I am currently 19 weeks pregnant. Since I’ve started showing my husband doesn’t show me any love or affection, we started sleeping in different rooms. He said we need to spice up our marriage in the bedroom and every time I try he rejects me then later on watches porn. I’m so proud of my bump (I didn’t think I’d ever be able to have another kid after an accident and doctors told me I couldn’t.) But he makes me feel fat and disgusting. What can I do? Please help
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husband doesn't seem to like me now that I'm showing
Wow, im so sorry you have to go through this or feel this from your husband, he should be your biggest supporter atm and love u so much more , maybe talk to him tell.him how you feel and ask him how he feels no judgement, bit noone especially your husband should make u feel like this def at this time 
Good luck
Definitely speak to him. Although making you feel that way is far from okay, it’s actually quite normal. A lot of men get really uncomfortable with the idea of sex while you’re pregnant. Just talk to him about it. Tell him how you’re feeling.
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You can leave his sorry ass and find you a better man.
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How old is he? And is this his first child?
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Have you tried talking to him about why? Some dudes get scared they’ll hurt the baby or something during sex lol. Hope everything works out!
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I know some men who like porn. Mine does every now and then. Is this his first child? I would rather him do that than go to a bar. You seem way to insecure and jealous.
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If you haven’t already, mention to him why he seems to be uncomfortable around you. It could be something like he is worried about hurting the baby by having intimacy. Open communication is really important especially when pregnancy hormones are literally all over the place and emotions are running high.
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Eh. I dont know. That’s really unusual. Is it possible hes just really freaked about being intimate because your pregnant? Some men are very under educated and superstitious about pregnancy. He might beleive he could hurt you or cause a miscarriage.
I know it’s hard to beleive- but some men are very scared and paranoid about this stuff.
For the average decent man I would 100% beleive that they would avoid you from fear or superstition before avoiding you cause of a belly 
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Could be a number of things:
- Porn addition
- Look up something called the Madonna/whore complex. https://www.google.com/amp/s/thelatch.com.au/what-is-the-madonna-whore-complex/amp/
My ex stopped touching me when I got pregnant and that’s when I realized, this and porn were his issues.
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Everyone saying to talk to him …. Lmao LEAVE. Don’t lower your self worth for a BOY who is clearly showing you 
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You should probably have a serious talk with him about why he is creating physical distance and explain how much love and affection would mean to you right now.
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This is so eww. Men are disappointing 
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Talk to him. Perhaps he is worried about hurting the baby. Especially as it sounds like a miracle baby.
Find out why he is being like it. Suggest counselling for him/both.
Some men are just turned off by pregnancy.
Some men are just a-holes and don’t deserve you.
Hubby did this too, found out right after I had our daughter he was paying for sex from women offline cause sex was so uncomfortable for us due to our sizes together… it literally killed me that I stayed inside he knows I’ll never forgive him and we basically just raise 4 kids together…mine was worse though still coming to bed acting like he loved me even after I had her. RUNNN.
Maybe he feels weird doing anything since the babies in there? Could be something else but it does happen sometimes.
Definitely not right. Tell him how you feel.
What an asshole. If it makes you feel better I don’t think your overreacting at all.
But how does he make you feel that way because he wants to spice it up? That’s not wrong.
Set his ass straight.