My husband has been having sex in virtual games online (not real people just the npc characters). Advice?I cannot help but be kinda hurt about this especially since we havnt really been intimate as much as we use to even though i try. We played this game together and enjoyed it but I havnt played for a while so he added “mods” that adds naked women and sexual acts with characters. I told him it bothered me but he seems not to care since he is still playing it with the mods (without the mods it’s not a sexual game at all) I just don’t understand. I just dont feel like im enough anymore. What do ya’all think about this? Don’t hate please
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husband has been having sex in games: Advice?
It’s just a video game you’re overreacting
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On one hand this is just a video game. On the other I find it personally odd. Talk to him about it and let him know it bothers you. All you can do
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Lmao what game is it the sims??
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What Game is this. Asking for a friend lol
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I know nothing about video games. Are these mods real people?
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I find it disturbing honestly. If he can’t respect your boundaries then you need to give him an ultimatum.
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I wouldn’t like that, either.
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Omg, if you think anyone gets off to naked characters in a game… girl… bye. Just bye. I mean, if he does that’s weird and I’d divorce him lol.
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Dress up as a game character and give him the best s*x he has had. Don’t forget to enjoy it yourself
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This is sorta like watching porn without you. Which should be allowed, having “feelings” about it doesn’t make him in the wrong. Neither of you is. Enjoying something like this isn’t abnormal in my opinion
They’re YOUR feelings, not ours
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Is this replacing sex with you? To me it’s no different than porn. Something else is turning him on.
It’s not just a video game and any kind of simulation is cheating. Put the shoe on the other foot and how would he respond?
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Y’all haven’t been intimate in a while because he’s having sex with his video games. 
and what kinda game is he playing? That’s just weird.
It’s a video game come down 
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Lmaooo Look I got all those mods in sims. It ain’t that deep. Stop overanalyzing things.
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If it’s affecting your sexual relationship then it’s a problem know matter what it is!! Say something, if nothing changes let him enjoy himself by himself!! And do you
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Sounds like sims with mods hahah!!! Strannngggeeee!!!
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I feel like this is uncensored sims
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You’d have to talk to him and figure out if that’s why you haven’t been intimate. I don’t think naked/sexual characters in a game necessarily means he’s getting off to it.
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All I’m saying is if my husband told me I could play the Sims because I have mods on it I’d tell him to suck a d*** because it’s a game.
I would not like that either
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He needs to grow up.and give up the gaming system. Do yall have kids? Like geez grow up already
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Everyone laughing at this is weird. As if they would be okay with it happening to them. Get real.
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I gotta find me some mods…
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Is there a person on the other end playing or is it the computer? Is he enjoying himself while he plays? Either way—if it’s taking away from yalls sex life it isn’t cool. Tell him to play his games and bring the rest to you. 
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Kay Nicole must be playing Sims. Lmao
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I mean personally I think you’re over reacting but also he needs to respect you and your boundaries
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This is a black mirror episode 
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I added wicked whims mod to my sims 4. Is something wrong with me?
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That would be a hard pass for me. I’d leave.
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It’s weird to me, why not just watch porn lol my spouse doesn’t play video games so idk… if its a boundary of yours then u decide . Accept it or don’t . He said he’s not stopping so it’s your move…
Sounds like he’s playing sims wicked whims. And it’s just a game they’re not real
People 
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I would ask him wtf was wrong with him that he wants sex from games and not his wife… What a weirdo!
Why are you women still in relationships with “boys” that play freaking video games?!
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As a divorce paralegal we had a guy run away to Virgina to meet a girl because their avatars were in love and they owed it to them.
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This is a Big Bang Theory episode!!!
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There’s real people behind it I read? If it is that’s a form of cheating if it’s just characters that’s a form of weirdness. I mean that’s like being married still messing around with a blow up doll lol.
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I mean if my person was having virtual sex, I wouldn’t be jealous or hurt I would think he was a fucking weirdo
Be happy it’s in video games & not real life 
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I think he’s unsatisfied sexually and you sound like you are too. Open communication and ask if he wants to try something new in bed! Not sure how open you two are but he may be embarrassed to say. It’s important to be open minded and maybe you need to go up to him first.
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Sounds weird to be making characters have sex on games. Lord this world needs some serious help. 
I think you need to have a talk about your sex life and don’t worry about a game ( unless he’s chatting with women, sending pictures etc… then its just fantasy- a guys version of woman’s romance novels).
It’s just a game woman!!! Grow tf up. Let him be. If u have an issue with a game you need to seek therapy cause you got bigger issues within yourself that you need to work on.
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How old is he? That’s a little excessive to be into it hardcore like that… I mean, I’m saying sometimes it’s appropriate but not like that 
ppl act upon those tendencies
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Idk who tf adds a mod to make their fictional characters have sex? That’s weird
What game is that lol
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They’re NPCs, non-player characters. It would be hella different if it was someone on the other side. But it comes down to whether it’s affecting your sex life. If it’s not, then it’s not really cheating in my books. If it was another person, escort etc then sure.
Wow, to me cheating is cheating period…BYE!
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My sims have sex and make babies. It doesn’t have anything to do with my relationship with my husband.
Well, this is a first.
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What kind of dam game is he playing? Pornhub
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That’s just messed up. May I ask how old are you and your spouse?
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Dress up like one of the characters and remind him that sex feels better in real life.
Idk what’s worse the comments coming from these “ grown ass women, or the status itself … “ 
Your literally getting hurt feelings over a video game nothing that will ever truly exist or be real.
What in the actual fudge ? Wow.
Jessica Alexandria sims mod
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Who does that? That’s very odd!! RED FLAG!!! AND THAT ASHLEY CHIC CAN GROW TF UP HERSELF!! how damn rude!!
So do you walk in and see him humping the air or what? Not being mean, serious ass question…lol sh** would weird me out and would not like it either. Tf
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The stuff I read in this lmfao there’s no way this is real !
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If it’s sims it’s just a game and they actually can create families ect. I wouldn’t look too deep into it esp if it isn’t playing with other people. The situation could be worse
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The part that strikes a bit of a red flag with me is that there are some who actually have a real kink for this kind of thing, So if that is the case here & he is paying more attention to the game then he is to you & your needs then I can see why you would be annoyed.
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That’s dumb I would definitely not be ok with this
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That’s fucking stupid. Tell him to ditch that and come back to real life.
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If it’s the wicked whims Sims 4 mod… Tell him I’ll let him know where to get 400+ more animations since his wife is a hater.
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I understand how you might be feeling as you do but I can’t help but notice a bit of a double standard here. You said you were playing the game aswell. So, because you decided to stop playing it he has to aswell? Not really fair is it?
If you both liked the same flavor of ice-cream and he stopped enjoying it would you stop eating it because he didn’t anymore? Think about it.
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Its the Sims, huh? There’s a MOD for murdr as well!!
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Well now I’ve heard it all! lord have mercy!
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The amount laughing is disgusting and shows how people don’t realise how bad this CAN BE. This isn’t funny ey. This can be a serious problem and this is coming from a gamer myself.
Too much gaming especially using it as his exual release type of thing is gonna affect the relationship if it’s too often and he isn’t being intimate with you at all.
You need to have a conversation with him and try bring your seggs life back and have him on that game less.
It’s a two way street here so communicate clearly and set boundaries and let him know that him on that game is diminishing your real life seggs life and relationship and becoming a problem now because frankly it is and can be very addictive if he doesn’t stop and slow down on it. It’s like watching too much 
in a relationship to the point you’re no longer intitmate with your partner. It can be addictive and not ok and you lot that are laughing making it a joke need to really educate yourselves.
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Maybe y’all should try role playing. He obviously likes the thought of pretending
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If this is real, this would be irritating especially if this has caused your sex life to suffer. Tell him to stop watching animated characters fuck, and to give you the attention 
Step up and play the game!!!
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Your husband is a child.
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So you’re jealous of a video game avatar? Is that what I’m reading here?
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It’s just a game chill tf put me and husband play video games I do more then him really your over reacting grow up try the mods on the game before getting all asshurt behind it
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I think you should honor your feelings and talk to him about it again and figure out what you are and are not willing to tolerate. So many women do this where they have hurt feelings about something but they brush it off cuz they discredit their feelings. We’re taught this very early on. Be nice, and be a doormat basically. Screw that. If that’s how you feel, tell him. Don’t questions if your feeling are wrong or not. They’re your feelings, so speak up about them.
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He shouldn’t be putting games before your needs. I don’t even know why woman are with man children who play them anyways. Glad my old man isn’t like that. I could never be with someone who is. Try talking to him again about the lack of sex and attention if he doesn’t listen maybe take a break or kick him out.
Everyone saying this is just a game needs to think. If he’s not having sex with his wife then he’s pleasuring himself in some way and ignoring his wife’s needs. Obviously a game isn’t the problem it’s his neglect. He’s using the game for his needs and not his wife.
What game cause it makes a difference
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I have an oculus, what’s this game he is playing… so I can try it… you know, for research purposes.
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Like a video game? I play games also and it’s just a game, it’s not strange. Unless your talking about something else.
If I was you next time he is playing it with the sex scene. Strip down and sit beside him and start … well ya know.
If he says stop leave me alone then there may be a problem. If not you get what you want as well.
I never heard of this before omg . Idk maybe do with him what the mods are…lol idk to me it sounds like ur man needs a healthy Hobbie or a job… I Hate the internet 
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I mean sure it’s wierd, but he’s not doing anything wrong.
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He sounds desperate if he’s turning to video games lol talk it thru, spice things up and jump yo man
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Some people do not think that’s cheating 
You might not get him to understand or appreciate how you feel unless you say how would he feel if you were doing that online with men? Would he consider that hurtful and cheating?
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Marriage counseling, dear. I don’t know why you thought you were going to get good answers in this group or on the internet. Problems really start happening when you involve thousands of people in your marital problems.
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This reminds me of the black mirror episode hell no
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YOU ARE ALWAYS ENOUGH!!! YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM… HES THE PROBLEM! He needs help…. PERIOD! Trust me!!!
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Thomas all I could think of was Bernadette and Howard’s situation on tbbt lol where he was clicking her brains out haha
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It’s mods to a game who cares . Doesn’t mean he’s cheating on you …It’s just a game . It’s probaly boring without those mods it adds fun lol . And he’s a dude ….
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Amazing how the same women who scream “don’t victim shame” will chime in on things like this & tell other women to get over themselves that what he’s doing is harmless. Pot, meet kettle…
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I think the main issue is your upset because you haven’t been intimate enough yet he’s on his game doing that.
Talk to him, if he truly cares he will take the time to listen to you about the issues going on. If you don’t speak up things will never get better.
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this is a joke right? This literally can not be real life problems
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I’m sorry people are being nasty towards you over this. Even though this may not bother them each and everyone of them has something that bothers them that others may not understand why it bothers them and would be hurt or mad that others were being jerks to them when all they did was innocently asked for advice.
This is a boundary for you and your husband should respect it. Keep trying to talk to him about it. Sometimes men need to hear it several times before they take it seriously and I’m not saying this should go on for months(probably 2-3 weeks at most depending on how often he plays).
Ask yourself is it really the game thing that is bothering you or is it really the fact that he isn’t giving you the intimacy that you need.
Tell him it hurts you and tell him why. Ask him how he would feel if you kept doing something that hurt or made him feel insecure after he asked you not to. This is not an unreasonable request. He shouldn’t value the sexual characters/actions being on his game more than he values your feelings.
I truly hope things work out for you guys 
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I have sex in my sims game……