Try not to ask. It could also be meds. I bet he has performance anxiety. When you finally do I bet he’s nervous.
I’ve been through similar and found that when I leave it alone. He would eventually come on to me.
Try not to pay any attention if he gets soft or something… just go with it. Let him know it’s okay. Switch it up.
It’s not you. Okay?
Girl you deserve better now xx 
You deserve much better. Never settle for less. This is coming from a very non-affectionate person. My baby’s dad just passed away and this is something we fought and argued about. It was me though. Not him. He was very patient and I was finally coming out of the zero sex drive (due to past trauma) that I’ve had for years and came into him for the first time. Then he died and I found out I was pregnant. Beside the point. If you guys talk about it numerous times and nothing changes, then it’s time to go. You should always feel wanted and you should never have to question if your partner wants you or not. After a while, it becomes about being comfortable and not wanting to take that big step but sometimes that big step is the only step you can take to move forward 
He’s gay,I wouldn’t live with a person who makes me beg for simple things.
What was the sex life like before you married ?
Where there no clues ?
He needs to go to a doctor .
You need counselling .
He may be has things to hide , he may be attracted to males really and has hidden behind a marriage ( many men do this , and women for that matter ) .
He may be autistic .
So many things .
If nothing can be resolved through counselling and medical intervention, and or , refuses to tackle the situation, then I suggest you leave, find some one who is normal in their affections.
Girl leave.
I was in a relationship where my ex wouldn’t show affection and though we had sex often, that shit ended up blowing up in my face after 10 years. He’s not attracted to you. Leave and find someone who will grab that ass everytime you walk by
I’d say it is one of 3 things…Low testosterone, cheating, or gay…
Could be that he is gay or has low T
Leave. Protect him for what? He doesn’t care. Leave and be happy with someone else. I had this too. Leaving was the best thing I ever did xxx
You need to talk to someone. Don’t hold it in. That’s what friends and family are for.
Idk why people are assuming he’s gay. Does he have OCD? Like issues with things be dirty or out of place
Is he depressed?
My first thought is cheating bc that doesny sound right
First i thought cheating, then i thought gay, then you said he doesn’t want to touch his own penis i know the excuse is because he doesnt want to get sticky. i cant help but think the issue may be about himself. Could he be transgender and he’s scared to come to terms with his own feelings? I know it may be out there for some but from what iv heard from some people it sounds a little that way obviously hard to say much because i dont know anything else about him but it could be why he doesn’t want it. He doesnt want to touch or pleasure himself and he doesn’t want you to neither.
The only thing I can tell you is find someone who will love and want you…
Lol… ladies are so easily jumping to drastic conclusions… in My partners world, his religion, men can go years without sex… sometimes it can be the person, how they are thinking, feeling, sometimes people like not having sex but more connections other than sex… if he wants to change the problem well try different things like from the other hole… or dress up, role play, candles, whips, handcuffs… try to tease him… maybe cover your body in latex and have a whip on the kitchen table, make dinner when he walks in your wearing that… see what he does… maybe you guys need a night away like a cabin in the woods or something…
He could be cheating idk…
If you don’t feel like he’s cheating don’t go there… you don’t want to b caught checking his stuff over when he’s not cheating…
If he’s on meds get rid of those, have a laugh together…
Get him to close his eyes and you please him in the dark…
Don’t just tell family and friends… it’s his personal self… sometimes people don’t have to tell others about private stuff… telling peope will make him more embarrassed or weirded out deep down… it’s not your place to tell…
Admire him and maybe he will start to feel love again or feel good even if he doesn’t show it…
Sometimes you might forget to make compliments etc towards him because whatever he’s going through has made him neglect you by accident so you probably have been a little depressed deep down around eachother… just always have positive energy… do his favourite tricks in bed…
I am going through this towards my partner but in my situation I am your husband & do you know why… because I got sexually assaulted twice last year and been through alot worse very recently and now I don’t like to be touched at all… and I can’t even explain to my partner what the feeling is or why… he feels exactly like you… I’m not “gay” or “cheating”
Is she on the heavy side. That may be turning him off completely.
If he does not seek help immediately…prepare to move on.
Do you really want to live like that for the rest of your life or his???
So sorry, but it sounds like lack of love… it maybe be hard to acknowledge and admit to yourself. But, if I were you, I’d get out… life is too short to live in a onesided relationship. You are worth sincere fidelity, passion and love.
He is not showing you any consideration. Nor is he doing anything himself to try change the situation so for those reasons I suggest that you leave you deserve better than that.
Mane he’s gay or he likes another girl.ok on his phone or compuerfor evidence
If he’s on anti depressants or anti psychotic meds it can kill your libido or desire to have sex.
Was he like this before you got married?? Has it got worse since baby was born? Does he drink a lot of alcohol or drug taking? Has he had a bereavement? Does he suffer from depression or stress or anxiety? What is the age difference between you? Has he an exhausting job? So many questions need answered to yourself, he might think this is a normal relationship. Reading between the lines, the problem lies with him and there might be a simple solution…TRUTH between yourself and him… Is he in love with you? Has he got a medical condition? Has he cheated and feeling guilty? Has he cheated and wanting out of your relationship? Is he gay or bisexual? Does he watch a lot of porn and doesn’t need the intimacy of you both together? Ask him for a sit down conversation with NO interruptions. Get the baby to a child minder etc and sort out your relationship one way or another while the baby is young and won’t remember any arguments or crying that goes on. Good luck.
Get yourself a satisfier pro and you probably won’t even want sex anymore.
Get yourself a (pretend) lover
There a several explanations for this besides the one we ALWAYS go to, the “He doesn’t find me attractive/isn’t interested in me anymore”. First he needs to see and doctor. It could be as simple has having low testosterone or as severe as a tumor. The only way to know for sure is if he goes to the doctor. Put your foot down and tell him either you two go talk to his doctor or he’s gonna be on his own, like there’s no reason to just let it be the way it is. After one year of marriage it shouldn’t be like this. Even the cuddling and whatnot is strange, he could easily be depressed as well.
That is NO life for either of you to live. I’d tell him that if he wants to stay with me, then he gets to the bottom of this issue and fixes it otherwise I’m gonna move on and find someone new.
It’s prob his testosterone. I had a friend who was a newly wed and had the same problem. She ended packing her stuff bc she wasn’t getting answers. But he went to the embarrassing appointment and boom problem was solved. He was on a lot of medication too which caused the low testosterone
He might have a medical issue and should see a doctor!! He is probably embarrassed that it will not work! I do not think it is that he doesn’t love you! He is afraid to disappoint you!Make him go to the doctor! Something is not right!
Chuck him in the bin
Get a new one 
Ffs. Just because he doesn’t want sex doesn’t mean he’s cheating. As hard as it is to believe-gasp- some people don’t need or want sex all the time. It’s that simple. Talk to him and try to find the source of the problem. I wouldn’t assume the worst yet 
is there a lot of stress going on from work or the home life? Maybe there’s health issues going on that’s related to the “problem”. Just communicate your feelings and wants/needs. See if he needs anything. (From you or professional help) then If the problem can’t be solved then move on.
He’s either gay, cheating, or has erectile dysfunction and is embarrassed.
Either way, you guys need counseling or you should leave. Sex isn’t a huge deal, but it is when you’re not getting it when you should be. The fact that he’s not even trying should tell you your next steps.
File for divorse (irreconcilable differences)
I hate to say it there is probably another woman
Also write down when y’all have sex
Or it could very much be a medical issue tell him see a doctor or your leaving
I went two years without sex it’s not about sex but when they show no affection at all is what would hurt me my ex before he passed away we didn’t have sex for two years and then I found out after he downloaded kik messenger and was talking to woman towards the end
depression. having a child is hard for the mom but not a lot of people talk about the emotional changes men go through too. Men can feel out of touch and stress and often sex drive goes down as well. My partner was like that. it’s not always cheating. however, if he’s not willing to seek help then maybe try counseling for the both of you.
time to move out and give him space he has to decide if he wants you
My 1st hubby was that way- we had it a few times then he wasn’t interested in any more- I told him my desires & it was like he wasn’t even listening- but I still loved him so I done without- it was like we were just room mates…but I knew he loved me~I lost him almost 4 yrs ago
Leave, run away. Don’t wait.
Please see a therapist instead of using Facebook.
Divorce!!! I get having E.D. but no cuddles or love or pda. It sucks to beg for affection. That or buy a vibrater and work in yourself while he’s in his funk. So when and hopefully if you do leave atleast your happy with yourself, and go to sleep at the end of the day knowing your tried your best and somedays it doesn’t feel like enough bit everyday it is!
For starters, if he tells you no that doesn’t mean “bug me until I give in”.
It could be a drop in testosterone, depression, a reaction to a medication, or something like that. However, in my experience with my ex he would flip a switch and be all the ways you described minus the lack of a hard on (he’s always ready to go and would jump on a hole in the wall of you warmed it up a little). This happened anytime he was having an affair. I know it seems cliche, but it was true for him. He was like a robot version of himself distantly going through the motions of day to day life. I’m much happier now that we are divorced. Happier than I’ve ever been. I know it sucks while you’re going through it, but if he’s not trying work on the situation you need to move on. Trust me when I say if it’s going to end, you want it to end while you’re baby is too young to remember it later on.
You having a bad night? First this than the toaster present? Maybe you need time to yourself.
Cheating,get rid of him.
Love is not meant to be hard work to the point your begging for affection.
Fuck that 
Leave him he not worth your time or tears any man or women you have to beg to make love dont love you at all leave while you can still have sex it doese dry up
tell him Bye, bye bye!!
could be a medical issue tell him he goes and gets it checked out thoroughly or he’s binned and you find a man who can’t keep his hands off ya
It sounds like he has medical issues. It’s very difficult especially if he’s not open to talking or seeking help. I would make a deadline. If he doesn’t do something about it tell him you can no longer stay in relationship. You’re hoping this will be the encouragement he needs to be proactive about it. You can’t leave your husband because of this but you can threaten to leave if he doesn’t try fix it. Tbh if he keeps ignoring it then I would leave after trying all avenues to help him. If there’s another woman then absolutely go. Definitely leave. I wouldn’t be putting up with that at all.
This is not an answer you’re going to find here. My first thought is he’s cheating, likes men, or doesn’t love you anymore and is staying for the baby.
Either someone else or watches too much porn.
Ask him to try something new like anal sex
And let’s see how he handles that…
Get him some viagra! He has a problem to sort out, if he can’t or won’t then either carry on as you are or insist on counselling before leaving.
Maybe he likes dudes
if it’s been going on since your first year together you were well aware of how he was before you married him… maybe he’s gay… never the less if the marriage isn’t working tell him and do something about it and then neither of you will be miserable… life is to short to live unhappy
Maybe it’s a medical issue. But if that were the case why doesn’t he live and respect you enough to see a doctor and get to the bottom of it. The fact that he is satisfied the way things are, and happy to erode your self esteem speaks volumes about how selfish he is.
Get out if there. He’s just using you.
He is cheating save the headache get out well you can trust me he will not change l have been in your shoes don’t contact him block him and don’t look back
He’s not attractive to you anymore. He’s only staying for the kid. He may love you, but not in love with you. You need to move on and cut your loses
This will destroy you slowly x pick up your baby and your self worth and go find someone who appreciates you x
His testosterone, cheating or addicted to porn
No one should have to beg.
Seems to b medical thing
Either gay or he doesn’t love her even if it is a medical thing your lover would come out and say so and seek help together… He is not even making an effort… What does that say… Ladies this puts the cherry on the cake
Stop begging for it.hell come around
Speaking from experience, the marriage is probably over… this was me with the father of my children, lost all feelings and attraction … always had an excuse not to be touched in any way. Neither of us were cheating, just waiting for it to take it’s course. I left 4 months ago.
Get some toys to satisfy your needs in the meantime. He can’t complain, because he’s not getting the job done.
Is he on blood pressure meds? It’s notorious for some males. Does he drink a lot of caffeine? It could seriously be that simple! Diet and med changes. I’ve seen it make a world of difference!
Sounds to me like he may be gay??
He’s getting it elsewhere. Kick him out or leave. Love yourself 
And he obviously managed it at some point as you have kids together 
You wanna protect him from what ur hurting yourself 
I haven’t read the comments but it sounds like he’s not attracted to you anymore sorry to say 
No one should have to beg someone for sex! X
He probably has low T
The people saying he’s getting it else where… not everyone cheats just because they don’t want sex… there’s so many reasons why…
He could be depressed…
he could of fallen out of love with this lady…
I fell out of love with my boyfriend (now ex) I wasn’t physically attracted to him anymore sp whenever he would say about having sex I just couldn’t do it… it wasn’t because I was cheating or going else where… I loved him… just wasn’t in love with him anymore, when you have a child together it’s not as easy to just throw your relationship away…
In the end we did split up… a year on we are bestfriends, x
Tell his ass bye in find u a great guy
Maybe he’s depressed. Depression can do alot of things and makes one feel low and alone.
I think that maybe he is withdrawing affection because he may be nervous that it may lead to you wanting sex? He obviously has an issue he needs to work through but it can also put a lot of pressure on him if someone is begging for him to do something he’s struggling to do. I would suggest him go to the doctor or y’all try sex therapy. It doesn’t always have to be cheating. Good luck
It is time to move on. This happened to me after 17 years of marriage. I felt so lonely and unattractive. We are best friends my ex and I yet moving on made life better and found a great guy. It is hard yet you need to be happy
He needs to discuss it properly with you and if he’s not willing to then he’s hiding something
Is he addicted to porn? Or his testosterone levels may be so low. He should have them checked. They can give him injections to help if they are.
Maybe there’s something he needs he’s not getting and that’s why he’s uninterested. Try actually sitting down with him and having a sex talk, explore new things, could be bored with it. I see you have him get himself hard? Seems uninterested to me. I wouldn’t want to make myself wet before my husband and I had sex. Find each other’s kinks and work with them. There’s more to this than you think. Just sit down and have a real conversation, he could be afraid to tell you about certain things he likes make sure he knows that you won’t judge him when he opens that door for you.
I’d almost be certain his cheating. Not many men don’t love a shag 
Ma’am, may I suggest you perhaps getting the infamous 
. Listen, that lik toy will fix you good and proper AND it has the version with the 
attached. He can stay on his side and you do what you do. Who knows, he may stand at attention seeing you and your new “friend”
Maybe more going on and he’s feeling ashamed that things aren’t working as they used to…
I’d make an appointment with the GP and you can both talk and organise a full set of bloods etc…
If he’s not willing then perhaps he’s not committed anymore… 
Babies do that, he’s also verbalized that he knows its him. Maybe he’s embarrassed to go to a therapist or doctor? I wouldn’t jump straight to “not wanting u” “cheating” or “divorce” guys have a hard time putting ego and pride aside. I’d sit down have one final talk offer to go with him and explain that if he can’t put actions behind his words and at least TRY to figure things out then tell him the two of u need to have a much deeper, different talk BC it isn’t fair or ok for him to neglect u and not even TRY.
You need to ask yourself not answer us. Do you have any major issues? Like a hygiene problem? Make sure you are bathing daily using soap and water in a shower. Then make sure you are brushing your teeth twice a day everyday. Hygiene is very important and a huge turn off for men and women.
Next this may not be you at all. He could be Gay?
Or maybe he was sexual abused? I think it would help and benefit you to try to see a counselor if you can to help you cope. See if you make a doctor appointment for him if he will go. It could be his T levels way down or messed up. He should see a doctor for his health. If you try everything else. Tell him look you need to see a doctor for your health or I have to leave. It could also be major depression. He needs a doctor. If he refuses a doctor I would look into a divorce and a way to leave. To be able to take care of yourself and your needs.
Marriage counseling if he will go. Yall need some communication.
Does he have a porn addiction? Sometimes that can cause it.
Dump him, he is cheating on you.
How where things in the beginning?Something has changed if things were normal,search it out and start with a good physical for him then therapy if he is willing and if all you can do fails then you have to decide what’s best for you and your future.There is the thought of do either of you want more children.
Could be a medical problem and he may be embarrassed by it.
Sounds like he’s deprssed, makes you lose your drive
If sex is the only problem in the marriage get a vibrator or other sex toys please urself sexual it may take some tension off both sides . Book the therapist sessions urself and send him the appointment times and dates get the ball rolling.
If it’s more than just sex that’s the problem seperation may be the only thing to do , you may just not meant to be unfortunately
He needs to see a dr for medical issues then you both need counseling . And then if nothing changes leave??? 
Gay, depressed, or cheating. Either way, he needs a Dr
I would get a lover tbh.
Is it possible he is asexual? Sex repulsed, sounds accurate here.
You’re gonna get every answer under the Sun on here, and the only way to know 100% what’s actually going on is to talk to him… communication is key in any relationship!
Now, if he is unwilling to talk about the issue then you have to speak up and let him know how you are feeling and that the issue is causing a huge problem in your marriage because you have no idea what is going on with him.
It sounds like he did at some point admit that he is having an issue which does happen to both men and women… so maybe he is shutting down when it is brought up because he is embarrassed or feels less of a man.
Right now though, you have no idea what is going on with him and you won’t know for sure until you make him aware of the strain this is causing on your marriage.
Stuff happens let it go