I came home from work and saw that my husband had been texting a woman who I don’t know until midnight. This isn’t the first time I’ve caught him doing this. They talked for almost three hours, and the other woman even asked if I’d be upset that they were talking. She said her husband wouldn’t as long as it didn’t get personal. My stance is that it is extremely inappropriate to be texting another woman until midnight, and if you have to ask if something is wrong, it’s probably freaking wrong. Am I overreacting? Why does he feel the need to seek attention from other women?
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No ,you are not over reacting ,My husband was doing the same , he eventually walked out and left me for her
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Did he hide it from you in anyway
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Depends on the content of their conversation. For some reason people seen to have forgotten that men and women can be just friends.
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No you aren’t overreacting. Just caught mine doing the same thing with 2 women. And it was VERY personal
Not all all appropriate.
Yeah I’d be a little pissed off myself
I wouldn’t consider this to be “okay”.
I’d be pissed but that last question is something you have to ask yourself and him. If hes done it before and nothing came of it its because you allow it.
Completely inappropriate…those hours are husband and wife hours. That’s your time she’s taking. Nip it in the bud…I personally would let her know…she needs to be talking to HER husband at midnight…not yours.
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Not appropriate. Even if my husband was texting a man until the wee hours of the morning I’d have a problem with it. There’s emotional cheating too, and it doesn’t have to have a sexual undertone.
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Deuces MF!. You deserve better than that…
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No, fuck that. Boundaries are being crossed for sure. Even just as a friend, my husband would NEVER be texting some woman after midnight.
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Girl read the first sentence you typed. Does that SOUND normal to you? 
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Not appropriate at all unless they are friends or relatives.
I’d be angry! Even if it is just a friendship right know , who knows what’s to happen ! I’d be asking questions !!!
I’d be pissed if he didn’t tell me because that means he has something to hide. If he was just talking and could tell you that that would mean he has nothing to hide. But I’d be mad.
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I’d be pissed, and gone.
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My bf has a lot of friends who are girls who he’ll either text, snapchat, or message on facebook. I used to feel uneasy about it, but he became open about it and let’s me know who and when he talks to them. If he hides it then I’d say talk to him about it. If not, then don’t look too deep into it. Your significant other is allowed to get attention from other people that aren’t you.
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I’m the kind of women who will offer to go on a double date. If it’s not going past boundaries neither of them should have an issue with ALL of us being friends. But the fact its that late at night tells me its on the line between friends and inappropriate.
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Why is it men and women can’t be friends anymore.not saying I agree with the hours they were talking at but you can’t be mad for him just talking to another woman. Mind you, you have caught him doing this before, was content of the last one considered cheating, if so why stay with him and give him an opportunity to hurt you again 
. Just keep in mind there is nothing wrong with men have female friends and vise versa
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Most men and women think with their crotch, I’d bet there’s no good in this texting 
don’t put your guard down, my advice
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Ask him if it would be ok for you to do likewise.
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Because you allow it.
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Just kind of wondering if he works.
Wait. She’s married too 
but she’s pretty much stating that her husband knows about their conversations and doesn’t mind, I don’t see why he couldn’t have the respect to even tell you like she did with her husband. Big difference. She’s looking for a friendly companion, that’s hopefully it and he is I have no clue. Talk to them about it. Message her. Talk with him and even ask to talk with her husband about what he thinks of the situation
. I’m sure she wouldn’t mind given the fact that she’s been talking to yours.
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I have a guy friend who i text daily and we text all hours of the day and night. My hubby knows and i hide nothing from him. Men and women can be friends and nothing be going on.
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Your supposed to be his best friend to talk to until midnight. Be careful!
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Absolutely not trust that!!!
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I’d be Leary like others have said if he doesn’t share what’s being said no harm but on other hand should not be on phone that long no way to except that I’d demand info if not then walk away
Ugh. I’m sorry you’re even having to question what is right and wrong in your relationship. I could tell you all sorts of advise, but the reality comes down to… what did you both agree upon when you got together? What was each of your tolerance levels? Those need to be respected. Now if you just assumed and didn’t make any or they weren’t actually agreed to… make them clear now! Let him make the decision to chose your needs over him feeling for what ever he’s doing. Just remember if he does, you need to consider him too.
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I mean, if they aren’t flirting in the texts, I dont think it’s wrong. It IS possible to be JUST friends with someone of the opposite sex.
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100% doubt her husband REALLY knows and I would tell him to stop it or kick rocks
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You text a male friends till midnight, and see if he doesn’t react. Now you can get in his face and say: honey I’m doing the same as you, we’re just friends
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Know your worth! Don’t let anyone try and justify THEIR bad or wrong behavior. The fact that you are reaching out and asking others…you already know the answer. You teach people how to treat you. If you allow this…more will follow. Stand your ground. Make a decision and never regret it. If you don’t have trust…you’ve got nothing. Don’t let anyone ever break you. You deserve better.
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Call her up and invite her for dinner! Mention it to your husband after the fact and watch the look on his face.
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Inappropriate and especially if you expressed that it hurts you and he continues… what do they need to be texting about ? When you crack the door that’s when it ends up opening up completely. Even if originally it was innocent once you blur the lines you can’t go back
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Gonna play devils advocate here and say no it’s not wrong. So long as the texts aren’t inappropriate it’s ok for your SO to have women who are friends.
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Text her from his phone and disrupt their relationship. He’s definitely cheating!
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Maybe start texting her husband to odd hours too
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I have been thru this myself…trust me there is more going on here besides just texting and talking. There is no reason your husband should be talking to another woman till midnight. He has no respect for you or the other woman for that matter. If he doesn’t stop I would ask for a divorce and walk away because he’s not going to change.
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Not all affairs are sexual
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We are all human and just because he’s a man texting a woman doesn’t imply he’s doing anything wrong. Im friends with alot of guys. If they are in a relationship married or dating I always ask if the woman would get mad. If the answer is yes, then I tell them I’m not interested in talking out of respect for the other half. I firmly believe that a man and woman can be friends.
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Id be more pissed that hes not talking to me. Ask to read discussion and if he says no then…
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Trust your instinct. If you’re asking us, you should be talking to him, you know? The feeling is there.
A few years ago my husband and I had a mutual friend who was in a toxic relationship and he would blow my phone up all hours of the day and night…usually when he had a fight with his girlfriend and needed a womans opinion and never really talked to my husband about it “cuz guys dont talk about shit like that”…it use to bother my husband but he got over it when he realized it was just friendship. Were no longer friends like before because his now ex was actually psychotic. But it was always just friendship. Men and women can talk and have it be harmless. I wouldn’t worry about the hours they’re talking unless hes hiding it or its dirty. Not everyone works a 9-5 job so their sleep schedules are different.
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Yeah I’d assume everyone wants broken fingers hahaha jk… mostly.
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Emotional cheating is just as bad as physically cheating. Imho. Maybe worse
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Marriage is about trust and honesty. If he isn’t telling you about a girl you dont know then that’s not honesty. What you allow will continue…stand up for yourself. Wish you the best of luck
I’d go with your gut to be honest I’ve been in a relationship like that and even asked the girl if anything besides friends was going on she lied to my face BC a month later I found bunch of dirty talk,naked pics,ext just trust your guy feeling
It’s not cool even it’s before midnight 
At some point it will turn inappropriate
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Hell no you are not overreacting!!! Personally it is emotional cheating… hurts as much as physical
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Regardless of the hour of day, it is inappropriate to seek attention for a woman when he should be seeking that attention from his wife or SO.
No you are NOT overreacting in my opinion you are UNDER reacting. I doubt you would do it to him and it is NOT appropriate.
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My EX did that… Notice I said Ex!
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You already know the answer
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You can tell her yourself to go away, but really only he can put a stop to it… that’s usually just the beginning of it. ( Speaking from personal experience)
So men are assholes.
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Is he hiding his texts ? ask him to see his phone if he won’t show it then you got problems if he does and there is nothing going on then you got problems.
I’d leave … He’ll just find a way to hide it now that you know
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Depends how secure you feel in your marriage. This would not bother me at all. I think this is a question best answered by you.
If he aint cheating yet he will b soon
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I’d ask for her husband’s number so he and I can text all night.
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That is some shady stuff on so many different levels.
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Text her husband same hours and see if feeling are mutual
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Think it is very inappropriate! Does not make good sense. Sweetie u need to do some serious thinking…and fast!!!
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Depends. I have male friends I talk to a lot and my boyfriend knows. But its nothing inappropriate. If she according to the text says that her husband is okay with them talking as long as it stays platonic maybe she was making sure u were aware of them talking to as out of respect. Seems like the only one not being respectful is him. I’d just tell him it makes you uncomfortable
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Tell him to stop! Totally inappropriate!
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You are not wrong…the bitches think the do no wrong
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Nope. That’s crossing Boundries!
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He’s having a emotional affair with another woman which to me & some other ppl is alot worse than a sexual affair…
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Noooo fuck that. My husband doesn’t need to be texting ANY female…friend or not. You want a friend, I’m female and I’ll be your friend. Hell no
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He wants her to give him some pussy. He wants it so bad he doesn’t care if you know he’s texting her or not. I recommend you melt down a big can of Crisco and throw hot grease on his ass while he’s asleep. Tell him to text his girl to take his ass to the hospital.
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my best friend is a man, in fact most my friends are men. However, most our conversations I tell my husband about, because we talk, and he knows there is absolutely nothing there, some are straight, some are gay, some are young, some are old. I just don’t identify with most women.
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You are not over- reacting! Everything about this is WRONG! He will do this as long as you let him walk all over you. Sorry your husband is an ass.
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Nothing good will come out of this. My ex husband did this with his now wife. Both were married but were just “high school friend” than they started sneaking off to lunch in a smaller town close by. Than one night he didnt come home I drove by her house, our truck was sitting outside her house. He moved out we got a fast divorce. And they were married within 6 months of him moving out.
This is so loaded. If it’s purely a conversation that he would have in person and in front of you, I wouldn’t mind. I go to bed anywhere between 8pm to 10pm but hubby has always stayed up till midnight. If he had a genuine friend messaging him until he came to bed, I wouldn’t worry. The problem only occurs if the conversation is private, hidden, or is an intimate converation
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I honestly don’t see the big deal. My hubby and I both have friends of the opposite sex that we hang out with and talk to all the time. We’re both also huge flirts and will casually flirt or say thing that would probably be considered inappropriate in other circles. But… we trust each other and tell each other everything. I know a girl he works with has a crush on him and we both think it’s sweet. He knows a dude I work with has asked me out and still doesn’t care that we go to lunch all the time together. We even talk about people we find attractive with each other. We have no jealousy or distrust in our relationship, so I guess I never understand why people automatically assume something sketchy is going on because people have friends of different genders. If there’s not been a reason to actually distrust him, why think he is doing anything shady?
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U already know the answer. Dont put up with that bs. Know your worth. If it doesn’t stop now it will continue. Instead of asking FB…spend that energy talking to your spouse. Ultimatum. If it doesn’t stop it will get worst n u will have grudges. Communication please.
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No man or women that cheats, just all of a sudden starts these type of acts. It is and has always been who they are. No amount of love can change who they are. Marriage is sacred, prayer is where to find your answer as what to do from this point on.
I feel bad for all the women on here saying their man does not need to be texting any female whether it’s a friend or not 
… if he is hiding it then worry, if he is out in the open having a conversation with someone who cares? If you are worried ask him about it and see how he reacts.
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He’s your husband not your boyfriend your life partner -why should he be texting another woman -emotional abuse cheating on you inappropriate WRONG he obviously has ill intentions and is not only texting -what about seeing her in the sly too
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Your husband has no respect
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She needs a divorce lawyer!!!
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id be saying hit the road and dont come back
There is no reason why your husband should be texting any woman for hours. Huge red flag.
He wouldn’t like it if u was texting another man so tell him u don’t like the the fact of him seeking attention from another woman and if he doesn’t stop then put him out or leave until he realizes it’s a problem. Good luck and God Bless
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It’s extremely unacceptable to be texting another woman while married period unless it’s family or a family friend definitely not until midnight. He didn’t tell you so that tells me he was going to do something with her eventually 
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Nope. It’s wrong, and if he can’t see that… There are underlying issues with himself, potentially the relationship, but definitely self!!!
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The first sentence was your thoughts. That’s what it is. Go from there.💁🏽 No question needed in my opinion.
Hell no and I’ve been there before. Listen to ur gut. It’s always right. Does he text you for hours?? If the answer is no then you got your answer and I’m sorry for what ur about to go thru
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It’s getting emotional with someone else; it’s wrong. It’s hurtful… If you need to gain this type of attention from someone else, just leave me first.
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No you have a right to be upset. A married man should not be texting another woman for hours. I’d be mad too.
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Did he share he had been texting another women all night, or how did you find this out? While I don’t think texting someone of the opposite sex for hours out of the day (unless family or close friend) is very appropriate, it’s also not appropriate to go through a partners phone checking what they’re up to. Either you trust him or you dont. Go with your gut.
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Nope f that… nip that in the butt ASAP! If he gets mad that there’s something more going on. I’ve had someone try that bs with my fiance & nope that stopped faster than it started
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Yes it’s wrong. Its toeing a line that’s not to be crossed. If its hidden then you’re already doing something wrong
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He’d have a broken phone and some broken fingers to go with it.
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My husband and I don’t do that shit!!! No way. It’s playing with fire. Do I think men and women can be JUST friends, sure. But as we are each other’s best friends, it’s just unnecessary. It could easily turn into an emotional affair. Not even on purpose sometimes. And going from trusting and confiding in a member of the opposite sex makes it makes it easier to turn physical. All couples are different but we choose not to text members of the opposite sex at all, especially until midnight or when it’s time for us to be spending time together… Nope-- a bad idea in my opinion.
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