Invest in some toys. Lay beside him, and pleasure yourself. If he wants to watch you, or join you, turn him down. When he’s not home, pleasure yourself in his side of the bed.
Do you wait for him to come to you or do you try to initiate sex?
I’d leave, life’s too short to waste time on someone who doesn’t fulfill your needs.
I had this problem with my late husband. I think it had a lot to do with depression, feelings of inadequacy on their part, and sometimes they have a specific desire they are afraid to approach you about. It’s hard to break through that. I had limited success with my late husband, but I had thought we had started to make a little process before he died. I think the first step is to try to be open and calm with him, tell him how it’s making you feel, and ask him if he will tell you why he would rather do this than actual intimacy. It can also be a form of an addiction as well, but you need to see if it’s something he is willing to work on with you or not, and that will let you start to decide what you want and need to do about the situation
Glad to see I’m
not the only one going through this same crap !!
Since when did my husband is a blessing become this place🤦♀️
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So this is probably an unpopular opinion. BUT, I would never be okay with my husband watching porn and jerking off without me.
like we could do it together or you can enjoy me and me only. Always be open to new ideas and be able to be a little adventurous. It’s just something I would never be happy/okay with and it would be a deal breaker for me. Just being honest.
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Take his age into Consideration! Hide his Naughty Stuff!
I honestly feel like porn destroys a marriage it lowers a womans self esteem especially after kids you dont look at yourself the same so in my opinion porn makes it worse I would tell him how it makes you feel and ask him to stop watching it for you porn can be addictive but in my eyes if someone truly cares they will seek help.
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I struggle with pornography. It took a long time for me to get to 2 months between relapses. That is where I currently am. It sucks to say the least. My wife has been very supportive of my recovery. Your husband needs to get help and realize that porn is an industry of exploitation of women. Every view is another devaluation of the female body.
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I think porn is one of the most disrespectful things you can do to your spouse. It makes you feel inadequate and plays hell on your self worth and esteem. If couples enjoy watching it together that’s them but I think your husband is an ass. I’d leave.
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Jesus fuck this shit pisses me off. How about a man responds to the question. They won’t because they don’t want to admit they do it. If they don’t want to admit they do it, do you think they want their spouse who supposedly loves them airing their dirty laundry all over social media and starting religious wars in comments? COMMUNICATE your feelings with the person you love, not a bunch of strangers. None of us know him to know Jack shit about what he’s thinking. One thing is for sure, I would NEVER bring a bunch of strangers into my business. Especially business that belongs behind closed doors. Sex therapists are trained in this. Call one. Rant over. Bring on the verbal attacks from those that disagree with my OPINION of the matter.
Ask him, what gives.
There’s nothing wrong .with you it’s probably something wrong with.your husband…
Man and sex that’s all they most of the time think about…and only there needs and not the needs of a woman… because that doesn’t interest most man what we .want it what they want.