Tell him to stay as long as he wants, but tell him you may or may not be there when he gets home. He is disrespectful!
No youre not overreacting!!! 9 hours!!! Do the same thing over and over to see what he says and when he asks then say, “a bit”. What a crock pot
Do the same to him! Go shopping, come home at midnight and with loads of bags!
From a man’s point of view…he is hiding something…
He should answer your questions, it’s called respect not contol
You have every right to know
Everybody here on about rights and trust. You react as per the situation. If there is conflict, talk about it and arrive at a compromise/understanding, that’s it. No need to know how the rest of the universe would react in the same situation.
You sound like Mommie…
Many years ago (late 60s), my inlaws lived in a tiny coastal town in Alaska. A town so small if you sneezed at one end of town, someone at the other end said “gesundheit!”. He was a commercial fisherman whose trips took him away from home for weeks at a time, while she had a part-time job and their (at that time) 4 babies at home. For a few months one year, he would come into their home port after a trip, unload, then go to the bars with friends. He wouldn’t think to call her to let her know he was safely in town. She would hear it from other people (very small town!). He wouldn’t come home for a couple of days, and when he did, it was for a night or two, change clothes, and go back out fishing. She was naturally upset with this! One trip he left and she went to the local lawyer and had divorce papers drawn up. When he got around to coming home, she was at work and those papers were placed on the kitchen table for him to see. She came home with out the kids (babysitter), he asked her what was going on and she said “You must not want to be married anymore.” He said “I love you and the kids! Don’t divorce me!” She then told him to let her know when he comes into port, so she knows he is safe. she said for him to call her when it is possible if he had to go into another port, again so she could know he was safe. She also told him that if he goes drinking with friends, it was fine with her, just let her know, and if he drinks too much that she would pick him up and take him home. She told him the kids were always excited when Daddy was in town, and kept asking when he was coming home. He got the message. They were married until cancer took him away. They moved 2 times since that living in that tiny town, and those unsigned papers went with. She still has them in a drawer in her kitchen. One of his sons asked him if he wanted to get rid of those papers. My father in law said “No. They remind me of what I came close to losing.” You are NOT being unreasonable. If this happens as a regular occurrence (like you said) ask him if he still wants to be married. He should at least afford you the courtesy of calling you to let you know if he will be home for dinner, or late, or both. That is just common courtesy. That isn’t a lack of trust. That is just partners informing each other of when to expect each other home.