Um leave! Why in the world are you still with this jerk!!! If he’s not cheating (which to me he’s pretty damn close already) then he will be very soon and you are right… you aren’t what he wants but that is ok and that is not your fault nor should you try to change to be what he wants!!! So just leave and let him do him by himself!
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LEAVE him. Obviously he doesn’t see your worth! Dont stay in a relationship you’re being disrespected in!
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So… from a straight man who has cheated…(not proud but alot has changed) once he looks he’s lost to you… a man who is always looking is a person who is just sexually motivated … not emotionally motivated… and you want someone who pushes you to grow emotionally not the other way around…
Sex is only good if you feel good on the inside… that’s why it’s about connection… on all levels
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Yikes! He’s not worth your time. Kick him to the curb.
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Your friends advice is just stupid! As for your husband if he is on a hook up site then he is on it for a reason… you need to leave him.
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Its still cheating, he is searching elsewhere, cheating isnt physical only, its also memtal and emotional
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Those sites become an addiction, perhaps he’s hooked. It’s like drugs or alcohol. Perhaps counseling could help.
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He’s cheating. If he needed something to look at it would be porn
Hes cheating or trying to…I’m kind of in same situation…but feel stuck…I hope u can actually get out…u deserve better. Sorry ur going through this.
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Next step is cheating if he isn’t already
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Honey, this is his problem. It’s not you. He has an addiction and unless he wants to change he won’t.
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He is cheating on you.
EVERY time they’re caught it’s “I got hacked.” It’s a lie. I promise.
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Talk to him about it, get some therapy. If none of that works ask yourself if this relationship is worth losing yourself over.
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NEVER change who you are to please someone else! The problem is NOT you!
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He’s having his own affairs you need to
Leave him now
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Twice a month but he’s on sex cams, leave and make sure you have proof of the cheating too you’ll need it in divorce court
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Trust me I know from experience… please leave him…
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Get a divorce, move on, be happy:)
Honey its time to open your eyes and file for divorce. You dont deserve to be treated like that at all
He is cheating on you
Get a lawyer–a good one.
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I’m so sorry, know it all to well.
You deserve so much more. Leave now.
Talk to him about this and talk to male friends regarding their insights on this.
Ewwww, bye bye, and you feel bad?
Bad news… cheating…
time to say bye to husband
Been there done that. RUN!
Fuck his best friend
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Clean out his bank accounts and divorce him.
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Addiction. All signs of an addiction. Throwing away the real thing for fantasy. If he doesn’t want counseling prepare to leave or have him leave and I would go ahead and cut the intimacy off for your protection of your physical health. There are so many bad situations you’ll find yourself in if you stay. Not to mention it’s causing you issues that are hard to repair for a one day healthy relationship.
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If he’s not being honest and blowing off the conversation, you have to assume he’s cheating. Then make your move. Don’t plan your next move hoping it/he will change. Admit to yourself how it makes you feel and what your willing to put up with. Make a plan for YOUR happiness.
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If he truly loved you he wouldn’t be looking for other women on hook up sites! You shouldn’t try to change to please him, it wouldn’t matter anyway. Walk away. He’s not worth what he’s putting you through. Start your life anew. Life is too short to spend it miserable!
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Know your worth, momma 
I personally couldn’t stay. I would be wondering what he is doing and whom he is talking to at all hours of the day.
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You should not have changed yourself because of him, you don’t deserve that, find someone who sees the true beauty in you, not strangers on the internet while hurting you.
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Um leave! Why in the world are you still with this jerk!!! If he’s not cheating (which to me he’s pretty damn close already, in my opinionbeing on hook up sites is cheating because hooking up is the goal of those anyways) then he will be very soon and you are right… you aren’t what he wants but that is ok and that is not your fault nor should you try to change to be what he wants!!! So just leave and let him do him by himself!
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Be pissed off at him and don’t take it out on yourself by trying to please him. Work on you and focus on becoming a better you for yourself. And hope someday you’ll have the courage to only put up with what you are worth, which is not what you are getting. Being faithful and not getting the same thing back in return is shit. I hope it works out. Try and salvage your marriage by talking to him or going to counseling. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll know someday that you tried to save your family and not just walk away. But def don’t put up with his shit actions. And fuck his friend with the shit advice. I mean, don’t fuck him, he can go fuck himself.
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Know your worth 
I’d divorce him. It isn’t worth staying. Those are just excuses. You know what he’s doing, and you already know the answer to the problem.
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Umm, do yourself a favor and please run. It only escalates from there. Take it from experience. Save up money and just run. There are far better out there love
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Oh, and he does want it, just not from you sadly. Sounds harsh, but its better than believing his lie
Drop him you don’t need that and each day you stay allows him a win and he thinks that your ok with it or you just don’t know…you deserve way better and and the longer you stay the more your hurting yourself because if he cared he wouldn’t be doing things it’s time to go
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You are not the problem. His ego is. No makeup or hairstyles are going to change the situation. Get an attorney and a therapist. Then make a decision that is well thought out.
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Ur husband is on a hook up site much less a lot of them. Read that sentence again. No husband should ever be on those sites. I would be divorcing his a** last week. Also make sure to take snapshots as proof for ur divorce case u will want them.
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Know your worth no real man would feel the need to be looking any where else girl divorce his ass and a real man will value you let someone else worry about that shit boy byeeee
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I used to do the same as you with my ex husband. I didn’t feel good enough so would do my make up ect and he used to make me feel so utterly worthless I lost my self esteem so badly. I’d just walk away you deserve better
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Wait a minute… soooooo you found your husband on these sites and then YOU proceeded to change your appearance for him?! WHAT?!
Honey… know your worth! You don’t deserve that! Any man that truly loves you will love you no matter what!! I would definitely confront him and then get the heck out of there!
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I agree with everyone else. I would leave him because obviously he doesn’t he doesn’t care to keep you happy
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you’re feeling disconnected from him. if he doesn’t see that as a problem then you need to figure out what you can and cannot live with.
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Walk out. Sooner or later he will realise his mistake but don’t settle with him again. He may say he has changed but he never will. He is taking you for granted. Go live your life gal
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Oh HELL NO!!! NOPE NOPE NOPE!!! I would agree with many others here, you are worth way more than that!!! WAY MORE!
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You deserve better. Dump him. He’s not emotionally invested in your marriage. Run!
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I just ended a relationship with the father of my Daughter, every time we had an argument he would take off for 2 days at a time. This last time he took off to drink with his friends, he cheated with the Mayor. My baby and I miss him, but us not being together is what’s best. You do what’s best for you. But, remember this, small or big lies are lies.
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Throw the whole man away! Dont be with someone who ever makes you feel less than perfect! I’ve put on 40lbs since out last child and my husband tells me everyday how beautiful I am and that I am the best thing that has ever happened to him! And the “Im older” excuse for lack of a sex drive is crap, my husband is 10 years older than me (almost 50) and its never been an issue. Your husband sounds like my ex husband, I spent 15 years feeling like I was never good enough and wasting so much money, time and self worth trying to be his idea of perfect. My first husband told me when we were dating and I asked how he wanted gis coffee and he said “I like my coffee like I like my women…blonde and sweet” clearly I am not a blonde, should have been my first sign. Never again!
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Put your foot up his ass as you throw him out the front door. Not worth the time and effort for a guy.
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If you need “proof” to leave, make a fake account on the hook up sights he’s on. Catfish his ass!
Sure it’s petty, but you will see how/if he is reacting to people on the website.
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Stay. Request he join you in a plan to fix your marriage. Make a plan to fix your marriage. If hes on board, great. If hes not. You’ll have done your best and you can move on. Seek counsel from a trusted source to guide you.
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The fact you asked anonymously on the internet, makes me feel like you’re looking for us to validate what you already know deep down.
I’m sorry this is happening to you mama, but you’re strong & will be okay! Personally I couldn’t stay, and I dont think you should either. There’s a man out there who won’t do this kinda stuff because he will be to busy loving you the way you deserve.
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Oh oh and before I forget, if your name is also on the cell phone bill, you can get all records and that that the phone company has. If not, your lawyer can. Or go through and take snapshots. Send them to an email he doesn’t know about or a friends email or phone and have them save them. Use them in court.
I’ve been through the exact same situation and let it happen for years, eventually I caught him cheating. Leave him before you get hurt anymore.
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Its not you, it’s him. Took me a good long while to figure that one out. RUN.
Girl. Tell me why my hubby, who used to bounce at strip clubs uses the excuses of their his friends to justify his snap being full of strippers. And he was just curious as his excuse for viewing only fans. Like nah. They just don’t care.
He’s already moved on… time for you too as well.
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My kids father was doing the same thing and said the same thing. Turns out he was talking to other women and cheated on me. It’s just an excuse to get out of being dumped.
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Wow yup they can put there phone in shower and watch others to and in room tv they can watch others to sick when your married who dose that make me feel not wanted no more fuck that I’m
Worth your worth. Take pic of stuff
From another man (my husband) “he’s cheating”
There’s just no way any man is worth you sacrificing your dignity this way. I really feel that your divorce is long overdue sis.
Leave. Find you a man who will love you for you. Who thinks your sexy inside and out. A man who doesn’t WANT you to change your appearance for him.
No girl this is not okay. You know what to do. I know it seems impossible right now but I SWEAR you will be so much better off.
Him cheating has nothing to do with you. He is addicted, and there is nothing you can do to stop it. He will need to get help.
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And you haven’t left yet? I don’t see what you’re waiting for.
It sounds like you already know that it’s over. 
Why is it always about sex with guys? It’s for better or worse not for better or illl go look elsewhere to satisfy me. Id be super pissed if I was in your spot and pack his crap and leave it on the porch or steps and tell him in order to come back he has to stop all that bs.
Honestly if he can’t respect your wishes after the first time you brought it to his attention he may not be happy in the relationship. And if he isn’t shame on him for leading you on. You should know your worth!!! And don’t change for ANYONE! Get dolled up and do you. Only you and your children if you have any.
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Definitely leave now, dont wait in Hope’s that he will change. He wont. Trust me. A guy that truly loves wont put you through that.
If he can talk to other women and shit you don’t need him
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Nah. You go back and hack em again. Screenshot… Print… Etc. Get you a lawyer and make him go.
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There is no question here. Move on. You will never trust him again regardless…
Sounds like he is cheating. Call him out on it and keep questioning him until you believe him . I’m sorry
This bullshit is showing up in my life too:(
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That’s cheating. Sad to say but sounds like it’s over. 
He could have stopped the “hacked” emails by blocking the site.
Know what your worth!! Leave now before it becomes even harder!!
Leave. That’s what you do. He’s obviously cheating
Do what makes you happy, girl! Beautiful lil thing.
Kick his Lying ass to the curb sister, A committed MAN isn’t going to be on Hoik up sites much less MULTIPLE Hook up sites!
I’m so sorry hun. It’s time to walk though. Life’s too short.
It’s over. Find a way to leave and do it.
Go to church or a program. Sex demons are real
Advice? Leave his ass! 
Wow, your husband is on hook up sites and won’t have sex with you. I think you already know what you should do, but it’s sad and heartbreaking and makes you scare and sick to even think about, hence the reason you’re here asking for advice instead of packing up your stuff right now. Leave. Like right now. Before he destroys anymore of YOU because you are so incredibly hard to find once you lose you
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I would leave that is so disrespectful
You don’t deserve this you deserve better. This dude can bring back stds! I would not sleep with him anymore. He’s a jerk.
I feel SO sorry for this woman. For this BOY making her feel this is her fault. For her feeling like SHE needed to change herself FOR him. Meanwhile he is obviously a complete scumbag!!! Leave himmmmm!!! And find someone who loves and wants you for YOU!!!
Is this appropriate on a parenting page? Maybe a marriage group. Honestly the husband is gross.
How would he react if he found you doing the same things?
Save your money and run. Fuck him
Time to up the life insurance and find an accident for him.
OR-and hear me out-fuck his dad. See how hot that gets him so y’all can be intimate. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
Poison the motherfuc and watch jim
Leave his ass right now.
Dear God, Let This Man Be Taken By The Geese
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I would be done 
too
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