My husband is on a lot of hookup sites. He swears someone hacked his email, but I know it is him. A friend said it is a way to get him turned on so he can be intimate with me, but that made me feel like I’m not what he wants. So I lost weight and started wearing makeup daily, I dress sexier now, but he is still on them. Last night I found a love sex cam open on his phone while he was in the shower; we don’t have a sex life anymore, like twice a month is a big deal to him. He said he is older and doesn’t want it anymore. I just feel like I’m in for a major disappointment.
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It isnt about you, its about him honey
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Leave.
There is nothing you can do. Nothing you should do. Just leave.
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Open the door and kick his ass out it… there is not a single person who has the right to make you feel unwanted!!
Since you aren’t going to change him, give him a dose of his own medicine.
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The goddess living inside of you can give you more than any man you ever dreamed of. Let go of him and start loving yourself. Live your best life
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Get a lawyer. Protect yourself
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My ex also told me that his email got hacked. Found out he cheated multiple times. Don’t fall for it
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Leave, sounds like he’s looking for someone else.
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Leave. If he doesn’t want you for you- fuck that. Leave and be a better person without him
When you go grocery shopping…pull out cash and start stashing money…then leave when you get the chance!
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Love, Sex , Intelligence says
Sounds like a closet sex addiction to me. Bounce girl, get someone who will value you
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Being alone is better than being unhappy.
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Yup… its for sure him, and by no means you. I’d take this as a red flag… either get therapy together or leave for your own mental health
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Mine said someone stole his info and took a picture of him while he was alone at home in our bedroom and posted it on one of those sites. We’re divorced now
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I know it’s probably easier said than done but I think you either need marriage counseling or you should leave if he won’t…that sounds like sex addiction even if he doesn’t want it with you my ex was the same way…
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My husband has an extremely high sex drive. We have been married for 23 years and we have sex about 2 x s a week. He is seeing a therapist and she suggested we have an open marriage. Talk about defeated. I have been trying so hard to be what he wants and now I am just defeated and feel awful about myself.
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This has nothing to do with you. You are not the “problem”. HE IS. Get yourself a lawyer, take pictures of his phone with the dating sites/screen shots whatever you can.
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Sis go live your life and cut the dead weight loose
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Leave. He’s cheating.
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Sorry to say most men cheat and if they are not they are thinking about it.
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Theirs nothing wrong with you hun,there’s something wrong with him. Talk to him,tell him you wont get mad if he’s honest with you. Tell him how he makes you feel. And if it doesn’t change anything maybe you need to think about leaving
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You need to leave or accept that he is doing things behind your back…
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Throw the whole man away
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I hate to jump to conclusions but sounds like he is cheating.
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What the hell, what’s the question? Your marriage is over and his friend is a dumbass and so is he. Men are stupid!!
Leave find someone who loves you
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Leave! I wish I would have when I caught my husband. Now I have a class A slaker. I don’t think he is doing anything anymore but I can trust him. Probably never will. I caught him 2 months after 1 had my third baby.
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You’re not the disappointment he is!! You deserve better!
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He doesn’t want it anymore but he’s on websites? So than what does he get out of being on websites if he’s not interested in sex any more?
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Girl leave him!!! There’s better D out there 
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Counseling as a couple.
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Could also be other reasons. He may have ED as well as depression. So many factors . Have you ever caught him actually cheating and meeting woman?
He wouldn’t be my husband anymore.
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Oh my GOD honey!! Do NOT put up with that DISRESPECTFUL ASSHAT!! Just NO! THROW HIM OUT! You don’t leave. YOU did nothing wrong! Tell him to find some bimbo on a hook-up site to move in with. YOU. DONT. DESERVE. THAT!!!
Leave and go find a man that treats you the way you deserve to be treated
Just remember…jay z cheated on Beyonce…if a dude wants to be a pos and cheat he will. Doesnt mean you arnt beautiful.
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You’re husband is cheating. That is cheating. Period.
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Don’t you mean my ex husband???
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D I V O R C E he sounds like a scum bag!
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Make an onlyfans 
see how he feels about that haha
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Talk to him about it and give him An ultimatum the sites or me
It is only going to get worse… and more exhausting… leave girl. You deserve better.
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In my experience, regardless of what you do, this won’t change. He won’t change. You will drive yourself crazy trying to be what you believe he wants until it breaks you. Completely. Life is really really short, love yourself enough to share yourself with someone who makes you feel complete. Even if that person has to be yourself for awhile. I’ve been alone 2 years. I’m happy.
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In my experience that’s just a recipe for disaster. My ex was the same way… and ultimately he actually met up with people from those hookup sites. Look out for you & your health!
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First, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Second, throw the whole husband in the trashcan. He’s either cheating, or he’s going to. Don’t ignore the red flags, and never change yourself for someone else. The right man won’t make you question anything.
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He’s a c*nt. get rid
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He’s cheating. No one is on hookup sites to look around.
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What do you want to do about it?
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Before you “leave him” as everyone is saying talk to him. Explain how ot makes you feel. Go to counseling try to work om the situation. It will be hard it will be awkward but atleast try… Dont just give up… You have to work hard for things in life that includes relationships… But dont put yourself down. And know of yall can make it thru this struggle you can make ot thru anything.
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Divorce him!!! There’s a man out there that will treat you the way you should be treated!!
Time for a sit down talk where you BOTH talk about how your feeling. Then come to a resolution. Maybe that means changing things up, maybe it means marriage counseling, maybe it means splitting up, you won’t know until you talk to him.
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Girl leave him. Like yesterday.
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I would talk to him first and if he continued I’d leave you deserve better .
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Okay might not be an option for you but a friend of mine her ex posted pictures of himself all over so she did the same he hated it never did it again
Took me 54 yrs I found the one who completes me good, bad, happy or sad.
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Be u get rid of him…
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It’s definitely time to leave. Your not happy, well it would seem so especially with him being so sneaky and shady and that’s cheating in my book. I would leave forsure. Sorry 
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Your friend lied to you
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I had something similar happen he’s lying. LEAVE. Save the disappointment in a few months or how ever long you get strung along.
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Awh god thats so awful. There’s no love or respect there and he’s totally out of order, since it seems u have already tried to talk to him about this and he’s carrying on with no shits given. Really feel for you what a awful place to be in. Dont know if u fully realise how much damage he’s doing/done to your self worth and self esteem and that is probably the worst place you can be in as a woman. To not feel wanted by your partner makes u question everything about yourself until u dont feel sane anymore and thats not living babes. Thats hell. You do what you have to do to get away from this situation, before it becomes the norm and he carries on walking all over you while destroying you in the process. Once u step away u will see it all for what it is. 
Good luck, be strong. X
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Like I told my ex, I’m either your one and only, or not at all. You should never be an option. It is disrespectful to you. Know your worth and never put up with disrespect. There is someone out there that will respect and love you. Even if that’s not an option for you, love and respect yourself to know you deserve much better than that. I’m so sorry you are going through that. I know the pain of that and it sucks.
I lost weight and was in the best shape of my life and could walk in the room in sexy outfits and he would look and then go back to watching TV. Then later found out he was in fact cheating. I thought something was wrong with me, but I know I deserved much better than that. Took me a little while to find it, but two years after my divorce I found someone who loves me as much as I love him. Respects me in every way and shows me love. I pray you find that kind of love.
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Oh hell no! I would have thrown that phone into the garbage and when he asked i would straight up tell him. Threw it out with the trash and if he knew what was good for him he better straighten up or he is going into the same pile!
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He has got to go, you shouldn’t have to do any of those things for your man to love and want you, he should either way. I’m so sorry, difficult situation but sounds like he doesn’t appreciated you and very well may be cheating. Stop doing him and do you. Self love first
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Yep! Had that happen! Found out he was cheating! Don’t put up with it!
Heard that one before. Never believe them when they tell you they don’t know how those nasty sites get on their stuff, or that they were hacked. Those situations always just get worse… Leave. Run fast and far away from him and don’t look back. It’s not your responsibility to make him act.like a good man. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and be faithful.
He has already left you at least sexually. Once he finds what he wants he will be gone.
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Mine said it was “research for work” we are divorced now
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Girl go and get you some new dick. You deserve it
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Girl your not the problem. He is.
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Run like hell and don’t look back!
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Time to move on! He’s up to no good
U need to be moving on chic he gets his kicks somewhere else …
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Take that energy and find a new man that deserves it. Your husband clearly is not invested in this marriage. This is not a stand by your man scenario.
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Divorce when u get out of bed tomorrow
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Leave him. You shouldn’t have to try that hard for your husband’s attention or live your life accepting the fact that your husband is cheating on you via live Webcams and dating sites
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You can either be the start of change for yourself and take the first step to turn your environment around; or allow him to continue to control the environment you are currently in and unhappy about. Life is way to short to allow anyone else make you feel not valued and loved. Love yourself and walk away and don’t look back!
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Kick him to the curb. He’s a loser.
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What a weirdo. He would rather be on the internet, than with you? He’s a disgusting freak. That’s so gross. Like I saw someone else say… find you some new D. You deserve it. you aren’t the problem,he’s just weird
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Pack your clothes, your self respect, your dignity, and your pride and leave his cheating azz. Even if he is gettinv off on tje pictures he is cheating. Rin fast and stay away from him.
Umm kick his ass to the curb ! That’s completely unacceptable and cheating !! You deserve to be respected & loved correctly !
Yeah I’d get a divorce
Girl get a new man, mine did the same to me. We are divorced and hes remarried and has still tried to sex talk with me etc… I just laugh and screen shot it for child custody court. 
You know the truth deep down. It is so hard to accept sometimes but know your worth
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Why do you need advice? You already know what to do 
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If he can’t quit going on them I’d leave. I dealt with this. It makes you feel so down about yourself. It’s not fair. You deserve better love.
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Better new you----Better new man. If you want more and he doesn’t and ya’ll can’t agree, life is not guaranteed, so don’t waste anymore time. You didn’t say if children were involved. If he refuses to be truthful then leave.
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You need to leave what the heck girl that’s toxic to your soul
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Girl. Go. Go rebuild your beautiful self and start over. It’ll be hard. You’ll cry. But, you’ll be stronger and happier.
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He’s full of crap
Losing the weight should be for you, not him…,
Please work on self love for yourself
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Sounds like you already have the answers you need.
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Idk noticed my husband was on a site like that before e said his friends wife was cheating on him and he was trying to find out if she would contact him lol.
No, he is lying to you. Leave him, I would never allow my husband on that stuff for what!!! Focus on you, my dear!
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Download a spy app on his phone
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Get yourself a boyfriend 
Get you a MAN not a boy!!
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Ha. Leave him. Duh 
I’m so sorry . I pray this situation gets better . I would suggest counseling as couples and if he refuses to go , you go alone ! It helps !
1st of all, u should never change who u are to accommodate someone else to make them love u. If they cant love u for who u are their not worth. 2nd of all, if he truly loved and cared for u he would not have to look at that stuff and be on those sites. If he hasn’t cheated already he will. He is suppose to be committed to u. Seems like he is stringing u along. 3rd, if I were u I would cut my loss and move on. U deserve better. He doesnt deserve u. His loss. Keep whatever u can find for evidence and get a divorce.
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