I’m with your hubs- 8 is a bit young. I would slowly start allowing them around 15. But hopefully by then they’ll be out of style lol
Personally, no. I taught my daughter’s to cover up & respect their bodies. They don’t need to show it off to anyone. It’s nice to see the one who has a daughter following the same advice. My 8 year old grand daughter does have a couple crop tops worn at home
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I’m with your husband on this. We have a rule at our house: ‘raise your arms, touch your toes. If anything shows, go change your clothes.’
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Ummm yeah she’s 8. Big no. An 8yo shouldn’t be wearing a crop top, even big. Unless she’s on stage in a performance costume, then NO.
He is over reacting I’m going to get hate for this but my daughter is 4 she loves makeup loves crop tops and she wears biker shorts with crop tops my daughter also wears 2 piece bathing suits I would do what ur heart tells u to do everyone can agree to disagree but she’s your child if her friends are wearing them let her enjoy her childhood
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It is a big deal. 8 year olds don’t need to wear crop tops. No girl should in my opinion. Your husband is right to want to keep his daughters body covered .
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I’m with dad, sorry. No crop top home here!
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I’m guessing this comment section never puts their girls in a swimsuit. It’s a crop top, not booby tassels 
. That being said, not all outfits are appropriate for all situations. For me, it would depend on where she was going. I would not let my girls wear it to school, but to the park or friends house I’d be fine with it. My girls are older now and never really wanted to wear the crop tops until recently.
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Why is everyone so pressed 
you clearly stated that you even bought a bigger size so it didn’t show much. And I know what outfits you’re talking about, I bought my daughter some of the shirts. My daughters daddy is SUPER strict about his little girl, but he doesn’t mind her belly BARELY showing. I think you’re fine mama. You’re letting her express herself and pick out stuff she wants to wear.
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I can’t stand crop tops so I’m with hubby on this one. If my daughters wants one, a tank top goes under.
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It’s just a shirt. It’s just clothes. You said you can barely see her stomach when she lifts her arms then he is over reacting.
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I’m with Dad. Crop tops are not for young children.
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I don’t let my 8 year old wear them and she begs me
Maybe let her wear a tank top underneath it. Mom of 4 girls. They’ve all tried it. We compromise
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My daughter is the same age and she is alllll about crop tops… so I let her wear them at home to play outside or whatever, but not out in public. She’s happy with that.
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I got my 3 year old a Beetlejuice one I got it big so it looks kinda like a shirt.
My daughter is 11 and is only allowed to wear crop tops with a cami underneath.
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You need to be on the same page as far as clothing. Personally I dress my kids so their skin doesn’t show. Even when she wears a dress she wears shorts or capris under it. There are people who see children as objects rather than humans.
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Crop tops arnt for kids 
maybe put a tank top under it so it’s atleast appropriate
People saying put a tank top underneath lmao it defeats the whole purpose of the shirt… if you’re going to make your kid wear the shirt with another one why even buy it for them to begin with? Just tell them no. I’d be that kid that would take off the tank top so I can wear the crop top while parents aren’t around. And put the tank top back on when I know I’d be around parents again. I bet a lot of parents didn’t think of that one 
I work with kids so I see stuff like this happen.
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My daughters 8 and it’s about all they have in the stores now. It’s hard to avoid.
It’s a shirt. The main issues here are that people sexualize children and view clothing as “enticing”. The truth is, predators don’t care what their prey is wearing. If we, as a society, don’t teach men and boys to view women and girls as sexual objects, it shouldn’t matter what they wear. Lots of misogyny and internalized misogyny in these comments here.
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She’s 8
It’s a summer top.
This isn’t Afghanistan. Nor should we treat young women like it is.
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Nope. I am 100% with dad. My daughter is 8 and she knows she is to be covered. The world is full of pedophiles and it’s a scary place anymore. 8 is just entirely way too young to be showing skin.
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Why is everyone ignoring the fact that she clearly factored in the “cropped” aspect and bought the shirt a bit oversized so that her stomach doesn’t show unless she lifts her arms. Idk about y’all but I don’t think anything’s wrong with it unless she’s actively getting her kid only crop tops to wear.
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She’s 8 . No crop tops
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My 11 year old isn’t allowed to have clothes that show her belly at all!
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“lift your arms, then touch your toes, if anything shows, go change your clothes”.
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I have girls two now they are older than 8. One is 12 and one is 15 and yes they were the crop tops with high waisted jeans or shorts cause that’s how they wear them. But my question is what is the difference of her running around all day in a bathing suits and playing.
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I’m all about modesty to a point. My daughter wears clothes similar to mine. We don’t wear crop tops, extremely short shorts, low cut shirts, see through anything etc. We still wear shorts and tank tops and whatnot but nothing showing cleavage, stomach, butt cheeks
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If it was me…
I would step back and try to figure out why it bothered him so much.
Not because you’re wrong (you’re not you factored in the cropped aspect)
But because usually reactions like that come from something a little deeper than simply not liking something.
Once you know the reasoning then either help him overcome it with logic and practicality or find a compromise that suits everyone like high waisted jeans or a tank underneath.
There’s no reason for this to be a huge battle between the three of you.
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It’s his daughter too, she’s 8 not 16 he has every right to and equal say in what she’s allowed to wear.
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Does the stomach ONLY show when she lifts her arms? If so, then definitely not an issue.
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Sadly all stores are selling shirts like this, my daughter who is 12 refuses to wear clothes that show her stomach or really short shorts, so she wears capris and jeans and we half to buy her boy Tee Shirts. At our local Walmart parents are always complaining about how little girls clothes are made now.
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As long as she isn’t showing skin I would say it’s fine
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Wear a cami under it
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I only have one question.
Does she wear a two piece bathing suit?
Case closed.
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It’s sad to me how sexualized little girls are from the get go… You can dress modest and be a huge trouble maker…… 
never mind the body dysmorphia and self confidence these sort of behaviors can have on young girls.
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Just have her wear a cute little cami under it
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Get high waisted pants for her otherwise I’m with your husband on this one. 
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My rule for all my kids at our house is…. If you lift your arms and anything shows, it’s too small. If girls wear a dress, they wear shorts under them also. I’m almost 30 and have always worn shorts under my dresses so I just do it with my girls. That way they can still play everything at school without having to sit out.
But a tank top would fix this issue of wearing a crop top. 
your kid! But in my house my teenagers aren’t even allowed to wear crop tops! Not big ones, not small ones, not ones that almost cover. There are way too many predators in this world and I can’t be with my babies 24/7. I don’t put them in anything I see inappropriate. I feel like if you want little girls to just be little girls you have a ton of people jumping down your throat with excuses as to why little girls should be in crop tops! Not in my house.
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She is 8 it is a big deal he is 100% correct and maybe he should do clothes shopping from now on
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It’s a little bit of her stomach. Not like her ass or chest are hanging out. If she’s comfortable and it looks tasteful then she’s fine. We need to stop sexualizing girls and remember at this age we need to becareful of what we say about their bodies. Creating body positive environment is important to not create eating disorders or body image issues.
Has he gone shopping for girls?! All there is are crop tops anymore.
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Idk now days your child can’t look cute it’s dangerous. But compromised.she can only wear it in your presence
My 10 year old wears crop tops. Also by them big so they’re not short. She’s short so they look like shirts on them. She can wear them around the house no problem. At school or anywhere else she puts on a tank top underneath.
Little girls need to dress like little girls. I’m with your husband in this.
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I took my 7yr old to Walmart last week, I was blown away that almost every shirt was a crop top. She just wears a thin tank top under it
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Maybe have hee wear a tank top under it
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These days little girls look and dress like grown women and we wonder why kids are being sexually actively at a younger age than when we were kids. She’s still a baby in his eyes so of course he’s not okay with it.
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Most dads are like this it’s their daughter. Sign that they’re growing up
Just because you don’t think it’s a big deal doesn’t make your husband’s feelings any less valid.
What’s more important? Hubby/ Daddy’s feelings and concerns?
Or a t-shirt from Walmart?
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I’m with your husband. Maybe think about his feelings
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Its always the girl’s fault right? Instead of raising good humans we need to be covered head to toe to make boys comfortable that the public won’t be inappropriate…
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Unfortunately with the way the world is I agree with him, BUT maybe put a cami under it that way she can still wear it without showing her belly.
I know Walmart’s clothes selection have gotten worse with neay half of them being crop tops, even in the toddler section.
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Let little girls or girls in general be girls … society has a way of making it seem we have to dress this way or that way… I can’t say I blame your husband at all for his feelings … you need to really sit down and talk … what’s more important the shirt or his feelings …
I’m with the husband on this.
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My 13 year old is allowed to wear crops at home. I don’t have to worry about her wearing them to school because they are in uniforms. Crops are the in thing right now, just about every short at wal mart is a crop
As a father of 3 daughters I agree with your husband around house is one thing but in public is different. There are so many creeps out there with phones and stuff
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Kids shouldn’t wear crop tops
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Your showing her its ok to go against dad and bend the rules just because you got it bigger doesn’t make a difference it’s a crop top you knew her dad didn’t approve so I get why he’s mad it’s disrespectful parents should always show a united front with kids and personally I would be too
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I agree w the husband. No reason to sexualize a child and that’s exactly what a crop top does
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I’m with the husband
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It’s a piece of clothing it’s a STOMACH. I’m gonna need y’all to stop sexualizing children & clothing.
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not age appropriate so I have to agree with husband on this one
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I can totally see why he’s mad, but I can also see your point of view, too. This is probably something you just have to agree to disagree on. If I were you, I’d try to compromise. “Honey, I get why you’re upset, how about we don’t let her wear this to school and she can wear it at home”. I don’t get why crop tops are a thing for little girls but it’s the thing these days!
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I was in high school in the 80s. The boys all wore “crop tops”, or half shirts as they called them. They were super short! Like barely covering their nipples. I don’t remember any boy being sent home from school for wearing these shirts. I do remember girls being sent home. It’s a ridiculous double standard.
I know those shirts are not necessarily popular for boys to wear right now, but it still annoys me that only girls have people pointing their fingers at them for clothing choices.
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I don’t think it’s a big deal She’s 8. Why are people sexualizing an 8 year old?..… “It’s just because of the way the world is!!!” Okay and I got sexually assaulted in frumpy, ugly clothes when I was a kid. Let’s be real here. The shirt isn’t the problem.
Why not compromise? She can wear the crop top but put a tank or cami underneath it. Too many kids being allowed to dress like grown women. The world is a sick place and they shouldn’t be dressed to wear they are exposing themselves. She doesn’t buy her clothes, you and your husband do.
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It’s his daughter also, and she’s 8. End of story.
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OMG! Not a belly! Next she will be showing an ankle! Or knee! Children are only sexual if you make them so.
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He’s being a papa bear and that’s admirable.
Regardless of who thinks they are right, be united in front of your child.
And it’s BS that her crop top is sexualizing her, but that’s kinda the way it is. You let her wear crop tops bc you don’t sexualize her. Others do, tho. The wrong ones.
I did the same thing, got a bigger size so my daughter could wear the trend, but still have some modesty.
My husband doesn’t love them…but if he said “no crop tops”, my daughter wouldn’t be wearing them. Is it really worth the fight, when he is just being protective?
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Oof. I’m iffy on this. Wearing crop tops won’t make a predator want you more… just saying. I wore baggy clothes and still got r*ped. No need to sexualize crop tops. It’s just a stomach. But i also understand the husband, that’s his little girl and he’s just scared bc of this world. Also, what about bathing suits? I mean the world is ugly you can’t wrap everyone in bubble wrap. Just compromise with him, put a cami underneath the crop so it’s covering or like someone said- high waisted. I have a lot of crop tops that don’t look like crops bc I wear high waisted jeans/shorts. I’ve also taken fighting classes so maybe just in case bc with this world you never know… put her into mma or karate or something for self defense. It’s a fun and worth it activity for young girls and women. I wish I was put in it at a younger age and some things would have never happened but my family didn’t have the money like that. I can say my dad regrets it but it is what it is.
Not over reacting at all teach her to respect herself and showing skin is not respecting herself and If she dont have respect for her self no one one else will have respect for her and 8 is awful young to let this begin
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Is it only shows her belly when she raises her arms then it’s not really a crop top most of the time, maybe pair it with a pair of high waist leggings or jeans if she wears them then it will hide the belly when her arms are raised. She’s happy she can wear the top and hopefully he will feel better too.
He’s entitled to an opinion too as it’s also his child but to completely flip is a bit much and she’s old enough to choose an item of clothing she likes and you made it as age appropriate as possible xx
Burn it…I mean, seriously, burn it …
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you never said how old your daughter is, Plus I do understand where he is coming from, He is a male, he thinks like a male, he remembers how things were when he was younger & watching the young girls in skimpy clothes & he doesn’t want to think other guys out there looking at his daughter that way, So think of it that way
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No at 8. It’s not about sexualizing it. It’s about teaching her to respect herself and not following the crowd.
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I agree with the husband. Little girls shouldn’t be wearing crops out in public at home is fine
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8 years olds shouldn’t be in crop tops. Period. The fact that companies actually make them for such young kids, is sick… hubby has a right to be p!ssed.
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Unfortunately that’s almost all the shirts Walmart had. Everything was cropped while looking for back to school clothes! Especially the justice stuff which my daughter loves! I just went up a size and told her they are to be worn with high waisted shorts. I don’t like the fact that 7 yr olds are being marketed for crop tops but I also am teaching her what’s appropriate and what isn’t.
I think it’s very family by family. But I would also respect what he thinks as well. In todays day and age kids are growing up so fast. Lots of trafficking going on and yeah. I also think covering up helps the kids learn to respect them selves more and not be such an object or to be looked at like a piece of meat.
I absolutely can see where he is coming from and respect it with my partner. I have quite a few and it’s a rare occasion that they get worn outside for the reasons above
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I don’t like crop tops. Not just sexualizing but clothes are to protect our bodies from thr elements. It’s my biggest complaint about these companies not making regular length shirts. I shouldn’t have to buy shirts to put under them. Get shirts that cover underneath and maybe dad will feel better about it.
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Stop sexualizing everything women and girls wear, but sadly, it is the world we live in, so until then I vote for camisole underneath or how about she just wears it around the house.
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I wear crop tops with tank tops under them 
I have since middle school.
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Yea my daughter is almost 14 and I don’t allow crop tops. it’s disgusting that Adults design these clothes for kids. To the people saying stop sexualing kids. We aren’t it’s the other perverts in the world we can’t control. Also it’s His daughter TOO and he should absolutely have a say in the way his 8 Yearold Little Girl dresses
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In the 70’s little girls wore halter tops in summer , Sexualizing an 8 year old is the problem , not the crop top.
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I’m the same way your husband is 
my daughter almost 7 goes to her dads and his wife likes the crop tops and stuff and when I get her back sometimes she has one on and I snap and tell them please put a shirt on her she’s just a baby. I hate crop tops… they are little girls and I don’t want people looking at her like that… that’s just me though.
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You’re entirely asking the wrong question. How can you make him agree with you? Lol how embarrassing to ask that. Maybe instead adopt the policy that your kid is 8 and unless both of you agree what she’s wearing is appropriate she doesn’t wear it.
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I tell my husband and anyone else that wants to say something when my girls are between sizes, I would rather have their belly show than their boobs. You have to pick your battles. A little tummy is nothing to freak out about!
My daughter wears a tank top that covers her belly under her crop tops
Parenting is hard. It’s never easy no matter what age. When you have a life partner you have to compromise. How he feels is not wrong. Just how you feel your opinion is not wrong. Maybe if she likes the shirt so much. Maybe ask the husband if he minds her wearing it the house where she safe to express herself. I’m not crazy abt crop tops either. I would probably make my daughter wear a tight fitting tank underneath…
I buy them but make my girls wear a cami under. I’m just not comfortable with the crop top by itself.
Personally I’m okay with longer crop tops. And our daughter pairs them with high rise pants/shorts. BUT that being said if my husband voiced otherwise we wouldn’t be wearing them outside the house.(she started wearing then around 10 though not 8)
My girls wear tank tops under theirs and then all is solved 
these kids are trying to grow up way too fast
I don’t see the problem. My daughter was an all star cheerleader at 8. Her and all the girls at the gym wore crop tops with sports bras under them. My daughter is now 3 weeks shy of 14 and she still wears crop tops! It’s a shirt that shows her belly button. It covers more than a swimsuit does.
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I absolutely agree with your husband. That is not an Appropriate age for crop tops, just my opinion
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I’m over here just hating the fact you can’t walk into the kids section at any store without EVERY top being a crop top- including sweatshirts 
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Is she allowed to go swimming with a bathing suit that shows her belly? Is she allowed to wear shorts? What’s the difference between a stomach and legs?
We see little girls in cheer uniforms that show their belly, we see girls at the beach on vacation in swim suits that show their belly… by saying a crop top is not okay your just developing self esteem issues. She’ll think there is something wrong with her if she can’t wear one but other girls can …
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