I agree she should open her own bank account and keep the card for herself.
If my mother dictated to me that I pay 10% to god Id have gone ballistic. Yes maybe she just pay a small amount to you for what she thinks is rent but but that should be small and maybe another joint acc be opened so it goes in there. At least she will be able to see how much money of hers is actually in there as any given time. The rest of the money is hers and that is her business how much shes got and no one elses, including you.
It seems like you are running a too tight a ship for my likings and you really need to drop back on it.
My family has grown up now but if I need them to get anything for me, I either ask could they get whatever and transfer my money to their account or pay them in cash when I get said items.
None of us know how much is in each others acc at any given time which is as it should be. Theres no way Id be dictating to them to pay ANY CHURCH MONEY!
If you want to do it with YOUR MONEY, so be it but dont take it out of even that joint acc I mentioned!
If your children want to see their relatives, so be it.
Its not for you to dictate that either.
Get your banking side in order so thats not talked about and tell your daughter nicely that you dont want relatives asking about personal things like bank accounts. That has to be nipped in the bud now.
Hopefully the rest will smoothly followâŚ
4 years or 4.5? Canât even get your story straight
Lifes to short for bullshit. Do whats right for YOU!
Cut them off. Your family was your kids and your husband, that is it. But 10% to god? What the fuck does that mean
You lost me at â10% to godâ.
in as much as i wanna say no . the fact is ultimatly yes ya obligated. look back on ya wedding . did ya pay for it all or did the families chip in . traditionally the bride and grooms parents pay a huge part of teh bill . now unless ya got the bank to pay off teh wedding ya had and that includes hotel rooms and other stuff thru the days weeks months yea . thats gonan be a lot . the fact is this . what if teh shoe was on the othere foot woudl ya like to be looking down from heaven or what ever seeing ya living huisband tell ya mom and dad . hey she is dead i dont owe ya jack . i will mourn my wife my own way i dont wanna spend time with ya losers ya just not that important to me ya got knocked up ya provided a woman i got to bone for a while and she died i owe ya nothing . ( yes i know that was kinda harsh but as far as the parents are concerned tahst what ya saying . )
This fan should have used spell check
Lawd a helicopter parent for real. Thank god my mom wasnât a religious nut
I couldnât understand half of what you said but I got the jist of it. If your daughter is old enough to decide if she wants to see that part of the family, let her decide. If she isnât, then kindly inform them that the next time youâre disrespected in front of your children will be the last time and any bullshit they want to talk down on you for can be done in private.