Text her from his phone and disrupt their relationship. He’s definitely cheating!
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Maybe start texting her husband to odd hours too
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I have been thru this myself…trust me there is more going on here besides just texting and talking. There is no reason your husband should be talking to another woman till midnight. He has no respect for you or the other woman for that matter. If he doesn’t stop I would ask for a divorce and walk away because he’s not going to change.
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Not all affairs are sexual
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We are all human and just because he’s a man texting a woman doesn’t imply he’s doing anything wrong. Im friends with alot of guys. If they are in a relationship married or dating I always ask if the woman would get mad. If the answer is yes, then I tell them I’m not interested in talking out of respect for the other half. I firmly believe that a man and woman can be friends.
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Id be more pissed that hes not talking to me. Ask to read discussion and if he says no then…
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Trust your instinct. If you’re asking us, you should be talking to him, you know? The feeling is there.
A few years ago my husband and I had a mutual friend who was in a toxic relationship and he would blow my phone up all hours of the day and night…usually when he had a fight with his girlfriend and needed a womans opinion and never really talked to my husband about it “cuz guys dont talk about shit like that”…it use to bother my husband but he got over it when he realized it was just friendship. Were no longer friends like before because his now ex was actually psychotic. But it was always just friendship. Men and women can talk and have it be harmless. I wouldn’t worry about the hours they’re talking unless hes hiding it or its dirty. Not everyone works a 9-5 job so their sleep schedules are different.
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Yeah I’d assume everyone wants broken fingers hahaha jk… mostly.
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Emotional cheating is just as bad as physically cheating. Imho. Maybe worse
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Marriage is about trust and honesty. If he isn’t telling you about a girl you dont know then that’s not honesty. What you allow will continue…stand up for yourself. Wish you the best of luck
I’d go with your gut to be honest I’ve been in a relationship like that and even asked the girl if anything besides friends was going on she lied to my face BC a month later I found bunch of dirty talk,naked pics,ext just trust your guy feeling
It’s not cool even it’s before midnight 
At some point it will turn inappropriate
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Hell no you are not overreacting!!! Personally it is emotional cheating… hurts as much as physical
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Regardless of the hour of day, it is inappropriate to seek attention for a woman when he should be seeking that attention from his wife or SO.
No you are NOT overreacting in my opinion you are UNDER reacting. I doubt you would do it to him and it is NOT appropriate.
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My EX did that… Notice I said Ex!
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You already know the answer
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You can tell her yourself to go away, but really only he can put a stop to it… that’s usually just the beginning of it. ( Speaking from personal experience)
So men are assholes.
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Is he hiding his texts ? ask him to see his phone if he won’t show it then you got problems if he does and there is nothing going on then you got problems.
I’d leave … He’ll just find a way to hide it now that you know
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Depends how secure you feel in your marriage. This would not bother me at all. I think this is a question best answered by you.
If he aint cheating yet he will b soon
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I’d ask for her husband’s number so he and I can text all night.
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That is some shady stuff on so many different levels.
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Text her husband same hours and see if feeling are mutual
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Think it is very inappropriate! Does not make good sense. Sweetie u need to do some serious thinking…and fast!!!
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Depends. I have male friends I talk to a lot and my boyfriend knows. But its nothing inappropriate. If she according to the text says that her husband is okay with them talking as long as it stays platonic maybe she was making sure u were aware of them talking to as out of respect. Seems like the only one not being respectful is him. I’d just tell him it makes you uncomfortable
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Tell him to stop! Totally inappropriate!
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You are not wrong…the bitches think the do no wrong
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Nope. That’s crossing Boundries!
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He’s having a emotional affair with another woman which to me & some other ppl is alot worse than a sexual affair…
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Noooo fuck that. My husband doesn’t need to be texting ANY female…friend or not. You want a friend, I’m female and I’ll be your friend. Hell no
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He wants her to give him some pussy. He wants it so bad he doesn’t care if you know he’s texting her or not. I recommend you melt down a big can of Crisco and throw hot grease on his ass while he’s asleep. Tell him to text his girl to take his ass to the hospital.
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my best friend is a man, in fact most my friends are men. However, most our conversations I tell my husband about, because we talk, and he knows there is absolutely nothing there, some are straight, some are gay, some are young, some are old. I just don’t identify with most women.
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You are not over- reacting! Everything about this is WRONG! He will do this as long as you let him walk all over you. Sorry your husband is an ass.
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Nothing good will come out of this. My ex husband did this with his now wife. Both were married but were just “high school friend” than they started sneaking off to lunch in a smaller town close by. Than one night he didnt come home I drove by her house, our truck was sitting outside her house. He moved out we got a fast divorce. And they were married within 6 months of him moving out.
This is so loaded. If it’s purely a conversation that he would have in person and in front of you, I wouldn’t mind. I go to bed anywhere between 8pm to 10pm but hubby has always stayed up till midnight. If he had a genuine friend messaging him until he came to bed, I wouldn’t worry. The problem only occurs if the conversation is private, hidden, or is an intimate converation
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I honestly don’t see the big deal. My hubby and I both have friends of the opposite sex that we hang out with and talk to all the time. We’re both also huge flirts and will casually flirt or say thing that would probably be considered inappropriate in other circles. But… we trust each other and tell each other everything. I know a girl he works with has a crush on him and we both think it’s sweet. He knows a dude I work with has asked me out and still doesn’t care that we go to lunch all the time together. We even talk about people we find attractive with each other. We have no jealousy or distrust in our relationship, so I guess I never understand why people automatically assume something sketchy is going on because people have friends of different genders. If there’s not been a reason to actually distrust him, why think he is doing anything shady?
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U already know the answer. Dont put up with that bs. Know your worth. If it doesn’t stop now it will continue. Instead of asking FB…spend that energy talking to your spouse. Ultimatum. If it doesn’t stop it will get worst n u will have grudges. Communication please.
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No man or women that cheats, just all of a sudden starts these type of acts. It is and has always been who they are. No amount of love can change who they are. Marriage is sacred, prayer is where to find your answer as what to do from this point on.
I feel bad for all the women on here saying their man does not need to be texting any female whether it’s a friend or not 
… if he is hiding it then worry, if he is out in the open having a conversation with someone who cares? If you are worried ask him about it and see how he reacts.
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He’s your husband not your boyfriend your life partner -why should he be texting another woman -emotional abuse cheating on you inappropriate WRONG he obviously has ill intentions and is not only texting -what about seeing her in the sly too
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Your husband has no respect
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She needs a divorce lawyer!!!
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id be saying hit the road and dont come back
There is no reason why your husband should be texting any woman for hours. Huge red flag.
He wouldn’t like it if u was texting another man so tell him u don’t like the the fact of him seeking attention from another woman and if he doesn’t stop then put him out or leave until he realizes it’s a problem. Good luck and God Bless
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It’s extremely unacceptable to be texting another woman while married period unless it’s family or a family friend definitely not until midnight. He didn’t tell you so that tells me he was going to do something with her eventually 
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Nope. It’s wrong, and if he can’t see that… There are underlying issues with himself, potentially the relationship, but definitely self!!!
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The first sentence was your thoughts. That’s what it is. Go from there.💁🏽 No question needed in my opinion.
Hell no and I’ve been there before. Listen to ur gut. It’s always right. Does he text you for hours?? If the answer is no then you got your answer and I’m sorry for what ur about to go thru
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It’s getting emotional with someone else; it’s wrong. It’s hurtful… If you need to gain this type of attention from someone else, just leave me first.
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No you have a right to be upset. A married man should not be texting another woman for hours. I’d be mad too.
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Did he share he had been texting another women all night, or how did you find this out? While I don’t think texting someone of the opposite sex for hours out of the day (unless family or close friend) is very appropriate, it’s also not appropriate to go through a partners phone checking what they’re up to. Either you trust him or you dont. Go with your gut.
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Nope f that… nip that in the butt ASAP! If he gets mad that there’s something more going on. I’ve had someone try that bs with my fiance & nope that stopped faster than it started
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Yes it’s wrong. Its toeing a line that’s not to be crossed. If its hidden then you’re already doing something wrong
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He’d have a broken phone and some broken fingers to go with it.
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My husband and I don’t do that shit!!! No way. It’s playing with fire. Do I think men and women can be JUST friends, sure. But as we are each other’s best friends, it’s just unnecessary. It could easily turn into an emotional affair. Not even on purpose sometimes. And going from trusting and confiding in a member of the opposite sex makes it makes it easier to turn physical. All couples are different but we choose not to text members of the opposite sex at all, especially until midnight or when it’s time for us to be spending time together… Nope-- a bad idea in my opinion.
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No youre not wrong. What hes doing is wrong. If he isnt already cheating, hes headed that way🤷🏾♀️.
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Would he like it if you did it? Answer that and you have the answer to your question. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want your spouse to do
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my advice…serve him with the D papers. It won’t stop. Not the first time…really??
I think it’s wrong my opinion, ask him how’d he feel of you did it…
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Shes obviously sending him mixed messages while married…I’d have to read em if I were u…he wouldnt b cool if shoe was on other foot
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Oh hell no! It’s definitely wrong.
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If he can’t talk to you for 3 hours…tells you all you need to know. Invite her over for dinner…SURPRISE!!
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Obviously, it bothers you. That is your answer. Why does it bother you? Because it should! Tell him to cut it out or kick rocks.
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Dont stand for it, Sis. Thinking of you 
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It’s so wrong on many levels.
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It’s called emotional cheating! It’s not ok but it does mean you 2 are having communication issues yall need to work out
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What are they texting about for 3 hours if nothing gets personal? How do they know each other?
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Well I caught my bf of a size months texting all his exes and I barley get a text from him … I’ve been thinking to myself about this lately and it does bother me and if that’s what he wants I have no problem moving out of his way to give him what he wants … This week and last week he’s been very distance I am playing my position as his faithful women but it’s starting to get tiring cause he’s seeking approval from them like if anything has changed over the years but I guess… I know what kind of women I’ve grown to be and know what I bring to the table … So if that’s what he wants I will not persist any more … Hanging up my boxing gloves…
I would make sure her hubby knows too! Poor sap is clueless! Hope she gets what she deserves along with him
Sorry but I’ve been here, only gets worse if you turn a blind eye
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Bc it will lead to other things
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Because you allow it.
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Hell no! I caught my new husband accepting random friend request from Facebook women that he didn’t even know! Nope, not going to do that.
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If it isn’t personal what TF are they texting about for 3 hours ? 
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Oh hell no… not even up for debate… you got a man doing that he got to go
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Throw him away sis he’s not worth it!
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Guess it would depend on what they are talking about
Boo hes cheating but openly cheat just so u no
Just not right…plain and simple.
Sounds like you have a serious problem
Lmao i woke my husband up with a bottle of ice water at 4am because i found messeges he its not right its not ok they know that. Its flirting
About what? I think it might depend. Were they friends before? Are they comfortable showing you their phones and texts?could be innocent just because someone’s of the opposite sex doesn’t mean they’re attracted to them however very well could not be innocent I think it just depends on the person and the circumstances
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Been there, done that and got divorced
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Totally inappropriate
It is absolutely wrong
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Why would you feel that you are overreacting? He’s your husband and he has no right texting another woman. Your husband seems to be emotionally cheating. You should discuss this with him or seek counseling for the both of you. Something is going on and it’s important that you find out what it is.
Yes it’s very wrong.
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You’re not overreacting, I’d be pissed too. To me, it’s a form of cheating.
Your husband and this woman are playing with fire and they BOTH know it. And NO you’re not over reacting.
Overreacting? Not at all, where there’s smoke there’s fire. Pack his crap and hire an attorney. For him to even think this behavior is acceptable speaks volumes of his character.
Because some men were raised that way. Ijs
Relax, freakazoids…He’s talking to his Mom.
Next thing won’t be texting , they’ll be meeting having sex orsexting with masturbation.
#1 Trust is key if ur snooping to gain the info leave if he told u then that means he isnt hidding anything
#2 remember there is a difference between talking and fucking u can have an emotional bond and not want love or sex or a relationship
3# talk to him sit down and talk use I feel statments that way he actually hears u instead of it becomeing an argument (alot of ppl don’t/wont listen if u go i feel this xuz u do this stead go when this happens I feel like this or I feel like this cuz of this)
4# that or u can play dirty when my ex would do that shit is messege the girls pretending to be him and once the conversation got sexual throw in that he has stds and like 14 kids (it got the hoes to leave him alone… Then I relized he is a hoe d left)
But then again ive had plenty of late night 3 hour convos with men that was just talking and one was my sister boy friend