My husband freaks out and gets very angry if I go near his phone. He actually hides it! Clearly, he is hiding something; something he is doing must be awful! He says it’s just none of my business, and I’m annoying. What do I do?
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Get an std test right away. Then confront him, and let him know that you felt the need to check yourself out because of his sneaking around.
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Get the app and go onto the “use” part and find out what’s up. Or accidentally drop it in water or run it over
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1st thing to do is come to terms with the fact that hes cheating…
Speaking from someone who has been there and done that
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Ok so when someone gets pissed off or upset when you go near their phones it is big red flag if the person wasn’t hiding anything then they wouldn’t being acting like an ass
Wow if that isnt the biggest red flag ever i dont know what is!!! Girl leave him
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Wait till he leaves it laying around and look in it. Sounds like he’s hiding something
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The man has to shower and sleep at some point. Take his phone then and confirm your suspicions 
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If my husband did that. My sneaky side would come out and check his phone sooner than later.
Why is this even a question? Leave him!
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Walk away!
I often grab my husbands without relaxing it’s his
Same phone case
Not once has he asked what I am doing just laughs
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wait until he’s asleep & have a look 
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Punch him in the nuts and steal his phone.
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Get your affairs in order and ready to bounce. Confront him about his shady behavior and the first time he raises his voice just walk away.
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Don’t go looking if you don’t want to find what you probably already suspect. Trust your gut.
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I would be willing to bet he is A either cheating or B having some inappropriate text or messages either way he is cheating it doesn’t start with sex it starts with sneaky conversation lol from experience he is definitely up to NO DAMN GOOD GIRL PACK HIS BAGS DO NOT GIVE HIM WARNING DO NOT GIVE HIM TIME TO DELETE ANYTHING I WOULD TELL HIM EITHER I LOOK AT YOUR PHONE NOW OR HEREZ YOUR SHIT PACKED FOR YA SORRY NOT SORRY
Could just be porn. Not necessarily cheating. Maybe convos with a friend he doesnt want you to see. Out of respect for the friend. My husband will ask me what me and my bestie are discussing. Sometimes I tell him. Sometimes it’s none of his business and I’ll say nothing g that concerns you. Because my friend is entitled to privacy. He understands and that’s it.
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Try to unknowing find out his password (if you don’t know it already), then take it in his sleep and look. Or give him an ultimatum tell him to tell you or show you what’s going on or leave. I’ve been there more than once and always found what I suspected. Trust yourself.
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Tell him to hand over his phone and be honest… or pack his bags and leave…
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Grab it and run to the bathroom. He freaks he’s cheating.
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Contact your cell provider and get the texts and phone call records. Id the the phone with me for a few days and see who calls
I would never go near my husband’s phone . It’s his . I have never felt the need though .
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Walk away now, it’ll only get worse. X
Girl, you already know
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That’s a dead give away there. For sure hiding things.
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you already know the answer. The real question is are you going to stay or go??? porn is cheating too
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You should never go through someone’s phone anyway
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He could be buying drugs instead of cheating. It’s one or the other.
He goes to sleep, you find your answers. That’s not okay and he’s clearly hiding something and shutting you out.
Sleeping is a good way to get the phone out of someone’s hand, but if you already suspect it I wouldn’t even go through it because if you’re not willing to leave you’re just going to cause a mental wound on yourself that’ll never go away and heal. I wish I never picked up my fiancé’s phone for real. I stay and I can’t forget what I’ve ever found in his phone, ever. We still fight 3 years later over it
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That’s very strange behaviour
IF HE CANT TELL YOU. ITS SOMETHING BAD…Arrange your self to throw him out! You did nothing… .hes the one who needs to leave…
Make sure your life is in order, start working if you are not
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I’m usually not one to demand checking someone’s phone since I’m big on trust but clearly you know it’s happening so tell him to give you the phone so you can confirm what’s going on
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First off, if you’re so annoying, sleep on the couch. When he asks what you’re doin, tell him “you said I’m annoying and I think you’re a sneaky a§ hole. Maybe we should just get a divorce. Good night.” 🤷
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My SO & I have the same Lock Screen code 
no man should get upset at their SO for grabbing their phone let alone getting near it. I smh!!
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Put sleeping tablets in his mashed potato when he’s out cold look in his phone 
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Start being sneaky with your phone ,hide it, if he goes near it pick it up and go in the next room with it. Don’t let him see where you put it ( just you remember) before long he’ll wonder what your up too
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Yeah he’s hiding something for sure and most likely is cheating. I’d take it and if he responds in anger I’d respond even angrier and tell him to either show you what he’s hiding or leave right then and be serious. If he doesn’t show you, start packing his things and tell his mother to come and get him.
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He’s doing something behind your back
I think it is a massive invasion of privacy to go through a phone. If someone even asked me it would be the end for me. Relationships without trust shouldn’t exist.
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Start putting money in a secret account sis
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it’s his phone. just leave it alone. someone once told me to never go through someone’s phone because you will always end up getting your feelings hurt. it goes both ways.
i know it’s hard to ignore but maybe just let it be. if you’re worried about something it’ll eventually come out.
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What’s done in the dark always comes to the light
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Sounds like a loser and he should be alone forever 
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Counseling.
I had a spouse that wanted to monitor my phone and there was nothing on it and I didn’t give him reason to believe they’re was. It was a total lack of trust in his part. Over the years he’d read conversations between my friends and I and get bent out of shape over things I had said. I started deleting conversations though there was nothing to hide. Year after year… after year.
I became resentful and he got worse.
He didn’t think what he was doing was wrong because of I had nothing to hide, then what’s the big deal? The deal was that he didn’t trust me and that I never once asked to go through his phone.
We divorced… and his need to control me still hasn’t stopped 10 yrs later.
Counseling will help you decide. If he isn’t willing to go. Done.
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If he’s hiding his phone and keeping you from seeing what he’s doing (taking it to the bathroom to message/call, walking away when hes on it and you’re near) he’s most likely cheating. No reason he should be that protective of his phone unless he’s had issues with you invading his privacy for no reason in the past. If he takes it everywhere and can’t leave it out in plain sight that’s a red flag. I still don’t think it’s right to go through someone else’s phone but I’d definitely be trying to get a conversation started about why he acts this way. It’s not normal.
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Mind your business🤷 why do u need to look in his phone
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Hire a private detective to find out for you!
I would leave him. He is hiding something
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I’m surprised he hasn’t gotten smarter and deleted anything that could be found considering your already suspicious.
People will only treat you the way you allow them too.
You are allowing him to do this and need to be stronger for your own self respect.
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You get a new husband
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Hes cheating.just get rid of him.
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Mannnn. If my fiancé ever did that we’d be done. He has my password and I have his. He can pick up my phone whenever he wants and I can pick his up.
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Dement to see the phone. He’s hiding something n you can tell how bad it is.
My ex did this and he was seeing somone behind by back
If you are that insecure what are you doing with him? If you can’t trust him, just leave.
He’s definitely hiding something, probably cheating. I’d run.
If you share the bill you can contact the company a d look at phone records that way if the oppo does not present itself. It is certainly questionable behavior I would not jump to conclusions. Ut I would prepare myself for the worst. Start a private account and put a little nest egg away to allow you to get started on your own if that is what needs to happen. Don’t show your cards until you are in a place to set yourself up and leave.
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Clearly , he’s hiding something . I would take a look at his phone when he is asleep
Personal cell phones, & social media have become the top two avenues for a person to cheat. Or he could have a pornography addiction that he does not want you to see.
He is acting that way because he is hiding something & that’s a NO GO in a marriage…
If you can share a home, bathroom, bedroom, bank account, vehicle, but not a PHONE with your spouse you need to be getting to the truth of WHY NOT.
A spouse with nothing to hide shares their phone, passwords, who their friends are, where they go, what they spend money on, ect. When that’s not happening, that’s an issue.
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I don’t let my husband look thru my phone…?
My private conversations with friends or family aren’t for him to invade.
I don’t go thru his phone either.
Some people don’t like
To be manipulated into giving up their privacy.
It’s not healthy. It’s weird to think you’re entitled to someone’s phone just because you’re together.
#Toxic
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If u wanna go about this the smart way…hire a lawyer and p.I. get proof…n take him to the cleaners 4 being a sorry son of a bitch n coming to u like a man when u gave him man chances to do so. Dont just leave. If u have been married for years…u have invested in yr home n family just like him… but no…it should not be split down the middle…he didn’t come forth easily with his cheating ways. Yr gonna have to pay n work for it. …to get that info…but knowing the truth is better than wasting yr one life God gave u, away on someone who doesn’t reciprocate the love. Good luck whatever u decide:peace_symbol:
Check his phone when he is a sleep
If he’s hiding it there is something that would really upset you. Cheating or porn. Or both.
Trust is something that is a huge building block of a healthy relationship. Getting angry is a big red flag.
If my partner’s actions make me question Their loyalty I am not gonna stay, I can’t build my future on mistrust.
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Get out. He’s cheating.
Seriously?! Yeah, there’s definitely something he’s hiding. I don’t think it’s even worth finding what it is. He’s already broken your trust and that’s enough to end it.
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If you have to ask ,you already know
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Do you have a good intimate relationship? If not maybe he is viewing stuff online. Just ask him straight up and tell him your want honesty. You both have to communicate.
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He’s obviously cheating
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I wouldn’t want to look through my husbands phone tbh
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Remember you… Know your worth, know that YOU DESERVE BETTER… period. Remember…
Not enough info! Has him guilty as charged then wondering why he’s upset. No trust there don’t blame him for being upset, he has a right to privacy.
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I’d go and get tested for anything, then leave him. Because ofcourse he’s cheating. And trust me, for your OWN mental well being, do yourself a favor and get out of there. Like ASAP.
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Obviously cheating!!?
Or something he shouldn’t be doing!?!!
You NEVER hide your phone from your spouse
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First thing you would think he’s cheating!! Whatever it is he’s hiding something obviously or he wouldn’t get so angry. I’d have to know just to ease my own conscience… so wait for the moment he’s sleeping and go through his phone and find out! Whether it’s wrong or not it’s better to be sure.
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Sounds like he is cheating on you. Ask him and if he is leave him
Play along while you prepare… start a separate bank account. Start moving money over to your account. Smile and nod. Get your affairs in order … you know the answer. Don’t think with your heart right now… use your head. Protect your assets… then drop the ball on him when he least expects it. Bye Felicia.
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You kick his ass to the curb, and sell house or leave.
I dunno it just depends - has he told you there’s no cheating hes just weird about his phone? Is this the only thing? I am a boring loser but let me say my google searches would embarrass me lmao and I feel uncomfortable when someone is on it, its my phone if I asked someone to stop touching it and they kept doing it I would be annoyed also. I guess it would just be the circumstance for me.
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He might have had exes that invaded his privacy or accused him constantly of cheating…however getting upset that you just get NEAR it or actually hiding it seems a bit extreme. When you don’t have answers the best thing you can do is decide if you can live with the situation. You can’t change what he’s doing …so can you live with it? Can you trust him through that suspicious behavior? If not, you’re allowed to make your own choices to end the relationship. You don’t have to give him a “valid reason” any more than he has to not freak out when your proximity is too close to his phone.
Unfortunately, you probably already know what your next move should be. Sorry. I’ve been there and it’s a shitty feeling 
HUGE red flag ! That man is definitely hiding something.
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Just straight up, get the fuck out of the relationship
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Far out how old is he. Paranoid, he deserves his own privacy.
Who’s name is the phone bill in? See what numbers he’s textin
More info is need really!! Is it something he has even doing for a while or did he just start doing it?? He is trying to hide or keep u from seeing something but it may not be that he is cheating he could be planning something for u!! I don’t know him or u but it may not be what u are thinking!! Try talking to him!! Tell him how u feel about and what u think is going on!!
My ex was like this. I thought he was cheating. Turns out it was just really questionable porn. Just saying. It’s not always straight forward… Or straight.
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You know the answer to your question. 
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I can get not wanting you going thru his phone. maybe wanting you to trust him, but if he’s getting angry an hiding it. he may be cheating but Idk he may just not want you on his phone.
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Sounds like he’s definitely up to something. Has he always been like this with his phone even before you got married?
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Take care of your self.Something is wrong!
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I’d definitely go though it. My fiancé and I have each other’s passwords to everything. We trust each other but have the option to look if we feel it’s necessary
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My husband and I both have pins on our phones. But we both know each other’s pin. I can freely ask him for his phone. He can freely ask me for mine. We hide nothing. He is clearly doing something wrong. I would never let that happen. He’s showing you the biggest RED FLAG POSSIBLE
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He might be throwing you a surprise party and he doesn’t want you to ruin it.
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Everyone is quick to say leave again not knowing much info so definitely seems like cheating but why not be an adult and talk to him he could just want privacy and if you don’t like how he is maybe that is best to leave definitely don’t sneak his phone that can potentially cause problems that weren’t actually there in the first place he could have had girlfriends who didn’t respect his space in the past that left some damage for him in the end it comes down to communication between two spouses to come up with a solution
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Hes either chatting with other women, cheating, trying to cheat or watching porn 
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Ask him what he’s hiding
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