You’re not sleeping or sitting on one piece of my furniture if you are dirty!! Definitely not in my bed! Is he even brushing his teeth at this point? No kisses either!!
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These are GROWN MEN…I dont tell mine to shower, brush his teeth, or wipe his ass…im not his mommy. I say it once. You stink, its disgusting, shower daily or be alone and then id leave. Not brushing your teeth is a disgusting thing I cant touch on…nope. that is hell no. I wouldnt stand for it from my own kid, certainly not a grown man. I can understand coming home, being exhausted and waiting until the morning but not days. NO ONE WANTS TO SMELL YOUR ASS BC YOURE LAZY, get over yourself. I bet they all play video games…id smash the systems. No way my kids would grow up thinking thats ok or being embarrassed by that
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Well aren’t you a vain people pleasing person…If your man works every day and is a good provider who loves you and treats you well…Who cares if he’s too tired to shower to make fake appearances…You’re very lucky to have a real man…calm down Princess…You don’t deserve him
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Oh! bless your heart! I couldn’t deal with stank…i wouldnt be interested in sex either! 
Have u asked him why? Maybe he is depressed…
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First off shame on you for venting about your husband’s personal problem… second you as a wife should actually make sure that he is okay mentally if his hygiene is that bad obviously it’s clearly depression or a mental issue that he has or is struggling with… a man that works that hard sometimes doesn’t even have time to eat. Maybe try talking to him, instead of venting about how unhappy you are because he’s not clean enough for you. If you ask me you’re pretty lucky he works that hard.,. Appreciate what you have honey.
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Check to see if he has undiagnosed depression. Stopping personal hygiene is a HUGE red flag. Was he like this before you got married? 10 hour days can be exceptionally difficult on your mental health. My husband was doing 10+ hour days in the private tech field and had to quit because he was closing off to us. He was sinking. Do you think you can talk to him, gently, about this?
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Depression, exhausted, stressed, mental illness. Hes obviously going through something
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Sounds like depression.
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He’s out worked take him on a vacation even if it’s a day but tell him you got him a hair cut, nails feet massage ECT
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Definitely could be a sign of depression. I struggled with showering when I was in a bad rut, you go through your days like a robot, since you have no choice but to go to work.
Talk to him, try and get him to a doctor to talk to them about it.
There’s so many underlying reasons for this type of behavior, so don’t be so damn fast to judge. Support him, those types of shifts aren’t easy.
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Then u have those men that love smelling good. I am 57 … i have never had a woman tell me i stink. Im on my 3rd marriage, none of my wives would ever say that i stink. I worked 50 hours a week as an auto mechanic for 25 years. I walk by women and they turn around … DAMN U SMELL GOOD. It kind of annoys my wife but i feel good.
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Personally I’d Mom him. Run him a bath. Lay out his clothes. Let him know when he eats dessert he WILL be brushing his teeth before bed. If he doesn’t like it he can always take care of himself.
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As long as he’s clean for sexy time and doesn’t smell bad, it shouldn’t matter.
He’s probably working through some things mentally and just wants to enjoy his time when he’s home and off,
Don’t just tell him, have a talk with him and see where he’s coming from
Sounds like depression. I’d suggest counseling
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My husband is like this too… he tries every 3-4 days but its like he just doesnt care… and my mom was a dental hygienist… he brushes his teeth very seldom and it is hard… I want to mention something but I dont want to hurt him…
Invite him to take showers with you. He sounds stressed. Maybe offer to massage him if he showers first
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You lost me at once a week. Hose him down if you must but bad hygiene isn’t acceptable.
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Take them together ask him to join. Have him a bubble bath ready. Talk to him
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Once a week? How do u sleep with him?
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Tell him to bathe because you’re not going down on his stinky disgusting dick. If not you’re going to find a black guy with a giant dick to fuck you on camera and send him the footage to see what he’s missing.
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Is that ur only issue 
do u even love this man for who he is talk to him and ask him what’s up and why he’s struggling to look after himself something is happening for him so be his wife and be there for him help him figure it out. Maybe he just needs a break and someone to tell him its ok to stop personal hygiene is super important
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Ughh… I’d say depression or an undiagnosed other mental illness. He’s not lazy!!! You said he works a lot.
My husband works 60+ hours a week, 7 days a week most every week.
He gets dirty too. Very. But the first thing he does is shower. He’s very clean and keeps his work truck spotless too. I’m grateful for his impeccable work ethics & persona.
Your husband is definitely going thru something. You are his wife, it starts with a conversation between you & him. Good luck.
This may help…
“Poor personal hygiene, such as failing to regularly wash, use deodorant, change clothes, and brush teeth, can be one of the first signs a person has a mental illness. This deterioration can stem from a general apathy or lack of motivation—symptoms of the illness.”
“Depression, anxiety, PTSD, and even sensory processing disorders can impact our personal hygiene.”
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Have you tried talking to hubby about this? Maybe there’s something underlying there
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Does he have depression? (Sincere question). He sounds too freaking tired to give a shit. In a work rut.
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Sounds like he’s depressed or suffering mental illness. Either way I can’t deal with ppl who don’t shower and brush their teeth.
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I’d approach this straight up. If he wants to act homeless he can move out onto the streets. He should respect his marriage as well as himself enough to bath and Maintain himself properly. If he can’t I’m sorry hunny but you can do better.
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Depression, chronic fatigue and chronic pain all have poor hygiene as symptoms… talk to him not at him
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Buy him some dr squatch stuff, put interest in him to make him feel self confident. After doing the same routine everyday, you need to spice things up. He’s lacking something babygirl, just gotta put forth the effort
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I have depression and if my bf tells me I stink I get in the shower. So tell him he’s dirty and stinks and needs to get in the damn shower 
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I know you’ve said you have told him countless times. But I think you may need to rephrase it and let him know you’re becoming less and less interested in him physically and you don’t want to get to the point where you’ll have to leave him. Tell him you love him, & if he truly loves you- he’ll think of your feelings.
More than that-
I wonder if he may be depressed and need to see someone about the root of it. I really don’t know many adults that would feel comfortable being that dirty & feel completely fine in their skin. So I’m just wondering if something more is going on within him. Maybe? 
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There’s usually a bigger picture to things like this. Have a one on one conversation with him.
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It won’t hurt him to shower daily even if he’s depressed. He’s making you depressed and anxious.Maybe therapy?
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Maybe try laying him out some clothes and turning in a hot shower for him in the evenings
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I’m guessing that there’s some depression issues going on with him. I suggest the first thing is to sit down and have a calm and non-judgmental conversation about his mental and emotional state.
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maybe suggest you shower together!
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Shower beers right after work!!
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He might be depressed my ex husband was the same way I couldn’t handle it honestly.
He might be depressed. Try asking him to shower with you u can wash each other up and get freaky
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I feel this. My relationship however has only been 2 years😭
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Sounds like exhaustion and depression
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Omg. Girl once a week? He should shower every day! He’s in depression and needs help or he’s just nasty and doesn’t respect his relationship.
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Maybe have him join you in the shower and just scrub him up yourself
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Is he an alcoholic??
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As someone who suffers from depression try motivating him and shower together , talk to him about it
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Definitely depression, speak to him make him shower, speak to him just you and him ask why what’s changed, tell him get in shower or he’s not getting in your bed
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Depression for sure. Cannot think of any other reason. Nobody WANTS to be dirty, it’s just too difficult to find the energy when you’re depressed.
If there is another reason I’d be interested to know but I can’t see it.
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Make sure he isn’t depressed… that is how i literally feel when i have bad episodes
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Same over here. Not touching that with 10ft pole
Depressed or not…no work clothing on the furniture and dinner will be served when your done with your shower.
Try to get him into counseling for what sounds like depression. But it’s okay to set house rules. Buy him some nice comfy t-shirts and lounging pants for after his shower. Have them laid out for him and tell him no work clothes on the furniture. Hard as it is, be honest. Tell him the odor is too much for you, plus it and the dirt will ruin the furniture.
He can shower, relax for a bit, and enjoy a nice dinner with you. If he chooses not to, and not go to counseling, you need to decide if your going to live with it.
I mean, let’s be honest. 10 hours a day outside and on forklifts…can you imagine a weeks worth of BO, and what it smells like in his chonies?
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Any chance he’s depressed?
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Sounds like mental health issues. Hopefully this is brought up delicately and doesn’t make him feel worse than he probably already does.
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I definitely think it’s depression, I’ve been through it and so has my husband. Covid isn’t helping depression at all either. If your friends have anything to say about it, than they must be lucky enough to not have to go through this…
I’d talk to him about it as nice as possible, ask him what’s been on his mind. Maybe see if he wants to talk to someone about it.
Try to get it out of him, if that doesn’t work maybe try to plan a fun weekend with the two of you, something to get him up and going.
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If he’s working 10 hours a day in a physically demanding job he’s tired, he wants to come in and relax probably hasn’t the energy to have a shower and it’s none of your friends business their husband’s probably have office jobs and never get dirty
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Depression? Maybe hes unhappy? Maybe hes really tired working long hours and something isnt right at home? I’d try talking to him that’s the only way ul solve it and the only way ul find out what’s going on. Dont belittle him about personal hygiene actually try talking to him of theres anything you can help with
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Depression for sure n I can’t believe some of this silly advice on here he is not a child you are not his mother!! Your his wife n partner support him n offer to help talk to him find out what’s happening n how he is feeling…if that’s not working offer to shower with him? Scrub him clean yourself you both may very well enjoy it 
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I straight up tell mine
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Push through and try to get him help. He might be facing depression.
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I’d run him a bath wen he gets home from work …tell him he deserves a treat n to relax after a hard days work🤷♀️
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I would say depression, low srlf esteem. Also, could he be hogh-finctioning and on the autism soectrum?
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I go thru bouts of extreme depression but I still shower every other day when that happens. Depression is no excuse to walk around a week without showering. If it is in fact depression he needs to see a therapist and possibly get put on medication, it’s not something to take lightly.
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I have never been through severe depression…but reading these through these comments was eye opening…and this makes sense. I’d also imagine his coworkers must notice a stench after a week of daily 10 hour shifts. I can’t imagine not wanting to take a shower after rolling around dirt and sut all day…then prolonging it for a week and not caring what your spouse, friends, or coworkers think. Something sounds very wrong.
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I would offer to have him join you in the shower, and do it together. Would be a great little bit of time to reconnect. It’s not a him problem or a you problem. It’s a we problem. If he’s struggling, try to find ways to help.
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Girl just straight up tell him to wash his fucking balls 
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Men don’t seem to care about personal hygiene and it does suck if you have to sleep next to them knowing they haven’t showered for days. If he’s depressed a shower can be helpful especially if he hasn’t been near one for sometimes more than a week. Depression or not … get in the damn shower … if he doesn’t your marriage could end up being a brother sister relationship or … you leave.
My ex husband was very similar. It’s possible he could be facing mental health issues
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You are not a rehabilitation center for that grown man, he needs to get his shit together and you need to MoveOn, if you have spoken to him, you have suggested reasonable ways for him to take care of his hygiene and his appearance, your job is done, he’s a grown man, if he’s depressed he can go talk to a therapist and get on some medication or go take a walk in nature, he knows that you are not attracted to him because he’s dirty and he still has decided not to take care of this issue, it’s not really your job to help him…
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He might be depressed & truly gave up on life ! Try making it a date night in the shower hunnie and wash it and his entire body your darn self ! Fix it Jesus 
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I love the people who are commenting “depression isn’t a reason to not shower” UMMMM YES THE F*CK IT IS!!! Do you know what it’s like to wake up and not to want live but you know you HAVE to? How tf can you sit here and judge a person like this “that’s just disgusting” “I would never let that happen” “I’d just tell him” It’s easier said than done and people who talk like that come off as extremely uneducated about mental health. My fiance has had to PUT me in the shower on multiple occasions because with depression it just doesn’t matter whether you are clean or dirty. YOU DO NOT CARE!!! Give the guy a break. Help him. Offer help. Listen to what he has to say if he’s will to talk. Talk to him about therapy. To everyone else, educate yourselves.
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if ya tell him youll shower with him np he will need too trick him diff ways
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Be straight up honest w him tell him he stinks and needs better hygiene
Some ppl just mud bugs and don’t like to wash. He ain’t depressed he just sorry.
Maybe he needs a mental break. 10 hrs a day sounds exhausting. I like the “shower together” suggestions.
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no one has to do anything they don’t want to. Thats all there is to it.
I had an ex boyfriend like this. I would have to make him brush his teeth because he would go several days without doing it. I think he was depressed. When someone doesn’t take care of themselves, it can stem from some sort of mental health issue like depression.
Would he be open to a relaxing bath if you poured it for him?
Just say shower or I’m gone as you stink and can’t take no more shower gel or me simple
Definitely sounds like some sore of mental health issues, you can start with offering to shower with, plan a hole stay at home date night that starts with a shower, then a romantic dinner where you can let him know that your listening to him and you want to help but he needs to talk to you so you can help him and if y’all can’t do it together then suggest to him couples therapy, if you can’t afford therapy then find a family member or a friend the can be open minded and may be able to help, I know its hard and a lot to deal with but if you still love him and feel its worth working on then I say give it a shot, and while you two are talking about it make sure to keep in mind what you liked about each other to begin with what sparked the intrest and maybe you can get it back. Best of luck to you I hope it works out and you can reconnect or at the very least remain friends if it doesn’t work out.
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Maybe invite him into the shower with you for some ‘sexy time’. he will get cleaned up and get laid. win win in my book
If it is depression, they are lucky he can get to work at all. He shows his love by supporting the family and cares for them before himself.
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Hes yr husband tell him to get washed, i bet he wld be quick enough to complain if it was you🙄
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Huge sign of depression. Get him some help if he’s willing 
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Like everyone else says maybe depression but either way if your noticing it I’m sure his co workers are and it’s simply gross I’d just talk to him in a non shaming way but tell him he needs to do something to help himself
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Girrrrrrllllllll
Nooooooooooooo
That’ll toss u In infection mode real quick
I’d see if it was a mental thing or pure laziness
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Dump him. If there is something that big that needs to change, you can never expect him to change. Dirty people are dirty. Clean people are clean. Of you don’t dump him, it’s you that will need to change and girl…look out for you.
Thats gross. If it wasn’t bc of depression or something like that, I would straight tell him he smells/ dirty and needs to shower or he could sleep on the couch. I would even tell him other people notice as well. That’s pretty disgusting but I’d be more understanding if it was medical related in any way. If not then force that man to shower .
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Start being really obvious about how stinky he is and drop hints left and right regarding his odor.
Seriously, people have lost jobs due to poor hygiene, not to mention relationships like you’re struggling with. He really needs to consider how his habit is affecting everyone around him.
Well my man does the same BUT he washes his feet before bed and puts clean night clothes on… if your that judgy because of other people your the problem… he busts his ass 10 hours a day outside no desk job to pay bills and put food on your table just like my man does and you show no appreciation so what if he wants to relax he deserves it… now if you wanna get freaky tell him shower and guess what he will but always appreciate a hard working man or find a clean bummer 
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,after working 10 hours. Of sweat. Yes he needs to clean his mmmunnn
There is germs you can’t see on a body.
Some One not getting any. I knew a MAN like that. I would even say. Are you going to take a shower. ? I even run a hot bath. He still wouldn’t. Yes I can’t deal with that.
You could always try tell him to jump in the shower and tell him you’ll join him in 5mins once he’s washed off a bit…that may motivate him a bit.
But seriously yes, as others have said it may be a sign of depression, so look out for other signs as well.
He may just be too exhausted to motivate himself as well if his job is as busy and as physical as you said.
Wishing you all the best x
Is he depressed or just lazy??
This totally sounds like depression and he may not even realize it. It sets in slowly. Lack of self care is a huge marker.
The two of you need to talk and get this out in the open.
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Ok I’m going to get some dislikes for this but I don’t care. I shower once a week as well but I don’t have depression, I’m just lazy. I hate taking a shower, I like baths but I’m still lazy. My boyfriend wants me to shower every other day, I’ve told him its not gonna happen but at least I take one a week. I don’t mind showering with him when he offers but its not big enough for the 2 of us. I change clothes every day and put deodorant on and perfume. For me its the ambition to take more than one shower a week. Even though he is older than me he takes sex off the table which is fine because we haven’t done anything in awhile and he says he’s tired or something hurts. My advice would be to take what you can get.
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My question is when was the last time he seen a doctor?Or had a physical?
Depression can be his issue but also he could extremely tired. Which is could be a sign of a serious illness.
When you two are alone together talk to him, ask him how he’s feeling, if their is anything going on at work? Maybe ask him to shower together? If he refuses to get a shower with or with out you, tell him he needs to sleep in another room!!!
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When he does shower and has clean clothes on. Show him the clothes he’s taken off. Don’t say too much, just have a sniff of these. Just hand them to him and walk away. Cos he may not sniff them with you there. …like the other Christine said, he may not realise, also some people don’t realise, that what smells they are used to. Are actually worse than they think.
If your husband at one time took care of himself and is now not taking care of himself he maybe dealing with thing besides hygiene. He maybe dealing with clinical depression. Often times when people are clinically depressed their hygiene can suffer several. That could be the issue your are dealing with. As for how I would handle it I would be frank with him and tell him you feel he need help. I would also tell him he needs to shower daily and that if he does not you will sleep in another room because body odor is overwhelming. let him know that it makes him less attractive and be blunt that you have had friends approach you with concern and let you know they can not handle his oder when he is around because he refuses to take a shower. Sometimes you have to be blunt and frankly if you feel he is dealing with depression insist on him getting help. If he refuses you need to decide if you can live like this or not.
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that is so sad! The only way is to be straight up about it! I’m sorry but my husband works 10-16 hr days and comes Home every day and showers! There is no excuse for lazy even if he is depressed !!
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Geez!! Sounds terrible. Id have a heart to heart. The truth hurts but at least you’re being honest. Showering only once a week plus having that kind of job, plus covid, is definitely a must to shower at least every other day. I strongly believe he has depression. I do and I have days where I won’t wash my hair but just shower. It happens. Maybe Make it fun for him maybe. Offer to take a shower with him, wash his back or whatever. Make it sexy time or something lol
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