Sounds like depression. Try to get him to see a therapist. You just gotta be straight to point with him. Men don’t understand hints or beating around the bush.
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Offer to take showers together! I’ve done the same with mine. When he’s depressed, he won’t take a shower often. I’ve also gone through depression enough to know that I’ll get the same bc it can be crippling. When we’re both like that, showering together always seems to help!
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Personal hygiene is #1. How can he love you properly if he dont love himself?
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It’s a personal preference but I think it’s gross. You aren’t sleeping in my bed on my clean sheets unless you’re clean, period. You shouldn’t have to tell a grown man to bathe.
My EX was on disability played video games, sweat non stop! He was great in the beginning…we married and he slowly let go…the house stunk! A barn smelled better. I kept my clothes in the garage and showered 3x a day or more if I was going somehwre. I didn’t go anywhere with him it was terrible. He said he was only a gamer and didn’t stinknthat bad. I would hide his cords, drag in into sher, hose him if outside…he would spend 10 min to two hours in the shower and smell just as bad…never cleaned that was one of MANY MANY MANY reasons it was over!
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Tell him if he don’t shower every day your leaving you will not be embarrassed like this living with a hobo everyday you rather be single then have be seen with someone who don’t respect the self to look half decent your not asking for a lot if it was me I would get a bucket of soap water and dump it all over him when he is sleeping
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My mans a logger and we’re not married but I’m also not afraid to tell him to go take a shower and that he stinks etc. relationships should be more open to be able to talk about those things. My man and I have been together going on 6 years this year with two kids of our own and my oldest his step son. This sometimes happens when you get to that comfortable stage in relationships. You kind of let go and sometimes more than others. Just talk with him he may get defensive he may not.
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Have a heart to heart with him and see why he doesn’t wanna shower often.he may be depressed! My husband before we got together wouldn’t shower often and now he does.i told him straight out he stinks and smells sweaty lol there is times where if he doesn’t get one I ask him if he’s getting a shower or bath today.
I would sit down and have a talk with him. He could be dealing with depression and not even know it. Are there other things going on in his life? I would also explain that not showering and working in those conditions is a health risk too. Not only to him but to you.
As someone who deals with depression and also has a spouse who suffers depression. Our hygiene always becomes at risk when depressive episodes start to hit. You should try to help him out. It goes along way for us when we pick out clothes for one another, when we draw a bath or run a shower for each other, even shower together! Some days he’ll pick out a fragrance he likes me to wear, some days ill line up his deodorant a cologne a comb and some hair gel. These little things go a long way and they’re things that come off as helpful rather than making slight comments or questioning when the last time he did such and such task that may come off as passive aggressive attacks that could worsen the situation
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Tell him how U feel…I wouldn’t let him in my bed dirty…I just be honest…maybe say let take a bath or shower together…
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It sounds like he is depressed and is not taking care of himself. Something might of happened that you are unaware of to cause him to do this. When you two are home alone and in a relaxed state go to him and talk to him gently. Do not be angry because he will feel your anger, but go to him as someone who wants to comfort him and understand him. Take him to the bathroom and undress him and go with him into the shower. Wash him and just relax him, not anything sexual just as comfort. This may be too intimate to put on here but he needs self care and to be cared by you his wife. Men tend to hold in their emotions and not talk about what is bothering them until it becomes a problem. Give your husband the love, comfort and support he needs. He may have been traumatized in some way but you won’t know unless he tells you. Hopefully, you two have a strong relationship and can talk about things without getting angry or upset. He needs to feel secure with you and that you are there for him. Depression can take on many forms, but it is hard when you are depressed and you feel like no one is there for you. With the job he has and with the pandemic going on remind him how important it is to shower daily and to take care of himself so he is around for a long time. More then anything show him you love him even though you have no sexual interest at the moment with him help him to feel your love and support. You are his wife and he needs you and probably does not know how to express himself to you and what has triggered this change in behavior. Sometimes just being their for a person with depression and helping them is what is needed and not anger or yelling. Something triggered this change in behavior and hopefully he will tell you. I am sorry you both are going through this. I speak from experience with depression with myself, my significant other and dealing with my parents. My father sounds like your husband and in his case my father was diagnosed with stomach cancer which had no cure and his behavior changed including his personal hygiene. I truly wish things improve and my suggestions can help you both.
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Sounds like hes depressed. Communicate with him. Run him a bath before he gets home, get in the shower and tell him to join you? Talk to him and see if he is mentally alright. Therapy?
Be real with your dude, that’s why you married him right? It’s the one person that you can be your realest and be open to talking about anything that’s bothering your spouse. Have a private conversation about it and how it makes you feel. You at least will have a direction to work toward by being open and honest.
You shouldn’t be ashamed of him love him for the person he is
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Maybe it’s intentional! I wonder what the interaction is like with no sex, unhappy with the way he has become. Perhaps not showering is his taking a stand or arguing over his shower has become their form of communication. Maybe marriage counseling would help, if nothing else to help him understand the impact it is having.
How yall in marriages where you can’t tell your partner they smell? 
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Depression might have something to do with it. Try showering together and let him know how you feel
Maybe he’s depressed and doesn’t want or know how to talk about it.
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How about you look after your husbands wellbeing?
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Try having sexy time in the shower?
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My EX husband was the same way! Always complaining of no sex but he smelled like a boys locker gym before they discovered deodorant and had weeks worth of car grease everywhere! He never changed! He never brushed his teeth either! Plaque and yellowing with horrible breath! He even chewed tobacco! He had 14 cavities when he went to the dentist! So gross! Either he wants to be clean or you possibly figure out if your ok being married to someone who doesn’t care about themself! (He was also abusive so leaving wasn’t related to hygiene)
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Ask him if he is ok. Sounds like depression
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My husband and I have been married 34 years and always shower together!!! Invite him in!!!
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Welcome home with towel wash rag soap shampoo this is a good hint
Could be mental health, but seriously talk, communicate.
Tell him straight up… trust in the truth
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Depression or a sign of drug use getting bad
Is he over weight by chance??? 
Sounds like depression
Get a therapist or a lawyer.
Uh where does he sleep?
Bath him yourself
Do it suttle always invite him to take his shower with you
I ask my husband to shower with me if he wants to have his dick anywhere near my mouth anytime soon 
it works. He likes to 69 so I basically tell him if he wants to do that he needs his mouth clean too. I know that seems harsh. But I don’t want anything in my body that smells bad or is dirty. It works though to get him to shower
right there with ya girl
Shower every day. Bit of extra love and help w hard to reach places.
When it’s like this you must take the reigns/control, and treat him like a kid, with orders, not asking, until it’s routine again.
Maybe someone is hitting on him. Told him he “smelled good”. Now he is trying hard to get rid of the person. hey- it could happen.
I’ve been depressed and never did this!!
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Sounds like depression
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OMG! That is really bad. A daily shower is a must. Maybe time for a heart-to-heart.
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spray him with the hose 
Drop by and see me lol throw a bucket of soapy water on him before he gets in the house otherwise
Sounds like depression. Severe depression.
No excuse! Tell him to wash his ass!
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Don’t shower for a week don’t shave don’t do the dishes dont take the trash out dont wash your hair or body lol ect…watch he is gona rethink staying stinky he will hug you and your arm Pitty’s will stink then he will eventually wana have sex leave the stank hahaha maybe then he will shower and clean up…hahaha I’m serious I’ve learned over time when you get caught up constantly cleaning then get tired because you notice your the only one doing it I stopped vacuuming stopped doing the dishes the laundry piled up the kids ran the house and a fire was lit under his ass with words under his breath he started cleaning hahahaha good luck!!!
Hope you ain’t giving him sex sis
Once a week yuck no salty balls for me
Bad hygiene is the biggest turn off to me … lol like how do you go smelling yourself all day knowing u smell bad?.. i shower every damm day getting out the shower (i get a feeling like a new man feeling) specially ppl that dont wear deodorant 
nasty ass hell
I’m baffled by a woman only showering once a week um we get our periods. And idc how well we wipe its hot and moisture lives down there showering daily is a must for no musk same as sweaty balls and ass. I even wear lumes private area deodorant. I may only wash my hair once a week because it’s dry but showering is daily even twice a day.
Oh hell no! Honey you must shower every night so I can love you even more! Seriously have a heart to heart lots of eye contact conversation and tell him. Theres not one grown man who doesnt know if you’re not showering daily you’re going to smell bad
Get up off his back longs he’s bringing the beacon in hell get tire.
Eww… Tell him to wash his ass!!! You’ve been together long enough that honesty shouldn’t even be an issue… 
I’d say wash your ass or I’m leaving you lol
Fuck all that!!! Shower every day after work or sleep in a different room
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Mental illness kicking in
Squirt soap all over him when hes dirty. That shit will itch eventually and he’ll be dying to wash it off:woman_shrugging:t3: on a real note…just be honest and tell him he stinks and looks even worse. Honesty is the best policy always.