybe he feels he cant tell u praying for you both
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try to find out what type he is watching, it may be something he feels you might not be into. If you are just let him know. I also recommend getting yourself a toy and join him, if he doesnt interact with you then theres definetly a problem.
Plenty of awesome men out there that will give you better!!
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Sounds exactly like my relationship… my husband sleeps in his chair in the livingroom instead of coming to bed… I am basically ignored unless I am cooking…
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All men watch Porn. There’s nothing wrong it’s a man thing but it is wrong if that’s all he does and does not have sex with you. That’s wrong!!! Watching it on occasion is whatever men always wanna look but not pleasing you and just pleasing himself to porn is a no no. I would address it to him and I would pissed. Your not wrong . Sex is very important in a relationship but it’s worse in this way that your not getting it and he’s getting off on other woman. Honestly I would leave.
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Leave hes wack as fuck lmao
Sounds more like addiction.
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Alright… first of all. Yall ladies need to starting fucking your men! You all wonder why men cheat and leave.
Watch porn with your man. Wake him up to a blow job. PLEASE YOUR MAN! then make him a nice ass dinner.
Not saying you have to do this every night. But men deserve to be spoiled and fucked.
Honey, that’s not normal 
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It’s not natural!!! Lol. It’s cheating and wrong and not normal. Ask any psychologist. Its normal to be curious. But being sexually interested in someone other than your partner is not love or being loyal. I’m so sick of seeing women mostly say oh it’s normal blah blah blah. I’m sorry most women have no self respect to be like hey you chose to with me not these fake women, if you want to act single and visually fuck other women then be single!!!
We are just raised with people saying it’s ok and to pass it off.
And I know a lot of people say well he could be out actually having sex with others but news flash he is by watching porn and wanting others. He’s getting off to other people, not you. That IS cheating!
He has an addiction.
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I left my ex because of it. Best decision ever.
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Girl if he dont want you over porn you need to gtfo!
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It’s not natural and not every man does it. He needs help. You’re not the problem.
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Yes… What she says.
If a man’s more interested in porn then sleeping with you . Sorry he’s not interested in you anymore.
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I don’t think it’s right at all!!! Maybe it is a communication issue but if it’s not then I would be gutted! To me I feel I shouldn’t have to tell you I want sex every time. I don’t want it to feel like a chore. If I felt it got to that stage I would consider leaving! Life is TOOOO SHORT to be in a relationship that is making you unhappy or not desired and the fact you’ve put it on here shows you feel both . I would try talking but if that doesn’t work leave!!! There is someone out there who will love you and your body and not make you ask for it xxx
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It’s an addiction, I’m sure you can find someone to suit you and he can find someone to suit him but that ain’t gonna change if he’s addicted to it
All men do not do it. Porn ruins families.
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It’s NOT natural, it’s NOT healthy, and NOT every man does it. Don’t normalize abuse and addiction. It’s abusive to your partner to make them feel like a second choice, or that they alone are not good enough. And scientifically speaking it’s as addictive as crack. Literally. Look it up. You are worth being pursued, and worth being cherished. If you want to try to fix it, you’re going to need to get help together. If you’re done done and ready to walk, then girl one foot in front of the other. But staying right where you are ISNT an option.
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Girl… not every man does this. If he is addicted to it thats the only turn in he has.
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Addiction. Tell him to get help or leave him.
Tie his hands when he watches . Lol
Just tase him a lil 
joking:grin:
Leave!! Wouldn’t deal with that at all.
Once a man told me " sometimes you just need something different"
RUN, don’t walk if this sounds like your man. If he doesn’t see you as a sexy goddess…its time to go. If you haven’t already, its time for a come to Jesus meeting. State very clearly how you feel about it and what you want to change.
Do not normalize this. Its gross to treat you that porn is better than YOU.
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Obviously you are not " significant" to him. Move on. Love yourself.and have a better life. Do not let him destroy the joy in your life.
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You talk to him and not the internet lol but idkay e plan a romantic trip or date and buy some lube and shit and buy him something meaningful to give him
Addiction, movie Don Jon will help him understand the problems with this addiction. Helped my man.
Instead of leaving like everyone is suggesting, when you see him watching porn/ jerking off… ask if you can join or help. Or have a simple conversation asking what you could do better or what turns him on now.
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Talk to your man girl! Sometimes you gotta tell them how you feel and that it’s hurting you. If he truly cares and loves you he will change his ways.
Self service. Need sex therapy. Why don’t you have sex. Try touching and cuddling. No phone or tv
Jessica Pempek Ringgenberg His testosterone might be low…I know it sounds confusing but sometimes anxiety or tiredness cause a need to masturbate so he might not be watching it because hes not into you but the fact he is having a anxiety attack. My ex went through this…got him on testosterone and it solved the problem within a couple months.
#Itsnotyouitshim
I’d say stop watching porn & start fixing our sex life or I’m out
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